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HELP!!! GIRL TROUBLE!!!!

Please help me im in a BAD situation!!!!!!!!!!

please read this long story and help me out, by giving advice.

Promlemo 1
Well you see the girl that i kinda fancied, fancies one of my 'friends', hes not a best frind or anything just like a pal.
Anyways, he likes her too and they are thinking of going out.

Problemo 2
The girl that i kinda fancied, well one of her best friends fancies me. But i absoloutly don't like her back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(emphasizing)
Absoloutly! I DON' T WANT TO GO OUT WITH HER!

Problemo 3
Anyway the girl that i don't want to go out with, some how got my msn address. And yesterday, i got invited in a big group conversation with her in. She asked me "wud u go out wid me?" i said no.
Then she said i Know you like me aswell.

And i said 'nope'.
She also started embaressing me in the group conv by saying 'luvey duvey' comments about me. Everyone in there was LOLing, LMAOing, ROFLing.
It was really annoying and, i was thinking of not going school the next day but i did go.
Shes very shy and quiet in class.

Promlemo 4

WORRY!
Im really worrying, if she asks me out at school, im not very good with these kind of encounters. How can i say NO to her?

I really don't want to go out with her. I know all of youll think give her a chance or don't be mean, but NO i absoloutly don't want to go out with her.

Problemo 5

The girl who i kinda fancy, well i chatted to her for the first time yesterday on msn. and it went pretty smooth. But today she hasn't been on. Has she blocked me :(, or deleted me or WHAT?

Can you all please be apreciate. And give me soloutions to the problems above!!!!!

Im hoping Goodhart or Mr. Rig will help me out really well.

But i want anyone to help at the moment. Give serious answers on what i can do to all 5 problems.

BTW i have to find a soloution to Problemo #4 by monday, because i might see her that dy at school.

Im really annoyed.

PLEASE HELP!

Thank You for reading this ridiculously long explanation.

HELP!!!

Aron3132 years ago
Too long. Make it shorter! :P
Im sorry I keep relizing a forgot an answer.....answer to number 4, if you have her number or MSN, tell her on there. Much more comfortable.

I took a class on how to manage emotions and how to treat people and respect feelings and not fight its called DBT and interpersonal effectiveness anyway you SHOULD NOT apologize, weird but its not your fault you dont want to be with her. My psychologist taught me this so I recently learned Americans over apologize. Just say what you need to " I dont feel this way, hope you arent hurt by my words (thats a way around apologizing) I dont want to be in a relationship I know wont work , we might both but ourselves through heartache. Thanks for listening to me..


I hope this helped Ive dated people I dont like years ago maybe 15/16/17 years old just to have someone to be with and it was a waste of time and the other person got hurt bad then I looked like a bad person.
Ive been dating the same person for 3 1/2 years and we hardly fight its what I dreamed of and I went through a lot of heartbreak and bad breakups to get here....

If this doesnt go your way dont TRIP on it!!! You dont seem very old...love is not your priority your just putting your feet in the water probably dont hold back though if you feel something dive in!
You dont want to be with somebody that talks like "will u go out WID me" lol, I dont know how old she is but good dont be with her. Even if the others hook up. You can work hard to keep them from being together, make your move soon, before they do or youll regret it....tell her how you feel. Do something nice for her and be like


Look I dont know how you feel or how you will respond but I feel I need to be honest because I am an honest person, I really like you...

Girls like hearing that instead of.......I wanna look good wit you at school mamas...lol

Dont worry about the other girls feelings...its not your responsibility to please everybody
Adjuster-X2 years ago
Okay for no. 4 don't worry your making it worse not to be Mean but if she asks u say no im sorry I don't like u but if she cries just say I'm sorry and if u really feel bad just say how about one date and dance and kiss that's it no one can know about this tis will be our secret and if you tell anyone I will take something u love
Good luck
sci4me3 years ago
ur screwed!!!!!
The Jamalam5 years ago
I know it's probably over, but can I have your MSN?
mrbox6 years ago
=) just got a girl friend =) so happies (didnt show her my k guns) didnt need to ;D
T-Pak6 years ago
surefire way to get the girl you like to like you, you should show her your knex guns. Girls flip for knex guns.
1- I've known a few people with that trouble, it stinks! Uhm, I don't think there's much you can do. You can't change someone's feelings. (And u don't want to hurt your pal's feelings, either) So, just play it cool... 2- Just try to help her realize u don't like her. Don't say it directly, just explain that she's not the girl you think of, or something. 3- She sounds like a jerk... Just try to tell her you honestly don't like her, and realllly don't want to go out with her. I mean she can't force you or anything. 4- Be nice about it. Just be like "Look, I don't want to be mean to you, but I really don't want to go out with you. I'm really sorry, but I sorta like someone else right now" or something. 5- Don't jump to conclusions. Sometimes people just can't go online. Maybe she's grounded from it for some reason? I doubt she's avoiding you. Ask someone else she talks to, if they see her on? (As if she blocked you) But I highly doubt it. Im not good with advice, but I thought I'd give it a shot.
with a little mind-control you can change there feelings
You can't change someone's feelings.

