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This instructable will give you detailed instructions on how to beat up a bully in most situations.

Now i am definitely small for my age in the respect that their is no person in the year below me
that is shorter than me. This made me an obvious target for seniors to pick on me.

Well i didn't like that because i had a bit of pride so i decided to do something about it.
I would like to share that information with all of you.

The way people act towards bullying varies largely it's disgusting that people can turn a blind eye and even worse "Rockstar" games has developed a game called bully where you in a simulated environment beat up geeks and authority figures. This is the worst kind of game violence there is, it's not as gory as some, sure but the way it is portrayed......



*******Update 25 april Update*****************
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Step 1: Identifying a bully

To identify a bully there are some main features to look for. I like to call them the 3 As

Attitude- if someone is very staunch and "im gonna get my way" about things this is an indicator

Actions-Obviously if someone goes around ruffing people up for fun they can't be a good guy.

Anger- If the person tends to get angry at small things and doesn't try to to talk about they are
under this classifications.

And remember don't act rash and lash out as soon as someone annoys you and be sure it's not yourself just overreacting and if any of the "A's" happen after you have provoked the person in any way stop and think why the hell did i do that there just gonna get mad

Just wanted to say thank you for your posting. My two boys had a lifetime of being bullied in school. No one ever did anything, you can complain about it, but this seemed to make things far worse. They suffered injuries, humiliations, torn clothes, stolen items, the list is just about endless. It has caused low self esteem, and just about no confidence. this is because, the schools here have this unwritten policy the person being bullied is not allowed to defend themselves or they find themselves in detention. We think bullies are evil and losers. it's not just kids, teachers can be bullies too. In my eyes, if they don't stop the bullies when the kids are not allowed to defend themselves, then the school (s) is condoning the abuse. And no...my children are not bullies. never have been.
Too damn many teachers and school administrators regard bullies as their unofficial assistants in making sure that any square pegs are pounded into the round holes that the system assigns them to. Why else would they turn a blind eye to bullying and yet be so quick to stomp on any victim who fights back?
That is so true. Over the years I have seen such a lot of negative things occur in schools. Seen to many kids made so desperately miserable. no matter what one tries to do, to resolve any issues, you do get stomped on. recently, my son was beaten up at school, by an ex student who entered the grounds. my son had facial injuries. he stood there and took it while others looked on and did nothing. he did not defend himself as per school policy he went straight to the office after this ex student ran off, with another boy who was also treated to this ex students 'wonderful personality'. the manager of the school decided his phone call was more important than my son. it took three days before someone listened to my son about what happened...well they didn't listen because they did not do a thing about it. apparently, even ex students are allowed to enter the school grounds and do what they wish. my son and I went to the police - but the school was unco-operative and would not give out any information. they said there was nothing they could do. even tried to make out it was my son's fault despite all the witnesses who said the ex student came onto the school grounds and made a beeline for my son. The school did not like it when we went to the police and since that time my son has been treated even more badly. talking to someone at the school, they eat their meal and talk to you with their mouth full, over the phone too. they take other calls, and talk to other people. showing the parent that they are seriously not at all interested in a child who is being beaten.
Once in first grade a teacher slammed my head against the wall and gave me a whopping goose egg. My Mom went to school, walked into the teachers' room, bent over and yelled at the top of her lungs, "if you EVER Touch my child again, I'll bury you in the baseball field". She then turned and walked out of the teachers' office and to the principal, handing him a Lawyer's card and saying she was prepared to sue the school for child abuse... Sometimes MOM's need to have a little courage too, Maam. Sometimes MOM's need to do the fighting!
have done plenty of 'fighting' for the right for all kids, not just my boys, to go to school in a safe environment without the fear of being abused. it has never done any good. I can only hope that one day, all the bullies and the teachers who condoned it all will get their karma.
