Ahh, the French kiss . . . a timeless expression of romantic passion that we have all seen others engage in. We see it in movies, hear friends (or the people they are dating) wax anxious about their technique, catch glimpses at parties, and read tips in books and magazines. A French kiss is an exciting and intimate moment between two people who are attracted to one another, and a symbol of that passion. Chances are, boy or girl, if you haven't yet experienced a French kiss, your lips long to.

Not sure how to kiss? Well, French kissing shares many of the same principles and techniques as normal kissing and making out, so be sure to also check out the Instructables How to Kiss and How to Make Out. Both are very informative and helpful to those curious about kissing, and both touch on all the topics that should be addressed. But if you are just interested in learning about French kissing and you want to know how to gage body language and work up to kissing that involves the tongue, then you’re in the right place! In this Instructable I will focus on the French kiss alone.

The French kiss is not a science, it is an art that is open to the interpretation of all who partake. It comes naturally to some of us but is intimidating to others, and while there is a certain amount of skill involved, it is mostly instinct that will develop naturally with time.

By creating this Instructable, I hope to help you become a confident, compassionate, French kisser and to alleviate your nervousness about kissing — and possibly to improve your experience! All I ask is that you try to be safe by making sure you are healthy before you start kissing. Your partner won’t appreciate it if you get them sick.

Don’t be left with just a peck on the cheek. Read on to learn how to be forward and go for it!

Step 1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

There are some standards of things that are fairly constant across the board that I will go in to depth about. The definition of a French kiss, as defined by wikipedia, is "a passionate romantic or sexual kiss in which one participant's tongue touches the other's tongue (or lips) and usually enters his/her mouth." Well, I think we all knew that much, so I hope to be able to teach how to French kiss well. We have all heard horror stories about "bad kissers" and obviously do not want to be labeled as such. Read on to find some "Do's" and "Don'ts" of French kissing.

Step 2: Preparation - Have Fresh Breath

Having bad breath is a major turn off for many partners out there. Having good breath is something you should want to have around people in general. It is especially important for a French kiss as you will be exchanging saliva with your partner. Try to not to eat smelly things before a kiss such as garlic or onions. Gum and mints help, but can only do so much. In the event of having smelly food, or in the event of having food that leaves a residue in your mouth, it is best to brush your teeth if you can. If you can't bush your teeth, try drinking lots of water to clean out your mouth. Then try mints/gum.

This is not necessary for all partners, but until you know your partner's kissing preferences, it is a good thing to take into consideration as most people enjoy the clean palate so that they can focus on the kiss itself.

Step 3: Have Soft, moist lips

Chapstick is something that guys and gals alike can carry on them and use often. Soft lips are enticing where as dry lips are quite the opposite. Would you want to kiss someone with cracked, chapped lips or soft, smooth lips? I thought so. :P

This is something very easy to do! Just carry around a tube with you and apply as need. Voila! Instant kissable lips. Also, keep in mind that most lipsticks can be very sticky and unpleasant to transfer via kiss. They look pretty, yes, but be sure if you want to use lipstick or gloss, that it will not hinder the kiss. Sometimes flavored lip gloss can be fun. ;)


Step 4: Find Someone to Kiss

Hopefully you have someone in mind before this point, but if it is a spur of the moment urge, find yourself someone you would like to kiss. Make sure they want to be kissed as well, otherwise, the kiss may very well end unpleasantly. You can generally tell if someone wants to be kissed by their body language. If they are willing to be very close to you and touch you, if they have steady eye contact, and if they have been flirting, it is a good bet that they want to be kissed.

Be confident

I know that this may be a little tricky at this point, but it's very important. By the time you're done here, confidence should not be an issue. Confidence is important because it shows your partner that you want to kiss them and have no doubt. It helps them relax too.

Step 5: Start off Slowly

Lean in closely to your partner and look into their eyes. If they want to be kissed, kiss them. Tilt your head slightly to the side so that your noses do not bump. Keep eye contact with them until your lips touch, at which point you should close your eyes. It is generally considered rude to kiss with your eyes open and can ruin the intimacy of the moment.

