How to Break Up

Step 8 Closure

Both you and the other person will now need time to digest the break-up. Your lives are now changed. Give it time! You both need time away from each other to get on with your lives.

Don't call. Don't text. Don't email. Don't be where they're going to be.

This "no contact" rule is essential to the healing process. But sometimes the urge to make contact can be too hard to resist!

• Get your friends to help you. If you're going out for drinks, give them your cell.
• If you find yourself up late at night writing an email, send it to yourself. You can delete it tomorrow.
• If the other person is trying to contact you, help them out by not responding.

Though you may be able to be BFF in the future, you'll both need plenty of time and space before you can make that happen.

The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can move on!

Comments

[TheDreadPirateVampy]

The whole avoiding your ex thing becomes a little tricky when you have class together. But I am pretty much in your debt for uploading this, all the same. Thank you.

[starrymirth]

I know about that. I broke up with my ex over a year ago because I was in love with my best friend. However, the three of us take almost all our classes together. Talk about awkward. After about a month it worked out and now we're friends. :) Oh, and I'm still with my best friend, and exceedingly happy. :)

[tjoktjok]

it is in general a good advice, but not helpfull when having kids you share for the rest of your life

[scoochmaroo]

Not having kids myself, I was very careful not to offer my opinions in this case. Other than make sure you always put your kids first!

[tech53]

thanks, it gave me a different perspective...my fiancee recently broke up with me and it gave me a perspective i didn't have....I don't seem like such a bad guy in my eyes anymore.

[scoochmaroo]

I'm glad you found it of some help.