Sorry to be accusative. It really makes me angry that after the feminist movement of the 60-80's defending oneself has become "bullying" in the eyes of those who ought to be on the side of Right. All male character was made out to be bad, including the God (or Godess) given right to defend one's honor, rights and right to a fear free existence. My Dad always taught me never to start a fight, but to make damn sure it was finished when somebody else did. Police today insist that when a burglar comes into your home and assaults you that YOU go to jail for defending yourself if in any way the perpetrator gets—God forbid— INJURED. This is an utterly insane society. Fighting is "BAD" While Daddy watches Pro Wrestling on TV, a sport with utterly NO good, honor, decency, or value to a society obsessed with violence, guns and sex. Defending oneself involves walking a fine line between the LAW, the basic Human Right of waking fear free, and the Honor and Virtue of being a Man or Woman of confidence, power and assurance. It is my RIGHT to exist without fear. I will defend it with my fists, my life and my means. So should we all, and when one is being bullied it reflects not only on the Bully, but everyone who stands idly by: Edmond Burke I believe said: "All that is necessary for Evil to Triumph is for Good Men to do Nothing."
<p>Edmund Burke was one of the philosophers that I learnt about in high school this year grade 12 and according to my teacher, the information matches. Also there were other philosophers besides Burke that wanted mankind to be free without harming others etc. There was Rousseau who believed specifically in the concept of Man being born free and are allowed to do anything they wish as long as they do not harm anyone in the process. Which is how the Rule of Law comes into play. The govt made such laws and when such a situation comes to hand such as bullying, the bullies are protected and the victims are seen as the ones in fault!Its like everything in the world has been overturned!No wonder God made the Flood and Noah's Ark happen becuz of how mankind turned so evil in a blink of an eye.We have to do something to stop them.We cannot and i mean CANNOT let bullying continue and let victims be falsely seen as the bad guys! I have been trolled in real life and in online games and i have been blamed for stuff i did not even do.Some people see that I am being targeted and try to help me.But others are stubborn and defend the bully!How much more ridiculous can this world get!</p>
does not sound accusative. Yes, I quite agree. I don't see how defending oneself can be seen as bullying. Quite ludicrous. Yes, that is the same here, if a burglar breaks in and injures themself they can sue you and get away with it. Also same, if burglar breaks in and assaults you, and you defend yourself - you are the one who gets arrested etc. It is totally ludicrous. I agree with you. society is insane. It is the same with the other laws such as if someone hits you with a club you are only allowed to retaliate with a club. if you use a gun then it is considered undue force and you are the one who gets jailed. it is totally mental. I agree with that too. There are a lot of double standards in society. I can't stand seeing fighting on tv - boxing, wrestling. I don't agree with letting kids or teens see it either. I have suffered a lot of abuse in my lifetime. Not just my boys in school, no one does anything about that either no matter how hard one tries to get something done. Re the basic human right. Well, that is something schools have removed from the students. (except the bullies whom they hold in high regard) It seems to with all the ludicrous laws that people have also not the basic right to defend themselves against an attacker in and out of their home. It would be good to stamp out evil. That is not going to happen though when the powers that be, prevent it. most apt phrase too.
Sorry to be concerned is your son ok now . It annoys me bullies in you area get awaywith it . In England it's alright but I have flawed some bullies but I have a great reputation with teachers and they understand me ( I have anger management) so I am less told off .
WWE Wrestling is just acting.
the bullying situation at my school is bad <br>the 2 bigest bullies wanted me to fight them on the last day of school <br>also, Look Over There, wwe is fake but my friend wanted to play. i thought he ment fake wrestle but HE NEARLY KILLED ME! his friend nearly busted my gut and i got so mad that i made him cry by puting his foot over his sholder and his dik was bleeding. i want to control myself more. <br>
Wrestling is not acting, it's demanding physical vaudeville and unless you're VERY WELL trained you can really get hurt or hurt someone. The best &quot;Anti-Bully&quot; medicine I know of is Martial Arts... if you know your own confidence level and are comfortable in your shoes very few Bullies will try to hurt you. It's not about bravado, it's about confidence and choosing the path of non violence firstly. A good Sensei will teach you not only how to defend, but to avoid conflict in the first place. Ever notice how the &quot;tough guys' alway go for smaller people? It's because at the root of their aggression is fear; Fear of being really hurt or outed as a Coward. TRULY TOUGH people do not advertise it, nor do they choose a fight, but when one is unavoidable, they do only the level of violence necessary to stop the aggressor, anything more is ASSAULT AND BATTERY. Schools would do well to institute Martial Arts programs, esp. Judo, Aikido, Traditional Karate and Kung Fu... and for the staff and teachers to be so trained themselves as to be unafraid of larger students. Do not hate yourself for being &quot;bully fodder&quot; you can change and make a huge difference in your confidence and attitude, which if confident, compassionate and fair WOMEN WILL LOVE!! WORD !
