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This is an instructable on how to kiss. Kissing can be a hard thing to do until you get comfortable doing it, and while nothing can fully prepare you for a kiss, this how-to will explain some of the basics of kissing a partner and explore some simple kissing do's and don't's.
Note: I am by no means a kissing expert. The information in this instructable is based upon experience and some simple research on the subject.
Let's get started with just a simple kiss.
Note: I am by no means a kissing expert. The information in this instructable is based upon experience and some simple research on the subject.
Let's get started with just a simple kiss.
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The lead up to the kiss can actually be the most difficult part of kissing. Figuring out whether your partner is ready to kiss you or not can be a challenge of its own.
If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.
If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.
Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.
1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.
2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."
3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.
4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.
If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.
If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.
If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.
- eyes become soft and heavy
- eye contact is made and sustained
- head turns slightly
- lips are licked or bitten
- your partner makes physical contact with you beyond what seems appropriate for normal conversation (e.g. he or she brushes your hand, touches you on the shoulder or leg, or fidgets with an accessory)
- easy conversation comes to a stop, but eye contact is not broken
- your partner smiles in conjunction with any of the above behaviors
- soften your gaze by relaxing the muscles around your eyes, somewhat like smiling but without engaging your mouth
- smile often, though
- make eye contact and allow it to linger for a few moments longer than you normally would
- find ways to subtly (but respectfully) touch your partner
If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.
Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.
1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.
2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."
3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.
4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.
If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.
If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.
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plz help!!!!!!!!
So... Im 13,got a solid relationship for a month now - weve been going out for around a month. Were talking like were in a relat
ionship and stuff but yet we didnt kiss. Honestly my minds all about her. Shes extremely physically attractIve. Anyways weve been in these situatioons where a kiss was like totally normal but none of us made the move... So its worrying me that im the problem. Perhaps she thinks i should go for the kiss - i dont know. Im shy too when i get the balls to kiss her to not screw something up or shell think that i want to seduce her which is completely wrong... I dont know what should i do. I just want it to work out. She said that she never kissed snyone before neither did i. So could anyone help me out please? Thanks
it would be the best kiss ever
p.s i am a girl and i am sorry if it is late
it would be the best kiss ever
p.s i am a girl and i am sorry if it is late
it would be the best kiss ever
p.s i am a girl and i am sorry if it is late
it would be the best kiss ever
p.s i am a girl and i am sorry if it is late
it would be the best kiss ever
p.s i am a girl and i am sorry if it is late
The right time is when you know she's most comfotable.If she likes Italian food, take her to an Italian restaurant and while you're waiting for your food compliment her on her outfit. Ask her what she did last night. While she's telling you, look her in the eyes and slowly move forward. She should get the hint. This could be at halftime at a sports show. But if you're at a restaurant, avoid booths. At sports games, sit near the top of the bleachers so other people don't have to watch you kiss.
Good Luck
S
They were bad, so those kisses don't count, so in my mind, I've still never kissed a girl. Anyway, how do I keep my eyes closed when kissing? I can never bring myself to close my eyes, I'm afraid i'll miss XD
gd luck
How do you guys even have boyfriends and girlfriends? I'm in 8th grade and I've been single forever. I have no problem with being single...
by the way there is someone in my grade that started dating in 3rd grade
at first I didn't really planned to do a passionate kiss but it just turned out like that and I regret nothing..
BTW that happened last January 02, 2011
before all the scenarios happened. . .there was this cuddling,holding hands,etc.so it kinda fLt comfformtable..
and oh yeah..
things just happened, umm like I haven't kissed somebody else before but it seemed like i've kissed alot of guys..that's what my guy said. kind of awkward but his fist question when we got out of that staircase was "are you sure this is your first kiss?? where did you learned that??"
>>HONESTLY THAT WAS MY FIRST
well you're still young at the age of 13,
yeah sure I've wanted to kiss someone before..
but enjoy your youth, and there's no rule stating that a person should have kissed someone at the age of 13..
and yeah.,just wanted to share^^
>if you're gonna get one, make sure you enjoy it^^
~>no regrets :D
Thank you for sharing!
(please help !)
good luck
i know it is too late to tell u but i just wanted to reply