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How to beat up a bully

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This instructable will give you detailed instructions on how to beat up a bully in most situations.

Now i am definitely small for my age in the respect that their is no person in the year below me
that is shorter than me. This made me an obvious target for seniors to pick on me.

Well i didn't like that because i had a bit of pride so i decided to do something about it.
I would like to share that information with all of you.

The way people act towards bullying varies largely it's disgusting that people can turn a blind eye and even worse "Rockstar" games has developed a game called bully where you in a simulated environment beat up geeks and authority figures. This is the worst kind of game violence there is, it's not as gory as some, sure but the way it is portrayed......



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Step 1: Identifying a bully

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To identify a bully there are some main features to look for. I like to call them the 3 As

Attitude- if someone is very staunch and "im gonna get my way" about things this is an indicator

Actions-Obviously if someone goes around ruffing people up for fun they can't be a good guy.

Anger- If the person tends to get angry at small things and doesn't try to to talk about they are
under this classifications.

And remember don't act rash and lash out as soon as someone annoys you and be sure it's not yourself just overreacting and if any of the "A's" happen after you have provoked the person in any way stop and think why the hell did i do that there just gonna get mad

OK, let me dismantle your entire "arsenal" of moves that you can put on a bully.

Let me first talk about the "headlock-pull". Ok, so the headlock, along with most other standing chokes, is pretty damn easy to maneuver, especially if you're standing up straight right behind them. The Headlock is quite possibly one of the most easily maneuvered holds in general! I can tell you plenty of examples of people escaping from this lock. One example is one time one of my friends, Adrian, who once in middle school got in a big fight with one dude who tried to kill him with this very hold, because he was hanging out with his girlfriend. So, what basically happened was, Adrian walked into the bathroom, and out of the blue, this dude puts him in a headlock, but not for very long, because Adrian started repeatedly elbowing him in the gut until he let go of him and doubled over in pain. Then Adrian grabbed him by the wrist of one arm and slung him face-first into a urinal. He then marched up to him, and placed his palm over the back of his head, holding his face into the urinal for a little bit, just to let him get a good taste of other mens piss, and he eventually took his hand off his head, and he then grabbed him by the wrist of the other arm, opposite to the one that he first grabbed him by to sling him into the urinal, and with his other hand, placed his palm over his chest to lift him up into the air as far as his arm can stretch, and he quickly let go of the hand pushing up on his chest, and yanked his arm down, slamming him face-first into the tile bathroom floor. Then as Adrian tried to leave, the fight wasn't over, because in a last spasm of defense, the kid grabbed Adrian by the ankle as he tried to get out of the bathroom. Adrian then turned around and started repeatedly stomping on his face until he let go, and the kid then laid his face flat on the floor, but unlucky for him, Adrian wasn't finished. He got ontop of the kids back and he just started wailing on him, landing as many punches, left and right, as possible to the back of his head until his arms eventually gave up on him, and he finally left him to whimper in defeat (and also in a pool of his own blood). But hell, even if you're not strong enough to double your opponent over with elbow strikes to his gut, there are still a number of maneuvers that you can use to get out of this hold easily. But let's just say that your bully is either too stupid to know of how to easily get out of a one arm headlock or you just did it so quick that he didn't have enough time to get out of the hold. So what now? He falls ontop of you, and now you're the one who is in pain. And plus, how are you going to get up first if you're the one laying underneath him? But even if you DID manage to do all three steps (put him in the lock, lift your weight, causing him to fall down ontop of you, and get out from beneath him), putting your foot gently on his neck is not necessarily a good way to end the fight. This is most likely where the fight begins! He'll grab you by the foot that you have atop his neck, and he'll twist it, causing you to fall, and he'll then get up, and he'll position himself to either lock you in a boston crab, or some other wrestling move, or he'll simply just make you fall over and get up, then beat the shit out of you. The "headlock-pull" isn't exactly my idea of taking down anybody, let alone a bully. Some better locks or chokes that you can put a person in, would either be Gogoplata or the Koji Clutch. I would recommend the Gogoplata more, because with the Koji Clutch, the person could easily push your leg that is infront of their neck forward, and eventually release the grip. The Gogoplata however, is in my opinion, the best choke there is. Now, while most people will say "no, no, it's the Triangle/Arm Triangle Choke!" Well, the main problem with the Triangle choke, is because your crotch is basically right infront of their face. All a person has to do is bite your balls, and that'll definitely make you release the choke. As for the Arm Triangle Choke, same thing with the headlock, your both standing, and only one arm is being controlled, while the other arm is open for defense. As with the Gogoplata, your balls are pretty much out of reach for your opponent, and plus it's really tedious to escape, making it the ideal choke to put your aggressor in. However, even the Gogoplata I wouldn't recommend because it is a choke, and choking someone could land you in some serious trouble. Safer wrestling moves that I would recommend would be the crippler crossface. For a link on how to do this, I would recommend checking out this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2SNQqLwzZo. One time I actually locked the crossface on my cousin Larry when we were wrestling, and after losing SO MANY TIMES, I eventually won the wrestling match. The main reason I lost so many matches against him, was mainly due to him locking the boston crab on me so many times, but I eventually made a major comeback with this move. If it worked on my cousin (who was one big dude), I should definitely work on a bully. Plus, since you're not choking your bully with this hold, therefore you can't get in any serious trouble. I recommend the crippler crossface over the gogoplata or anything else really.