<p>Justice will always prevail do not worry. The wicked will be judged by God one day and I'm sure all those who wronged the ones that were innocent and good people will be severely punished!(Now i am more than ever going to become a police man and show those other police that dont care what upholding the law is all about!)</p>
I seriously hope that teacher was not only sacked, but also sued. It seems things are vastly different here. If any parent had gone to the school and said that to a teacher; they would have been arrested, and banned from school grounds, and things would have been much worse for their children too. teachers feel they are above the law. indeed, they have the government coffers at their fingertips and would not have to pay for any legal costs. I have plenty of courage. :-) I spent years as I have mentioned before beating my head against a brick wall trying to get something done so all kids could go to school in a safe environment. no one cares though. In a lot of cases, it made things a lot worse for my son. Especially with the 20 hours compulsory volunteer work all students from year 10 - 11 - and 12 have to do. Have no problem with volunteer work. The school would not let the kids choose where they wanted to volunteer. It had to be what they said. Where they said. How they said. Questioning that and even writing to a member of parliament about it only made matters worse for my son. The school continually refused to approve my son's choice of volunteer work. As he wished to be a Vet, he chose to volunteer working with animals. The school said no. They have ruined his life. They gave him knitting and crocheting for refugees instead. He can't knit or crochet. I questioned that too. It is all so ludicrous. teaching is a vocation. A calling. Some are there only for the holidays, roster days off, early closings, and the hefty salary.
<p>Oh my gosh i cant believe a school would do such a thing!They should be decommissioned by the govt.I mean what kind of school does not protect its students from ex students that can potentially be a threat?That is so ridiculous! If i had attended that school and saw your son being beat up, I would have gone in immediately to defend him no matter the cost.Even if it meant being suspended.Hell i would be glad to be expelled with a reason that people who can pose as a threat is allowed to enter onto school property and do as they wish to innocent students???I would have stood up and beaten that bully up to show that we should protect those that are targeted not the ones that are targeting!I would have also announced publicly that everyone in the school who is a student should not take such abuse and just leave the school to show that they will no longer fear under such horrors!</p>
I am very sickened to hear this. After reading your entire post I realized if your son would have fought back, he would probably been suspended, or expelled. I can't believe how corrupt schools are getting these days. Nobody will go out of their way to help another, including even some of the teachers. I am not saying everyone won't., but I too have experienced what your son is going through. Just stick with your friends, and don't be brought down.
on the odd occasions he has stood up for himself; when he has totally had enough of all that happens, that is what has happened. Talking to the school about an unjust detention; well...you get more satisfaction from talking to a brick wall. The police say you are allowed to defend yourself. Yet, in school you are not allowed to. I have told the police what the school policy is; even though it is unwritten. They gave me the above answer. It is heartbreaking the amount of kids that are bullied in school. Not just my boys. It has, over the years worn away at us. Knowing when you drop your children to school; and worrying what sort of abuse are they going to be subject to that day. The school does not care. There is no thought at all to put a stop to it. Teachers can make or break a child. Seems they are quite adept at breaking them. Teachers get so much. high pay, 12 weeks a year holidays, roster days off, early closings, and only a 6 hour day, with a 30-40 minute lunch break, and two recess breaks. They want more and more. Nothing is ever for the children. The good teachers - the ones that are really there for the kids, never last. They are ousted at the first opportunity. School holidays are bliss, something we immensely look forward to. Safe haven. A break from abuse. It was once mentioned to my son that he would make a great teacher - he is very good at helping others who struggle with their work. My son said he would never be a teacher because they are bullies, with only one or two who are good, and since when do teachers help. I have some contempt towards schools and the way they are. I cringe when I think of all the children only just beginning school, and the horrors that lay before them as they rise through the years. And to think I used to be an enthusiastic mum with all positive thoughts.
