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Ahh, the French kiss . . . a timeless expression of romantic passion that we have all seen others engage in. We see it in movies, hear friends (or the people they are dating) wax anxious about their technique, catch glimpses at parties, and read tips in books and magazines. A French kiss is an exciting and intimate moment between two people who are attracted to one another, and a symbol of that passion. Chances are, boy or girl, if you haven't yet experienced a French kiss, your lips long to.

Not sure how to kiss? Well, French kissing shares many of the same principles and techniques as normal kissing and making out, so be sure to also check out the Instructables How to Kiss and How to Make Out. Both are very informative and helpful to those curious about kissing, and both touch on all the topics that should be addressed. But if you are just interested in learning about French kissing and you want to know how to gage body language and work up to kissing that involves the tongue, then you’re in the right place! In this Instructable I will focus on the French kiss alone.

The French kiss is not a science, it is an art that is open to the interpretation of all who partake. It comes naturally to some of us but is intimidating to others, and while there is a certain amount of skill involved, it is mostly instinct that will develop naturally with time.

By creating this Instructable, I hope to help you become a confident, compassionate, French kisser and to alleviate your nervousness about kissing — and possibly to improve your experience! All I ask is that you try to be safe by making sure you are healthy before you start kissing. Your partner won’t appreciate it if you get them sick.

Don’t be left with just a peck on the cheek. Read on to learn how to be forward and go for it!

 
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Step 1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

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There are some standards of things that are fairly constant across the board that I will go in to depth about. The definition of a French kiss, as defined by wikipedia, is "a passionate romantic or sexual kiss in which one participant's tongue touches the other's tongue (or lips) and usually enters his/her mouth." Well, I think we all knew that much, so I hope to be able to teach how to French kiss well. We have all heard horror stories about "bad kissers" and obviously do not want to be labeled as such. Read on to find some "Do's" and "Don'ts" of French kissing.

Step 2: Preparation - Have Fresh Breath

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Having bad breath is a major turn off for many partners out there. Having good breath is something you should want to have around people in general. It is especially important for a French kiss as you will be exchanging saliva with your partner. Try to not to eat smelly things before a kiss such as garlic or onions. Gum and mints help, but can only do so much. In the event of having smelly food, or in the event of having food that leaves a residue in your mouth, it is best to brush your teeth if you can. If you can't bush your teeth, try drinking lots of water to clean out your mouth. Then try mints/gum.

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This is not necessary for all partners, but until you know your partner's kissing preferences, it is a good thing to take into consideration as most people enjoy the clean palate so that they can focus on the kiss itself.

Step 3: Have Soft, moist lips

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Chapstick is something that guys and gals alike can carry on them and use often. Soft lips are enticing where as dry lips are quite the opposite. Would you want to kiss someone with cracked, chapped lips or soft, smooth lips? I thought so. :P

This is something very easy to do! Just carry around a tube with you and apply as need. Voila! Instant kissable lips. Also, keep in mind that most lipsticks can be very sticky and unpleasant to transfer via kiss. They look pretty, yes, but be sure if you want to use lipstick or gloss, that it will not hinder the kiss. Sometimes flavored lip gloss can be fun. ;)

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Step 4: Find Someone to Kiss

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Hopefully you have someone in mind before this point, but if it is a spur of the moment urge, find yourself someone you would like to kiss. Make sure they want to be kissed as well, otherwise, the kiss may very well end unpleasantly. You can generally tell if someone wants to be kissed by their body language. If they are willing to be very close to you and touch you, if they have steady eye contact, and if they have been flirting, it is a good bet that they want to be kissed.

Be confident

I know that this may be a little tricky at this point, but it's very important. By the time you're done here, confidence should not be an issue. Confidence is important because it shows your partner that you want to kiss them and have no doubt. It helps them relax too.

Step 5: Start off Slowly

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Lean in closely to your partner and look into their eyes. If they want to be kissed, kiss them. Tilt your head slightly to the side so that your noses do not bump. Keep eye contact with them until your lips touch, at which point you should close your eyes. It is generally considered rude to kiss with your eyes open and can ruin the intimacy of the moment.

Let your lips softly touch and pull away from each other in a kiss. Pause for a moment and gage how the other person is enjoying this kiss. You can pull away slightly to look into their eyes. If they liked your kiss, try another one on them. Maybe let this one last a moment longer or kiss them a couple times. Make sure your kisses are soft.

Step 6: How to know when to transition your kiss to a French kiss

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There isn't going to be a moment at which you will want to stop and ask for permission, "Hey, mind if we swap saliva?" So, you will need to test the waters to see if your partner wants to be kissed. When you have decided you want to French kiss, start kissing your partner with a slight open mouth, but keep your tongue inside. This lets your partner know that your mouth is open and that you are up for French kissing. Continue kissing with an open mouth and then, very slightly, touch your partner's lips with your tongue. If they respond negatively, stop. If they don't respond, then be patient. They might not be ready yet. If your partner mirrors your actions by opening their mouth, then they are ready to move on.

