If you have ever worked with capacitive switches you know how much it makes you want to smash your face into a wall...Now imagine you have no way to monitor output, well that is what I was running into. Problem is you can never know what the output is with stock settings of an attiny. So my solution comes from the good boys/gals of MIT. However, It's not super clear on their walkthroughs so I thought I would provide a more in depth explanation.
Step 1: W-w-w-wire it up
1. Make sure you connect a 220Ω resistor between pin 3 and Tx(transmit) input of arduino. Resistors aren't directional so it doesn't matter which way you insert it.
2. Now put a 10uF capacitor between ground and reset with negative going to ground and positive to reset
If you do not do this, you could damage your board/attiny or make the universe implode. (refer to pictures above). SO SERIOUSLY, IF YOU MAKE THE UNIVERSE IMPLODE I WILL FIND YOU IN A PARALLEL DIMENSION AND PUSH YOU IN TO A DEEP PUDDLE OF WATER, AND YOU WILL HAVE TO WALK HOME WITH WET SOCKS.