Let your lips softly touch and pull away from each other in a kiss. Pause for a moment and gage how the other person is enjoying this kiss. You can pull away slightly to look into their eyes. If they liked your kiss, try another one on them. Maybe let this one last a moment longer or kiss them a couple times. Make sure your kisses are soft.

Step 6: How to know when to transition your kiss to a French kiss

There isn't going to be a moment at which you will want to stop and ask for permission, "Hey, mind if we swap saliva?" So, you will need to test the waters to see if your partner wants to be kissed. When you have decided you want to French kiss, start kissing your partner with a slight open mouth, but keep your tongue inside. This lets your partner know that your mouth is open and that you are up for French kissing. Continue kissing with an open mouth and then, very slightly, touch your partner's lips with your tongue. If they respond negatively, stop. If they don't respond, then be patient. They might not be ready yet. If your partner mirrors your actions by opening their mouth, then they are ready to move on.

Step 7: An open mouth kiss

By now, you and your partner are probably both gingerly touching each other with your tongues. If you are both comfortable, feel free to explore each other's mouths with your tongues. Keep in mind that it's always better to do a little bit at a time to get a feel for it. Remember to occasionally pull your tongue into your own mouth so you do not bombard your partner. Small, exploring French kisses are what you want for the moment.

Swallow your saliva. French kisses are bound to get a little messy, but control it as much as you can by swallowing your saliva. If you can't do this while kissing, do it when you are giving your partner a short break from the French kiss. This should be a short, momentary break and you should continue to be engaged with your hands.

Continue exploring each other's mouths. Keep a soft tongue. For most people, it is a major turn off to feel a ridged tongue in their mouth. It isn't welcoming or sensual in any way. Remember that your tongue is one of the most sensitive parts on your body and should be kissed as such. Think of licking ice cream from a soft-serve cone. You don't want a lot of pressure. Just enough to lick a small layer of ice cream off. That is the same thing to think about when kissing.

Step 8: Remember your hands

When kissing, it is very important to remember your hands in relation to your partner's body. When you begin kissing, keep your hands gently touching your partner. Try gingerly stroking their cheek or running your fingers through their hair.

As the kiss progresses, so may your hands. Try running your hand down their back while one hand plays with their hair. Or just embrace them gently. You will find what you are most comfortable with. The important thing is to remember not to let your arms just hang there! Let your hands mirror what your mouth is up to.

Step 9: Remember your partner!

Remember that not everybody likes to be kissed the same way and be mindful of that. Be open to trying new things for your partner and be willing to kiss them differently if that is what they like. You want this experience to be optimum for both parties. :)

Make sure to be a good partner. The best kissers are those who figure out how their partner likes to be kissed. I have given the best guidelines that follow how most people like to be kissed, but remember to be considerate if your partner wants to try something different.

If your partner is not happy, neither will you be eventually because they will not want to kiss you anymore! Although it may seem awkward, talk to your partner at a later time and ask them how they like to be kissed the best and take it into consideration.

Step 10: Practice makes perfect!

Don't have anyone to try this with quite yet? No problem, you can still practice. Remember how we talked about the soft-serve ice cream cone? Try one out with kissing in mind. Remember how your tongue feels in that way.

Don't be embarrassed to practice on yourself! Well, you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to, but practicing on yourself is a great way to start. Trying kissing your hand and follow the technique.

Everybody will develop their own "art" to French kissing, so just give it time! The more you do it, the better you'll get! Thankfully, it's fun to practice!

Now go out there and grab yourself somebody to kiss! Have fun and be safe!

This was my first Instructable and if you enjoyed it let me know! I would love to get some feed back. :)