im just curious about something, in what state and school district is this school in. and i hope someone does something about it and that he should not be discourage in becoming a teacher because not all teachers are bullies all the teachers i have are very concerned about bullying at my school and they do everything that they can to stop it.
Too late for that. my son wants nothing to do with becoming a teacher, let alone ever entering a school again. nice to read you are one of the fortunate ones who have good teachers who care.
im glad i do have teachers that care but ive seen teachers that just hate certain students and i see that as being a horribel thing to do
Yes, that happens a lot. it seems to be mainly the female teachers who get a case of the hates on against students. They have no right to behave in this way. Teachers can make or break a child. They do a lot of breaking. It is wrong. It makes a lot of difference when a child has a good teacher. Their self esteem, their grades, their confidence all rise. A bad teacher causes a lot of damage. So do bullies. both my boys have been on the receiving end of teacher hate. I could write a thick book on all the abuse.
Same thing, this one jerk at my old school always gave my crap, I wanted to beat him until he was unconscious, and could have too, but I was afraid of getting expelled. I transfered to a different school the year after. Still wish I'd punched his smart mouth in.
Glad you did not. you would have lowered yourself to his gutter trash standard. you are better than that. you showed great maturity in not doing so. glad you are in a different school now, and I hope things are much better for you.
Well, it was my first time in public school, in high school. I always regretted not doing something about it. At my new school where I am now a senior, I had another bully in my wood shop class, he tried to make bully me and my two friends, but I wouldn't let him, I just ignored what he said and made fun of him. I still hate that I missed an opportunity to nail him in the face as self defense.
It never ends. There are disgusting little bullies everywhere. :-) you handled that rather well. You should be proud of yourself you did not resort to his level. You never know if the bully is on an extra short fuse and will start a fight over anything. Here, in school, if one is verbally abused only, and retaliates with physical defense, you get suspended. If one is verbally abused and retaliates in kind, and the bully is the type to go and whine to a teacher who condones what bullies do, then you get suspended too. Here, defending yourself from physical abuse in school gets you suspended, while nothing happens to the bullies. bullies are foul beings. every success to you in your senior year. May you pass all with distinction. That is the best way of handling a bully.
Actually, he stabbed my friend with a moving drill in wood shop, it didn't hurt him or anything, but that would have been a perfect chance for me to take him out and end it, and I could take him to. We never reported it though, because my friend wasn't hurt and didn't want to seem weak.
My son helped his friend once in school. Another boy was beating him, my son stepped in and pulled the boy off of his friend. My son was suspended for helping. His friend was given a warning for fighting, and the bully? a pat on the back. You should have reported what this boy did to your friend. If it had been the other way around, the bully would have gone and acted out to the teacher. claiming their life was in danger, how scared they were, etc. You and your friends are not weak for reporting assaults on your person. Even if you think it is minor, due to no injury - it is still reportable because a moving drill in the wood shop is a deadly weapon. The bully's behaviour was totally inappropriate. Bullies rely on their victims silence. Sure, maybe nothing will be done about it, but you have brought it to the attention of those in charge, no matter how don't carish they are. another thing to do is to keep a diary of all assaults, with times, dates, days. who you reported to, and if anything was done about it. whether things became worse for you afterwards. When you finish school, copy all of this and send it to a member of parliament etc even if nothing gets done.
We tried to get him to report it, but he wouldn't so we used it to bully the bully, we said if he ever reported us for bullying him, we'd have him expelled for it because we recorded the incident. In the end, we ended up making the bully leave the class.
Impressive. Well done. Wish tactics like that worked as well here :-)
Where? I'm in New Mexico, and that worked here.
Australia. Glad it worked for you
My friend is may be moving to Australia, how is the school/bully situation. Mostly, do you need to know how to fight.
horrific. knowing how to fight in self defense, will not only get you into trouble, but also suspended from school if you defend yourself against a bully
What about letting them hit you, and getting evidence.
