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Have you ever spotted a girl from across the room and wondered what you had to do to get her to go out with you? Maybe you sit by a great girl in one of your classes and just aren't sure how to progress with things. Have you had some unlucky breaks in the pass? Whether you've been out on a couple of dates but feel like you’re doing something wrong, or you’re trying to get that first ever first date, we can help you out! By following the five simple steps below and paying attention to what to do and what not to do, we can get you on a first date and have you well on your way to a second. You never know, these steps could even help you go on a date with the girl you’ll marry someday!
 
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Step 1: Gauge Her Interest

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The first step is to gauge her interest. Did she notice you when you walked in the door? Did she make eye contact with you and smile? Positive expressions such as laughter, smiling, and open body language are great indicators that she is interested in you. If she seems annoyed, busy, or closed off, chances are you should leave her alone and wait for another girl to come along. If she’s always trying to find a reason to talk to you then this is good news!! Why else would an A student ask you for help on a math problem? She’s interested in you! Now we can move onto step 2 and get to know her a little bit better.
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WREPIC7 days ago
Hi, I just got a love note that actually says "I Love You", I just dont know if I just need to build up my courage or what, I just need help on asking her out. Thanks in advance☺

Hi guys, i met a girl online in my city, i asked her out on a date and she said she's doubtful on going out, what does that mean and what should i say?

Alanshkop1 month ago
I have a girlfriend but I tried giving her a gift and she just walked away can someone tell me why that happens

i think you are too embarrased by this question!=) It's easier, than you think=) If girl likes you, that it doesn't matter all this "tips"/ I think guestion must be not " how to ask her out" , but " how to make a girl like you" !! I'm use one dating site https://kovla.com/datings/us/columbus

and i like one guy there, but he didn't ask me to go out yet. And i can say, that if we asked me , i wouldn't care about many aspects. So the main issue is to hit it off! So don't be so unsure=) Just do it!!))

Hey I got a girl to kiss me and so yeah. How I did it I just invited her over to a movie and we ended up playing spin the bottle and I set rules who gets the bottle gets to pick between kiss or sexual relation I kept picking 2
DanielC191 month ago

Asking her out on last day of school

Treknology2 years ago
"If she doesn't say no, then that must mean she said yes!"

In today's world, that's a big reach.

"Remember when you asked me out, and I said I would rather be found dead in a ditch? Well, tonight I find myself unexpectedly free, and there are no convenient ditches nearby, so would you like to meet for coffee?"

I enjoyed reading your i'ble and find both it and the comments, an interesting overview on how society is changing.

My own advice to people is don't stop yourself with the thought, "s/he's way out of my league and would never go out with someone like me." There are many nice and lovely people left out in the cold because everyone else thinks the same thing! The worst answer you can get for asking is, "No."
Well, "no" then she goes off and tells everybody that you hit on her (then adds in whatever to make you sound creepy) and to avoid you. In turn you end up looking like a fool to everyone just because you took a risk with one. (Yes, I've had this happen a couple times.)
well that may have happend because of the fact you havent got to know her enough try and compare yourself to them and sooner or later you will be able to just tell if they are gonna say no or yes to you
I don't understand what you mean by "compare". Trying to get to know someone just results in being "just friends". Even in getting to know them, it is impossible to just be able to devine a no or yes without asking....with usually just weirds them out.
Gadget93 Gadget932 months ago
...which usually...
Haha so true ive done it twice:(
I'm just saying that the particular thought alone should not be enough to stop you. As detailed elsewhere, there may be other evidence that puts a person off your "potential" list. If s/he has already made someone else look like a creepy fool, then you know that person isn't even desirable.
Thanks.
loveyomom91112 months ago

i just got dumped over a text gonna curl up and die in a corner

No worries mate, you'll come to terms with it over time. I just got out of a tough breakup for a year-long relationship. Watch some comedy shows and think of it as a chance to step back and take stock in life.
marcell203 months ago
1. Compliment them
2.start conversation of trending topic
3. Get name
4.tell her how You feel
5.ask her out
Wessyboy4 months ago
Step 1: Akwardly stare across rooms at her, breathing loudly. Look away whenever she looks at you.
Step 2: Attempt to ask her out, but instead get nervous and mumble gibberish. Change the subject to the weather.
Step 3: Go home and cry in your bedroom, telling yourself that "I was too cool for her anyways".
Step 4: Pretend it never happened, listen to Linkin Park all night and pretend that it doesn't even matter in the end.
Step 5: Repeat the following day.
This is how I have landed all of my girlfriends (all none of them), hope it helps you too!
sconner12 years ago
One: don't ask them out.
If they get a whiff of you're interest, they'll cast you aside or keep you wrapped around her pinky as an obedient pet she uses to impress other girls.

Two:Treat all girls like you don't care, let them seek you out.
But don't be an easy catch. Nothing makes a girl want something more than the fact that it can't be gotten.

Three: When you finally "let her go out with you" treat her like you're killing time until something better comes along. nothing keeps a girl like feelings of inadequacy and fear of losing the unattainable.
ChelsieS sconner16 months ago

You don't get laid a lot, do you?

