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Ahh, the French Kiss...The timeless symbol of romantic passion that we all have seen two people engaging in, one way or another. We see it in movies, hear about it from friends, see it happening at parties, and read about it in books and magazines. Chances are, if you haven't experienced it, you want to. It is an exciting and intimate moment between two people who are attracted enough to each other to kiss. French kissing can come quite naturally to some of us, and can intimidate the rest.

If you are interested in French kissing, I also highly recommend the Intructables on the site How to Kiss and How to Make Out. Both are very informative and helpful to those curious about kissing and hit all the topics that should be addressed. Not sure how to kiss? Well, French kissing shares many of the same principles as normal kissing and making out as far as technique, but if you are interested in gaging body language or how to work up to a French kiss, take a look around.

In this Instructable, I aim to focus on the French Kiss alone. The French kiss is not a science, but rather an art that is open to interpretation for all who are interested. There is a certain amount of skill involved, but it is mostly instinct that will come naturally with time. By creating this Instructable, I hope to help you be a confident, compassionate, French kisser and alleviate your nervousness about kissing.
 
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Step 1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

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There are some standards of things that are fairly constant across the board that I will go in to depth about. The definition of a French kiss, as defined by wikipedia, is "a passionate romantic or sexual kiss in which one participant's tongue touches the other's tongue (or lips) and usually enters his/her mouth." Well, I think we all knew that much, so I hope to be able to teach how to French kiss well. We have all heard horror stories about "bad kissers" and obviously do not want to be labeled as such. Read on to find some "Do's" and "Don'ts" of French kissing.

Step 2: Preparation - Have Fresh Breath

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Having bad breath is a major turn off for many partners out there. Having good breath is something you should want to have around people in general. It is especially important for a French kiss as you will be exchanging saliva with your partner. Try to not to eat smelly things before a kiss such as garlic or onions. Gum and mints help, but can only do so much. In the event of having smelly food, or in the event of having food that leaves a residue in your mouth, it is best to brush your teeth if you can. If you can't bush your teeth, try drinking lots of water to clean out your mouth. Then try mints/ gum.

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This is not necessary for all partners, but until you know your partner's kissing preferences, it is a good thing to take into consideration as most people enjoy the clean palate so that they can focus on the kiss, itself.

Step 3: Have Soft, moist lips

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Chapstick is something that guys and gals alike can carry on them and use often. Soft lips are enticing where as dry lips are quite the opposite. Would you want to kiss someone with cracked, chapped lips or soft, smooth lips? I though so. :P

This is something very easy to do! Just carry around a tube with you and apply as need. Voila! Instant kissable lips. Also, keep in mind that most lipsticks can be very sticky and unpleasant to transfer via kiss. They look pretty, yes, but be sure if you want to use lipstick or gloss, that it will not hinder the kiss. Sometimes flavored lip gloss can be fun. ;)

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Step 4: Find Someone to Kiss

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Hopefully you have someone in mind before this point, but if it is a spur of the moment urge, find yourself someone you would like to kiss. Make sure they want to be kissed as well, otherwise, the kiss may very well end unpleasantly. You can generally tell if someone wants to be kissed by their body language. If they are willing to be very close to you and touch you, if they have steady eye contact, and if they have been flirting, it is a good bet that they want to be kissed.

Be confident

I know that this may be a little tricky at this point, but it's very important. By the time you're done here, confidence should not be an issue. Confidence is important because it shows your partner that you want to kiss them and have no doubt. It helps them relax, too.

Step 5: Start off Slowly

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Lean in closely to your partner and look into their eyes. If they want to be kissed, kiss them. Tilt your head slightly to the side so that your noses do not bump. Keep eye contact with them until your lips touch, at which point you should close your eyes. It is generally considered rude to kiss with your eyes open and can ruin the intimacy of the moment.

Let your lips softly touch and pull away from each other in a kiss. Pause for a moment and gage how the other person is enjoying this kiss. You can pull away slightly to look into their eyes. If they liked your kiss, try another one on them. Maybe let this one last a moment longer or kiss them a couple times. Make sure your kisses are soft.

Step 6: How to know when to transition you kiss to a French kiss

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There isn't going to be a moment at which you will want to stop and ask for permission, "Hey, mind if we swap saliva?" So, you will need to test the waters to see if your partner wants to be kissed. When you have decided you want to French kiss, start kissing your partner with a slight open mouth, but keep your tongue inside. This lets your partner know that your mouth is open and that you are up for French kissing. Continue kissing with an open mouth and then, very slightly, touch your partner's lips with your tongue. If they respond negatively, stop. If they don't respond, then be patient. They might not be ready yet. If your partner mirrors your actions by opening their mouth, then they are ready to move on.

Step 7: An open mouth kiss

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By now, you and your partner are probably both gingerly touching each other with your tongues. If you are both comfortable, feel free to explore each other's mouths with your tongues. Keep in mind that it's always better to do a little bit at a time to get a feel for it. Remember to occasionally pull your tongue into your own mouth so you do not bombard your partner. Small, exploring French kisses are what you want for the moment.

Swallow your saliva. French kisses are bound to get a little messy, but control it as much as you can by swallowing your saliva. If you can't do this while kissing, do it when you are giving your partner a short break from the French kiss. This should be a short, momentary break and you should continue to be engaged with your hands.

Continue exploring each other's mouths. Keep a soft tongue For most people, it is a major turn off to feel a ridged tongue in their mouth. It isn't welcoming or sensual in any way. Remember that your tongue is one of the most sensitive parts on your body and should be kissed as such. Think of licking ice cream from a soft-serve cone. You don't want a lot of pressure. Just enough to lick a small layer of ice cream off. That is the same thing to think about when kissing.

