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Ahh, the French Kiss...The timeless symbol of romantic passion that we all have seen two people engaging in, one way or another. We see it in movies, hear about it from friends, see it happening at parties, and read about it in books and magazines. Chances are, if you haven't experienced it, you want to. It is an exciting and intimate moment between two people who are attracted enough to each other to kiss. French kissing can come quite naturally to some of us, and can intimidate the rest.

If you are interested in French kissing, I also highly recommend the Intructables on the site How to Kiss and How to Make Out. Both are very informative and helpful to those curious about kissing and hit all the topics that should be addressed. Not sure how to kiss? Well, French kissing shares many of the same principles as normal kissing and making out as far as technique, but if you are interested in gaging body language or how to work up to a French kiss, take a look around.

In this Instructable, I aim to focus on the French Kiss alone. The French kiss is not a science, but rather an art that is open to interpretation for all who are interested. There is a certain amount of skill involved, but it is mostly instinct that will come naturally with time. By creating this Instructable, I hope to help you be a confident, compassionate, French kisser and alleviate your nervousness about kissing.
 
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Step 1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

There are some standards of things that are fairly constant across the board that I will go in to depth about. The definition of a French kiss, as defined by wikipedia, is "a passionate romantic or sexual kiss in which one participant's tongue touches the other's tongue (or lips) and usually enters his/her mouth." Well, I think we all knew that much, so I hope to be able to teach how to French kiss well. We have all heard horror stories about "bad kissers" and obviously do not want to be labeled as such. Read on to find some "Do's" and "Don'ts" of French kissing.

Step 2: Preparation - Have Fresh Breath

Having bad breath is a major turn off for many partners out there. Having good breath is something you should want to have around people in general. It is especially important for a French kiss as you will be exchanging saliva with your partner. Try to not to eat smelly things before a kiss such as garlic or onions. Gum and mints help, but can only do so much. In the event of having smelly food, or in the event of having food that leaves a residue in your mouth, it is best to brush your teeth if you can. If you can't bush your teeth, try drinking lots of water to clean out your mouth. Then try mints/ gum.

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This is not necessary for all partners, but until you know your partner's kissing preferences, it is a good thing to take into consideration as most people enjoy the clean palate so that they can focus on the kiss, itself.

Step 3: Have Soft, moist lips

Chapstick is something that guys and gals alike can carry on them and use often. Soft lips are enticing where as dry lips are quite the opposite. Would you want to kiss someone with cracked, chapped lips or soft, smooth lips? I though so. :P

This is something very easy to do! Just carry around a tube with you and apply as need. Voila! Instant kissable lips. Also, keep in mind that most lipsticks can be very sticky and unpleasant to transfer via kiss. They look pretty, yes, but be sure if you want to use lipstick or gloss, that it will not hinder the kiss. Sometimes flavored lip gloss can be fun. ;)

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Step 4: Find Someone to Kiss

Hopefully you have someone in mind before this point, but if it is a spur of the moment urge, find yourself someone you would like to kiss. Make sure they want to be kissed as well, otherwise, the kiss may very well end unpleasantly. You can generally tell if someone wants to be kissed by their body language. If they are willing to be very close to you and touch you, if they have steady eye contact, and if they have been flirting, it is a good bet that they want to be kissed.

Be confident

I know that this may be a little tricky at this point, but it's very important. By the time you're done here, confidence should not be an issue. Confidence is important because it shows your partner that you want to kiss them and have no doubt. It helps them relax, too.

Step 5: Start off Slowly

Lean in closely to your partner and look into their eyes. If they want to be kissed, kiss them. Tilt your head slightly to the side so that your noses do not bump. Keep eye contact with them until your lips touch, at which point you should close your eyes. It is generally considered rude to kiss with your eyes open and can ruin the intimacy of the moment.

Let your lips softly touch and pull away from each other in a kiss. Pause for a moment and gage how the other person is enjoying this kiss. You can pull away slightly to look into their eyes. If they liked your kiss, try another one on them. Maybe let this one last a moment longer or kiss them a couple times. Make sure your kisses are soft.

Step 6: How to know when to transition you kiss to a French kiss

There isn't going to be a moment at which you will want to stop and ask for permission, "Hey, mind if we swap saliva?" So, you will need to test the waters to see if your partner wants to be kissed. When you have decided you want to French kiss, start kissing your partner with a slight open mouth, but keep your tongue inside. This lets your partner know that your mouth is open and that you are up for French kissing. Continue kissing with an open mouth and then, very slightly, touch your partner's lips with your tongue. If they respond negatively, stop. If they don't respond, then be patient. They might not be ready yet. If your partner mirrors your actions by opening their mouth, then they are ready to move on.