On an additional note, I would also like to add some of the other upsides to the crossface. One major advantage of this move, is that it is not at all easy to maneuver, as your opponent's face is locked, and they can barely see anything for one, two is that one of their arms are locked with both legs, and they're on the ground and the person doing the crossface is laying on the recipients back sideways, and it's really difficult to get the person who is doing the crossface off of you. While this move may be applying a good deal of strain and pressure on the neck vertebrae, however that isn't much of a problem, since the neck can't break like a toothpick. The neck is built really strong, however applying pressure to it does cause a great deal of pain. The only thing I wouldn't recommend with this move, is to clasp your hands infront of your opponent's mouth, as they could potentially bite you, and have you release the hold just like that. And a good point that GreenAlmond pointed out, is that when you attack someone from behind, that could be considered an "unprovoked attack". However, depending on how you got the person in the crossface, in some circumstances it can't really be considered an "unprovoked attack", because sometimes you can bring them down first and then do it, while with the headlock, you're gonna have to walk up behind your opponent and do it. That's another good reason why I prefer the crossface over the headlock (or the headlock-PULL for that matter).

mumto25 years ago
Just wanted to say thank you for your posting. My two boys had a lifetime of being bullied in school. No one ever did anything, you can complain about it, but this seemed to make things far worse. They suffered injuries, humiliations, torn clothes, stolen items, the list is just about endless. It has caused low self esteem, and just about no confidence. this is because, the schools here have this unwritten policy the person being bullied is not allowed to defend themselves or they find themselves in detention. We think bullies are evil and losers. it's not just kids, teachers can be bullies too. In my eyes, if they don't stop the bullies when the kids are not allowed to defend themselves, then the school (s) is condoning the abuse. And no...my children are not bullies. never have been.
im having the same thing happen to me and the school system wont help me and they say QUOTEwe have a no bulling policyUN QUOTE. some guy punced me in the face and it took 5 days and my mom going up there and yelling at them to do anything and he got 1 day suspention. and now im known as a rat. trust me once they get into highschool it turns into knfe fights broken noses and getting a call from school that youre kid is in the hospital you need to take care of it before it turns into that.
It is horrific what happens in school. I know how that feels. I have been in that situation with my boys trying to resolve abuse issues at school.
It is like talking to a brick wall though. The school and staff just don't care.
oh yes, the no bullying policy works well doesn't it. (not)
I would just like to say you are not a rat. or anything else that the bullies at school say. The best thing you can do is be the best you can be and then some. be top of your classes, work hard, and pass all of your exams at school. I know this is easier said than done when one is constantly bullied in and out of the classroom and no one does anything about it. with the in classroom bullies that the teacher ignores and does nothing about; ignore them too. Try not to rise to their baiting. that is why bullies continually bully especially in class, if they get the attention they so badly crave, they will continue to assault and be a nuisance, and they up the stakes. They are not worth your time or any effort on your part. I used to tell my boys this. My eldest got through school and graduated. My youngest - I witnessed him being horrifically beaten last year. There was a teacher present who did nothing, the school did nothing. I took my son to the front office and demanded to see the principal. That request was denied and a deputy took over who also did nothing. in fact, my son was suspended for 3 days for DEFENDING HIMSELF. I saw this boy jump my son just inside the school gate as my son was leaving he came up behind my son and jumped him, began beating him around his head and face. The reason? because my son said no to fighting him. my son's head and face was badly bruised and swollen, bleeding from his eyes, nose and mouth.
I wrote to the member of parliament, I wrote to the education department, I wrote to the newspaper, I wrote to the school. The response? silence.
except for a recent phone call asking why my son was no longer in school.
My son, 16, an 'A' student who wanted to be a vet. refused to return to school because of all the daily abuse. Issue resolved? no of course not.
