Step 2: Practice the Kiss

Once you're leaning in, things start to happen quickly. If you are nervous about the actual kiss, why not practice beforehand to hone your technique? An arm or mirror could serve as useful tools to self monitor the feel and look of your kissing style.

Rest assured, THE KISS is coming, but here it is broken down first, step by step so that you know whats going on when you see it at full speed with a partner in the next step.

Here is a head on view of a kiss. I am just practicing here, so it might look a little funny, but once your partner is sitting across from you and your lips meet theirs, it's H, O, T hot.

1. You are in the pre kiss state described in step 1 - your head is tilted, there is lip activity, your eyes are in a soft deep gaze and maybe there is some light physical contact.

You could open or close your eyes, though if you're nervous, closed could help avoid the deer in headlights look of fear. I like to start with mine open and close them just before lip contact.

2. Either you or your partner has shown that they would like to kiss. Start putting the pieces from step 1 together. Lean in and meet your partner halfway. Begin to pucker the lips by bringing them together, pushing them out, and applying just a faint hint of suction on your closed mouth to bring the cheeks slightly in.

Now is a good time to lick your lips if they aren't already moist.

Keep leaning in, remembering to tilt your head until you make contact with your partner's lips.

Remember not to forget about hand placement! A gentle touch to the back of the neck, the shoulders or your partners head is all you need. This can also help in guiding someone into the kiss if they are lost or are having trouble meeting you.

3. Your lips come to a full pucker position. They are soft, but not floppy. They can be fully formed and firm, but certainly not hard. This is an ambiguous state for any solid to be in - but these are your lips were talking about here - they can handle it!

Make contact with your partners lips.

If this is your first kiss, you don't want to linger too long, but you also don't want to just peck them and retreat.

Count "one-one thousand, two-one thousand" in your head before relaxing the pucker in your lips and beginning to pull your head away. You can hold the kiss like this for longer, but after 5 seconds or so should start think about ending this kiss. If you would like to keep kissing after that you can always lean in again and follow up the first kiss with a second, third or fourth kiss.

Remember to breathe through the kiss. It's all right to hold your breath for a short kiss, but for longer ones you are going to have to breathe while you are kissing. Since your mouth is occupied, you are going to have to use your nose. Just breathe normally and continue on with the kiss.

To end the kiss begin to lighten the pressure your lips are applying to your partners' and relax your puckered lips. As your lips relax they will separate and a small amount of air will be sucked into your mouth. This will create the kissing noise, or "smack" that is identified with a kiss.

At this point contact with your partner's lips has ended and its time to start thinking about giving them a little space and time to reflect about what just happened.

4. Move your head back slowly and begin to relax the muscles around your mouth. You can keep your eyes closed for a bit as you revel in the kiss and slowly return to your normal un-extended position.

5. You are now in the post kiss phase and if it was a good kiss, words won't do the feeling justice. If you and your partner liked what just happened you can follow up with more, or just enjoy what the two of you shared. If it was a bad kiss, you can try to make changes and give the kiss another go. If things can't be salvaged at that particular moment, don't force it - take a break and talk about it with your partner and try again after a few minutes or another day.

