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Have you ever spotted a girl from across the room and wondered what you had to do to get her to go out with you? Maybe you sit by a great girl in one of your classes and just aren't sure how to progress with things. Have you had some unlucky breaks in the pass? Whether you've been out on a couple of dates but feel like you’re doing something wrong, or you’re trying to get that first ever first date, we can help you out! By following the five simple steps below and paying attention to what to do and what not to do, we can get you on a first date and have you well on your way to a second. You never know, these steps could even help you go on a date with the girl you’ll marry someday!

Step 1: Gauge Her Interest

The first step is to gauge her interest. Did she notice you when you walked in the door? Did she make eye contact with you and smile? Positive expressions such as laughter, smiling, and open body language are great indicators that she is interested in you. If she seems annoyed, busy, or closed off, chances are you should leave her alone and wait for another girl to come along. If she’s always trying to find a reason to talk to you then this is good news!! Why else would an A student ask you for help on a math problem? She’s interested in you! Now we can move onto step 2 and get to know her a little bit better.

Step 2: Get to Know Her

Now that we know she’s interested, we need to get to know her a little better. This will especially come in handy when you have to plan where to go and what to do when you take her out on a date! Try sitting closer to her in class.

You should try to seek out opportunities for small talk. This could take place while you are standing in the lunch line together, waiting for class to start, or even just passing in a hallway.

 
You should pay attention to what she likes and dislikes. For instance, if she has a binder with adorable puppies on it, chances are that she likes dogs and might have one of her own. Ask her about it! Don’t be afraid to start asking her more personal questions. You could ask her what her favorite childhood tv show was, or her favorite family vacation. Asking these kinds of questions will not only allow you to learn more about her, but she will also pick up on you being interested in her!

An important tip: Try to focus on her eyes. If she sees you staring at other parts of her body she might think twice about you!

Now that we know what color her eyes are and some personal information, let’s ask her out!

Step 3: Ask Her Out

Today’s finally the day, you’re going to ask the girl you’re interested in out on a date! It’s important for you to look nice when doing so. Create a good impression of yourself on the outside to go along with your great personality on the inside. Girls love guys who clean up nicely.

It’s also important to make sure you ask her out when she’s alone. It can be intimidating and awkward for everyone if she’s with her best girlfriends. This will also allow her to give you an honest answer. She will be more likely to respond in a positive way if you catch her alone than when she knows her friends are judging the actions she makes.
Try not to make a big deal out of asking her out. Make it seem casual and confident, as if you do this every day of the week. Approach her with a friendly, “Hi!” and ask her how her day has been going. You need the right balance of confidence and passiveness. You don’t want to come on too strong or she might become uncomfortable. Make sure you are talking with her at a normal talking pace. If you try and rush through things she might take you as desperate and say no!

 
If she says no, then stay composed and friendly, end the conversation, and walk away. Don’t feel bad about what happened, take it as a learning experience and see how you can improve on things for the next time a girl catches your eye.


If she doesn't say no, then that must mean she said yes! I know you’re excited that you’re now able to go out on your date, but you have to remain cool and collected. Don’t give her a high five or perform a celebration dance.


Look happy, tell her how excited you are to go out, and make some date plans!


Step 4: Make Date Plans

The best kind of first date is one where you can really talk, get to know each other, and have fun. Make it a relaxing date, somewhere there isn’t a lot of extra noise and you can hear each other talking. You want to be able to concentrate on her, not everything else going on around you. Perhaps suggest a cup of coffee, or a picnic under a tree.

You should also ask her what time works best for her when making concrete plans. Chances are if it works in her schedule, you’ll make time in your schedule to go out on the date with her. It’s also important to note that you should avoid anything vague. For a first date, it’s good that both people know where they are going and what they are doing. It will make the whole experience more comfortable and more likely to continue on past a first date.

Now that you’ve set a date, time, and activity, let’s fast-forward to the date!

Step 5: Go on "The Date"

This is where you should be yourself, and chivalrous. Open the door for her and pay for her coffee or bring the food to the picnic. You want her to know that you want her to have a good time and not have to worry about anything.

Nerves are going to be present for at least part of the date for both parties. This is not a bad thing! It’s even okay to let her know that you’re nervous; because she’s probably nervous too. Once both of you realize that you can relax a little, you can enjoy each other more.


Be comfortable with silences. There will be times where you’re both trying to think of something else to add, or a new topic to touch on; you might even just be reflecting on how wonderful the date is going and get lost in thought. Don’t let this stress you out, silence is a normal part of conversation.

Step 6:

So now that you’ve made it through your first date, the next step would be to ask her out again if you find her to be second date material. Make sure she knows you had a good time and will be getting in touch with her about a second date if that is what you decide to do. Otherwise, just let her know you had a good time and leave it at that.

