How to beat up a bully

Step 3 Knowing when and where to strike

The best times to strike are when the subject is trying to intimidate you
because then it will not just strike them physically but mentally too.

Now this is the fun bit, I taught myself many different ways of
dealing with bullies and one of my favorites is one of the many ways
i know how to bring people to the ground.

No1, The headlock-pull:

First get your arm around the subjects neck then get behind them and lift
yourself off the ground. This should "off" their balance so they fall back,
Cushion their fall so they don't hurt themselves on the ground
-we want to demonstrate control not hurt them- then put your foot
on their neck without pressure and say firmly- "DO NOT DO THAT AGAIN!"

Comments

[raichufan99]

a guy beat me up so i pushed his leg behind his head made his d**k bleed

[kagenin]

 I understand this is an older 'ible, but I have some concerns with this specific technique on this page.

You say to first wrap an arm around the target's neck and then get behind them.  This can be VERY difficult, especially if you have a size disadvantage.

My suggestion is a little simpler, and (loosely) based on an Aikido principle.

Instead of going for the neck, go for the shoulder from behind.  This tactic would require the element of surprise and an exposed back, but then again, so does yours.

Place both of your hands on your target's shoulders.  Push them forward to disrupt their center of balance, then quickly pull them back into you.  You can optionally kick in the back of one of their legs to throw them off balance as well.  This is a little more dangerous for the target, as you can cause whiplash in their neck, head injury if their head hits the ground as they fall, and you could potentially break their coccyx if they land on that directly instead.

In fourth grade, I was put into a headlock by a kid much taller and heavier than myself (unprovoked).  The only thing I could manage was to bite his arm to get him to release me (and it didn't take long for that to happen).  Attempting a headlock exposes you to that kind of risk.

[alex32145123]

what if the bully is 40 pounds heavier a head at least taller and does wrestling and football yes it sucks

[kotarski]

A simple technique that works for me:
(not really self defence but a good way to get them down)

Go behind them. Simultaneously grab thier shoulders and place your foot horizontally on the back of both thier knees. Push with your foot while pulling back on thier shoulders. They will instantly be on the floor and you will have the upper hand.

[mirw9]

the only problem with that is that the bully im dealing with, if i dont kick his butt , then he is gunna get up and knife me.

[KEYBOARDISBROKEN]

THE ONLY PROBLEM WITH THIS IS IT LEAVES YOU OPEN TO ATTACK BY ANOTHER BULLY (WHO DOES THE SAME THING TO YOU) PERSONAL EXPIERENCE SHOWS THAT THE BEST THING TO DO IS TO DISTRACT THEM WITH YOUR FISTS, THEN KNEE THEM IN THE GROIN -OR JAB YOUR FINGERS IN THEIR EYES

[GreenAlmond]

You'll get sued for that

[GreenAlmond]

I've just got a feeling that the OP is thinking of a different calibre of bullies to what a lot of the readers would be subject to. If you were to be able to attack someone from behind, chances are it would be called an unprovoked attack. Also, if you "Cushion their fall so they don't hurt themselves on the ground", the bully would have the upper hand, and he'd be the one standing on your neck. And the "do not do that again" part might get laughs from some people. And Kagenin (below) knows what he's talking about Just my two cents

[laseray]

I'm sorry, but that technique will not work in many cases. It is more likely to work on someone your own size or smaller. I have taken martial arts myself and was taught techniques to get out of situations like this. All one has to do is go down on one knee and your technique is finished. Then they can easily flip you over. The best thing to do is not fight, by using superior intelligence to make better choices. This might include making yourself less of a target by bulking up doing weights (recommended), assessing situations before you actually walk into them, etc. People will naturally leave you alone if they feel you are too much of a challenge (because bullies are basically just cowards). I have been picked on in the past by others who thought they were in a superior position. Funny thing was when I won the fight they were usually almost crying for me to stop--in complete contradiction to their previous attitude of superiority. So just know that bullies are really losers, that is why they lash out at others (they know deep down that they have little to offer others). Use your superior mind to overcome. Use physical techniques only after using the mind first.

[superone2]

I believe every bully has the same fast set method- size up decide whether to act tough then whether to use hands to hit, scare, get something to hit with, and hit, and threaten.  Most bullies are relatively bigger.  So I don't believe that anything will help you unless you are trained in combat, weekly, kickboxing/boxing and you should also be joining the nra and practicing with your 44 magnum.  that, aside from confidence, will at least let you decide whether to smash his ribs and temple in.  same goes for his friends.  you have to be prepared also to finish the bully off if he breaks and enters your home or tries to stab you.  also, use the outdoor type motion detector beams that are used near driveways, but put them in spots that such bullies think you won't see at night.   last but not least, lets be honest.. the only bullies that matter are the ones tied to the low rungs of the mafia.  just remember, 'made man' means made of out sh...

[XI3]

so you have to go through weeks (or even months) of hard physical labor, all the while the kid is  still f'n with you, just so you might seem like less of a target. + that kid will always mess with you, no matter what you look like, untill you prove that your NOT a target.
sure musles may make other people think that its not worth it, but that one kid will always see you as the weak nerd who wont do anything.

im not saying put him in the hostpital, but a good black eye and bloody nose will set him straight.

i hate to say it, but some people need to get popped in the face once or twice to settle them down. ive seen it with enemies an freinds. my buddy dan used to run around talkin Shit to everyone who looked at  him wierd lol. finally a kid gave him a black eye and bloody lip. he hasnt talked crap to anyone scince :)

[FooL111394]

Very wise.

[duck-lemon]

yes i do martial arts too but i cannot explain those techniques with pictures and reading. and also contrary to popular beliefs (physical) bullies are usually not cowards and only get scared when the get really beat down. And it's not liek all of us can immediately get stronger buy doing weights and such so our best chance is friends and not being afraid to go for vital spots when it really gets down to it .

