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This is an instructable on how to kiss. Kissing can be a hard thing to do until you get comfortable doing it, and while nothing can fully prepare you for a kiss, this how-to will explain some of the basics of kissing a partner and explore some simple kissing do's and don't's.

Note: I am by no means a kissing expert. The information in this instructable is based upon experience and some simple research on the subject.

Let's get started with just a simple kiss.

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Step 1: Pre Kiss

The lead up to the kiss can actually be the most difficult part of kissing. Figuring out whether your partner is ready to kiss you or not can be a challenge of its own.

If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.
  • eyes become soft and heavy
  • eye contact is made and sustained
  • head turns slightly
  • lips are licked or bitten
  • your partner makes physical contact with you beyond what seems appropriate for normal conversation (e.g. he or she brushes your hand, touches you on the shoulder or leg, or fidgets with an accessory)
  • easy conversation comes to a stop, but eye contact is not broken
  • your partner smiles in conjunction with any of the above behaviors

To give your partner the cue that you wish to kiss him or her, you can try one or a combination of these things.

  • soften your gaze by relaxing the muscles around your eyes, somewhat like smiling but without engaging your mouth
  • smile often, though
  • make eye contact and allow it to linger for a few moments longer than you normally would
  • find ways to subtly (but respectfully) touch your partner

If you think you are picking up some of these signs, but are still unsure if the person wants to be kissed then there is nothing wrong with just simply asking your partner if a kiss would be all right. Granted it breaks the mood a bit, and sensing the magic is always nicer than asking if it's there, but better to be sure your partner is on board for the kiss otherwise you might be heading for an embarrassing situation.

If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.

Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.

1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.

2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."

3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.

4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.

If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.

If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.

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<p>All the comments on this page are absolutely ridiculous. For many reasons. One, love has no specified age. I mean, clearly you won't understand the concept of love until you're in middle school (depends on how quickly you mature). You CAN love someone in 7th/6th/8th grade. The real problem is dating. You're too young at that age to be dating responsibly. You don't know what a real relationship means. You're either going to get pregnant, or something bad will happen because you screwed up while trying to date. A real relationship isn't just sex or kissing. It's not even all about physical contact. Sure, it's an important part of it, but a relationship is knowing your partner's there for you. Knowing that you can tell them anything and that they won't judge you. A real relationship is your partner having respect for you, and vice versa. If it's a real relationship, your partner will NOT talk constantly about wanting to have sex with you. He/she shouldn't talk about it at all. That is for much later in life, if you guys have talked about it and WANT to start a family (providing you're the appropriate age to) It's also a deep intimate connection, so even if you're not in it for the kids, you should wait until you're at least engaged. Though, I'm not judging anyone if you do. But regardless, you should NOT be having sex in middle school, no matter HOW OLD or MATURE you think you are! <br><br>I personally have experienced love in middle school. Not the obsessive crush kind, but a real love for the person that I'm with currently. I know he would do anything for me and I would without a doubt, do anything for him. Relationships aren't all bubbly and giggly and perfect. You take comfort in the fact that they really do love you too. We've talked about marriage before. I want to get married to this man. He's expressed the same feeling to me. <br><br>But you guys do you, I'm just here to tell you what I think ^.^</p>
Thank you it worked wonderful
<p>It sounds really nerve-wrecking, I was really nervous about my first kiss. It was funny because I had no idea what I was doing, but my boyfriend didn't mind. But if you're with the right person it doesn't matter, it will come naturally to you. Trust me. :)</p>
<p>I hope this article helps me haha. I just want to make sure i know what im getting into before i go into it, wish me luck lol.</p>
<p>hey do you know any single guys for me i need a guy that is around 13</p>
<p>Word of advice kid: Stop looking on the internet, TRUST me on this one</p>
Dear Kids in 5th, 6th, and 7th grade,<br>How do you guys even have boyfriends and girlfriends? I'm in 8th grade and I've been single forever. I have no problem with being single...
I've just started high school and have had more exes than I have friends (I'm bisexual) and it's not a good thing. You just haven't met the right person yet :)
I wonder too...
well it is better when u r older so if u breakup u can accept it also i personally think dating and stuff should start at 6th grade <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br>by the way there is someone in my grade that started dating in 3rd grade <br>
Dating means you actually like the person and are doing sexual things with them. So Dating doesn't start until any of that happens. So 6th grade is a no. I was pregnant in 7th grade so all of you just need to stop with thinking dating is the cool thing to do. Dating starts in high school.
and dating is not based off of sex its the meaning of love and respect for that other person
<p>exactally thank you!!</p>
<p>exactally thank you!!</p>
No ur wrong thats not what dating means. Ive been dating the same gut for 3 years and thats been since 6th grade and im in 8th now. And its called DATING
A healthy relationship wouldn't be based purely off of sex. They SHOULD be built off of love, or a mutual attraction for each other. You can go on dates with people and be technically dating them without even kissing or wanting a fully commited relationship. I swear..by 2030 the age for legal consent will be 14 and people will be married by 17-19 as the average age. Common sense is rare these days
People used to marry at 14. You are taking this way out of proportion. Kids will get it when they are older
Dating someone doesn't mean you are &quot;doing sexual things with them.&quot; And boo boo for you that you got pregnant way too early, it's your fault for being stupid.
You were pregnant... In 7th grade? That terrible! I don't know whether to feel bad for you or not.
<p>dont they choose the wrong thing</p>
No, a relationship is having a stronger physical and emotional connection. Dating is just like a &quot;Hey, you seem cool, wanna go to the movies?&quot; type thing. Dating can turn into a relationship, though.
i started dating younger then that lol but I'm in a committed relationship right now we've been together for almost 2 years now :)
Congratulations but me and my girl have been together for 5 years (=
So...yall got together in kindergarten. WHAT IS HAPPENING TO SOCIETY?? I'm not ready for when my children are born into this world. Will I even want to be able to call it a world anymore? Should I even want to bring new life into it?
amen, hallelujah sister! ;) i am in 8th grade and i have had my first kiss and i have dated people before but all the guys in my grade are jerks... that is 29 guys (small school)! THEY ALL SUCK! :D so all you little kids out there... keep your hopes up! 999,999 times out of a million your not going to marry any of the kids you have crushes on in grade school! :) thank god for that statistic!
You call 29 guys a small school?! I have 9 guys in the whole 8th grade!
Well i went frkm a school of over a thousand students (450 per grade) to 32 kids in each grade. It is really small for me!!!
<p>I have no girls in my grade at school. (sigh) the life of a home schooler</p>
I have 18 kids in my grade!
oooh that sucks!
This is the longest list of replies ever.
where do u guys go to school omg thats so little thats how mny people i have in my class
<p>Three years ago I had 8 kids</p>
And, yeah. It ain't like you're gonna marry any of them. It isn't even really a relationship at our age; actually, it's just like dating. Like, really. You can't be in a serious relationship and truly love someone in middle school.
thats a lie u can to if u r like 13 or more as long as u r not really really young so yes! you can not trying to be rude
no honestly you wont love them. trust me. apperently you havent ever felt love.
<p>actually I did. Love is when Christ died on the cross for our sins. By his death we are free. That's what's called love.</p>
<p>Amen </p>

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