How to confront a boss in a manner that will benefit you.

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Don’t let a bad boss get the best of you.

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Step 1: ​Put it in perspective.

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Pin point what your supervisor is doing that is standing in the way of the outcome you are looking for.

It could be:

· Not following through on commitments (perhaps with pay increases or promotions) ·

Failure to treat you with respect ·

Lack of defined job duties ·

Unrealistic expectations

Step 2: Create a three part statement

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Part one: Set it up

Based on the promises made to me when I accepted this position, I understood that there would be room for upward mobility with respect to both responsibility and pay.

Part two: The soft transition

It could very well be that the opportunity is there and I am simply not seeing it.

Part three: Make them bite

So I am not coming to you because I am expecting a promotion. I am just looking for a little clarity so I know what you need from me in order to progress as we discussed when I was looking at the position.

The key to making them bite is to ask for an explanation rather than an outcome.

How do we get to _________?


I want _______________.

Step 3: Memorize your statement

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You must know this statement inside and out.

Practice it daily for at least a week before you actually confront your supervisor. Aside from helping you say what you want to say this gives you a chance to make sure you are really getting to the heart of the problem.

Step 4: Schedule a time to say your statement

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Realize that you are asking something of your supervisor. If you need feedback then you also need time. Set up a time in the same manner you would ask for five minutes if you wanted to talk about something positive. Be prepared to take notes in case they are ready on the spot.

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