Hi Everybody ! What's up ? It seems that time are becoming hard (did someone talk about a crisis ?) and it is not easy to be positive when everything seems to go bad, is it ?
This is why I suggest my own advices to be positive despite the crisis, the global anger and the daily tcares which trouble our lives.
Being positive is not naive : it is a way to give some happiness to have a good day. Be positive is seeing the blue sky behind gray clouds. Be positive is easy and it doesn't cost anything.
Step 1: 1. Put Things Into Perspective.
When something wrong happens in our daily life, it can be depressing and hard to overcome. But think that it could be worse : everything is relative ! Everything is not in black-and-white terms, life is like the Yin and The Yang, depending on the context !
Each little daily trouble is relative and unimportant, you just have to forge ahead and move on.
Step 2: 2. Don't Grumble About Everything and Anything
Yes, yes, yes : sometimes grumbling and complaining makes us feel better. But other times it can make us become very pessimistic : if you grumble, you are not happy, if you are not happy, you are not positive !
Step 3: 3. Don't Get Preoccupied by Stupid People.
They are everywhere and surround us, and we can't do anything against them. It's useless to try to fight this : it's tiring and disappointing. Sometimes it's difficult but the best solution is to ignore them. And by doing this, tell you that you are better than them.
Step 4: 4. Don't Neglect Yourself.
Don't be ashamed of yourself : you have to be okay with you, your body, and the decisions you make.
A lot of people have complexes and this is normal but taking time for yourself is important too. Respecting yourself and your commitments or being true to your own style is a way to appreciate yourself. Still too difficult ? You must start to watch the mirror, and smile to your reflexion watching in your own eyes. It's a good beginning to take care of yourself.
Step 5: 5. Reserve Some Time for Yourself in the Day.
Nowadays, our times is over-scheduled day after day, hour by hour, minute by minute. But I think we have to reserve some free time in the day, to have our own little pleasures (read a book, practice some sport or music...) and let the unforeseen arrive. Who knows what good things could happen ?
Step 6: 6. Have Someone to Talk With.
It can be a friend or more, a simple acquaintance, a diary, a blog, or a pet. Talking makes us feel good, because it allows us to externalize our bad feelings. Some people don't need to be surrounded by a lot of friends and they enjoy solitude : it is their choice, but it doesn't mean they don't need someone (or something) to help them to express themselves and to get things off their chest.
Step 7: 7. Do Some Good Deeds.
Help an old woman to cross the street, offer presents, cook for your family... There are many occasions to do a good deed in the day. Solidarity is important and, after a good deed, you can't help being proud of yourself : it's a good and positive feeling, and it's free.
Step 8: 8. Laugh.
An other important free thing : the laugh. Yes, it seems to be simple, but think about this : isn't it nice to see smiles on people's faces instead of people who look sad or angry ? Furthermore, Science proves that laughing at least 15 min a day makes you lose calories ! Laughing is the remedy for daily depressions, it's personal and communal at the same time, laughing is life.
In the event of blues, I suggest watching funny movies or listenning to swinging songs.
My special list to smile again :
Singing in the rain
The Blues Brothers
Hakuna Matata (The Lion King, Disney)
Songs for the Blues Brother's movie
Boulevard of broken dreams (Green Day)
and : Queen, Michael Jackson, Madonna, Lady Gaga, Katy Perry...