Dear Kids in 5th, 6th, and 7th grade,<br>How do you guys even have boyfriends and girlfriends? I'm in 8th grade and I've been single forever. I have no problem with being single...
well it is better when u r older so if u breakup u can accept it also i personally think dating and stuff should start at 6th grade <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br>by the way there is someone in my grade that started dating in 3rd grade <br>
Dating means you actually like the person and are doing sexual things with them. So Dating doesn't start until any of that happens. So 6th grade is a no. I was pregnant in 7th grade so all of you just need to stop with thinking dating is the cool thing to do. Dating starts in high school.
and dating is not based off of sex its the meaning of love and respect for that other person
No ur wrong thats not what dating means. Ive been dating the same gut for 3 years and thats been since 6th grade and im in 8th now. And its called DATING
A healthy relationship wouldn't be based purely off of sex. They SHOULD be built off of love, or a mutual attraction for each other. You can go on dates with people and be technically dating them without even kissing or wanting a fully commited relationship. I swear..by 2030 the age for legal consent will be 14 and people will be married by 17-19 as the average age. Common sense is rare these days
People used to marry at 14. You are taking this way out of proportion. Kids will get it when they are older
Dating someone doesn't mean you are &quot;doing sexual things with them.&quot; And boo boo for you that you got pregnant way too early, it's your fault for being stupid.
<p>OK a. dating does not mean you have sex with them that's in a marriage but OK and plus your an idiot if you got fucking pregnent</p>
You were pregnant... In 7th grade? That terrible! I don't know whether to feel bad for you or not.
<p>dont they choose the wrong thing</p>
No, a relationship is having a stronger physical and emotional connection. Dating is just like a &quot;Hey, you seem cool, wanna go to the movies?&quot; type thing. Dating can turn into a relationship, though.
i started dating younger then that lol but I'm in a committed relationship right now we've been together for almost 2 years now :)
Congratulations but me and my girl have been together for 5 years (=
So...yall got together in kindergarten. WHAT IS HAPPENING TO SOCIETY?? I'm not ready for when my children are born into this world. Will I even want to be able to call it a world anymore? Should I even want to bring new life into it?
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amen, hallelujah sister! ;) i am in 8th grade and i have had my first kiss and i have dated people before but all the guys in my grade are jerks... that is 29 guys (small school)! THEY ALL SUCK! :D so all you little kids out there... keep your hopes up! 999,999 times out of a million your not going to marry any of the kids you have crushes on in grade school! :) thank god for that statistic!
And, yeah. It ain't like you're gonna marry any of them. It isn't even really a relationship at our age; actually, it's just like dating. Like, really. You can't be in a serious relationship and truly love someone in middle school.
I wouldn't be so sure about not being able to be in love in middle school, friend. I feel like I'm in total love with my girl. I told her a we're going out. So I feel deeply in love. Gonna try and kiss her soon. :D
No offense, but I highly doubt you two will marry. Good luck, but don't count on it, hun. (=
Thats rude
How old are you?
15. And I wasn't talking about total marriage but more of just a long lasting thing.<br>
Oh, yeah. In that case, go for it! Like a long lasting thing (like a year or two at least) instead of like a month I guess you could call love.
thats a lie u can to if u r like 13 or more as long as u r not really really young so yes! you can not trying to be rude
Well, I mean, you can be in a serious relationship but not like a &quot;Oh, I love you. Let's get married and have kids and be together until we die.&quot; kinda think. And I know you weren't trying to be rude. Everyone has their own preferences and opinions.(=
no honestly you wont love them. trust me. apperently you havent ever felt love.
I am in 10th grade. Nobody needs to have a boyfriend in 8th grade. You are in middle school that is gonna be the worst expiriences of your lifes, try to make it better. Don't waste on some bs guy thats not even gonna last you 5 months.
Im in 8th grade and ive been with the same boy since 6th grade so your clearly stating something false
You call 29 guys a small school?! I have 9 guys in the whole 8th grade!
<p>Three years ago I had 8 kids</p>
Well i went frkm a school of over a thousand students (450 per grade) to 32 kids in each grade. It is really small for me!!!
I have 18 kids in my grade!
oooh that sucks!
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where do u guys go to school omg thats so little thats how mny people i have in my class
Lol my cousin married someone he met in kindergarten. Guess they are one in a million. Soulmates who met young!
wow thats it i have 342 kids in my grade
I have 3,000
i got close to 500 theres about 2k kids at my school
<p>hey many guys many kisses much sex and kissing</p>
<p>thats funny, I have 1 boy in my grade and 1 other girl:)</p>
<p>Wow, No offense but im in 7th and have had.......11 boyfriends since i was in lol kindergarden.But 3 yrs 11 th grade if u single gosh damn thoase peeps..</p>
I think it's funny how you younger people all think these relationships count. When u get older and people will ask you who the first person you dated. You won't say the person in kindergarten. You will probably say someone that you dated in &amp;other grade at the youngest
In 8th grade at the youngest***
Yes I do and I'm in 7th grade
<p>hey r u a girl or guy</p>
Bro I'm in 7th grade and me and my bf are perfect for eachother... So get off ur high horse k? Good...

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