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Have you ever spotted a girl from across the room and wondered what you had to do to get her to go out with you? Maybe you sit by a great girl in one of your classes and just aren't sure how to progress with things. Have you had some unlucky breaks in the pass? Whether you've been out on a couple of dates but feel like you’re doing something wrong, or you’re trying to get that first ever first date, we can help you out! By following the five simple steps below and paying attention to what to do and what not to do, we can get you on a first date and have you well on your way to a second. You never know, these steps could even help you go on a date with the girl you’ll marry someday!
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Step 1: Gauge Her Interest

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The first step is to gauge her interest. Did she notice you when you walked in the door? Did she make eye contact with you and smile? Positive expressions such as laughter, smiling, and open body language are great indicators that she is interested in you. If she seems annoyed, busy, or closed off, chances are you should leave her alone and wait for another girl to come along. If she’s always trying to find a reason to talk to you then this is good news!! Why else would an A student ask you for help on a math problem? She’s interested in you! Now we can move onto step 2 and get to know her a little bit better.

Step 2: Get to Know Her

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Now that we know she’s interested, we need to get to know her a little better. This will especially come in handy when you have to plan where to go and what to do when you take her out on a date! Try sitting closer to her in class.

You should try to seek out opportunities for small talk. This could take place while you are standing in the lunch line together, waiting for class to start, or even just passing in a hallway.

You should pay attention to what she likes and dislikes. For instance, if she has a binder with adorable puppies on it, chances are that she likes dogs and might have one of her own. Ask her about it! Don’t be afraid to start asking her more personal questions. You could ask her what her favorite childhood tv show was, or her favorite family vacation. Asking these kinds of questions will not only allow you to learn more about her, but she will also pick up on you being interested in her!

An important tip: Try to focus on her eyes. If she sees you staring at other parts of her body she might think twice about you!

Now that we know what color her eyes are and some personal information, let’s ask her out!

Step 3: Ask Her Out

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Today’s finally the day, you’re going to ask the girl you’re interested in out on a date! It’s important for you to look nice when doing so. Create a good impression of yourself on the outside to go along with your great personality on the inside. Girls love guys who clean up nicely.

It’s also important to make sure you ask her out when she’s alone. It can be intimidating and awkward for everyone if she’s with her best girlfriends. This will also allow her to give you an honest answer. She will be more likely to respond in a positive way if you catch her alone than when she knows her friends are judging the actions she makes.
Try not to make a big deal out of asking her out. Make it seem casual and confident, as if you do this every day of the week. Approach her with a friendly, “Hi!” and ask her how her day has been going. You need the right balance of confidence and passiveness. You don’t want to come on too strong or she might become uncomfortable. Make sure you are talking with her at a normal talking pace. If you try and rush through things she might take you as desperate and say no!

If she says no, then stay composed and friendly, end the conversation, and walk away. Don’t feel bad about what happened, take it as a learning experience and see how you can improve on things for the next time a girl catches your eye.

If she doesn't say no, then that must mean she said yes! I know you’re excited that you’re now able to go out on your date, but you have to remain cool and collected. Don’t give her a high five or perform a celebration dance.

Look happy, tell her how excited you are to go out, and make some date plans!

Step 4: Make Date Plans

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The best kind of first date is one where you can really talk, get to know each other, and have fun. Make it a relaxing date, somewhere there isn’t a lot of extra noise and you can hear each other talking. You want to be able to concentrate on her, not everything else going on around you. Perhaps suggest a cup of coffee, or a picnic under a tree.

You should also ask her what time works best for her when making concrete plans. Chances are if it works in her schedule, you’ll make time in your schedule to go out on the date with her. It’s also important to note that you should avoid anything vague. For a first date, it’s good that both people know where they are going and what they are doing. It will make the whole experience more comfortable and more likely to continue on past a first date.

Now that you’ve set a date, time, and activity, let’s fast-forward to the date!

Step 5: Go on "The Date"

This is where you should be yourself, and chivalrous. Open the door for her and pay for her coffee or bring the food to the picnic. You want her to know that you want her to have a good time and not have to worry about anything.

Nerves are going to be present for at least part of the date for both parties. This is not a bad thing! It’s even okay to let her know that you’re nervous; because she’s probably nervous too. Once both of you realize that you can relax a little, you can enjoy each other more.

Be comfortable with silences. There will be times where you’re both trying to think of something else to add, or a new topic to touch on; you might even just be reflecting on how wonderful the date is going and get lost in thought. Don’t let this stress you out, silence is a normal part of conversation.

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So now that you’ve made it through your first date, the next step would be to ask her out again if you find her to be second date material. Make sure she knows you had a good time and will be getting in touch with her about a second date if that is what you decide to do. Otherwise, just let her know you had a good time and leave it at that.

After having gone through the initial phase of meeting a girl, getting to know her and her interests, and asking her out on a date, the rest almost seems easy! Once you’ve gone through the process once, it will be easier the next time, and the next after that. Each time gives you a new experience where you’re able to learn and tweak your approach; until you finally find the one that works for you and land the girl of your dreams. Happy dating!
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tboy020215 days ago
I have a cute girl in my program and I'm going to ask her out. I'm really nervous cause this is my first girlfriend. I have 1 day till I ask her, any more tips?
Ejcrusher2 months ago
Hey guys, so there's a new girl that just moved in next door and when ever she sees me she lightly insults me (something like "oh hey stupid") and I don't know if that's good or bad. I've never had a girlfriend before and I get nervous is this insults thing good or bad? thanks, Ethan
Good sometimes
WhateverH28 days ago

Very wise article, I fully agree. Just do be kind and patient, make small steps to conquer her. Love takes no hurries, it's for patient and thoughtful people. Nice guys are just the type to find real love! You may find many lonely hearts, friends, dates and years may pass till you chose the one among them. Just don't give up, be cheerful, communicate easily, be open-minded, talk on Tinder, https://kovla.com/datings/us/dover/, MeetUp, be forever young! And may God help you! Good luck!