<p>Hi. Uh.. I'm not really used to kissing at all, any advice for a 12 year old to build up my confidence?</p>
<p>good luck bud,</p>
I'm going to try to French kiss my girlfriend on Thursday and I'm 10 have any of u got any good advice ??
<p>me with my girlfriend :* :*</p><p>our first lip lock :*:*:*:*:*:*</p>
My first kiss is going to be a French kiss with my girlfreind on Tuesday and I'm 11 years old
<p>all the best</p>
<p>In my county we call this kissing. I remember back in the day, when i was a young lad, on the prowl. Looking for my love. I had known her since i was young and we had our first kiss at 16. Unfortunately, she moved away soon after and I have spent 10 years of my life searching for my one true love. I can't get this girl out of my head. If anyone has any information on Bonnie Scotswomen, Please contact me at HotFrenchStuff996@French.de. Thanks for taking your time to read my sad sad story, please don't feel depressed, Peace and love &lt;3 Bonjour my lads. </p>
<p>OMG HOT FRENCH STUFF! Is it really you? i remember those days, skating at the beach, hanging out with our friend on the front porch, i remember when you took me to go see blink 182 and you didn't let me go the entire time. I remember the time you beat the guy up when he said that green day were a better band. I loved getting pizza with you in the shape of a heart. That was the best summer of my life and I've wanted to search for you for ages but you never gave me your last name. At long last, we can be together again, forever and always &lt;3 </p>
<p>OMFG too young too young</p>
Bro you my homie make sure you go slow tho don't go right in the French kissing
Good luck :3
<p>And me and her french like everyday</p><p>So like dont be shy to kiss your love</p><p>make it a habit and i promise youll be quite happy with them</p>
<p>podi pulle</p>
<p>my first kiss is tomorrow and I don't think I'm going to French kiss and we been dating ever since October 30 2015!!!And this is me I'm sorry for printing out three I didn't mean to I'm new here so I don't know how to delete them</p>
<p>my first kiss is tomorrow and I don't think I'm going to French kiss and we been dating ever since October 30 2015!!!And this is me I'm sorry for printing out three I didn't mean to I'm new here so I don't know how to delete them</p>
<p>my first kiss is tomorrow and I don't think I'm going to French kiss and we been dating ever since October 30 2015!!!And this is me I'm sorry for printing out three I didn't mean to I'm new here so I don't know how to delete them</p>
<p>Lmao you guys are talking about &quot;I had my first kiss at 14 or 15&quot;</p><p>And im just over here like xD I had a first childish kiss when i was 7 and my first real kiss which was a french was a 12 i still am 12 and im like ;o am i doing something wrong cuz ppl are talking about 14 or 15 xDD </p><p>Heh idk just something i felt like sharing Luv ya Cassie ;o Chao.</p>
<p>Lmao you guys are talking about &quot;I had my first kiss at 14 or 15&quot;</p><p>And im just over here like xD I had a first childish kiss when i was 7 and my first real kiss which was a french was a 12 i still am 12 and im like ;o am i doing something wrong cuz ppl are talking about 14 or 15 xDD </p><p>Heh idk just something i felt like sharing Luv ya Cassie ;o Chao.</p>
Im almost 13 and i only had my first kiss today
<p>21 y old and never kiss &amp; love making with girl.because im live in iran</p><p>in iran Going out with girl is illegal and police Arrested us.</p><p>f#ck to my life .im 21 and not young</p>
<p>i love you and me too منم </p>
<p>i love you and me too منم </p>
<p>try going out of city where no one can see</p><p>n just arrange few bucks to bribe polize</p><p>thats it</p><p>bst of luck bro</p>
Dude that sucks wish you best of luck on that :)
I am 13, my boyfriend Is 16... He is my friends brother (she set us up) well she gave me his Facebook name and we started talking a lot, then we fell in love... He is really shy but he said I'm the only person he really talks to or opens up to... But sometimes I force him not to be shy and tell me what he's thinking. And well he wants to kiss when we hang out next weekend (and cuddle) but idk if he just wants to kiss or make out or French kiss or what... I'm really deeply in love with him and idk what to do, and I don't wanna ruin our relationship... Any advice?
<p>n bst of luck</p>
<p>u can directly ask for frnch kiss </p><p>thats nt a prblm wid a boy</p><p>even if he iz feeling shy he will accept yr kiss</p>
I'm 14 about to be 15 on July 30 of this yr I'm &quot;popular&quot; or cool or whatever people say but I still have not kissed a girl I still have trouble talking to a girl any suggestions?????
<p>ur country ?<br>family and country is so significant to help my country is really....:(</p>
Be calm, and don't freak out <br>Mr-lonely