Step 7: An open mouth kiss

By now, you and your partner are probably both gingerly touching each other with your tongues. If you are both comfortable, feel free to explore each other's mouths with your tongues. Keep in mind that it's always better to do a little bit at a time to get a feel for it. Remember to occasionally pull your tongue into your own mouth so you do not bombard your partner. Small, exploring French kisses are what you want for the moment.

Swallow your saliva. French kisses are bound to get a little messy, but control it as much as you can by swallowing your saliva. If you can't do this while kissing, do it when you are giving your partner a short break from the French kiss. This should be a short, momentary break and you should continue to be engaged with your hands.

Continue exploring each other's mouths. Keep a soft tongue For most people, it is a major turn off to feel a ridged tongue in their mouth. It isn't welcoming or sensual in any way. Remember that your tongue is one of the most sensitive parts on your body and should be kissed as such. Think of licking ice cream from a soft-serve cone. You don't want a lot of pressure. Just enough to lick a small layer of ice cream off. That is the same thing to think about when kissing.

Step 8: Remember your hands

When kissing, it is very important to remember your hands in relation to your partner's body. When you begin kissing, keep your hands gently touching your partner. Try gingerly stroking their cheek or running your fingers through their hair.

As the kiss progresses, so may your hands. Try running your hand down their back while one hand plays with their hair. Or just embrace them gently. You will find what you are most comfortable with. The important thing is to remember not to let your arms just hang there! Let your hands mirror what your mouth is up to.

Step 9: Remember your partner!

Remember that not everybody likes to be kissed the same way and be mindful of that. Be open to trying new things for your partner and be willing to kiss them differently if that is what they like. You want this experience to be optimum for both parties. :)

Make sure to be a good partner. The best kissers are those who figure out how their partner likes to be kissed. I have given the best guidelines that follow how most people like to be kissed, but remember to be considerate if your partner wants to try something different.

If your partner is not happy, neither will you be eventually because they will not want to kiss you anymore! Although it may seem awkward, talk to your partner at a later time and ask them how they like to be kissed the best and take it into consideration.

Step 10: Practice makes perfect!

Don't have anyone to try this with quite yet? No problem, you can still practice. Remember how we talked about the soft-serve ice cream cone? Try one out with kissing in mind. Remember how your tongue feels in that way.

Don't be embarrassed to practice on yourself! Well, you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to, but practicing on yourself is a great way to start. Trying kissing your hand and follow the technique.

Everybody will develop their own "art" to French kissing, so just give it time! The more you do it, the better you'll get! Thankfully, it's fun to practice!

Now go out there and grab yourself somebody to kiss! Have fun and be safe!

This was my first Instructable and if you enjoyed it, let me know! I would love to get some feed back. :)
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I should practice more

To give somebody a solitary lip kiss, take one of their lips in the middle of yours and tenderly suck or tug on it, read more here http://www.daawn.com/do-not-miss-a-single-kiss/

weezygirl1 year ago
Is it wrong to ask a guy friend, whom I am not interested in, to practice kissing because I just know i'me going to mess it up somehow. how should i ask and how close should we be? should it be a lifelong friend that might develop feelings or has had feelings years ago? or a new friend? i guess i've always had a fantacy about this, but is that normal?

it's normal for a girl to fantisice about a friend, i do. just ask its not like a dude will say no, what wrong with you a dude likes to practice just as much as any girl i'm thirteen and i have practiced and if your friend is new get to know them then ask but keep calm and keep your poker face on so he knows your not joking. when/if you do kiss the friend keep your hands to yourself you don't want to show any sexual attraction. AND IF ALL ELSE FAILS HIRE A MALE HOOKER! JK!!!! remember stay calm :)

no i dont think so any way just make sure u no who u r kissig and if u end up likeing them then go for it!
ShyeRage2 months ago

I love it when 12 year-olds brag about macking. I mean you have to find out what herpes are somehow....

skumar2252 months ago

I love French Kisses.. I have written on it lets take a look

http://www.howtokissright.com/how-to-french-kiss-kissing-tips/

Bleumoonx1 year ago
I find that me and my boyfriend are fridgits (shy to do anything), we've done the basic hug and hold hands but we haven't kissed yet. When I'm with my friends I say that I will kiss him the next time I see him but when I'm with him, it all changes I just don't have the guts to kiss him. It's been three months now and he knows I want to kiss him and I know he wants to kiss me too, please give me some answers and tips on this I find this really difficult xx
aelvey Bleumoonx5 months ago
I had exactly the same thing, same 3 months and everything, eventually we got the nerve up at Asda would you believe, and it was quick but it was lovely. The second was a bit more awkward, but we talked about it and we worked out what we both liked and in the end it was perfect.
Bleumoonx aelvey5 months ago

thanks for that, but things didn't quite work out between us and I guess it just wasn't ment to be, sadly we never did get our first kiss but since that relationship I have definatly felt more confident in myself xx

