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Flirting is making a friendly conversation. People associate flirting as a girl thing, but there are plenty of men who use it as a way to win a girl over. There is no such thing as being overly flirty, it comes naturally to people. There really is no way to teach someone how to flirt, but I can give you some tips on how to flirt and win them over. Flirting can be fun and easy!
 
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Step 1: Look Approachable

You want to look nice. Not overly dressed, or looking like you just came from a dumpster. Relax, smile, and use your body language. Now, when I say use your body language, do not go huddle in a corner by yourself, so that cute girl/guy will come give you empathy. Instead, give them a nice flashy smile, or if you are braver, a tiny wink. Show them that you are comfortable and confident. Otherwise, you are not going to get anywhere!

Step 2: Read Body Language

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Take a look at them. Are they approachable? Do they seem interested? If they are the one staring shyly at people, or are alone in a corner, then they are not the one to approach. Take it slow, and read them carefully. DO NOT STARE. That is a good way to prove that you probably are a stalker. Just smile with your eyes.
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Subvert7 years ago
More tips: -- Confidence, confidence, confidence. Someone could probably write a book on this topic alone when it comes to human interactions. I'll leave it alone for you to think about or research on your own. -- Interact with their friends, male or female. You'll look less like a jerk, and their friends will have a positive vibe when they talk about you later. -- Don't get dejected when your first approach with the person you're interested in doesn't go well. Sometimes it takes time to convince someone you're worth talking to, or even safe. The second part of this tip is that when you feel dejected, you look dejected. This will impact your approaches to both that person, and any future people you try to meet. -- Don't fear the same sex (or rather the sex that you AREN'T attracted to). If you fear or disrespect people, it'll show, and people will decide they don't like you. Include males standing nearby in certain conversations when you're really interested in the female. You'll show that you aren't threatened by them. Maybe you'll make a new acquaintance or friend that you weren't looking for. -- Don't hide your intentions. People can get spooked even if they don't realize it. I guess what I'm looking for with this comment is a way to keep the person you're talking to appropriately calm? Surprise and excitement can be good, but only when you're trying for that intentionally. -- You mentioned not being distracted by what's going on around you... I'd supplement that with the suggestion to be AWARE of what's going on around you. Something might happen nearby that triggers conversation. It also keeps yourself safe, and maybe make the person you're talking to feel protected. -- Practice. You'll get better. -- Be aware that some people are really really good at reading other people. What you feel on the inside may be showing on the outside even if you don't realize it. -- Some people are really really good at hiding or using body language. PAY ATTENTION to that. You'll get better and better at reading people. -- I've got a theory that just being around people (especially the kind of people that you want to be around and like) teaches you things unconsciously that may come out at a later time. So spend time around people you like, or can learn from. I think this is similar to having kids go on play dates, or taking a dog to a park to socialize with the other dogs. (Sorry if any of this comes across as insulting... I'm an animal, and so are you). Fun instructable! I could have used this in my teenage years.
Hi you are like the only other person i know besides me that aknowledges that we are animals.
cassies20116 years ago
I really like this guy. He's one of my best friends, and I don't know if I should ask him out or not. If he says no it will ruin my friendship with him. Should I take the risk?
Tough call. I asked one of my friends out and it ruined the friendship now she wont even even give me the time of day.
AW. That SUX, bro
lol, seems to happen alot these days
I would take the risk, Im going to ask a girl out soon, and take the risk.
MG11 MG115 years ago
Oh, and can you help me out with this?
I would say ask him if he want to go to a movie they can be great conversation starters and a good way to make someone feel relaxed go to either a comedy, that will make cry laughing great way to flirt, or a horror, that will make huddle against him and make him feel more like a man getting to protect you. movie definitely the way to go
Sure. your friends. I asked one of my friends out, we went out for more than 2 years!
brandie03085 years ago
Awww...this is cute. Good reading material! I usually just get straight to the point though. Example: "Hey, wanna makeout?" It seems to work pretty good most of the time.
ha lol NICE
Bbre095 years ago
kewl i keep a knife close by
NICE. >.<
asperger ain't helping much :S
Aw. That sucks I know how you feel. We Aspergians really get chopped down and stomped on
What should i do if i like a senior and im a freshmenand im not sure if he has a girlfriend or notPlus hes our school mascot and he isn't like a dork he is actully a "bad boy" I have no idea what to do because hes so much older than me and i alwayz see him and i feel like im goin 2 have a heart attack evry time i see him I NEED HELP.
hoodz435 years ago
what if you have a dark personality and everyone thinks ur goth and emo but your not how would u flirt with a girl then?
Ok, look. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GOTH AND EMO HOW MANY TIMES MUST I SAY THIS?!?! READ MY INSTRUCTABLE BRO IT EXPLAINS EVERYTHING
 I have the same problem man :/ It's annoying.
Vonzen hoodz434 years ago
you can be emo but still talk to people or maybe a bit less emo like dis guy in my skewl, he use to like emo not he listens to evanessence and plays piano like a pro, chicks dig guys with a perfect level of confidence, i know this isnt really easy for a dark person (some ppl evn call me emo or smoked coz my eyes are sensitive and im used to keeping them quite closed, if i do open my eyes a lil bit more, people will not call me watever but it will hurt my eyes, i say ignore people who think you are too dark and all. i dont rlly like the heavy suff i do think metal is okay or that song called knives and pens which has a tiny bit of screemo, anythhing over the top nope. i listen to hardstyle and jumstyle mostly, since  jump and shuffle. if you can dance go to a party you know the girl will go and dont dance with anyone, just jam by yourself, if you got moves, she mite jus fall 4 u
lolz turn emo and move to hillsboro MO, girls go CRAZY for any guy that even seems a little dark or mysterious lolz even the elderly do, tee hee
clean up a little bit show people u changed a little and flirt all you wanna !! lol
toscared2 years ago
Heyy :) I Really like this guy he is 2 years younger than me but he goes to another school. He cousin and his bestie catch my bus and i am scared that if i ask him out that he will tell all of his friends and his cousin and i will get teased so can someone please help me im in need of help.

