Maybe some people are perfect.


In my opinion, we all have issues, in my case, an eating disorder and other self-defeating behaviors. I had to nearly lose everything before I was willing to seek treatment. Now, years later, I still find it nearly impossible to believe that one day I will wake-up and E.D. will be gone. A forgotten memory.

However, I have learned how to better cope with this demon so to speak. I am sharing with you some of the lessons from my recovery program, not to attempt to replace professional help, but to inform you of some of the techniques you would practice in a professional environment. These life skills seem to be often overlooked or not fully understood. I have compiled my favorites into the following checklist:

Step 1: Feelings Check

"How am I feeling?"

Feelings are not facts, but they are indicators from your subconscious. Your body is trying to tell you something it thinks is important. I like to imagine that I am the center of my body's universe. There are billions and billions of living cells serving me in this life and I am responsible for caring for them.

Are you feeling upset? "HALT(S)" Ask yourself, "Am I Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? Stressed?"

<p><b style="">Be Your Own Advocate! </b>You are the only person who can truly represent your best interests. Many people are trustworthy but don't trust everyone.</p>
<p>thankyou so much this was just what I needed</p>
<p>Thank you for sharing this list. It's very helpful. I hope that more people will share.</p>
<p>You are brave. Thank you for sharing part of your story with us and for this helpful guide for how to start feeling better. I perform the feeling checks regularly and find it very helpful to name the feelings I'm having. I spend too much time in my emotional mind and need to get better at using my wise mind! Thank you for sharing this. </p>
<p>I appreciate knowing that my sharing is helping others, so your comment means a lot to me. I am all too familiar with my emotional mind as well :-) Acknowledging and labeling what we are feeling and then asking ourselves, &quot;<em><strong>why am I feeling this way?</strong></em>&quot; starts the mental conversation that allows us to dig deeper so we can find out what the root of the problem. Maybe one of the <em>passengers on our bus </em>is being loud and unruly? Personally, the loudest voices on my bus are that of my family with a distorted twist of being even more critical than the real people would be. Practice makes permanent :-)</p>
<p>I like this exchange, and every one of your 8 steps. Thanks for introducing this new neural connection to my line of thought :)</p>
<p>Thank you for letting me know. I've often thought about publishing an e-book on my experience with the recovery process. It's challenging to get myself to do it because I'm immersing myself in my mental bus and sharing a lot of myself with strangers. My motivation for helping others who are struggling and stuck, like I was, is that not everyone is as fortunate to have the loving support of a partner, family, or friends to help them survive the process. It took me several tries before I found the right time, place, and people to help me recover.</p><p>Thanks again for taking a moment to let me know what I have shared helps. I wish you the best, Cory</p>
<p>Practice does make permanent :)</p>
<br>Readers who want more detailed instructions on these DBT skills should do a basic search for Dialectical Behavior Therapy created by Marsha Linehan. Work each chapter thru and PRACTICE the skills. Yes, they can be life-saving!
<p>Another great job!</p>
<p>The deepest. :-)</p>
Thank you. Great info that many could learn to apply to there lives to make many more happily functioning relationships. All should read and learn.
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<p>This one is for my nephews. I love you both!</p>

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