Step 8: Remember your hands

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When kissing, it is very important to remember your hands in relation to your partner's body. When you begin kissing, keep your hands gently touching your partner. Try gingerly stroking their cheek or running your fingers through their hair.

As the kiss progresses, so may your hands. Try running your hand down their back while one hand plays with their hair. Or just embrace them gently. You will find what you are most comfortable with. The important thing is to remember not to let your arms just hang there! Let your hands mirror what your mouth is up to.

Step 9: Remember your partner!

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Remember that not everybody likes to be kissed the same way and be mindful of that. Be open to trying new things for your partner and be willing to kiss them differently if that is what they like. You want this experience to be optimum for both parties. :)

Make sure to be a good partner. The best kissers are those who figure out how their partner likes to be kissed. I have given the best guidelines that follow how most people like to be kissed, but remember to be considerate if your partner wants to try something different.

If your partner is not happy, neither will you be eventually because they will not want to kiss you anymore! Although it may seem awkward, talk to your partner at a later time and ask them how they like to be kissed the best and take it into consideration.

Step 10: Practice makes perfect!

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Don't have anyone to try this with quite yet? No problem, you can still practice. Remember how we talked about the soft-serve ice cream cone? Try one out with kissing in mind. Remember how your tongue feels in that way.

Don't be embarrassed to practice on yourself! Well, you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to, but practicing on yourself is a great way to start. Trying kissing your hand and follow the technique.

Everybody will develop their own "art" to French kissing, so just give it time! The more you do it, the better you'll get! Thankfully, it's fun to practice!

Now go out there and grab yourself somebody to kiss! Have fun and be safe!

This was my first Instructable and if you enjoyed it, let me know! I would love to get some feed back. :)
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Heroes32125 days ago
What happens if you mess up I'm only 13 and my boyfriend wants to French kiss and I'm a very nervous person and if I mess up he will probably break up with me?
i was the same and im inly 13 to once u do it for the first time u get used to it and u get better at it me and my boyfriend started a few days ago we had been dating for 11 months and he wanted to but i was scared and nervous for the exact same reason but it gets better one u do it for the first time
I doubt he will break up with you. He might take like a day to cool off but thats the worst that could happen
I don't think he will brake up with you. Nothing is perfect. If you guys have a good relationship, maybe you guys will laugh about it. Hope this helps!
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There's no such thing as a normal age to have kissed someone, so don't think I'm to young, but my first normal kiss was at 6, but my first French kiss was at 9, and my sister who will soon be 10 hasn't missed anyone
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harold20007 days ago
Alright, I have been dating my girlfriend for three months and fourteen days now, and we are kissing on a regular basis. I feel like I am ready to take this step and take our relationship to the next level, and I feel like she is sending off vibes that she is ready too. The only problem is that I don't know how to go about taking this major step. Any suggestions?
I first kissed when i was 10 and now im 12
Kenziek138010 days ago
All these 12 year olds already kissed someone and I haven't even had a bf ? like bishh whet
chelsea20313 days ago
Hey im 13 and I had my first kiss with my 14 year old bf. We frenched for a long time. It was really intense. He wants to make out again. So do I. Theres nothing wrong with kissing someone you love
lol im onle 12 and iv already snogged 2 boys xD
im not even that popular!
its weird cuz the most popular cutest boy in my year loves me like
crazy
and we go out xD
everyone is so jealous C;
im so lucky.
hopefully im gonna french kiss him like this tomoz
so
wish me luck!! :D lol
p.s. dont say im too young
SWEET! i snogged a girl >.<
idek what snagged means x3
snogged*
;A; im 13 and i never kissed a guy..
you'll kiss a guy someday
I know what you mean. I'm 16 and I've never had a first kiss either. Or a boyfriend.
:'(
I'm 17 I've had boyfriends but not a first kiss ???
i am 13 years. lets know each other and i am a lovely boy.
i am 12 and i have snogged bout 10 guys and they were all hot a popular

ps don't be afraid if you have never snogged and the boy has don't be scard i am telling u from experience but other way round
You and paramore rocket are both too young haha.

I had first g/f and first kiss which escalated into first everything, starting when i was 18.

(Yes i know i am late. Regardless, 12 is too young. Dont you have to go through puberty first?)
I agree smeeves
Umm I got my period at 12. Lol dontya think that's puberty enough? xD
I hope you get to kiss him... lol good luck :)
hahaha. your too young ! and why you sitting on heree braggin ? lmao
Hi u too young,
JanaF1 month ago

wen the cutest boy at skool loves and u cant say anything

he said that he likes me but i did not know wat to say

i want to kiss him so badly wish me luch on dat one

good luck, and may the odds be in your favor!
JanaF JanaF1 month ago

luck*

Mr-lonely JanaF1 month ago
Good luck ??
Okay I'm 14 and I've already kissed m boyfreind but he wants to French... Idk what to do. This helps but what if I mess it up?
oh girly I know how you feel. but take it slow, Hon. French kissing may seem interesting, but be safe.
Just take it easy girl!! And also, you might be ready for sex if you are ready for the French kiss, all you have to do it ask. Can we have sex??? Take advice from this 34 year old woman
My tooth is a bit out of the other teeth do you think that will stop or wont be good to french kiss is it going to interupt it or no?
Is it okay to ask your male bi friend to help you practice. I mean im bi too. but we're only friends. can I ask him or is that wrong?
If he agrees i dont see no reason to be wrong

it's perfectly normal! practice never hurt anyone right? But make sure to approach the subject lightly, i find that helps.

Mr-lonely1 month ago
I'm 14 about to be 15 on July 30 of this yr I'm "popular" or cool or whatever people say but I still have not kissed a girl I still have trouble talking to a girl any suggestions?????
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