How do I get my 2 year old dachshund to like my new puppy and remain loving toward my husband and I?

My husband and I recently adopted an 11 week old female dachshund. We already have a 2 year old female dachshund that we adopted when she was a puppy. Of course over the past couple of years she has become our "baby", has had our undivided attention, and even sleeps with us at night..and sits in our laps every chance she gets.  She has always had the most loving and energetic personality.  I understand that the 2 year old doxie is naturally going to have a bit of jealousy and is not going to warm up to the puppy immediately, but I am looking for some advice as to how to best raise the two so that there is minimal jealousy and hostility in hopes of the two becoming "best buddies". Dachshunds tend to have personalities of their own and are a completely different breed when it comes to everything. We only adopted the puppy 2 days ago so I know that the relationship is definitely not going to develop over night. I guess I am most concerned that the 2 year old is going to continue to be jealous and and will not warm up to the puppy..She (the older female) has not been sleeping with us at night since the puppy is in bed with us which is very much not like her. She normally has the most energy and is quite lovable. She has not acted particularly aggressive to the puppy yet however She has been COMPLETELY different and distant since we got the new puppy. She did growl at my husband and I a couple of times which is completely not normal for her.  We know that crate training is the best option for the puppy but not sure what the reality of that is going to be. Any advice? THANKS!

KenK461 year ago

My partner and I adopted a 1 1/2 year old Dachsund from a rescue shelter 3 weeks ago. Since we both work, we wanted to get a companion puppy for him to play with and to relieve seperation anxiety when we're not at home. So yesterday we picked up a 10 week old Dachsund puppy. The introduction has gone well so far and I think it's because the older dog hasn't had the time to get territorial here. Canuckgirl is very wise in her advice about being the leader of the pack. It's very difficult sometimes to be a pack leader because we tend to treat our pets as human baby's which they aren't. They are much happier when they see you as the leader of the pack and are immensely more trainable. Good luck with your puppy!!

+10 on canucksgirl's response.

This is a complex issue and really is best addressed by a good training book and a class with a human trainer. Even if you are great at obedience training, new dogs get needed socialization at a class and you get advice on dealing with specific concerns.

Regarding crate training, done properly the crate becomes a den for the dog. It should feel like a safe place. My dog prefers to sleep in his crate and stashes any special treasures in there.
canucksgirl4 years ago
Sounds like you need The Dog Whisperer. He'd tell you that dogs are pack animals; one is a leader and the rest are followers. If you "baby" your pets too much, you are inadvertently making that dog the "leader" and then you all become the "followers" (which can explain the growling). If you want to have control over the situation, you need to play the role of the leader and not give off any sense of nervousness or hesitation. You have to be confident in your actions. None of your dogs should do anything without your consent. It may sound a bit harsh, but they feel more relaxed and reassured when someone confident is leading them. (Makes sense huh?) So, teach the 2 year old that you are the leader first. Don't allow her to rule the roost. She shouldn't be able to walk in front of you (that's where the leader goes) and should not take food from a dish without your command, shouldn't get up on the bed or other furniture without your say so etc. (and probably shouldn't at all). Take her for regular walks and practice a lot of starting and stopping by your lead of the leash. Don't confuse her with a lot of verbal commands (she doesn't speak), so use your body language and the leash to do your talking. When she's tired out, bring her home and keep her on the leash and introduce her to the other puppy. They should be allowed to do normal dog stuff (like sniffing), but watch for any signs of aggression and correct that immediately. You simply want the 2 year old to follow your instruction that being with the new puppy is okay, and she has no choice in the matter. It will take your control over the situation (and all situations) before she gets the message that you and your husband are the leaders. The younger one will learn much faster as well through the 2 year old.