Step 7: An open mouth kiss

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By now, you and your partner are probably both gingerly touching each other with your tongues. If you are both comfortable, feel free to explore each other's mouths with your tongues. Keep in mind that it's always better to do a little bit at a time to get a feel for it. Remember to occasionally pull your tongue into your own mouth so you do not bombard your partner. Small, exploring French kisses are what you want for the moment.

Swallow your saliva. French kisses are bound to get a little messy, but control it as much as you can by swallowing your saliva. If you can't do this while kissing, do it when you are giving your partner a short break from the French kiss. This should be a short, momentary break and you should continue to be engaged with your hands.

Continue exploring each other's mouths. Keep a soft tongue. For most people, it is a major turn off to feel a ridged tongue in their mouth. It isn't welcoming or sensual in any way. Remember that your tongue is one of the most sensitive parts on your body and should be kissed as such. Think of licking ice cream from a soft-serve cone. You don't want a lot of pressure. Just enough to lick a small layer of ice cream off. That is the same thing to think about when kissing.

Step 8: Remember your hands

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When kissing, it is very important to remember your hands in relation to your partner's body. When you begin kissing, keep your hands gently touching your partner. Try gingerly stroking their cheek or running your fingers through their hair.

As the kiss progresses, so may your hands. Try running your hand down their back while one hand plays with their hair. Or just embrace them gently. You will find what you are most comfortable with. The important thing is to remember not to let your arms just hang there! Let your hands mirror what your mouth is up to.

Step 9: Remember your partner!

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Remember that not everybody likes to be kissed the same way and be mindful of that. Be open to trying new things for your partner and be willing to kiss them differently if that is what they like. You want this experience to be optimum for both parties. :)

Make sure to be a good partner. The best kissers are those who figure out how their partner likes to be kissed. I have given the best guidelines that follow how most people like to be kissed, but remember to be considerate if your partner wants to try something different.

If your partner is not happy, neither will you be eventually because they will not want to kiss you anymore! Although it may seem awkward, talk to your partner at a later time and ask them how they like to be kissed the best and take it into consideration.

Step 10: Practice makes perfect!

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Don't have anyone to try this with quite yet? No problem, you can still practice. Remember how we talked about the soft-serve ice cream cone? Try one out with kissing in mind. Remember how your tongue feels in that way.

Don't be embarrassed to practice on yourself! Well, you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to, but practicing on yourself is a great way to start. Trying kissing your hand and follow the technique.

Everybody will develop their own "art" to French kissing, so just give it time! The more you do it, the better you'll get! Thankfully, it's fun to practice!

Now go out there and grab yourself somebody to kiss! Have fun and be safe!

This was my first Instructable and if you enjoyed it let me know! I would love to get some feed back. :)

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BoHoChick1 month ago
Well try not to laugh...but I'm a 62 yr old Great Grandmother so needless to say, I've got a whole lot of kissing under my belt! That didn't come out right...sorry. I've read every comment and have a few of my own. Most of you are still very young and are way too young to be so concerned about kissing to begin with...but I understand, you are curiosus and probably very anxious to be 'all grown up', so naturally you want to act grown up too.

In a matter of just a few years you WILL be grown up and there's no turning back, then, within another few yrs you'll be dreaming of the good old days when you were a kid! Don't believe me? Well, imagine waking up every day for the next 50 plus years to a job you have to keep and a half dozen credit cards and a house to pay off, Rent, utilities, a mate to consider, Medical bills, car payments and car repair bills, and children of your own who want to be and try to be 'all grown up'. And trust me, that was the SHORT list!

Take your time, enjoy your youth while you have it.. FRENCH kissing almost always leads to more intimate behavior you may not be ready for but engage in anyway because you want to be popular, or your girl/boyfriend will 'leave you' if you don't etc. Remember, boys have been dreaming of 'sex' since they were about 7...and your 'kisses' stir up feelings in him that he won't know what to do with, so it's really not fair to him to get him all worked up just to send him away wanting. And guys...girls have been dreaming of 'Being in love and being loved' since they were about 7.... it is likewise unfair to them to tell them you love them if you don't...and at your age, trust me, you don't! Look around, ask questions...how many people can you find who were 'in love' at 12 or 13 and are now 40 and still together.?. because that is love! Being in it for the long haul. I know I know...you probably stopped reading after the first few sentences and a good laugh at the OLD Lady...and I think at your age I would have too. But I hope that's not the case, because believe it or not...I really do care about you.