AngelaCook1 month ago

I've been looking so a useful articel like this. All men should learn from this!

SilasH1 month ago

Im very happy

SilasH1 month ago

I did it and the girl said yes

ScottZ42 months ago
So i have know this girl for awile and i really like her but i dont know if she really likes me back
Have somone on the inside that u trust and ur crush trusts
trav8972 months ago

I would just be yourself

DanielC194 months ago

Asking her out on last day of school

Very good idea, this technique almost always works

Does it...here I sit wondering why I never really said anything and now that the last day of school is tomorrow...I feel that I might have just screwed myself out of something wonderful.

Alanshkop4 months ago
I have a girlfriend but I tried giving her a gift and she just walked away can someone tell me why that happens
Women are like that sometimes, my friends and I have had that happen before
WREPIC3 months ago
Hi, I just got a love note that actually says "I Love You", I just dont know if I just need to build up my courage or what, I just need help on asking her out. Thanks in advance☺
bulusemmanuel3 months ago

Hi guys, i met a girl online in my city, i asked her out on a date and she said she's doubtful on going out, what does that mean and what should i say?

i think you are too embarrased by this question!=) It's easier, than you think=) If girl likes you, that it doesn't matter all this "tips"/ I think guestion must be not " how to ask her out" , but " how to make a girl like you" !! I'm use one dating site https://kovla.com/datings/us/columbus

and i like one guy there, but he didn't ask me to go out yet. And i can say, that if we asked me , i wouldn't care about many aspects. So the main issue is to hit it off! So don't be so unsure=) Just do it!!))

Hey I got a girl to kiss me and so yeah. How I did it I just invited her over to a movie and we ended up playing spin the bottle and I set rules who gets the bottle gets to pick between kiss or sexual relation I kept picking 2
Treknology2 years ago
"If she doesn't say no, then that must mean she said yes!"

In today's world, that's a big reach.

"Remember when you asked me out, and I said I would rather be found dead in a ditch? Well, tonight I find myself unexpectedly free, and there are no convenient ditches nearby, so would you like to meet for coffee?"

I enjoyed reading your i'ble and find both it and the comments, an interesting overview on how society is changing.

My own advice to people is don't stop yourself with the thought, "s/he's way out of my league and would never go out with someone like me." There are many nice and lovely people left out in the cold because everyone else thinks the same thing! The worst answer you can get for asking is, "No."
Well, "no" then she goes off and tells everybody that you hit on her (then adds in whatever to make you sound creepy) and to avoid you. In turn you end up looking like a fool to everyone just because you took a risk with one. (Yes, I've had this happen a couple times.)
well that may have happend because of the fact you havent got to know her enough try and compare yourself to them and sooner or later you will be able to just tell if they are gonna say no or yes to you
I don't understand what you mean by "compare". Trying to get to know someone just results in being "just friends". Even in getting to know them, it is impossible to just be able to devine a no or yes without asking....with usually just weirds them out.
Gadget93 Gadget935 months ago
...which usually...
Haha so true ive done it twice:(
I'm just saying that the particular thought alone should not be enough to stop you. As detailed elsewhere, there may be other evidence that puts a person off your "potential" list. If s/he has already made someone else look like a creepy fool, then you know that person isn't even desirable.
loveyomom91115 months ago

i just got dumped over a text gonna curl up and die in a corner

No worries mate, you'll come to terms with it over time. I just got out of a tough breakup for a year-long relationship. Watch some comedy shows and think of it as a chance to step back and take stock in life.
marcell207 months ago
1. Compliment them
2.start conversation of trending topic
3. Get name
4.tell her how You feel
5.ask her out
Wessyboy7 months ago
Step 1: Akwardly stare across rooms at her, breathing loudly. Look away whenever she looks at you.
Step 2: Attempt to ask her out, but instead get nervous and mumble gibberish. Change the subject to the weather.
Step 3: Go home and cry in your bedroom, telling yourself that "I was too cool for her anyways".
Step 4: Pretend it never happened, listen to Linkin Park all night and pretend that it doesn't even matter in the end.
Step 5: Repeat the following day.
This is how I have landed all of my girlfriends (all none of them), hope it helps you too!
sconner12 years ago
One: don't ask them out.
If they get a whiff of you're interest, they'll cast you aside or keep you wrapped around her pinky as an obedient pet she uses to impress other girls.

Two:Treat all girls like you don't care, let them seek you out.
But don't be an easy catch. Nothing makes a girl want something more than the fact that it can't be gotten.

Three: When you finally "let her go out with you" treat her like you're killing time until something better comes along. nothing keeps a girl like feelings of inadequacy and fear of losing the unattainable.
ChelsieS sconner19 months ago

You don't get laid a lot, do you?

QuentinS ChelsieS7 months ago

haa they must not lmao. dis guy right here all the time. #confidence

i get the feeling you like to try new things and that makes me feel comfortable and at ease.

ok that's why we girl's cry don't do that. don't overthink it just go 4 it

QuentinS7 months ago

this site is pathetic beyond reasoning. I have never once asked a girl out and I have ad 8 gf through out my high school career. you all make things sound so difficult, and tell people to go do this stuff you say and they get rejected. for real let them be themselves and just pop the question and get it done with

FranciscoW8 months ago

you make it sound so easy...

ElijahF18 months ago

This doesn't make that much since i just talk to them and i don't want to push her away from her friends... i just ask her its just a question.

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