After having gone through the initial phase of meeting a girl, getting to know her and her interests, and asking her out on a date, the rest almost seems easy! Once you’ve gone through the process once, it will be easier the next time, and the next after that. Each time gives you a new experience where you’re able to learn and tweak your approach; until you finally find the one that works for you and land the girl of your dreams. Happy dating!
Hi. I'm in the 10th Grade. And their is this Girl I really deeply have a crush on so much right now. I have Know her for a short period of time and what's interesting she is in the 9th Grade I am also good friends with her. What I have noticed the last couple of weeks in a Drama Class I am aiding for. any time I am somewhere in the Drama Buliding or any where on the campus she will make eye contact with me in my Distance or looks straight my way sometimes on the campus. I really want to ask this Freshman out so much badly but I am fearing she will reject me or I will do something wrong that could rude our friendship. I really want to ask her out so much but she is hanging out with her friends a lot.<br>I need a Lot Of Help Please...<br>I really love and really like this girl to death Right NOW
<p>hello everyone. i am in the 12th grade. and there is a girl in my Reading class that i have a crush on since 10th grade. and i know her for a short time, but have become really good friends with her. and i've notice that every time when she walks into class she turns her head and says hi as she walks to her seat. i've always wanted to ask her out on date badly but i'm afraid that she will rejecting me. I really like this girl but I don't know if she likes me.we have been friends a long time now and I want to ask her out but she is always hanging out with friends please give me advice....</p>
<p>Hi guys. I am in tenth grade. There is a girl in my biology class and my upcoming chemistry class that I have a crush on. I have known her for a short time, but have already become really good friends with her. I notice that everyday when I come into the classroom she turns my way and stares as I walk to my seat. I want to ask her out on a date so badly but I don't want her to reject me out of fear that she will reject our friendship along with the request for a date. I have been thinking about doing this through a girl that she hangs out with a lot, bu don't know if that is the best course of action. What should I do? Please help?</p>
<p>Just ask her. The worst thing that you could do is to not ask her and regret it later on. Good luck!</p>
<p>and don't ask her through another girl, she'll get confused.</p>
<p>or reject your friendship( but if you've been friends for a long time then you should be fine.)</p>
<p>Well this girl work for me on reception, she seems interested in me. The other day she gave me a hug. She also scratched my head once. I do not want to lose her as employee but I want to be with her. She has a boy friend and I have a wife. My wife is sleeping in other room for last 4 years and there is no intimacy. I am willing to leave my wife for this girl. This girl is only 22 and know that I am very well off. How should I proceed ?</p>
I have a big crush on this boy and I accidently made him think I'm super mean but I do think he kinda likes me how can I ask him out ps I'm a girl and I think this is super sweet
Most of the time a guy will say yes if he seems to show any sort of affection towards you go for it but you have to be careful
I'm also thinking about asking her to the Halloween dance but I have to be fast because there is another guy who likes her
Oh and I forgot to mention we talk pretty much as well but I don't have the guts to ask her out
I am in a terrible situation I really like this girl but I don't know if she likes me.we have been friends since preschool and now we're in grade 7 and I want to ask her out but she is always hanging out with other guys, please give me advice
I am in such a bad situation i like a girl and i want to ask her out but my bestfriend wants to aswell
I am in the worst situation right now because i want to ask this girl out and im to nervous but theres also a twist if i dont ask the girl out in a little bit a kid named logan might ask here out
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<p>Hi guys i am currently in 9th grade and i like a girl who is in 10th what should i do</p>
<p>hi guys, I need help because iam still in primary school in yr4 and this girl likes me and I like her back and I want to ask her out on a date! What should I do?</p>
<p>Go for it bro</p>
<p>Ask her out</p>
<p>Hello, I'm currently in high school this girl i know is in year ten and we see each other every day i am really shy but i REALLY REALLY like this girl what should i do?</p>
<p>Just do it, you have absolutely nothing to lose. email me if you need to talk. milesnicholson98@gmail.com </p>
<p>There is this girl i have know for work for a month. I have been recently just been talking to her alot for the past week. She says im funny and I make her laugh alot. I want to ask her out on a date but maybe one week is pushing it. Im scared to ask girls out because i asked one time and got denied. Soooo i dont want to get denied. Maybe im over reacting but i am terrified. I love her but i dont know if she would like me back Im not that bad looking i dont think.</p>
So there's this girl on Twitter that I know well and she tweeted &quot;I want to go on a date to the zoo ?&quot; What should I say or how should I approach her?
<p>How do you get a girl on her own to ask her? She always seems to have one or other of her girlfriends with her</p>
I have a crush on this girl that i sit next to in ss and i am planning on asking her out tommarow what should i say ? ( were in fifth grade)
