Religion discrimination in my school...
Hey guys, what's up?
Let me get straight to the point. There's a really beautiful and nice transfer student in my school, but everybody picks on her 'cause she's a Buddhist. The majority of the kids in my school are Muslims, and they hate indifference. At first, they just picked on the Buddhist girl, but they started to diss Christians, Catholics and agnostics. I really hate religion discrimination, so I want to do something about it. The problem is, in my school, if you want to be one of the cool kids, you have to go with the flow, and if I just tell random bullies off they will mark me as one of the very few uncool outcasts. So yeah, I need advice.
Thanks in advance.
Let me get straight to the point. There's a really beautiful and nice transfer student in my school, but everybody picks on her 'cause she's a Buddhist. The majority of the kids in my school are Muslims, and they hate indifference. At first, they just picked on the Buddhist girl, but they started to diss Christians, Catholics and agnostics. I really hate religion discrimination, so I want to do something about it. The problem is, in my school, if you want to be one of the cool kids, you have to go with the flow, and if I just tell random bullies off they will mark me as one of the very few uncool outcasts. So yeah, I need advice.
Thanks in advance.
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Start acting. If you see this girl being bullied or just talked down to, do something. Try not to make too much of a scene just be firm and speak you're mind, don't try and think about what you're going to say or you'll miss the moment just say it. You might feel like a Jerk for acting this way but trust me the feeling is temporary, you'll feel great afterwords.
As for being cool, don't worry about it, I've found some of the coolest people I know being "uncool" its a matter of character and how genuine people are. I know its cliche but whatever this is the internet, I'm allowed to do that. Truthfully I've been complimented by multiple girls for just standing up against people who act like jerks. Not trying to brag, just raising the point that chicks dig guys with values who have a spine.
So remember
1. Stop caring
2. Speak up (no more Mr. Nice guy :-] )
3. Get the ladies
(ps: listen to kiteman and some of the older members they are ALOT more wise than most of the people here, including me. Don't be afraid to talk to a teacher or anyone if the bullying gets serious, you know when its being taken to far. Once standing up doesn't have an effect, it's out of control)
watch this lecture by Philip Zimbardo (google him if you don't know who he is) It's highly relevant to this, and its almost earie how I stumbled upon this literally 10 minuets ago, then found you're forum post.
The best of luck,
Dan
Treat the victims with as much respect as you treat the bullies.
Volunteer to work with the victims in class. Hold the door open for them if they are behind you in the doorway. Pause to let them pass.
When the bullies round on you to demand to know why you are being nice to the victims, ask them to explain exactly why you shouldn't be.
Thank you very much, Kiteman.
Be prepared, though, for a long struggle - I note that you are in Java, which is 90+% Muslim, and Muslim countries are traditionally (though not exclusively) much less tolerant of others outside their culture or religion.
However, looking at the Wiki entry for Islam as practised in Java, perhaps you might approach a local Kyai for advice, or to ask him to intervene?
Or, quite likely, I have completely misread the situation, and you ought to ignore my advice completely...
Lol, I actually laughed my bum off when you told me I should go meet a Kiai. Most Kiais are so dang conservative they'll try to actually convert me if I tell them I'm not a Muslim.
And no, you didn't misread my situation.
THERE ARE SOME THINGS YOU CAN DO
1. GET STRONGER AND BEAT THE S%#$ OUT OF THEM OR
2. FORGET ABOUT IT CUZ THEYRE JUST DUMBASSES
Moral; talk to her and be good
In all seriousness, maybe you could change what was perceived as "Cool". If it was going the way I would want it to, the bullies would not be cool, they would just be outcasts. Or maybe get the kids that are being picked on to say that the bullies will end up in hell if they don't change their ways.
And people at my school are starting to like my interests, some jocks at my school found my youtube account, and they all like my guns, and they want to learn how to build em and stuff.
Do the good thing, be nice to the people who are nice to you. If they go about making fun of other religions, or lack of it, then they aren't nice people. Ignore bad people.
You'll still be popular with those who aren't "cool" in your school, and you can form your own clique.
These "popular bigots" aren't really your friends, their just acquaintances, and are disposable. Find friends that will stick with you, and won't make fun of your religion.
Or you could just destroy them all with your mighty fists of righteousness. That works too.
I guess it just depends on the area (from what I've heard). In Washington, we have a fairly accepting population. It USUALLY tends to be a nice area. We have the occasional occurrence, but nobody tries anything too drastic.
"as long as they don't try to change my....sexuality".... Heheheh, we're coming to get you Camisado!
"Heheheh, we're coming to get you Camisado!"
Aww, sorry camper, but I am 100000000000000000000000% heterosexuaI. No boy had ever turned me on and no boy ever will. (=P)
Wait, aren't they opposites?
a gay atheist doesn't believe in God
but a gaytheist could be a gay theist :-) making him one of the theists (just teasing a bit ;-)
Anyway, First I can tell you that My life in High School was truly "a living Hell' for the whole 5 years. So, maybe I got some insight on *that* ?
First though, "a really beautiful And nice" New Girl in any school in Canada...would *never* even be asked her "Religion" (thats illegal for Anyone in a position of power to even ask that question or put it on a Job App. , School Registration or any forms.
Sorry, but my main point was that a "really beautiful And nice female" especially,
would normally be treated like a queen by All of "the 'cool' guys. She would have all the friends that She wanted (especially, if she could put up with "Cool Guys", who, at your age ...are Not 'cool' , no way, no how...nothing but 'Bad Actors')
Sounds like a 'Private School' ? But, whatever, If 'the majority' want to act this idiotic, Plus you have a school full of people for whom 'Religion'???!.... comes before "Beautiful and Nice Girls" ??? ...whoaa! Get the heck Out of there, if you can...because *Nothing* is gonna change "Cool guys who have the Power"!
And, if Religion is "King" ? to high school guys...even making them reject Girls?
Well huh-ell , I better stop right now because I shouldn't be saying a word about a place that would surely 'kill me' and just sounds like an 'alien world of parent-manipulated young 'Bots....that is just beyond 'any' understanding, by me or anyone else, worth listening to, 'round here! That is just pitiful...Run! (wit girl)
Basically, instead of being mean to her and being "cool", be nice to her, even if it means being uncool. Of course though, you can do whatever you think is right, and better for you.
Pretty good advice though, thanks domindude.
And you welcome for the advice.
Thanks for your opinion Lira.
That WILL be the key. It is pretty subject to your individual circumstance. We can give general ideas, but you will have to mold them to fit your situation.