How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date

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Introduction: How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date

Have you ever spotted a girl from across the room and wondered what you had to do to get her to go out with you? Maybe you sit by a great girl in one of your classes and just aren't sure how to progress with things. Have you had some unlucky breaks in the pass? Whether you've been out on a couple of dates but feel like you’re doing something wrong, or you’re trying to get that first ever first date, we can help you out! By following the five simple steps below and paying attention to what to do and what not to do, we can get you on a first date and have you well on your way to a second. You never know, these steps could even help you go on a date with the girl you’ll marry someday!

Step 1: Gauge Her Interest

The first step is to gauge her interest. Did she notice you when you walked in the door? Did she make eye contact with you and smile? Positive expressions such as laughter, smiling, and open body language are great indicators that she is interested in you. If she seems annoyed, busy, or closed off, chances are you should leave her alone and wait for another girl to come along. If she’s always trying to find a reason to talk to you then this is good news!! Why else would an A student ask you for help on a math problem? She’s interested in you! Now we can move onto step 2 and get to know her a little bit better.

Step 2: Get to Know Her

Now that we know she’s interested, we need to get to know her a little better. This will especially come in handy when you have to plan where to go and what to do when you take her out on a date! Try sitting closer to her in class.

You should try to seek out opportunities for small talk. This could take place while you are standing in the lunch line together, waiting for class to start, or even just passing in a hallway.

 
You should pay attention to what she likes and dislikes. For instance, if she has a binder with adorable puppies on it, chances are that she likes dogs and might have one of her own. Ask her about it! Don’t be afraid to start asking her more personal questions. You could ask her what her favorite childhood tv show was, or her favorite family vacation. Asking these kinds of questions will not only allow you to learn more about her, but she will also pick up on you being interested in her!

An important tip: Try to focus on her eyes. If she sees you staring at other parts of her body she might think twice about you!

Now that we know what color her eyes are and some personal information, let’s ask her out!

Step 3: Ask Her Out

Today’s finally the day, you’re going to ask the girl you’re interested in out on a date! It’s important for you to look nice when doing so. Create a good impression of yourself on the outside to go along with your great personality on the inside. Girls love guys who clean up nicely.

It’s also important to make sure you ask her out when she’s alone. It can be intimidating and awkward for everyone if she’s with her best girlfriends. This will also allow her to give you an honest answer. She will be more likely to respond in a positive way if you catch her alone than when she knows her friends are judging the actions she makes.
Try not to make a big deal out of asking her out. Make it seem casual and confident, as if you do this every day of the week. Approach her with a friendly, “Hi!” and ask her how her day has been going. You need the right balance of confidence and passiveness. You don’t want to come on too strong or she might become uncomfortable. Make sure you are talking with her at a normal talking pace. If you try and rush through things she might take you as desperate and say no!

 
If she says no, then stay composed and friendly, end the conversation, and walk away. Don’t feel bad about what happened, take it as a learning experience and see how you can improve on things for the next time a girl catches your eye.


If she doesn't say no, then that must mean she said yes! I know you’re excited that you’re now able to go out on your date, but you have to remain cool and collected. Don’t give her a high five or perform a celebration dance.


Look happy, tell her how excited you are to go out, and make some date plans!


Step 4: Make Date Plans

The best kind of first date is one where you can really talk, get to know each other, and have fun. Make it a relaxing date, somewhere there isn’t a lot of extra noise and you can hear each other talking. You want to be able to concentrate on her, not everything else going on around you. Perhaps suggest a cup of coffee, or a picnic under a tree.

You should also ask her what time works best for her when making concrete plans. Chances are if it works in her schedule, you’ll make time in your schedule to go out on the date with her. It’s also important to note that you should avoid anything vague. For a first date, it’s good that both people know where they are going and what they are doing. It will make the whole experience more comfortable and more likely to continue on past a first date.

Now that you’ve set a date, time, and activity, let’s fast-forward to the date!

Step 5: Go on "The Date"

This is where you should be yourself, and chivalrous. Open the door for her and pay for her coffee or bring the food to the picnic. You want her to know that you want her to have a good time and not have to worry about anything.

Nerves are going to be present for at least part of the date for both parties. This is not a bad thing! It’s even okay to let her know that you’re nervous; because she’s probably nervous too. Once both of you realize that you can relax a little, you can enjoy each other more.


Be comfortable with silences. There will be times where you’re both trying to think of something else to add, or a new topic to touch on; you might even just be reflecting on how wonderful the date is going and get lost in thought. Don’t let this stress you out, silence is a normal part of conversation.

Step 6:

So now that you’ve made it through your first date, the next step would be to ask her out again if you find her to be second date material. Make sure she knows you had a good time and will be getting in touch with her about a second date if that is what you decide to do. Otherwise, just let her know you had a good time and leave it at that.

After having gone through the initial phase of meeting a girl, getting to know her and her interests, and asking her out on a date, the rest almost seems easy! Once you’ve gone through the process once, it will be easier the next time, and the next after that. Each time gives you a new experience where you’re able to learn and tweak your approach; until you finally find the one that works for you and land the girl of your dreams. Happy dating!