That is very observant and precocious of you. We only have the ability to think, and act ourselves, one way or another, and any thought of controling another is mostly fantasy....so it is only you that can improve you, she may or may not take that to heart.

Im not good with advice, but I thought I'd give it a shot.

That was pretty good from my point of view.
Why thank you, Goodhart.
You are welcome. I thought your observations were quite astute.
Why do people insist on leaving these long advice columns!!??!?! Forget about the girl that likes your buddy, if nice dosen't work the first time on the girl your trying to get rid of then just say "listen bitch, I don't like you go away" Done and Done anything else is gonna just put you in drama after drama.
Juklop6 years ago
Wear a 1800's Gentleman's suit and start doing pelvic thrusts in front of her house. Works every time.
ROTFLMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To get arrested?
Or residence in a padded room maybe
WTF? Works for what? Free restraining order?
Nonono, leave him to it. I want to see the headlines for that one... :-D
you know me6 years ago
i got dumped... OH and be carfull if she figures out about the website IT WILL BE DOOMSDAY!!!!
mrbox6 years ago
ONE COME THE HECK DOWN oops heh

P1 (Problem 1) If two people are in love sorta o.o try and be nice give gifts be grateful for their relationship.

P2 Be nice to her dont say it to nice .... what im trying to say is be nice a little gentle but firm about the point

P3 Maybe she isnt who you think she is decide wether or not she is your type before making judgments, and if i were you and i knew those people ROFLING id go up to them and let em know how i feel (physically =D)

P4 hmm try the how to make out with a girl instructable =D....

P5 AN ERROR HAS OCCURED! PLEASE SUBMIT A CORRECT ADDRESS
Sedgewick176 years ago
I have never been in your situation, so that means I can laugh at it. If I were though I would just lay low for a wile and let the storm pass. It may be cowardly, but darn it if it is not the only way to keep your head. Also you have to relax or you are going to go nuts.
Goodhart6 years ago
Wow, when I am late getting on, I am late LOL Looks like you got a lot of good advice (except for the garunteed word which should be guaranteed ) :-)
How can any of you in your right mind tell this kid to prusue a mutually "liked" girl???? I'm telling you from experience and knowledge that there is ZERO, ZILTCH, NOTTA way for this to end well between you and your friend. SHE'S NOT WORTH IT!!!! either way you or your friend will end up with hurt feelings. She likes him and he likes her......suck it up...... don't get in the way....... you go after her with or without his knowledge/permission your gonna lose a friend...... GARUNTEED As for the chick that likes you...... break it to her gental if she dosen't get the message, be quick and mean, nip it in the bud and ignore her from then on until she's mature enough to get over it.
1. What can you do about it? If they like each other, just be happy for them. 2/3. You don't have to go out with her..just tell her that you don't like her the same way that she likes you, but you're still her friend. As for the MSN thing, she was probably embarrassed at being rejected (wouldn't you be?), and that was her way of keeping her modesty. 4. You probably won't be asked out, you made it clear that you weren't interested on AIM. 5. You're getting paranoid, her being off line is probably a coincidence. But if you are blocked, respect that, and lay off for a little while. If she unblocks you, that means she interested in talking again.
Mr. Rig It6 years ago
Baron
Sorry it has taken me so long to get to you. I haven't been on Instructables for a while. I am just working way too much.

I think wasisface has given you great advice.

Promlemo 1 talk to your friend and ask him if he likes her and see if they are "going out".

Problemo 2 Just be polite and tell her no thanks and just keep saying no thank you.

Problemo 3 Ask in person not to do that to you and tell her you felt embarrassed by what she did. Be honest and straight forward with her.

Promlemo 4 Again just say no, tell her -- Look I appreciate the offer but I am just not interested, that is all you have to say. But be nice to her because if you treat her bad or rudely then it will surely get back to the girl that you like.