Won't get you anywhere.
Even video? It's the same here, I was siting on the stairs eating lunch, when people on the ground floor start throwing crap at me. I threw one thing back at them, missed, and got detention. They got nothing.
Even if you ignored the trash on two legs that threw stuff at you, nothing would have been done. Sorry to read you got a detention - it is the same here. As with the outcome of those that throw things..they get nothing except a pat on the back. Does it happen to you in class as well? Happened to my son a lot in class -having things thrown at him. He would tell the teacher who would tell him to ignore it, but as soon as he retaliated, he was jumped on by the teacher and given detention. The brats that threw the stuff? ...nothing at all except a pat on the back. The teachers also did nothing to stop that behaviour in class. Re getting video evidence. I actually broached the subject a few years ago with the school during one of the times I was totally fed up with all the abuse that was happening and nothing as usual being done to resolve it. I was told to gain evidence in such a manner would be considered a breach of privacy. I would have liked to have had evidence of the teacher abusing my son, as with all the bullies doing same. I have also tried resolving the issues by quoting the student rights and responsibilities back at the school. One of them being - no student shall hinder another's learning. Well, those rights and responsibilities are just ink made into 'pretty words' on a sliver of dead tree. Returning to video evidence, I have on many occasions wanted my son to wear a hidden camera on his person that would record the abuse. So I could show it to the school. Getting evidence here, is considered wrong. When kids were recording fights on their mobile phones, it was considered unstable behaviour instead of evidence. The kids that I read about were charged, and suspended.
There was a fight in my woodshop class, and one of the guys caught recording it was taken for using his phone in class. It was worse in my old school, but toughened me enough for my current school, so in a way I'm glad that my old school was bad. But I've found that it's easier to know how to fight, and then fight people after school somewhere. My friend had this guy in his gym class who owed him money, both freshman, so he told the guy to pay him. The guy refused, so my friend hit him with a ball in the face. The other guy attacked and got my friend in a headlock. He got out, put him in a headlock, and then hit him in the face a couple times. The guy went down, and was on the ground crying. The gym teacher saw the whole thing, but never stopped them. I'm not saying it was wrong, cause the guy is a jerk, and probably deserved it. But if my friend couldn't fight, then he just would have been another victim.
I so agree with you. My son said to me only recently, he noticed the bullies seem to get jobs easily too. the school will be helping them there.
im having the same thing happen to me and the school system wont help me and they say QUOTEwe have a no bulling policyUN QUOTE. some guy punced me in the face and it took 5 days and my mom going up there and yelling at them to do anything and he got 1 day suspention. and now im known as a rat. trust me once they get into highschool it turns into knfe fights broken noses and getting a call from school that youre kid is in the hospital you need to take care of it before it turns into that.
It is horrific what happens in school. I know how that feels. I have been in that situation with my boys trying to resolve abuse issues at school. <br/>It is like talking to a brick wall though. The school and staff just don't care.<br/>oh yes, the <em>no bullying policy</em> works well doesn't it. (not) <br/>I would just like to say you are not a rat. or anything else that the bullies at school say. The best thing you can do is be the best you can be and then some. be top of your classes, work hard, and pass all of your exams at school. I know this is easier said than done when one is constantly bullied in and out of the classroom and no one does anything about it. with the in classroom bullies that the teacher ignores and does nothing about; ignore them too. Try not to rise to their baiting. that is why bullies continually bully especially in class, if they get the attention they so badly crave, they will continue to assault and be a nuisance, and they up the stakes. They are not worth your time or any effort on your part. I used to tell my boys this. My eldest got through school and graduated. My youngest - I witnessed him being horrifically beaten last year. There was a teacher present who did nothing, the school did nothing. I took my son to the front office and demanded to see the principal. That request was denied and a deputy took over who also did nothing. in fact, my son was suspended for 3 days for DEFENDING HIMSELF. I saw this boy jump my son just inside the school gate as my son was leaving he came up behind my son and jumped him, began beating him around his head and face. The reason? because my son said no to fighting him. my son's head and face was badly bruised and swollen, bleeding from his eyes, nose and mouth. <br/>I wrote to the member of parliament, I wrote to the education department, I wrote to the newspaper, I wrote to the school. The response? silence. <br/>except for a recent phone call asking why my son was no longer in school.<br/>My son, 16, an 'A' student who wanted to be a vet. refused to return to school because of all the daily abuse. Issue resolved? no of course not. <br/>it never will be. teachers here think they are above the law and do as they wish. <br/>
