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This is an instructable on how to kiss. Kissing can be a hard thing to do until you get comfortable doing it, and while nothing can fully prepare you for a kiss, this how-to will explain some of the basics of kissing a partner and explore some simple kissing do's and don't's.

Note: I am by no means a kissing expert. The information in this instructable is based upon experience and some simple research on the subject.

Let's get started with just a simple kiss.

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Step 1: Pre Kiss

The lead up to the kiss can actually be the most difficult part of kissing. Figuring out whether your partner is ready to kiss you or not can be a challenge of its own.

If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.
  • eyes become soft and heavy
  • eye contact is made and sustained
  • head turns slightly
  • lips are licked or bitten
  • your partner makes physical contact with you beyond what seems appropriate for normal conversation (e.g. he or she brushes your hand, touches you on the shoulder or leg, or fidgets with an accessory)
  • easy conversation comes to a stop, but eye contact is not broken
  • your partner smiles in conjunction with any of the above behaviors

To give your partner the cue that you wish to kiss him or her, you can try one or a combination of these things.

  • soften your gaze by relaxing the muscles around your eyes, somewhat like smiling but without engaging your mouth
  • smile often, though
  • make eye contact and allow it to linger for a few moments longer than you normally would
  • find ways to subtly (but respectfully) touch your partner

If you think you are picking up some of these signs, but are still unsure if the person wants to be kissed then there is nothing wrong with just simply asking your partner if a kiss would be all right. Granted it breaks the mood a bit, and sensing the magic is always nicer than asking if it's there, but better to be sure your partner is on board for the kiss otherwise you might be heading for an embarrassing situation.

If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.

Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.

1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.

2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."

3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.

4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.

If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.

If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.

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Okay so my boyfriend and I started dating today, and he really liked me before.... We hug and say we love each other and we hangout a lot, but idk if he wants to kiss, I don't wanna ruin anything because he makes me hapoy and I haven't been happy in forever.... So should I just ask him if he wants to kiss or should I just go for it?
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<p>These comments are crazy. No way I'm gonna kiss anybody until I'm like, 22. Forget 8th grade. </p>
Dear Kids in 5th, 6th, and 7th grade,<br>How do you guys even have boyfriends and girlfriends? I'm in 8th grade and I've been single forever. I have no problem with being single...
amen, hallelujah sister! ;) i am in 8th grade and i have had my first kiss and i have dated people before but all the guys in my grade are jerks... that is 29 guys (small school)! THEY ALL SUCK! :D so all you little kids out there... keep your hopes up! 999,999 times out of a million your not going to marry any of the kids you have crushes on in grade school! :) thank god for that statistic!
That is the most incorrect statistic ever
I am in 10th grade. Nobody needs to have a boyfriend in 8th grade. You are in middle school that is gonna be the worst expiriences of your lifes, try to make it better. Don't waste on some bs guy thats not even gonna last you 5 months.
Amen.
<p>why not try a healthier relationship, both people agree, don't make a foolish mistake and stuff</p>
Im in 8th grade and ive been with the same boy since 6th grade so your clearly stating something false
And, yeah. It ain't like you're gonna marry any of them. It isn't even really a relationship at our age; actually, it's just like dating. Like, really. You can't be in a serious relationship and truly love someone in middle school.
thats a lie u can to if u r like 13 or more as long as u r not really really young so yes! you can not trying to be rude
no honestly you wont love them. trust me. apperently you havent ever felt love.
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Well, I mean, you can be in a serious relationship but not like a &quot;Oh, I love you. Let's get married and have kids and be together until we die.&quot; kinda think. And I know you weren't trying to be rude. Everyone has their own preferences and opinions.(=
I wouldn't be so sure about not being able to be in love in middle school, friend. I feel like I'm in total love with my girl. I told her a we're going out. So I feel deeply in love. Gonna try and kiss her soon. :D
No offense, but I highly doubt you two will marry. Good luck, but don't count on it, hun. (=
<p>if u have a very healthy relationship, sure they CAN marry</p>
Thats rude
How old are you?
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Oh, yeah. In that case, go for it! Like a long lasting thing (like a year or two at least) instead of like a month I guess you could call love.
You call 29 guys a small school?! I have 9 guys in the whole 8th grade!
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Well i went frkm a school of over a thousand students (450 per grade) to 32 kids in each grade. It is really small for me!!!
I have 18 kids in my grade!
oooh that sucks!
This is the longest list of replies ever.
where do u guys go to school omg thats so little thats how mny people i have in my class
Lol my cousin married someone he met in kindergarten. Guess they are one in a million. Soulmates who met young!
wow thats it i have 342 kids in my grade
I have 3,000
i got close to 500 theres about 2k kids at my school
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Dating means you actually like the person and are doing sexual things with them. So Dating doesn't start until any of that happens. So 6th grade is a no. I was pregnant in 7th grade so all of you just need to stop with thinking dating is the cool thing to do. Dating starts in high school.
and dating is not based off of sex its the meaning of love and respect for that other person
No ur wrong thats not what dating means. Ive been dating the same gut for 3 years and thats been since 6th grade and im in 8th now. And its called DATING
A healthy relationship wouldn't be based purely off of sex. They SHOULD be built off of love, or a mutual attraction for each other. You can go on dates with people and be technically dating them without even kissing or wanting a fully commited relationship. I swear..by 2030 the age for legal consent will be 14 and people will be married by 17-19 as the average age. Common sense is rare these days
People used to marry at 14. You are taking this way out of proportion. Kids will get it when they are older
Dating someone doesn't mean you are &quot;doing sexual things with them.&quot; And boo boo for you that you got pregnant way too early, it's your fault for being stupid.

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