it never will be. teachers here think they are above the law and do as they wish.
I have a policy with my kids that was handed down to me from my father. "You are not a punching bag. If someone wants to fight, never swing first. Always hit back at least twice as hard and twice as brutal. As long as you didn't start it, you're not in trouble." As for people saying not to sink to their level and show some maturity and do nothing, Human beings are animals on a base level. It is survival of the fittest. The weak get culled from the herd. If your kid does not respond violence with violence, they are from that point forward a target. As for the school, they are going to suspend or otherwise discipline your kid. They are right for doing so because two wrongs don't make it right. Therefore it is up to you to do what my dad did for me, when they get suspended for defending themselves... take them fishing.
i like that.... its wrong to punish the one who is only defending themselves but they are going to do it anyway. We as parents have to fight for our kids rights at the same time as following the rules of schools even if we thino they are wrong. If my son were sent home for defending himself i would do the same as your father and take him fishing or somewhere of the like :) and all the while fight with the schools rules. And blike you ajd your father..i have told my kids to not hit first and as long as they didn't then they are not the blame. what it all comes down to is the parents.. you raise your kids right and they don't become bullies and if 5hey do,well then maybe you were one yourself or still are.
it didnt happen to me but a friend he got his face pushed into a fence so hard that he now has squar scares on his face and i went to a privet shcool for awhile i got hit with a 1/2in peice of emt pipe that a 7th grader pulled out of the groung i dont know why it was there (now im in 7th grade)and i got in troubel becuse i "provoked them" then i got hit with a aluminum base ball bat ant they got 10 minuts out from lunch
sue for harassment and assalt that will put the pesron in jail and fine the schools. once they start losing money they will listen. get a lawyer and tell him what has been goin on
in an ideal world where good should triumph over evil...yes. even the police tell you it is not worth suing because the person more than likely will not be convicted or put in jail, Getting a restraining order also takes a long time. I tried to have a boy who assaulted my son charged by the police. This boy was an ex student who trepassed onto the school grounds. My son did not defend himself, he just stood there and took it, as per school policy. all the kids just stood and watched and did nothing to help, again, apparently school policy. Though as witnesses they were not even listened to by the school. you help - you get suspended. you defend - you get suspended. Bullies are pampered , and protected. The school did nothing about the ex student who trepassed, and I was told it wasn't worth trying to take it further because no positive end would come of it. we live in a sick and twisted world with bizarre laws that protect those who do wrong. I was also told that the school was the one who had to report the incident to the police, not the parent because it was a trespass with assault. The school told me it was up to the parent to pursue the matter and nothing to do with them. A lot of 'passing the buck' and no care no responsibility. Of course nothing was done, the school apparently because of confidentialty could not release details of ex student, therefore we did not know enough - only the ex student's first name. For all the abuse my children have suffered at school by the hands of teachers and students. There will be no forgiveness. That is the only avenue open. If on the off chance, a bully suddenly gets a conscience, and decides to say 'sorry' . Their apology will never be accepted. One day their karma will bite them on their backside.
My son left school because he had enough of what kept happening every day, in and out of the classroom. Australia is bad too with bullying in schools. No one should have to be forced to tolerate any form of abuse anywhere. It is sickening. I hope all works out positively for you. Bullies are disgusting; and cowards.
The way you take care of bully's is to take about 4 or 5 people who have been victimnized and waylay the creep and let the victims get him enrolled into the 2X4 club and when is all said and done make sure he is aware that you know where he lives
fight violence with violence...doesn't really resolve anything does it? Makes matters worse in a way. We have a bizarre system that protects bullies - and no matter how many lies they tell; they are always believed. Something does need to change.
hell ya it dose i tell you i wish i had a cattel prod some thimes