By the way i meet him at easter so i have keep my feeling for him bottled up since then, i have told him that i like him and he told me that i was hot and that i have a great body and i only want to know what do i do now???
HELP PLEAS
WOAH. HOLD UP. He told you WHAT?!?!!!!!!!!!!! Ok bro you need to go and make out with that guy he seems TOTALLY all over you
cjswagga2 years ago
ummm i really really am madly in love with this guy in my class angel and he was leaning like an inch away from my face and hes like look cj i like you a lot and he said ummm do you like me and im like yah more then anything then he leaned in in and our toungues were like attacking each other but then my best friend who likes angel too walked out of the classroom and saw us kissing and since then she refuses to talk to me what should i say he kissed me and yah i kissed him back but can somebody please help me i want my best friend back
Woah. That is freaking intense, bro. I am not sure what you should do, but I personally would want my best friend back. My friends and I are like wolves: we are just as ferocious, and EVEN MORE loyal.
I've been in a similar situation to your best friend. If you really want her back you'll probably have to leave the guy alone to show her how much she means to you. She's probably hurting LOADS but she will definitely forgive you if you really are best friends. It might take her a long time but if you properly apologise then she'll know she means a lot to you. Just tell her you know it's not worth losing her friendship over a guy. I hope things work out! :)
Yeyetzi2 years ago
Can someone help me please , i have this huge crush on this one guy but im afraid to talk to him. The main reason i dont talk to him is becuase he is completey not my type. When i mean not my type is that he is like a ghetto/beaner and im like a an emo/rocker kind of girl. My friend knows him n he told me that he would talk to me. But im soo scared that hes just gunna talk to me for a while then forget about me. He also told me that he is a very shy guy and im a shy girl so that doesnt help my confidence. Ive had a crush on him for like 3 months now but school is over now, so i dont get to see him anymore. Ive had 3 dreams about him n i contstantly think of him . When we were still in school i would look at him n he would look at me back, we did that almost every day n on exactly the last day of school when i as returning my books he was right in front of my in the line and he looked back and looked right at me. :/

p.s i was a freshman but know im a upcoming sophmore
Bro. Lemme tell you this: we Goths/Emo Rockers STICK TOGETHER. THAT GUY IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU.
Ok, so i really like this girl and i'm pretty sure she likes me as-well but i'm not sure if i'm ready for an actual relationship yet. What should i do?
jbrown553 years ago
"if you get rejected, there's plenty of fish in the sea" thats true, but its kind of important when youre gunna be sitting next to that cute fish in every class for an entire year of 7th grade !!!! =S
it;s even harder when you liked a girl since 4th grade
Tell her! Even if she doesn't feel the same way it's nice to know a guy likes you. She might be really down and hearing that you like her might really make her day.
true, true C:
smatejka2 years ago
there is a girl i like and she hates me how do i make her like me
First of all, is she worth it? If she hates you she sounds kind of mean (no offence). Obviously I don't know her but maybe try and relax a bit when you're around her, maybe she finds you a bit intense? Also she might not actually hate you, maybe she just feels a bit awkward around you because she knows you like her.
Best of luck :)
be sweet and flirt but dont be a stalker give her compliments and try to figure out what she likes and impress her that always makes me fall in love with a guy
well that is simple,mainly give her compliments daily and look at her long enough to make eye contact.Adress the promblem why was she mad at you????Tell her that you are sorry.
ok soooo say i like this guy. i wanna kiss him but i dont know if he likes me cuz he all ways talks about otherr grlz buttz. what do i do cuz the school year is almost over. do i just kiss him? do i ask if he feels a special way about me? do i just tell him? what do i do? T_T
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