<p>Hey man, listen i just became 15 but trust me, im an expert in these stuff, ive been 3 months with the perfect girlfriend, and trust me its worth waiting. To find a girl you have to wait for her to come, or at least spot her looking at you in a silly way. But if your desperate, dont choose the HOTTEST girk in your class cz they might be barbies and take your money without u noticing (happened with a friend of mine), and dont choose the ugliest girl or youll be a laughing stock at school. Look for a normal girl, not to barbie-ish or ugly, bur a pretty one and become friends with her after some time if you liked her personality and how she thinks and you liked her then ask her out if she doesnt have a boyfriend, but ask her face to face so it would have a more romantic meaning. If she accepts then youd have a girlfriend. To know if she is the perfect one, you will have a feeling that you dont like her anymore or you have arguments a lot of them. And you will think of the future with her. But always remember to be yourself and dont be someone your not.</p>
<p>Hey, don't worry about it! My current boyfriend and I had our first kiss when I was 14 and he was 15 (almost 16).</p><p>Don't hurry yourself to kiss someone or even get in a relationship for that matter. The right person will definitely come along and they'll be worth the wait (trust me, I know from experience)</p>
Talk to a girl make sure she likes you and if you like her back just simply ask her out
How can you be &quot;popular&quot; and you dont know how to talk to girls... Lol :p
Hey man i know exactly how u feel ... Just be confident thats all
Just be your self and if a girl likes that then flirt a little. Get to knkw her and if you like her you could tell her in peraon,messaging,facebook or in a written note. Sometimes girls think its cute when a guy is shy. Just be yourself and you should be fine. :)
Ok so a bunch of adults will probably be like don't worry it will be all natural and stuff like that but being a girl around your age all I can say is I find it slit more attractive when a guy come over and say hi or something. Just one major tip if a girl asks you wuu2 or Wyd answer then ask her back ? seems obvious but so many guys don't do that and the conversations just get boring for the girl
<p>Me and this guy in school really like eatchother but were not going out cause he is in my cousins class. We kissed normally a couple of times and it was?. But whenever he asks me to meet him i always back down and get too scared </p><p>Is there anything to help me ASAP?</p>
If he wants to see u don't get sacred that should be a good sign
<p>Awesome instructions. I loved it! It was broken down magnificently into 10 easy steps. And it really helped me since I have kissed my boyfriend a few times and was really ready to take it to the next level, but I had never french-kissed before! I read this and instantly I felt like I could do it! Thank You! Keep 'em coming</p>
15 goin on 16, girlfriends never been kissed before... Shes had a thing for me a while now and i had too and we didnt realize we had the hots for each other, i would like to try a normal lip kiss but i dont know how she would react. Shes freshmen 14 yrs and never dated or any of it.. Im confused, not trying to rush in to anything with her but i just dont know how to go about it due to her never being kissed.
I'm 15. And, I haven't had my first kiss yet. I do have crushes, and there's this one boy that I really like but, I don't know if he likes me back. But, any way, even though I don't have a boyfriend. I want to know how to kiss when that time comes. Cause, if I don't know how to that would look bad. That's what I'm afraid of, when I kiss a boy and the kiss i horrible on my part.
Hi, ESV04.<br>I was in the same boat as you at 14 and I was freaking out. What I learnt is that you need to be calm dont get all flustered and freak out. Make sure your first kiss is with someone you want it to be with. And as long as your calm, ready and the person your kiss is going to be with is calm and ready then you will not be bad and you will get better and more comfortable at kissing as you go along in life.<br>Hope I helped<br>Xx
Last year i was crazy about a guy in school and finally he likes me. So this year we kissed and tbh it was really good . He would always text me and send me little love qoutes every day and he would always say that he loved me. But the worst part was he was in my cousins class and my cousin would tell my mom so i could never go out with him. Only last week i found out that he didnt like me anymore and i was heartbroken. Yesterday he asked me would i meet him and i havent replied back what should i do??
<p>hey man ill be 15 in march and im a guy just dont rush it me and her were cuddling i asked here what she would do if i kissed her she said i dont know lets find out so then i was happy it happened last night too and me and her are like best friend and last night was when i had my first kiss so yeah let it just happen dont rush it you'll find the one bro</p>

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