Promlemo 5 She hasn’t blocked you, MSN can take awhile sometimes. I know I get up and go watch Television for a while or go outside and I am logged on. She could be doing something and just logged on to MSN but away from the PC.

If you really like her, reach out to her and tell her. People can’t read minds so they will never know what you are thinking unless you tell them.

I hope this helps and good luck.
One word: haha. JK that was really mean.
KentsOkay6 years ago
He he he he hah hah ah ha hahah!!!!!! Sorry but I find your situation amusing, myself being in similar yet different situation. My only advise is if she asks you at school, be real "smooth" and polite. Be flattered but make it clear that you unfortunately aren't interested in her.
Oh yah, DONT FREAK OUT
whatsisface6 years ago
Ooh, sounds quite a pickle you're in there. Right, if she asks you at school, first of all you should be flattered, as someone liking you is a nice thing, no matter who it is. If you don't like her back, then that's no problem. Say thank you, and then politely turn her down. See here.

If you want to know if you're blocked, then go to AmIBlocked and try that whenever you think she's online.

I've been there with situation 1, and it's not pretty, but at your age (what i'm assuming to be younger than I) their relationship will most likely not be serious, and will possibly fizzle out in a relatively short time. You just have to live through it, and wait for her to become single ;-)

If people give you stick, tell them that "at least someone likes you". Works for me.

Hope this helps!
Baron A (author)  whatsisface6 years ago
Whatsisface please RPLY. SHES ON NOW!!! she didnt bloack me. cna you give me some conversation starters!
Just talk about school, and find common interests. Sports, anything you like doing as a hobby (not knex, trust me there) and be yourself. If you're nervous, you'll act differently.
Baron A (author)  whatsisface6 years ago
Ive sed Hi she hasn't replied :(.
Give her some time, she may not even be there, just left herself logged on and walked away. Don't panic, as a general rule.
Baron A (author)  whatsisface6 years ago
ok ive replied twice and asked q .still with no response. what shall i do now. She was really nice yesterday.
Don't panic, just click the "x" on the conversation and forget about it. She might come back and talk to you later, if she was AFK, otherwise just catch her at school.
Baron A (author)  whatsisface6 years ago
I know defiantely not KNEX!!!
Baron A (author)  whatsisface6 years ago
Whatsisface thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!! You gave a very brilliant answer thier i might try that. But what if she ask me atschool and i turn her down, and she becomes in denile?
That's where the politeness comes in. If you're kind and courteous when you say no, then she shouldn't. If you're worried about her doing so, try the old "I'd rather just be friends for the time being" so it doesn't feel like complete rejection to her, whilst still stating your intentions.
Baron A (author)  whatsisface6 years ago
Can i just ask, i f i turn her down. Will the girl that i liked become 'cautious' to me or angry. Because they are kind of BFs.
She may be angry at first, but then she'll get over it, for the lack of a better phrase.

She might act cautiously around you, but if she does, that may be a sign that a) She was joking asking you out and/or b) She didn't like you as much as she first thought.
Baron A (author)  whatsisface6 years ago
I know this is gonna sound sly and a bit crafty but... Whatsisface, The advice you gave me for situation one, well that was what i was hoping for in my head, and im pretty sure it won't last long if they go together. Relationships in year 9 DON't last long. Im 13 and in year 9. What do you think on the extent of the 'relationship'?
It all depends on the two together. If he likes her and she likes him back, then it can last anywhere up to a 6 months, maybe more, although I doubt it. If it doesn't work out, then I'm sorry. I don't want to discourage you from dating, everyone wants to feel loved (no matter how soppy that sounds) and everyone searches for companionship in life. What you learn now will affect what you do when you're older around girls/women.
NachoMahma6 years ago
. First off, calm down. Nothing has to be done RIGHT NOW. Take a deep breath. And another. . If the one girl likes your friend, be happy for him (and them). There are plenty of fish in the sea. And as WIF points out, it probably won't last and you'll have another chance. . Don't be overbearing. If a girl (or any other person) is blocking you (she may just be busy with the holiday), respect it. Trying to get around blocks is stalking. Even it you don't get in trouble with the law, you'll scare the Hell out of her and that's no way to make a good impression. . Don't worry too much about the other girl "going into denial." Be firm, but gentle. If she refuses to listen, you may have to involve an authority figure.
Baron A (author)  NachoMahma6 years ago
I like that bit athourity figure.
Baron A (author) 6 years ago
Help. plese.
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