not worth it to lower yourself to the bullie's sewer standards. You're better than that. :-) The system needs to reverse and become a protectorate of victims. It is sickening this problem is world wide.
umm???? if you say so ?????
:-)
also im from cali
let me guess...america?
Wyle_E mumto25 years ago
Too damn many teachers and school administrators regard bullies as their unofficial assistants in making sure that any square pegs are pounded into the round holes that the system assigns them to. Why else would they turn a blind eye to bullying and yet be so quick to stomp on any victim who fights back?
mumto2 Wyle_E5 years ago
That is so true. Over the years I have seen such a lot of negative things occur in schools. Seen to many kids made so desperately miserable. no matter what one tries to do, to resolve any issues, you do get stomped on. recently, my son was beaten up at school, by an ex student who entered the grounds. my son had facial injuries. he stood there and took it while others looked on and did nothing. he did not defend himself as per school policy he went straight to the office after this ex student ran off, with another boy who was also treated to this ex students 'wonderful personality'. the manager of the school decided his phone call was more important than my son. it took three days before someone listened to my son about what happened...well they didn't listen because they did not do a thing about it. apparently, even ex students are allowed to enter the school grounds and do what they wish. my son and I went to the police - but the school was unco-operative and would not give out any information. they said there was nothing they could do. even tried to make out it was my son's fault despite all the witnesses who said the ex student came onto the school grounds and made a beeline for my son. The school did not like it when we went to the police and since that time my son has been treated even more badly. talking to someone at the school, they eat their meal and talk to you with their mouth full, over the phone too. they take other calls, and talk to other people. showing the parent that they are seriously not at all interested in a child who is being beaten.
mortso mumto25 years ago
Once in first grade a teacher slammed my head against the wall and gave me a whopping goose egg. My Mom went to school, walked into the teachers' room, bent over and yelled at the top of her lungs, "if you EVER Touch my child again, I'll bury you in the baseball field". She then turned and walked out of the teachers' office and to the principal, handing him a Lawyer's card and saying she was prepared to sue the school for child abuse... Sometimes MOM's need to have a little courage too, Maam. Sometimes MOM's need to do the fighting!
mumto2 mortso5 years ago
have done plenty of 'fighting' for the right for all kids, not just my boys, to go to school in a safe environment without the fear of being abused. it has never done any good. I can only hope that one day, all the bullies and the teachers who condoned it all will get their karma.
mortso mumto25 years ago
Sorry to be accusative. It really makes me angry that after the feminist movement of the 60-80's defending oneself has become "bullying" in the eyes of those who ought to be on the side of Right. All male character was made out to be bad, including the God (or Godess) given right to defend one's honor, rights and right to a fear free existence. My Dad always taught me never to start a fight, but to make damn sure it was finished when somebody else did. Police today insist that when a burglar comes into your home and assaults you that YOU go to jail for defending yourself if in any way the perpetrator gets—God forbid— INJURED. This is an utterly insane society. Fighting is "BAD" While Daddy watches Pro Wrestling on TV, a sport with utterly NO good, honor, decency, or value to a society obsessed with violence, guns and sex. Defending oneself involves walking a fine line between the LAW, the basic Human Right of waking fear free, and the Honor and Virtue of being a Man or Woman of confidence, power and assurance. It is my RIGHT to exist without fear. I will defend it with my fists, my life and my means. So should we all, and when one is being bullied it reflects not only on the Bully, but everyone who stands idly by: Edmond Burke I believe said: "All that is necessary for Evil to Triumph is for Good Men to do Nothing."
mumto2 mortso5 years ago