Comme vous avez raison.... que la vie passe vite.

Its true that we boys ask for sex and you girls ask for love, but then ofcourse both of them (sex and love) fall under the same category which is emotion, so remember that we are simply satisfying one another and there's nothing wrong about its... As long as you know your lLIMITS.
Of course much of what you say is correct, but ''as long as you know your limis'', well...therein lies the rub. Although teen pregnancies have gone down over the past ten years, there are still far too many...an indicator that a very many do NOT know their limits..get caught up in the moment, or rely on birth control which at best is only 99% effective..that other 1% could occur the FIRST time. Satisfying one another in ways that can not result in pregnancy is best of course, yet even that can be probmatic...teens have the highest growing rate of gonorrhoea of the throat..(thank you President Clinton, for saying oral sex is NOT sex)...it is. In fact anything that results in orgasm can be considered sex.
My advise was based on experience and the wisdom that comes with age...as well as a genuine concern for your futures and well being... take it or leave it. That's fine too.
U are very wise thank u for ur advice I wish I would have had it b4 I went to touge with my bf
Susan, I replied to your comment, but I entered it as a new comment in error... thank you for your words..they are much appreciated. Please read my latest comment to see my reply to you.
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Im a sad kinda human, I read all of that and I may only be 15 but I completely agree with you, when I read that I was like woah eye opener, I just finished my yr ten exams and now am awaiting yr eleven, but I am so much more mature than I was expecting when I was 13 and this time does fly by, I know im banging on but I agree with your entire point so much because I had to grow up fast when my mum got ill, ive never "fallen in love" and now I have and i wanna do it right, but what you said made me realise that if I mess up its not the end of the world and i can carry on living, thankyou so much xxx
Thank you Hunnybee22 (adorable name):-)
It's true, life goes on in spite of the mistakes we make...I'm proof. I gave birth to my first son just a few months after my 16th birthday. If I had it to do over...for HIS sake, I would have waited until I was mature.
One thing I hear young people say again and again is, (and yes, I said it myself)...'' I want to make my OWN mistakes!'' Take the words ''my own'' out of it and what you are left saying is ''I want to make mistakes!''
....it's an absurd statement when you think about it...when the real trick...the mature trick is...NOT to make mistakes to begin with. Those who follow that path are the happy people later in life. There can be no greater satisfaction than to live a life of no regret... the feeling of ''guilt'' is the hardest feeling to live with...it leads to most suicides.. it robs us of our ''JOY''.
So, again I urge you..take the experiences of those who have gone before you...learn from THEIR mistakes, choose a better course for you.. and Bee happy!
BryanB52 months ago

Don't Do Things Your Way, God Knows The Right One For you... Its already happening to those who have been saved "but don't act in religion but as a relationship with Jesus" so erase that from your heart ... (its excuses to not to accept Jesus into our heart)