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    what should i do other than ask her for a simple date? i was gonna do it monday, but is it possible to skip one step from the game? what are the chances?

    ok, look, i rlly want to ask this girl out but im not sure if a straight ahead thing would work. im also not sure how to upper the engagment rank, and i dont rlly know a lot about it. Would a date work as a "get to know you better thing"or not?I also might wanna make this quick cs she leaves in a year, and well, i want the relation to last at lst a few months, i mn i can come back later, after 2 years, im just not enitrely sure if this kinda thing would work

    Hi. I'm in the 10th Grade. And their is this Girl I really deeply have a crush on so much right now. I have Know her for a short period of time and what's interesting she is in the 9th Grade I am also good friends with her. What I have noticed the last couple of weeks in a Drama Class I am aiding for. any time I am somewhere in the Drama Buliding or any where on the campus she will make eye contact with me in my Distance or looks straight my way sometimes on the campus. I really want to ask this Freshman out so much badly but I am fearing she will reject me or I will do something wrong that could rude our friendship. I really want to ask her out so much but she is hanging out with her friends a lot.
    I need a Lot Of Help Please...
    I really love and really like this girl to death Right NOW

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    you could apologize if she rejects. is it that big of a deal if she does reject? just make it seem as a casual thing or something. you can ask her if shes ready for a date, idk

    I'm in the tenth grade this girl is in eleventh, we have been good friends since I was in the fifth grade, every once in a while she smiles at me, she also booty bumped me too, I don't know if she actually likes me though because I asked her on a date and she said yes but it's almost like deep down she said no because we ended up not even going. I am not sure what to do ,can you help? She also wrote " your a loser" in my yearbook(after I asked on the date) I am not sure if she is flirting

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    i mn you could question her about this, or just leave her alone and find a new date...

    I think that my step-sister likes me, and I like her too, but we're also great friends. I don't know what I should do.

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    hey guys, need some advice. so i've been talking to this girl for about a year now and i though it was really kicking off. so recently i made plans to take her ice skating and go for a meal one night closer to Christmas. i was really nervous and wanted it to be perfect. but..... i just found out that another lad asked her out a day ago and she said yes to him and asked for a reign check on our 'date'. i really like this girl and i have no clue what to do? do i tell her my feelings, or will that make it worse for putting her in that situation? cheers, any advice appreciated at this point.

    I had a girl call me cute one day while getting my oil changed. She was drop dead sexy but I didn't make a move because I still had a girlfriend at the time. As bad as I wanted to I kind of pushed it off. I found her on instagram and followed her but no follow back, and I haven't personally reached out to her but I am now currently single and I wanna ask her out but I'm not entirely sure about what I should do without fucking it up. It's about 2 months after she called me cute so it's kind of a bad situation. I feel like messaging her randomly would be a bad idea but I have been out of the game for a long time (5 years) what should I do to approach this girl. I found out she's getting ready to leave this service joint to go work for a dealership in about a week. I went to go get my oil changed today and she wasn't there, and I won't have time till next Friday to go back. So basically as for making an appearance I'm out of time. She is a local who goes to the same bars as me but always at different times. I don't like trying to explain a situation so much but there's a lot of angles to his one so any advice would be appreciated

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    Your putting way too much value on a girl that called you cute out years ago. Dude if you want to date her just ask her out, if she says yes great, but if not then just move on to the next one.

    Hy guys. Cute girl asked me out, but i dont know if she were joking.i really like her and i want to ask her out. Any advice?

    a girl asked me out and I'm in 6th grade I have to give her a answer tomorrow I'm gonna be battling my demons tonight

    I'm done with 6th grade and I am in summer there is this girl I really like

    im in 4th grade and there is a girl in my class that i think is really cute but the thing is two guys already like her! i don't know what to do i don't want to overwhelm her or lose my chance so what do i do?!? i mean i actually get sad thinking about them having her and not me

    hello everyone. i am in the 12th grade. and there is a girl in my Reading class that i have a crush on since 10th grade. and i know her for a short time, but have become really good friends with her. and i've notice that every time when she walks into class she turns her head and says hi as she walks to her seat. i've always wanted to ask her out on date badly but i'm afraid that she will rejecting me. I really like this girl but I don't know if she likes me.we have been friends a long time now and I want to ask her out but she is always hanging out with friends please give me advice....

    Hi guys. I am in tenth grade. There is a girl in my biology class and my upcoming chemistry class that I have a crush on. I have known her for a short time, but have already become really good friends with her. I notice that everyday when I come into the classroom she turns my way and stares as I walk to my seat. I want to ask her out on a date so badly but I don't want her to reject me out of fear that she will reject our friendship along with the request for a date. I have been thinking about doing this through a girl that she hangs out with a lot, bu don't know if that is the best course of action. What should I do? Please help?

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    Just ask her. The worst thing that you could do is to not ask her and regret it later on. Good luck!

    and don't ask her through another girl, she'll get confused.

    or reject your friendship( but if you've been friends for a long time then you should be fine.)