This isn't a feel-good-everything-is-grand Instructable. It's a simple guide on coming to terms with rejection/"failure" and moving on because stagnating through obsession won't get anything done and will doubtfully make you or me a better or happier person. It doesn't do any good to lash out at others and make them feel bad for their successes, and it doesn't do any good to stew in a well of worthlessness or feel that the whole entire world is against you. It takes a lot of discipline to deal with rejection well, and it isn't easy. I can't say I'm always successful at the process of taking failure like a champ, but it's certainly worth trying to be a champ especially if you just got rejected.
Step 1: Whine About It
Step 2: Getting in the Mindset
You didn't get rejected because you are intrinsically inferior or bad. You got rejected because someone/something was better or more appropriate than what you offered or created. What you offered/created wasn't necessarily terrible. It might have been really super amazing, but someone just managed to do something a little more spectacular or something that was a little more appropriate for someone else's needs. The rejection is not necessarily a reflection of your worth or capabilities.
Step 3: Figure Out the "Why"
- What did someone else offer that you didn't? What was different?
- Was it completely and totally unfair and others were already setup to succeed regardless of any other competition?
Be fair about this. The person judging you or your work might not have had all the information necessary, but based on the information at hand, a decision had to be made.
Step 4: What You Could Have Done
- How much time/effort did you invest?
- Did you do your best? Could you have done more?
Note: If you didn't do your absolute perfect best, that makes it pretty easy because someone else could have done a lot more work than you did, and then it just boils down to how much work you need to invest. No matter how skilled or intelligent someone is, there is still a lot of work in being exceptional. Some people just have to work harder than others, and sometimes limitations just have be accepted.
Step 5: Moving On
- What will you do differently? What do you need to do to improve your chances of success?
- Is it worth trying to do again?
Note: Not doing it again at all is also an option. Know your limitations.