[kotarski]

I'm sorry I disagree, perhaps in New Zealand bullies are not cowards but here in England they think they are stronger and better than you but really it's all talk and they are weaker than most.

[mross10]

i agree in scotland they're all cowards just acting like they are hard! But i still can't help getting scared when im with this perticular bully. They were in a fight with me a short amount of time ago and i dont know how to defeat them?

[thedragonmaster]

One way I dealt with a bully was when they ball their fists to punch you put you fingers on the knuckle and the jint nearest the nail and press until they show signs of pain. Then tell them if they try it again you'll press even harder. BUT BE CAREFUL IT CAN BREAK THE KNUCKLES! Oh, and its difficult to master, so practice :)

[laseray]

You are wrong about bullies being cowards. They are cowards, regardless of their size. So I do not think you understood my meaning. They only really ever get beat down because they are cowards. A brave person does not ever really give in regardless of the situation. Bullies give in once they are overpowered. It is all psychological. They are mental midgets and that is why they bully in the first place. And like I wrote, that technique of yours is not guaranteed to work all the time. It will only reasonably work on people who are around your own size or smaller. Also, I have been doing weights off and on for many years and it is a fact that you can get immediately stronger by doing them. That is, you can immediately boost your muscular strength by a certain percentage just by doing a session of weights on any particular day. You will not become massive by doing so, but you will be a little stronger. That may be all you need or if you continue with the weights you will build more mass, if you have the patience and determination to do so. Overall, think of long term goals in regard to this situation. That is something that bullies do not consider. Beating up a bully may just result in the bully getting his friends to beat on you more, because the bully is a coward and will resort to any means necessary to be make themself feel superior to others. Beating up a bully, if not considered from all the possible angles, can backfire on you. Use your brain first, that is the ultimate weapon.

[Aleksandr Skotbot]

I think this is just silly. When I was bullied in high school, I didn't waste hours upon hours of my precious time to lift weights. I think muscle is ugly. Instead I took Ninjutsu, and quickly learned that the best fighters in the dojo were small and agile; and that those who fought in the styles of wind and water always ended on top. In my opinion, if you've taken your opponent to the ground, you've won.

[ggjcsdgiv]

don't kiss him he look's like a monkey!

[Mr.F]

I had a friend who was ALOT bigger and stronger than me and when people messed with me, he made them hurt. Bullies soon left me alone but I don't think I got alot of respect for it. I've never been to prison but high school is what I imagine prison would be like in many ways...

[bowakowa]

In the interest of fairness, I have to say that technique will work if applied properly in the right circumstances. It is very effective at allowing a smaller opponent to use leverage to bring a larger opponent to the ground, usually onto their face, where elbows can be applied to the back of the head. The caveat is as already stated, it needs proper training and practice to be effective. So in a sense, you are both correct.

[Versii]

I am not very big either. There are three main body types, Ectomorph(me) skinny, small shouldered, and very difficult to gain muscle. mesomorph-builds muscle with little trouble endomorphs-basically john goodman. Some of us cannot gain muscle, it just doesn't work. It doesn't mean we can't beat the crap out of somebody(which I have) but sometimes its the fear that you instill in others because they thought you looked like an easy target. sheer muscle mass doesn't guarantee anything. Sure, you probably won't do as good if you are very out of shape. You do need to fight with your mind as well. I found that name calling, and pulling things from deep in a bully's childhood works great. They get very upset, and stop thinking, or they run in fear(it was funny) Anyways..It takes many different factors to stay away from bullies. I am known for being a sleeper, if you will, and whomping on those who have a problem with me.

[Ibanezguy]

I fall into the ectomorph category. :(

[mumto2]

That is what I taught my children.
*use your brain*

[ekulmeekul]

if you beat the bully up far enough their friends shouldn't come after you. eg, you put them in hospital

[the_mad_man]

i used to get bullied so much when i was in primary school, i remember in year 6 (im year 9 now) i was so pissed off with the guy, i was seriously trying to pull my scissors apart and KILL HIM. i still wish i did.

[duck-lemon]

yes but what if you are smaller than them, (and most people who have to deal with them are.)

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[duck-lemon]

Tae Kwon-DO, i'm a green belt with a double grading to be proud of. i'm one of the six people in my country (new zealand) to get one!

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[Mr.Clodex]

Black belt getting first strip or dan soon... =)

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[lexrunner]

no no, you break an elbow (put your knee on the back of it and pull up). He will stay down. if not, do the other one

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[the_mad_man]

get him on the ground and knee drop him in the back of the head (pref. on a curb)

[laseray]

In that case, you are not thinking much. Too much reaction and not enough reflection. If you are not prepared for the unexpected then you only have yourself to blame. That is what great martial artist do, they are prepared. They train with weights (read up on Bruce Lee's training regime) and do Kata, meditate, and many other things. They get prepared before there is ever a need. That is a mental stance that is long term.

[kagenin]

 "Fortune favors the prepared mind."

[butterflycookies]

thankx that helps dawg!

[cheesebum]

pfft! I use my own methods I am 12 3/4 years old and in school there was a kid named hayden.. most popular,jockey, kinda good lookin(well alot). He necessarily wasn't a bully. Just a !JERK!. in music class (6th grade, 3 period) he randemly tried to sock my.... areas. he weighs around 110 pounds i dodged and then he tried to punch but i had a adrenaline rush and litterally picked him up and threw him... he hasnt messed with me since and im pretty popular(like i really care =P)

[Kryptonite]

While doing this, chances are if they're half ready for it & they're taller than you then they'll stay upright, kick them in the back of their knees while doing this & you'll get a deffinite tip over.