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This is an instructable on how to kiss. Kissing can be a hard thing to do until you get comfortable doing it, and while nothing can fully prepare you for a kiss, this how-to will explain some of the basics of kissing a partner and explore some simple kissing do's and don't's.

Note: I am by no means a kissing expert. The information in this instructable is based upon experience and some simple research on the subject.

Let's get started with just a simple kiss.

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Step 1: Pre Kiss

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The lead up to the kiss can actually be the most difficult part of kissing. Figuring out whether your partner is ready to kiss you or not can be a challenge of its own.

If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.
  • eyes become soft and heavy
  • eye contact is made and sustained
  • head turns slightly
  • lips are licked or bitten
  • your partner makes physical contact with you beyond what seems appropriate for normal conversation (e.g. he or she brushes your hand, touches you on the shoulder or leg, or fidgets with an accessory)
  • easy conversation comes to a stop, but eye contact is not broken
  • your partner smiles in conjunction with any of the above behaviors

To give your partner the cue that you wish to kiss him or her, you can try one or a combination of these things.

  • soften your gaze by relaxing the muscles around your eyes, somewhat like smiling but without engaging your mouth
  • smile often, though
  • make eye contact and allow it to linger for a few moments longer than you normally would
  • find ways to subtly (but respectfully) touch your partner

If you think you are picking up some of these signs, but are still unsure if the person wants to be kissed then there is nothing wrong with just simply asking your partner if a kiss would be all right. Granted it breaks the mood a bit, and sensing the magic is always nicer than asking if it's there, but better to be sure your partner is on board for the kiss otherwise you might be heading for an embarrassing situation.

If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.

Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.

1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.

2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."

3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.

4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.

If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.

If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.

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RileyK121 days ago

yay I'm not the only forever alone!

Dear Kids in 5th, 6th, and 7th grade,
How do you guys even have boyfriends and girlfriends? I'm in 8th grade and I've been single forever. I have no problem with being single...
amen, hallelujah sister! ;) i am in 8th grade and i have had my first kiss and i have dated people before but all the guys in my grade are jerks... that is 29 guys (small school)! THEY ALL SUCK! :D so all you little kids out there... keep your hopes up! 999,999 times out of a million your not going to marry any of the kids you have crushes on in grade school! :) thank god for that statistic!

thats funny, I have 1 boy in my grade and 1 other girl:)

You call 29 guys a small school?! I have 9 guys in the whole 8th grade!
Well i went frkm a school of over a thousand students (450 per grade) to 32 kids in each grade. It is really small for me!!!
I have 18 kids in my grade!
oooh that sucks!
This is the longest list of replies ever.
where do u guys go to school omg thats so little thats how mny people i have in my class
wow thats it i have 342 kids in my grade
i got close to 500 theres about 2k kids at my school
And, yeah. It ain't like you're gonna marry any of them. It isn't even really a relationship at our age; actually, it's just like dating. Like, really. You can't be in a serious relationship and truly love someone in middle school.
thats a lie u can to if u r like 13 or more as long as u r not really really young so yes! you can not trying to be rude
Well, I mean, you can be in a serious relationship but not like a "Oh, I love you. Let's get married and have kids and be together until we die." kinda think. And I know you weren't trying to be rude. Everyone has their own preferences and opinions.(=
no honestly you wont love them. trust me. apperently you havent ever felt love.
I wouldn't be so sure about not being able to be in love in middle school, friend. I feel like I'm in total love with my girl. I told her a we're going out. So I feel deeply in love. Gonna try and kiss her soon. :D
How old are you?
15. And I wasn't talking about total marriage but more of just a long lasting thing.
Oh, yeah. In that case, go for it! Like a long lasting thing (like a year or two at least) instead of like a month I guess you could call love.
No offense, but I highly doubt you two will marry. Good luck, but don't count on it, hun. (=
well it is better when u r older so if u breakup u can accept it also i personally think dating and stuff should start at 6th grade








by the way there is someone in my grade that started dating in 3rd grade
Dating means you actually like the person and are doing sexual things with them. So Dating doesn't start until any of that happens. So 6th grade is a no. I was pregnant in 7th grade so all of you just need to stop with thinking dating is the cool thing to do. Dating starts in high school.
You were pregnant... In 7th grade? That terrible! I don't know whether to feel bad for you or not.
No, a relationship is having a stronger physical and emotional connection. Dating is just like a "Hey, you seem cool, wanna go to the movies?" type thing. Dating can turn into a relationship, though.
i started dating younger then that lol but I'm in a committed relationship right now we've been together for almost 2 years now :)
well sir thats your fault i have a girl friend and her dad pulled a gun on me
Why?! What the hey hey?!
sazagirl3 months ago

my friend dated someone in year 3!!!!! BOOOM!!!