does not sound accusative. Yes, I quite agree. I don't see how defending oneself can be seen as bullying. Quite ludicrous. Yes, that is the same here, if a burglar breaks in and injures themself they can sue you and get away with it. Also same, if burglar breaks in and assaults you, and you defend yourself - you are the one who gets arrested etc. It is totally ludicrous. I agree with you. society is insane. It is the same with the other laws such as if someone hits you with a club you are only allowed to retaliate with a club. if you use a gun then it is considered undue force and you are the one who gets jailed. it is totally mental. I agree with that too. There are a lot of double standards in society. I can't stand seeing fighting on tv - boxing, wrestling. I don't agree with letting kids or teens see it either. I have suffered a lot of abuse in my lifetime. Not just my boys in school, no one does anything about that either no matter how hard one tries to get something done. Re the basic human right. Well, that is something schools have removed from the students. (except the bullies whom they hold in high regard) It seems to with all the ludicrous laws that people have also not the basic right to defend themselves against an attacker in and out of their home. It would be good to stamp out evil. That is not going to happen though when the powers that be, prevent it. most apt phrase too.
Hmmm,m mumto21 year ago
Sorry to be concerned is your son ok now . It annoys me bullies in you area get awaywith it . In England it's alright but I have flawed some bullies but I have a great reputation with teachers and they understand me ( I have anger management) so I am less told off .
WWE Wrestling is just acting.
the bullying situation at my school is bad
the 2 bigest bullies wanted me to fight them on the last day of school
also, Look Over There, wwe is fake but my friend wanted to play. i thought he ment fake wrestle but HE NEARLY KILLED ME! his friend nearly busted my gut and i got so mad that i made him cry by puting his foot over his sholder and his dik was bleeding. i want to control myself more.
Wrestling is not acting, it's demanding physical vaudeville and unless you're VERY WELL trained you can really get hurt or hurt someone. The best "Anti-Bully" medicine I know of is Martial Arts... if you know your own confidence level and are comfortable in your shoes very few Bullies will try to hurt you. It's not about bravado, it's about confidence and choosing the path of non violence firstly. A good Sensei will teach you not only how to defend, but to avoid conflict in the first place. Ever notice how the "tough guys' alway go for smaller people? It's because at the root of their aggression is fear; Fear of being really hurt or outed as a Coward. TRULY TOUGH people do not advertise it, nor do they choose a fight, but when one is unavoidable, they do only the level of violence necessary to stop the aggressor, anything more is ASSAULT AND BATTERY. Schools would do well to institute Martial Arts programs, esp. Judo, Aikido, Traditional Karate and Kung Fu... and for the staff and teachers to be so trained themselves as to be unafraid of larger students. Do not hate yourself for being "bully fodder" you can change and make a huge difference in your confidence and attitude, which if confident, compassionate and fair WOMEN WILL LOVE!! WORD !
mumto2 mortso5 years ago
I seriously hope that teacher was not only sacked, but also sued. It seems things are vastly different here. If any parent had gone to the school and said that to a teacher; they would have been arrested, and banned from school grounds, and things would have been much worse for their children too. teachers feel they are above the law. indeed, they have the government coffers at their fingertips and would not have to pay for any legal costs. I have plenty of courage. :-) I spent years as I have mentioned before beating my head against a brick wall trying to get something done so all kids could go to school in a safe environment. no one cares though. In a lot of cases, it made things a lot worse for my son. Especially with the 20 hours compulsory volunteer work all students from year 10 - 11 - and 12 have to do. Have no problem with volunteer work. The school would not let the kids choose where they wanted to volunteer. It had to be what they said. Where they said. How they said. Questioning that and even writing to a member of parliament about it only made matters worse for my son. The school continually refused to approve my son's choice of volunteer work. As he wished to be a Vet, he chose to volunteer working with animals. The school said no. They have ruined his life. They gave him knitting and crocheting for refugees instead. He can't knit or crochet. I questioned that too. It is all so ludicrous. teaching is a vocation. A calling. Some are there only for the holidays, roster days off, early closings, and the hefty salary.
I am very sickened to hear this. After reading your entire post I realized if your son would have fought back, he would probably been suspended, or expelled. I can't believe how corrupt schools are getting these days. Nobody will go out of their way to help another, including even some of the teachers. I am not saying everyone won't., but I too have experienced what your son is going through. Just stick with your friends, and don't be brought down.