S4V4NT Bleumoonx7 months ago
Hey Bleumoonx,
While you're holding hands, hugging, or you're close to him, try to give him hints that you want to kiss him. Relax the muscles in your eyes and smile a little. You want to look sincere and let him know that you really love him. If he acknowledges, very slowly begin to feel/touch his hand/face/body etc. If he moves in first, and tilts his head one side, tilt your head to the other, and softly and steadily lock your lips. Move out and if he enjoys it, continue to make the kisses longer and eventually, if you and him feel it suitable french kiss.
Anywho, Hope That Helped! XOXO
Is it okay to ask your male bi friend to help you practice. I mean im bi too. but we're only friends. can I ask him or is that wrong?
maz^_^5 years ago
WOW dat lewks sow ROMANTIC<3 but dat soo dont happen knoe more itz more like kissin in tha hallwayz when yu pazz em' tew go tew yur next clazz (not exactly wat i consider romantic)
zzoella maz^_^5 months ago

Pardon me, but I believe that there's a book that would help you out. It's called the dictionary. One can find it in most libraries.

emmiwulf1 year ago
Im a 13 yr old 7th grade girl and I know you think I'm to young but whatever. my first relationship is what I have now...we've been together for a year now and no kisses. she's terrified about being bullied about her sexuality (bi) so we keep our relationship a secret. I'm completely out with people, everyone in school knows I'm lez but no one knows she's bi. so I wanna kiss her soon and was wondering if anyone had some tips on how to kiss my girlfriend for the first time without the entire school knowing......
mnowak7 emmiwulf6 months ago

kiss her in privacy, like at home and not in the school

Don't worry. You aren't young. And this is coming from a 15 y.o.
NetWt4Lbs7 months ago
dear people who have not kissed someone yet, do not rush it!! You have all the time in the world to be kissing boys/girls!
jojo96148 months ago
I'm 17 and I've never kissed a guy or even had a boyfriend for that matter...
rapt0r301 year ago
i first french kissed when i was in grade 2 and it's my favorite now so to all those people who don't use this style you should try it!
maz^_^5 years ago
ooh mii lipz look juzt like dat
i muzt have gewd lips
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atleast datz wat iv been told
_ :) ;)
You need to kiss a dictionary
XD LOL
you need to learn to spell.
you funny man
that make me laugh
I'm 15 and I want to know how to kiss. I'm not bothered by the fact that I have never kissed a guy, but I just want to know how to so that my first time isn't a sloppy mess haha. I'm the only girl in my house and out of my friends who hasn't kissed a guy yet. (I don't want to do it out of pressure btw) I need help :3
leah_babee1 year ago
ok so well im 11 years old and like i still havent kissed anyone yet:/ most of my friends have already kissed, even french kissed and i dont just wanna kiss some random guy... plus at my school theres not a lot of cute guys besides 8th graders and ohmygawd is this one guy cute:]
hey im 13 and i kissed a boy well made out with a boy befor it was with this realy hot guy last summer who was my ex boyfriends cuz we broke up 2 year befor thoe, but i dont think i did very god but maby be cauze he wanted me to spen the night with him and a fer other guys and i would of but my mom woulnt let me i was camping in my yard w 2 other friends and there were 3 guys we told them wee might smeak out and hag later if they come get us or txt us.......best summer eva!
epicfail!1 year ago
16 and never kissed a bloke or a chick XD
lol im onle 12 and iv already snogged 2 boys xD
im not even that popular!
its weird cuz the most popular cutest boy in my year loves me like
crazy
and we go out xD
everyone is so jealous C;
im so lucky.
hopefully im gonna french kiss him like this tomoz
so
wish me luck!! :D lol
p.s. dont say im too young
;A; im 13 and i never kissed a guy..
i am 13 years. lets know each other and i am a lovely boy.
I know what you mean. I'm 16 and I've never had a first kiss either. Or a boyfriend.
:'(
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It's nearly a whole year later and nothing's changed. I feel your pain when it comes to the kiss thing, but at least you were with someone at some point in your life. I've never had even a glimmer of a chance to be in a relationship with someone I wasn't utterly repulsed by.
way to go be patient. thats gotta be ridiculously hard to do
SWEET! i snogged a girl >.<
hahaha. your too young ! and why you sitting on heree braggin ? lmao
Hi u too young,
i am 12 and i have snogged bout 10 guys and they were all hot a popular

ps don't be afraid if you have never snogged and the boy has don't be scard i am telling u from experience but other way round
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