would you throw an unemployed lazy sibling out of the inherited house that was left to be divided between 6 others?

I am the eldest of 7 siblings. I helped my parents and 5 younger siblings to purchase their first house, which they could not afford any other way at that time. I lent them the down payment with the agreement that my husband and I had half of the interest. I also wanted to help them with their financial stature. Owning a house and paying a mortgage will help their credits. My mother being the adult and saner when it comes to financial issues, so I thought, that I had a serious talk with her about the half interest between them and my husband and I. Three years later, they bartered the house for a new townhouse, without our knowledge, not being in the title.  I made a big issue about not getting my half interest upon knowing they purchased a new townhouse. They gave me and my husband our money back from the second mortgage loan of the new townhouse. To this day, according to them since we received our money back, my husband and I are no longer entitled to any more profit. Our parents passed away and left a Will that the town house be divided to us, 7 siblings. Our lazy sibling who is unemployed for years does not want to move out of the townhouse and does not want to follow what the Will said.  Our talks always ended in a screaming episode each time by my telling her to do right thing. To have a meeting and not hide the Will so she could stay in the rent free house that our mother left for all of us. Our mother who survived longer than our father made the mortgage payments for my two siblings left living with her are unemployed. The others moved out and god married and only sibling left who is unemployed and wanting to live forever as she can and refuses to discuss about what to do with the Will left by our mother. What shall I do? Please help and pardon my explanation if not so clear. Thank you.

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Vyger3 years ago
And by the way, using terms like "unemployed lazy sibling" are usually counter productive. They are inflammatory terms. More than likely you use it to try and point out the flaws that you observe in a sibling and use them to create bad feelings or to solicit derogatory judgments in others about your sibling. Everybody does it, but you need to stop doing it if you want to reach a settlement. You need to treat each person, no matter what your opinion is, as an equal partner that has an equal interest, and they need to do the same to you.
Vyger3 years ago
You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family, those you are stuck with all your life. Sometimes family members just don't take each other seriously.

Before you go to a last resort of a lawyer, you should try an independent arbitrator. Someone who knows the laws and will listen to all parties and make recommendations based on fact and law and not emotion. This is by far the best way to proceed and even though not everybody gets what they want it should end up being an equitable solution. Everybody has to make compromises. If that doesn't work and you all can't reach an agreement then you will end up in court and a judge will IMPOSE a decision on all of you that none of you will be likely to be happy with, AND the whole process will eat up a sizable portion of the estate. It ends up being like Romeo and Juliette, "All are punished".
You don't say where you are in the world, so its impossible to say whether probate is honoured or not.
I am sorry for the loss of your mother.

yall are going to have to go through probate

my guess unless your mom has death insurance then the bank will foreclose on the house and your siblings will be homeless.
verence3 years ago
Oh well, heirship...

IMHO, there are only two ways to keep with that: 1) all parts act sensible and you will get around it despite all the grief and suffering connected to it ... and 2) you need a lawyer.

I don't know where you live (some terms point to the US of A) - what you can / can't do depends on the jurisdiction in your country. See a lawyer. It will cost money, it will probably drive you and your siblings apart.

Maybe - hopefully - you can avoid the lawyer/court. Try to find an instance that all of you/your siblings can trust. An old and trusted friend of your family, a trusted organisation in your town or maybe a moderator recommended by a lawyer.