The Empathetic Aspie

I have personally experienced how a very young (8 year old) child with Asperger's showed quick and unthinking empathy for me when I 
#1: dropped the tiny screws onto the floor, 
#2: nearly tripped over a stool, called myself doplic and she responded immediately: no you're not !
& #3:  when I stood up and my soft head came in contact with a COMPLETELY immovable table top.  

It was my first clue when several outside the syndrome showed me they had no idea WHAT we feel or how we express ourselves, that we are indeed FULL of emotion and concern - we just don't always "read" others well - the face that is.

Also, I have this Blog as a reference to back up my observation:  Asperger Empathy

    ADDENDUM:  there are two specific reasons for the blood to be tested in this area:  #1: genetically, but the main reason is of course to #2: eliminate all other possible causes for the symptoms.

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lemonie5 years ago
Everybody can feel empathy like that if they want to / do.
The "no idea WHAT-" thing is about getting out of yourself and into other people and how that works or doesn't.

Goodhart (author)  lemonie5 years ago
Ok, I chose the word "several" for good reason. Not everyone, nor even the majority of those educated would fit that. But I have come across a few persons, some up close and personal, that either feel Asperger's describes an undisciplined child (why that would make them "high end" is not explained) OR they feel that we have no emotions. Aspies don't read them well (facial expressions) but I have repeatedly seen them express empathy, concern, caring, and they always seem to want to HELP.
A person can be described as an undisciplined child OR having no emotions without being Aspie.
It's not a one-way thing.

Any child can be very poor at empathy for others, especially when the emotion is invoked by a situation they have never experienced. The hurt caused by a bang on the head is understandable from a fairly early age.
Goodhart (author)  lizzyastro5 years ago
True, and since she already had the Diagnosis (even the blood work was done) it was just another example of how a portion of the public misconstrues reality. I have been told bluntly that I am empathetic and so could not have Asperger's. It is just so wrong to make such a blanket statement that is totally false.
Labelling people is often unproductive.
The sort of thing that happens is that people get tagged with "this/that" and they don't like it. They then find ways to say being"this/that" is just as good as "normal", in fact it's actually better to be "this/that".
Then you've got two sets of people who don't communicate with each other well, because they both think they're great/understand better, and other people are "defective" or ignorant.

Goodhart (author)  lemonie5 years ago
So, you are simpley a person, not male of female; wait, even that is a label, um, animal, no....still a label....hmmm, I am hard put to say anything about anything that isn't some form of label. To understand "defects" is to understand how to overcome them. If we just ignore them, people suffer.
I wrote that labelling people is often unproductive.
A label doesn't always give an understanding, which is exactly the point you were making in the topic.

Goodhart (author)  lemonie5 years ago
That is true, still a diagnosis, albeit one that is considered a specturm, still needs some guidelines. There has to be a boundary, and that creates, sadly an inner and outer "circle". All too often, I hear about "appearances" of actions being substituted for what is really going on inside. That was the point I had wanted to make. I guess I didn't do such a tidy job of it :-)
I got your point, it was a good train of thought for me.

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