QuentinS ChelsieS4 months ago

haa they must not lmao. dis guy right here all the time. #confidence

i get the feeling you like to try new things and that makes me feel comfortable and at ease.

ok that's why we girl's cry don't do that. don't overthink it just go 4 it

QuentinS4 months ago

this site is pathetic beyond reasoning. I have never once asked a girl out and I have ad 8 gf through out my high school career. you all make things sound so difficult, and tell people to go do this stuff you say and they get rejected. for real let them be themselves and just pop the question and get it done with

FranciscoW5 months ago

you make it sound so easy...

ElijahF15 months ago

This doesn't make that much since i just talk to them and i don't want to push her away from her friends... i just ask her its just a question.

goldenpawn1 year ago
I like it I had problems with this all through high school.

Hope you figured it out now....Good luck!

AndrewW75 months ago

This helps me a lot. I am in high school now, and needed to know how to do this for a first date kinda thing. It is this girl that I really like. Thank you whoever posted this....I mean it.

auseis206 months ago
what's the minimum age it will work
nsultana1 year ago
Thank you very much for sharing this nice tips. I would like to add a little hope that will make this post rich.

Avoid questions like "what are you doing Friday?" or "would you like to go out sometime?" or worse, assertions like "let me know what you're doing this weekend" or "we should hang out sometime." You will flatter her and make it easy for her to say yes by being clear and specific.

Ask her to a predetermined event (like a concert, opening night show, or invite-only party) that, unlike a movie or a meal, she couldn't just as easily attend casually with friends. It doesn't have to be fancy, just interesting and cool (i.e. memorable).
Try to have an 'in' with this event (great seats, expertise on the subject, have seen it before, know the host) instead of just being a regular attendee. This will make you more confident and comfortable, improve the experience, and make it clear to her that she's your guest... otherwise you may drift back into the friend zone.

Try this:

Make sure the girl is single, knows who you are, and is receptive to you, even if you're not sure if she likes you yet.
Learn about her interests and style.
Find an apropos event that you are absolutely certain she would like.
If she says she's not going, tell her you have a +1/extra ticket, then--without pausing--ask her if she wants to join you.


If she's already going, you can't use this for your date, but you can say either:
A) "Nice, do you want to grab dinner or a drink first?" then repeat Step 3 in a few days. (note: this is 'meeting up' and not a date)
or
B) "Nice, I'll probably see you there!" then repeat Step 3 in a few days.

If you try this again and she says she's going to the next cool event, then she is probably awesome and you should step up your game.

Source: http://www.attractthemnow.org
mahdawi1 year ago
great ideas and advice you ifond abook discusing dating and it will help you try it
Treknology2 years ago
Afterthought: I think you should have made this a Unisex i'ble, even hetero/homo. Girls are just as nervous, and yes guy-girl talk are two different languages. Even guy-guy and girl-girl talk can be different languages, although in the homo-world there tends to be a little more honesty, as in, "You wanna?" "Yes/No."

As someone with all the sex-drive of a Vogon road-side accident (and probably as much appeal), I don't seek "random" relationships. I let the real ones find me.

You could try some of Holstrom's Sexual Magnetism Virus... although you could get more than you bargained for.
Did you just reference Red Dwarf?
First reference: The Hitch-Hiker's Guide to the Galaxy.

Second reference: Red Dwarf.
kschmidt21 year ago
Treknology, did you Just reference Red Dwarf?

(I had can't reply to the actual comment because of a Captcha glitch
Thanks for the guide! I asked the girl I'm interested in to prom, as she seemed interested in me (often asked me questions, noticed when I came through the door, smiles at me when I make eye contact). One problem, however, is that I am incredibly shy. (I've actually told her I find her to be a beautiful girl, and that I was honored to go to prom with such a beautiful girl). Any tips for this shy guy?
Thanks!
Nick
When you attend a party, locate that lone person who sits in a corner. You can have the best undisturbed conversation, and learn more about the person, who could equally be as shy as you.
Shy implies lack of confidence which is a death sentence in attracting women who are not equally shy. Shy or not, you have to be confident. Confidence is the number one rule. If you don't know that you're capable of tackling the world's problems, then she can't hope that you are either. What are you good for if you can't tackle the world? If you fake it, then there will be a crash and burn. Be a great guy who is worthy of a great girl, and you won't be able to stop her from bumping into you and forcing you to ask her to the prom. Guys do not control who they date. The girls have decided before you ask.
zawy2 years ago
Gadget try a speed dating service. Be sociable and find places to go to meet people. Follow your heart. Be confident. Talk to her. Skill at humor and art helps. If you love her, tell her. If you want something, ask. If the two of you are not madly in love by the 3rd date, look elsewhere. The quicker you both know, the better. 80% of the decision process is made within the first 2 minutes of conversation, but it needs to be both ways. Don't waste time emailing and texting strangers except to exchange photos and get a telephone number or voice chat. Get her on the phone or video chat ASAP. My wife of 8 years is 15 years younger and beautiful and my history is the same as yours....very late to the game. My delay is the result of not being sociable. Learn to start a nice interactive and friendly conversation with strangers. Start with cashiers. This is how you learn to approach a girl, so said Marylin vos Savant many years ago (Guinness highest IQ at one time). America's most famous genius, Feynman, said if you want sex, ask. Use an online dating service that doubles as an english language learning pairing service, especially Korea or Ukraine, but be extremely careful and smart in eastern europe. You want 10 years younger, or an advanced degree. The little voice in your head knows best.
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