Things ended... But I'm sure she still likes me. I still like her. We look, but neither of us goes for it. Help!?!?

Ok so here's the story. At the beginning of the year, I met this girl. She's in eighth grade and I'm in seventh. Not too much difference. We have band and algebra together. We sit next to eachother in band, and talked nonstop. It didn't take me long to realize how much we had in common. A lot. I knew I at least liked her, but I was too shy to say anything. Finally one day the band teacher said there had been a lot of flirting going on between the two of us. The next day she told me. She had felt the same way all along. We decided to try dating eachother. That was thursday. We IM'd all afternoon and most of the night that day. The same the next day. And the next. And all weekend, until monday. She didn't log on, and things had been quiet between us two that day. I knew something was wrong. She IM'd me on tuesday and ended it. OUCH! So things were very quiet the next few months. We only talked when we had to. Which wasn't much. I still liked her, but I didn't know if she still felt the same. Recently, the past few months, things have picked up momentum again. Lots of talking. Nonstop. Again. She is so much fun to be with. I've noticed in band and algebra she's been watching me, looking over every now and then. I'd always been doing that, all year. Just to see if she would look over and everything would be okay again. We've met eyes almost once a day the past two weeks. She smiles at me, a lot. I truly believe now that she still likes me, and that the feeling never disappeared. I want it to be the way it was. That was the best weekend of my life. I love her. I don't know what to do to get her back. Who out there can help? Please! I'm desperate! P.S. I know I'm going to get a lot of comments saying I'm too young to love, but whether or not that is true, I like her enough to date her. So it's beside the point. I'll be ignoring comments saying that unless they make a very strong point. Thanks!

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Z..8 years ago
I'm a grandmother and have seen a lot of life, and a lot of hurt to my grandson.

If you care for this girl, fine; you don't want to turn away from this opportunity. Butyou need to remember how quickly she ended it.

Be available...but step back a bit. Don't be too available. It concerns me that she wants you to be interested in her, so don't be too much. Play it cool!

Be friendly and warm, but keep a little in reserve. That way you may keep her interested.

Anyone who makes themselves available at the whim of others, will frequently find themselves used. Don't do it; learn from the past experience.

Good Luck!
XOIIO8 years ago
I think that you are right, if you have true feelings, it doesn't matter how old you are, as long as you areen't 5 or something. I would suggest talking to her, to see if she feels the same about you, as you feel about her. If it works out, try by taking things slow for a bit, maybe a movie or lunch sometime, and see if you want to take your relationship up a notch. Hope i helped!
snowpenguin (author)  XOIIO8 years ago
See... That's my problem. A classic one. We're great friends, and last time things didn't work out so hot when it ended. We didn't talk for months. I don't want that to happen again. I really love her, and not talking to her at all, in any form of relationship, was torture. Thanks for helping out though. =)
Im glad check out this page although I dont know exactly what to do except find someone else and I know ur going to say no she is the only person you like because I said that too when someone told me that then I found who we have been discussing recently I hardly remember the other person now
Tell her she's pissing you off! Try that one out, if it doesn't work, consider not taking it so seriously at this age.
well, if you really feel that she is someone special, you should just go up and tell her. If she really is " the one ", she will understand. The only way I see out of this is to have a serious conversation. If she doesn't accept you feelings, maybe it's time to move on. I know it can be hard, but it just might be the best for you two.
paganwonder8 years ago
Ditto everything wildfire 759 said. IM is for un-important com- serious (meaningful com is done in person)
wildfire7598 years ago
Three things: 1. You're in the seventh grade and your spelling and grammar is better than most adults. You give me hope for the future. 2. Just go for it and tell her how you feel. What's the worst that can happen? She doesn't feel the same way anymore? Well, then you can start the process of moving on instead of always wondering what might have been. Plenty of fish in the sea, as they say. 3. If you two do happen to get back together, don't bother IM'ing each other so much. IM is not a good way to base a relationship on. Actually go out and spend time with each other! When you're apart, talk on the phone instead of IM'ing! People tend to act differently behind the shield of the internet. You just don't get the same kind of subtle face-to-face interaction as you do in real life. Hope this helps and best of luck to you.