I have a policy with my kids that was handed down to me from my father. "You are not a punching bag. If someone wants to fight, never swing first. Always hit back at least twice as hard and twice as brutal. As long as you didn't start it, you're not in trouble." As for people saying not to sink to their level and show some maturity and do nothing, Human beings are animals on a base level. It is survival of the fittest. The weak get culled from the herd. If your kid does not respond violence with violence, they are from that point forward a target. As for the school, they are going to suspend or otherwise discipline your kid. They are right for doing so because two wrongs don't make it right. Therefore it is up to you to do what my dad did for me, when they get suspended for defending themselves... take them fishing.
i like that.... its wrong to punish the one who is only defending themselves but they are going to do it anyway. We as parents have to fight for our kids rights at the same time as following the rules of schools even if we thino they are wrong. If my son were sent home for defending himself i would do the same as your father and take him fishing or somewhere of the like :) and all the while fight with the schools rules. And blike you ajd your father..i have told my kids to not hit first and as long as they didn't then they are not the blame. what it all comes down to is the parents.. you raise your kids right and they don't become bullies and if 5hey do,well then maybe you were one yourself or still are.
it didnt happen to me but a friend he got his face pushed into a fence so hard that he now has squar scares on his face and i went to a privet shcool for awhile i got hit with a 1/2in peice of emt pipe that a 7th grader pulled out of the groung i dont know why it was there (now im in 7th grade)and i got in troubel becuse i "provoked them" then i got hit with a aluminum base ball bat ant they got 10 minuts out from lunch
sue for harassment and assalt that will put the pesron in jail and fine the schools. once they start losing money they will listen. get a lawyer and tell him what has been goin on
in an ideal world where good should triumph over evil...yes. even the police tell you it is not worth suing because the person more than likely will not be convicted or put in jail, Getting a restraining order also takes a long time. I tried to have a boy who assaulted my son charged by the police. This boy was an ex student who trepassed onto the school grounds. My son did not defend himself, he just stood there and took it, as per school policy. all the kids just stood and watched and did nothing to help, again, apparently school policy. Though as witnesses they were not even listened to by the school. you help - you get suspended. you defend - you get suspended. Bullies are pampered , and protected. The school did nothing about the ex student who trepassed, and I was told it wasn't worth trying to take it further because no positive end would come of it. we live in a sick and twisted world with bizarre laws that protect those who do wrong. I was also told that the school was the one who had to report the incident to the police, not the parent because it was a trespass with assault. The school told me it was up to the parent to pursue the matter and nothing to do with them. A lot of 'passing the buck' and no care no responsibility. Of course nothing was done, the school apparently because of confidentialty could not release details of ex student, therefore we did not know enough - only the ex student's first name. For all the abuse my children have suffered at school by the hands of teachers and students. There will be no forgiveness. That is the only avenue open. If on the off chance, a bully suddenly gets a conscience, and decides to say 'sorry' . Their apology will never be accepted. One day their karma will bite them on their backside.
My son left school because he had enough of what kept happening every day, in and out of the classroom. Australia is bad too with bullying in schools. No one should have to be forced to tolerate any form of abuse anywhere. It is sickening. I hope all works out positively for you. Bullies are disgusting; and cowards.
The way you take care of bully's is to take about 4 or 5 people who have been victimnized and waylay the creep and let the victims get him enrolled into the 2X4 club and when is all said and done make sure he is aware that you know where he lives
fight violence with violence...doesn't really resolve anything does it? Makes matters worse in a way. We have a bizarre system that protects bullies - and no matter how many lies they tell; they are always believed. Something does need to change.
hell ya it dose i tell you i wish i had a cattel prod some thimes

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