I wonder how many people have clicked on the "I made it" here. :-)

Well I'm 13 and dating
Well people enjoy yall love life as yall can cause life is short so enjoy!
Vanseith1 year ago
This weirdo of a bf is a stalker you know that, but if I tell her she will not believe me. Any gut would have been better than him, but I don't know what she was thinking. Many times I wish that I was him, holding her in my arms, cuddling. They kiss too. I am so freakin tired of him luring her into kissing him like a teddy bear. Also, that guy picks on me even though I am way stronger than him and I am a red belt in taekwondo. If that guy messes with me he will get more than a stern talking to. If you're reading this please read my bottom comment too! Please help me before I get to angry at him for picking me and can't do anything about it because she will get mad at me for breaking his nose even though it didn't happen yet. One of these days I will get him but not any day close. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Vanseith1 year ago
I have a crush with a girl in the same grade as me ( grade eight). I really really like her, but she has a bad boy boyfriend that gets in trouble all the time. I am just shy, but I am smart and I know that one day her bf will go to jail. Even though she has a bf, she is so beautiful and smart and can't risk my dignity to ask her out. I was her friend in grade 7 and we talked a lot but now she has that delinquent bf in her arms, I couldn't wish to think that if she did want him, she would have done that a long time ago. By the way her bf is one grade ahead of her. I skipped a grade because I passed a test, but this guy comes around in a stupid gas bike showing off to her that "he" is the one. I want to do something about it but I might end up losing our friendship. Please reply and help me in my relationship before it is too late!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
san197771 year ago
can somebody please help me I'm 15 and i never kissed before or even had a girlfriend .But all my friends have smart, beautiful girls ALL OF THEM I am a little bit jelaous
Awe that's cute. Lemme tell you what. I'm three years younger than you and have a boyfriend. But we never talk in person, and we're really shy to each other. A lot of my friends have boyfriends and are always affectionate and stuff... But I came to realize that I don't get to hang with my bf very much because I don't go up and TALK to him. You go talk to girls and maybe you'll end up liking a special one and she might accept a date. Good luck.
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I will be honest. To all you kids who are 12-13-14 and are in 6th, 7th, and 8th grade, you are WAY too young to be in a serious relationship and to be trying to kiss someone so young and early. You need to get into a relationship with someone you have gotten to know for a while, became really good friends, have stuff in common, share the same interests, etc. But really, if you do all that and meet a guy/girl you like, don't automatically ask them out. Be friends for a while, and especially when you're older. Just wait until you're older. Trust me, you guys/girls who are about 12,13,14 etc, you don't know how to deal with a serious relationship yet. You may have to sacrifice a lot but if you really love them you will wait. Don't rush to get kissed, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years, still going on strong, I'm in my senior year of High School. and I didn't ever kiss him until about 10 months into the relationship. We're planning on getting engaged right after High School. It's because, he was my childhood best friend, we'd always play together and have each other around. We have similar interests and so many things in common. And I love him so much. Anyways, back to what I was saying. It's not a contest to see who's a great kisser, who's cute, who's not, etc. It's about finding someone you love to be around and enjoy having. I hope my advice helped you! c:
clo119001 year ago
hay im in 7th grade and i've just broke up with my 7th bf... but honest to god in hindsight none of them really meant anything... but i've had some spark with guys that weren't exactly a "boyfriend" i have had a french kiss with a guy that i thought i liked and that i asked to kiss me but i by no means am a popular...but i dont know how to say ni can help but what other questions do u have?...
tink993 years ago
omg! i want to be kissed so bad!
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