<p>First up, I'm a girl, and I think this is super sweet. As a matter of fact, I'd say all of my friends would think it's sweet too. I think the concept of getting to know a girl is great because then she knows that the guy likes who she is as well as what she looks like. Personally, I think it's important to date a girl in person because it can wear down on the couple if they can't see each other. Another thing to all the guys out there who are afraid to ask a girl out, have courage! It speaks a lot for a guy to man-up and face possible rejection, and good girls will recognize it. Good luck you guys!</p>
So I went to a Super Bowl party at one of my dads friends(let's just call him bill) house that he's known for a really long time and bill's daughter has had a boyfriend for quite awhile that I'm not sure if they just broke up or not. But during half time me and my cousin went to play darts and foosball and her and her sister followed us out and we decided to play a game of foosball so me and my cousin were on a team and her and her sister. She kept bragging she was really good and I'm also pretty good too so my cousin and her sister decided to let us play offense while they played defense. As we were playing she kept trying to shoot the ball by me but I kept blocking it(for the most part) and when I did she gave me this look like she was maybe impressed at how good I was or something. Me and my cousin ended up losing cause he sucks (lol) so she was kinda teasing about it. So we all decided to play darts and when I went up to throw she kept giving me the same look that was like a half smirk with a tad bit of wonder in it. I ended up winning and we went back inside to finish watching the game and we really didn't talk that much because I'm a tad bit shy and her and my family was in there watching. Also right after my dad was in a rush to get out so we left pretty fast and I didn't get a chance to talk to her. So I added her on Facebook later that night and was trying to figure out if I should message her or not. I keep thinking it's kinda weird because we're a little different (shes more into country stuff and I'm more into rap/hip-hop culture). Another thing is that she's about 2 years older then me (I'm 19 and she's 21). What do y'all think should I go for it? Our parents are really good friends and I don't want it to be weird when we see each other. If y'all think it's a good idea any tips on what I should say?
<p>Just thought id let you know to be careful with facebook chat for stuff like that. ive had really bad luck in the past with it. If you can connect in person always choose that method, im a shy guy too but its worth the effort. Like today i met a girl at the gym.. MAYBE i'd try finding her on facebook if i don't run into her for a couple weeks... and even then it owuld just be to see her schedule to meet up at the gym again. So i say go for it 100 percent but do it in person. </p>
<p>Addendum:</p><p>If you're (young and) inexperienced in the dating game, then <em>practice</em> is helpful. Before taking the plunge and asking a girl out, do a dry run or two with a sympathetic older female -- a sister, an aunt, or (horrors!) even your mother. This is a good way to get past the jitters and improve your technique.</p>
Hey guys honestly i have been thinking on how to go on with these. I just found a girl my heart beat for. When she's not there i can't breaths, i don't want to ask her out and turn me down. What do i do
<p>If I were you, tell her how you feel. If she doesn't like you then just be friends, and try to engage interests then she may think again about saying &quot;no&quot;. If she says yes then I would ask for her number and get to know her for about a week, and see how things are going. If it goes well, ask her out. If its akaward between you guys, then just wait a few more weeks until she &quot;warms up to you&quot;. hope this helped :)</p>
<p>so I need help! There's this girl that I like and am fairly certain she likes me but I'm not so sure. The problem here is I will see here at college every day for the next 3 years so if I as her out and she says no then there's that awkward tension between us the rest of our time at college. What do I do? </p>
<p>I would wait until the end of the collage class then if she says no you dont have to see her again, but if she says yes then ask for her number or ask when you guys could meet. hope this wasn't too late :)</p>
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Theres this girl on our school she is cute and she stares at me sometimes but im shy to ask her out and I dont know if she has a boyfriend any advice?
<p>Ask her if she is in a relationship, if so, ask to be friends, if not go for it.</p>
Their is this one girl I knew since 4th grade and we r best friends show should I ask her out or just be freinds
I would go for it the worst thing she could is say no but most girls like confidence so yes you should
There is this girl I liked since 6th grade but now we're at different schools should I ask her out over the phone or go for someone else?
<p>Hey everyone, I like this girl in my class but I don't how to ask her out cause i'm shy and she hangs out with a lot of guys but I like her a lot and I need Help.</p>
Hey guys, so there's a new girl that just moved in next door and when ever she sees me she lightly insults me (something like &quot;oh hey stupid&quot;) and I don't know if that's good or bad. I've never had a girlfriend before and I get nervous is this insults thing good or bad? thanks, Ethan
<p>sometimes its good</p>
<p>I'd start saving for an engagement ring if I were you..........</p>
Good sometimes
I have a cute girl in my program and I'm going to ask her out. I'm really nervous cause this is my first girlfriend. I have 1 day till I ask her, any more tips?
<p>Be confident and don't pause between words or talk to fadt </p>
<p>fast*</p>
She's not your girlfriend. If she hasn't said yes
I have a girlfriend but I tried giving her a gift and she just walked away can someone tell me why that happens
<p>Maybe she isn't interested anymore, or didn't like the present, idk man some girls can be hard to figure out</p>

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