on the odd occasions he has stood up for himself; when he has totally had enough of all that happens, that is what has happened. Talking to the school about an unjust detention; well...you get more satisfaction from talking to a brick wall. The police say you are allowed to defend yourself. Yet, in school you are not allowed to. I have told the police what the school policy is; even though it is unwritten. They gave me the above answer. It is heartbreaking the amount of kids that are bullied in school. Not just my boys. It has, over the years worn away at us. Knowing when you drop your children to school; and worrying what sort of abuse are they going to be subject to that day. The school does not care. There is no thought at all to put a stop to it. Teachers can make or break a child. Seems they are quite adept at breaking them. Teachers get so much. high pay, 12 weeks a year holidays, roster days off, early closings, and only a 6 hour day, with a 30-40 minute lunch break, and two recess breaks. They want more and more. Nothing is ever for the children. The good teachers - the ones that are really there for the kids, never last. They are ousted at the first opportunity. School holidays are bliss, something we immensely look forward to. Safe haven. A break from abuse. It was once mentioned to my son that he would make a great teacher - he is very good at helping others who struggle with their work. My son said he would never be a teacher because they are bullies, with only one or two who are good, and since when do teachers help. I have some contempt towards schools and the way they are. I cringe when I think of all the children only just beginning school, and the horrors that lay before them as they rise through the years. And to think I used to be an enthusiastic mum with all positive thoughts.
iglo1234 mumto25 years ago
im just curious about something, in what state and school district is this school in. and i hope someone does something about it and that he should not be discourage in becoming a teacher because not all teachers are bullies all the teachers i have are very concerned about bullying at my school and they do everything that they can to stop it.
mumto2 iglo12345 years ago
Too late for that. my son wants nothing to do with becoming a teacher, let alone ever entering a school again. nice to read you are one of the fortunate ones who have good teachers who care.
iglo1234 mumto25 years ago
im glad i do have teachers that care but ive seen teachers that just hate certain students and i see that as being a horribel thing to do
mumto2 iglo12345 years ago
Yes, that happens a lot. it seems to be mainly the female teachers who get a case of the hates on against students. They have no right to behave in this way. Teachers can make or break a child. They do a lot of breaking. It is wrong. It makes a lot of difference when a child has a good teacher. Their self esteem, their grades, their confidence all rise. A bad teacher causes a lot of damage. So do bullies. both my boys have been on the receiving end of teacher hate. I could write a thick book on all the abuse.
lobo_pal Wyle_E5 years ago
Same thing, this one jerk at my old school always gave my crap, I wanted to beat him until he was unconscious, and could have too, but I was afraid of getting expelled. I transfered to a different school the year after. Still wish I'd punched his smart mouth in.
mumto2 lobo_pal5 years ago
Glad you did not. you would have lowered yourself to his gutter trash standard. you are better than that. you showed great maturity in not doing so. glad you are in a different school now, and I hope things are much better for you.
lobo_pal mumto25 years ago
Well, it was my first time in public school, in high school. I always regretted not doing something about it. At my new school where I am now a senior, I had another bully in my wood shop class, he tried to make bully me and my two friends, but I wouldn't let him, I just ignored what he said and made fun of him. I still hate that I missed an opportunity to nail him in the face as self defense.
mumto2 lobo_pal5 years ago
It never ends. There are disgusting little bullies everywhere. :-) you handled that rather well. You should be proud of yourself you did not resort to his level. You never know if the bully is on an extra short fuse and will start a fight over anything. Here, in school, if one is verbally abused only, and retaliates with physical defense, you get suspended. If one is verbally abused and retaliates in kind, and the bully is the type to go and whine to a teacher who condones what bullies do, then you get suspended too. Here, defending yourself from physical abuse in school gets you suspended, while nothing happens to the bullies. bullies are foul beings. every success to you in your senior year. May you pass all with distinction. That is the best way of handling a bully.
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