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This is an instructable on how to kiss. Kissing can be a hard thing to do until you get comfortable doing it, and while nothing can fully prepare you for a kiss, this how-to will explain some of the basics of kissing a partner and explore some simple kissing do's and don't's.
Note: I am by no means a kissing expert. The information in this instructable is based upon experience and some simple research on the subject.
Let's get started with just a simple kiss.
Note: I am by no means a kissing expert. The information in this instructable is based upon experience and some simple research on the subject.
Let's get started with just a simple kiss.
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The lead up to the kiss can actually be the most difficult part of kissing. Figuring out whether your partner is ready to kiss you or not can be a challenge of its own.
If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.
If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.
Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.
1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.
2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."
3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.
4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.
If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.
If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.
If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.
- eyes become soft and heavy
- eye contact is made and sustained
- head turns slightly
- lips are licked or bitten
- your partner makes physical contact with you beyond what seems appropriate for normal conversation (e.g. he or she brushes your hand, touches you on the shoulder or leg, or fidgets with an accessory)
- easy conversation comes to a stop, but eye contact is not broken
- your partner smiles in conjunction with any of the above behaviors
- soften your gaze by relaxing the muscles around your eyes, somewhat like smiling but without engaging your mouth
- smile often, though
- make eye contact and allow it to linger for a few moments longer than you normally would
- find ways to subtly (but respectfully) touch your partner
If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.
Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.
1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.
2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."
3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.
4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.
If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.
If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.
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Try not to burp or sneeze in your partner's mouth, my boyfriend sneezed in my mouth and it was NASTY!!!!! So, just a little heads up to make sure your sneezes, burps, and any other thing that might be repelling to your partner is out of your system. And if you feel something coming, definitely back away!!! I promise they will be grateful.
most of the time he's the one to do the 1st move 'cause...heLLo. . .it's really awkward for girls to do it.,
GUYS if you're on a date and if you Like want to kiss..
consider EVERYTHING first before doing the move.,
you don't want rejections or anything...
I think its better if. . .you Like hold hand or cuddLe or something before doing any kissing.,just to get comfy^^
and not get awkward and bye bye Girl I first kissed.,
umm soo there^^
KIDS DON'T RUSH.,IT WILL COME..
sooner or Later.,haha :')
just in a matter of time~~~
>> purposely used the word KIDS
*When I was a youngster I never asked a girl out for fear of rejection (not looking good). I was almost out of my teens before I kissed a girl.
at first I didn't really planned to do a passionate kiss but it just turned out like that and I regret nothing..
BTW that happened last January 02, 2011
before all the scenarios happened. . .there was this cuddling,holding hands,etc.so it kinda fLt comfformtable..
and oh yeah..
things just happened, umm like I haven't kissed somebody else before but it seemed like i've kissed alot of guys..that's what my guy said. kind of awkward but his fist question when we got out of that staircase was "are you sure this is your first kiss?? where did you learned that??"
>>HONESTLY THAT WAS MY FIRST
well you're still young at the age of 13,
yeah sure I've wanted to kiss someone before..
but enjoy your youth, and there's no rule stating that a person should have kissed someone at the age of 13..
and yeah.,just wanted to share^^
>if you're gonna get one, make sure you enjoy it^^
~>no regrets :D
Thank you for sharing!
(please help !)