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aripent BryanB514 days ago
Don't go around the internet trying to spread your religious beliefs unsolicited. That's just being am ashore
Mr-lonely3 months ago
I'm 14 about to be 15 on July 30 of this yr I'm "popular" or cool or whatever people say but I still have not kissed a girl I still have trouble talking to a girl any suggestions?????
Hey man i know exactly how u feel ... Just be confident thats all
Just be your self and if a girl likes that then flirt a little. Get to knkw her and if you like her you could tell her in peraon,messaging,facebook or in a written note. Sometimes girls think its cute when a guy is shy. Just be yourself and you should be fine. :)
Katexxm Mr-lonely3 months ago
Ok so a bunch of adults will probably be like don't worry it will be all natural and stuff like that but being a girl around your age all I can say is I find it slit more attractive when a guy come over and say hi or something. Just one major tip if a girl asks you wuu2 or Wyd answer then ask her back ? seems obvious but so many guys don't do that and the conversations just get boring for the girl
Beckie_taken3 months ago
Okay I'm 14 and I've already kissed m boyfreind but he wants to French... Idk what to do. This helps but what if I mess it up?
Just take it easy girl!! And also, you might be ready for sex if you are ready for the French kiss, all you have to do it ask. Can we have sex??? Take advice from this 34 year old woman
Really.... U think she is ready for sex.... Shame on you for telling young ppl to have sex... Thats dumb....
oh girly I know how you feel. but take it slow, Hon. French kissing may seem interesting, but be safe.
BoHoChick1 month ago
One other thing.. Susan, it's never too late until it's too late. If you would rather not continue doing something with your bf, then stop.. He'll survive.
harold20002 months ago
Alright, I have been dating my girlfriend for three months and fourteen days now, and we are kissing on a regular basis. I feel like I am ready to take this step and take our relationship to the next level, and I feel like she is sending off vibes that she is ready too. The only problem is that I don't know how to go about taking this major step. Any suggestions?
Go with it if you both sending the same vibes it will be chilled because the feeling is mutual and it means both of you are ready to take this next step and you're both ready to tackle the problems on the way to the top
And also I'm 13 - Mara ek het nie seun om te lief nie - I still watch adventure time
Kenziek13802 months ago
All these 12 year olds already kissed someone and I haven't even had a bf ? like bishh whet
Eish - the struggle is real ?✊?
Lol
MissyM1 month ago
Hi, im 13 but i had my first kiss at 10. I have never french kissed anyone in my life but my 14 year old boyfriend has gone all the way before.. We've been dating for almost a month and im scared he will want to french kiss me.. Anyone have any suggestions?
Yeah im a guy but susan is right he will do most work just like anything else when it comes to physical activities but never to much tounge just a lil because to much tounge can feel gross and once you get a feel for a lil tounge just continue to go more little by little until the guy falls in love with your kiss just dont go to far good luck
SusanH8 MissyM1 month ago
Hey Ik it can be nerve wracking I'm 13 to and also have a 13 year old boyfriend who had kissed other girls and I hadn't ever kissed a boy and we kissed once and then we French kissed all u really have to do is stick u tounge into his mouth he'll do the rest
BoHoChick1 month ago
Oh...and Ccarthur... coming online and announcing personal information (City and State), as well as what may be your name C. Carthur, and advertising that you are interested in ''Anyone out there'' to be a girlfriend to is VERY irresponsible and DANGEROUS! There's a world of old perverts surfing the web 24/7 seeking 13. Yr old lonely girls...they pretend to be 14 or 15 yr old boys to gain more personal info, then next thing you know your face appears on a milk carton or store bullitin board. I can only hope you are really an undercover Vice Officer putting out bait in an attempt at catching one of those sick B's!!!
And to the author of this Ible...Very well written! The. Pictures were great too and you added just the right amount of humor... WELL DONE!
BoHoChick1 month ago
Oh...and Ccarthur... coming online and announcing personal information (City and State), as well as what may be your name C. Carthur, and advertising that you are interested in ''Anyone out there'' to be a girlfriend to is VERY irresponsible and DANGEROUS! There's a world of old perverts surfing the web 24/7 seeking 13. Yr old lonely girls...they pretend to be 14 or 15 yr old boys to gain more personal info, then next thing you know your face appears on a milk carton or store bullitin board. I can only hope you are really an undercover Vice Officer putting out bait in an attempt at catching one of those sick B's!!!
And to the author of this Ible...Very well written! The. Pictures were great too and you added just the right amount of humor... WELL DONE!
BoHoChick1 month ago
Oh...and Ccarthur... coming online and announcing personal information (City and State), as well as what may be your name C. Carthur, and advertising that you are interested in ''Anyone out there'' to be a girlfriend to is VERY irresponsible and DANGEROUS! There's a world of old perverts surfing the web 24/7 seeking 13. Yr old lonely girls...they pretend to be 14 or 15 yr old boys to gain more personal info, then next thing you know your face appears on a milk carton or store bullitin board. I can only hope you are really an undercover Vice Officer putting out bait in an attempt at catching one of those sick B's!!!
BoHoChick1 month ago
Oh...and Ccarthur... coming online and announcing personal information (City and State), as well as what may be your name C. Carthur, and advertising that you are interested in ''Anyone out there'' to be a girlfriend to is VERY irresponsible and DANGEROUS! There's a world of old perverts surfing the web 24/7 seeking 13. Yr old lonely girls...they pretend to be 14 or 15 yr old boys to gain more personal info, then next thing you know your face appears on a milk carton or store bullitin board. I can only hope you are really an undercover Vice Officer putting out bait in an attempt at catching one of those sick B's!!!
Ccarthur2 months ago
I'm 11 I've kissed a boy with a lil tongue but not much I live in Sebastopol Mississippi does anyone need a girlfriend I like guys older than me or same age
BryanB52 months ago
Heroes3213 months ago
What happens if you mess up I'm only 13 and my boyfriend wants to French kiss and I'm a very nervous person and if I mess up he will probably break up with me?
I am only 13 too and my boyfriend and I have French kissed many times!! It's easy just keep it relaxed don't make it like a board and have fun with it.
i was the same and im inly 13 to once u do it for the first time u get used to it and u get better at it me and my boyfriend started a few days ago we had been dating for 11 months and he wanted to but i was scared and nervous for the exact same reason but it gets better one u do it for the first time
I doubt he will break up with you. He might take like a day to cool off but thats the worst that could happen
SJayMae Heroes3213 months ago
I don't think he will brake up with you. Nothing is perfect. If you guys have a good relationship, maybe you guys will laugh about it. Hope this helps!
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