How to flirt and win Him or Her over

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Flirting is making a friendly conversation. People associate flirting as a girl thing, but there are plenty of men who use it as a way to win a girl over. There is no such thing as being overly flirty, it comes naturally to people. There really is no way to teach someone how to flirt, but I can give you some tips on how to flirt and win them over. Flirting can be fun and easy!

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Step 1: Look Approachable

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You want to look nice. Not overly dressed, or looking like you just came from a dumpster. Relax, smile, and use your body language. Now, when I say use your body language, do not go huddle in a corner by yourself, so that cute girl/guy will come give you empathy. Instead, give them a nice flashy smile, or if you are braver, a tiny wink. Show them that you are comfortable and confident. Otherwise, you are not going to get anywhere!

Subvert says: Sep 2, 2007. 9:43 AM

More tips: -- Confidence, confidence, confidence. Someone could probably write a book on this topic alone when it comes to human interactions. I'll leave it alone for you to think about or research on your own. -- Interact with their friends, male or female. You'll look less like a jerk, and their friends will have a positive vibe when they talk about you later. -- Don't get dejected when your first approach with the person you're interested in doesn't go well. Sometimes it takes time to convince someone you're worth talking to, or even safe. The second part of this tip is that when you feel dejected, you look dejected. This will impact your approaches to both that person, and any future people you try to meet. -- Don't fear the same sex (or rather the sex that you AREN'T attracted to). If you fear or disrespect people, it'll show, and people will decide they don't like you. Include males standing nearby in certain conversations when you're really interested in the female. You'll show that you aren't threatened by them. Maybe you'll make a new acquaintance or friend that you weren't looking for. -- Don't hide your intentions. People can get spooked even if they don't realize it. I guess what I'm looking for with this comment is a way to keep the person you're talking to appropriately calm? Surprise and excitement can be good, but only when you're trying for that intentionally. -- You mentioned not being distracted by what's going on around you... I'd supplement that with the suggestion to be AWARE of what's going on around you. Something might happen nearby that triggers conversation. It also keeps yourself safe, and maybe make the person you're talking to feel protected. -- Practice. You'll get better. -- Be aware that some people are really really good at reading other people. What you feel on the inside may be showing on the outside even if you don't realize it. -- Some people are really really good at hiding or using body language. PAY ATTENTION to that. You'll get better and better at reading people. -- I've got a theory that just being around people (especially the kind of people that you want to be around and like) teaches you things unconsciously that may come out at a later time. So spend time around people you like, or can learn from. I think this is similar to having kids go on play dates, or taking a dog to a park to socialize with the other dogs. (Sorry if any of this comes across as insulting... I'm an animal, and so are you). Fun instructable! I could have used this in my teenage years.

Boom!H3adshot in reply to SubvertApr 16, 2013. 2:08 PM

Hi you are like the only other person i know besides me that aknowledges that we are animals.

brandie0308 says: Mar 13, 2009. 11:20 PM

Awww...this is cute. Good reading material! I usually just get straight to the point though. Example: "Hey, wanna makeout?" It seems to work pretty good most of the time.

Boom!H3adshot in reply to brandie0308Apr 16, 2013. 2:03 PM

ha lol NICE

Bbre09 says: Jun 27, 2009. 5:09 PM

kewl i keep a knife close by

Boom!H3adshot in reply to Bbre09Apr 16, 2013. 2:02 PM

NICE. >.<

phant0m_sp00f3ra says: Jul 14, 2009. 8:18 PM

asperger ain't helping much :S

Boom!H3adshot in reply to phant0m_sp00f3raApr 16, 2013. 2:02 PM

Aw. That sucks I know how you feel. We Aspergians really get chopped down and stomped on

roxycowgurl in reply to phant0m_sp00f3raSep 25, 2009. 6:41 AM

What should i do if i like a senior and im a freshmenand im not sure if he has a girlfriend or notPlus hes our school mascot and he isn't like a dork he is actully a "bad boy" I have no idea what to do because hes so much older than me and i alwayz see him and i feel like im goin 2 have a heart attack evry time i see him I NEED HELP.

hoodz43 says: Oct 31, 2008. 3:02 AM

what if you have a dark personality and everyone thinks ur goth and emo but your not how would u flirt with a girl then?

Boom!H3adshot in reply to hoodz43Apr 16, 2013. 2:00 PM

Ok, look. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GOTH AND EMO HOW MANY TIMES MUST I SAY THIS?!?! READ MY INSTRUCTABLE BRO IT EXPLAINS EVERYTHING

NoteToYou in reply to hoodz43Jun 1, 2010. 1:16 PM

I have the same problem man :/ It's annoying.

Vonzen in reply to hoodz43May 23, 2010. 5:48 PM

you can be emo but still talk to people or maybe a bit less emo like dis guy in my skewl, he use to like emo not he listens to evanessence and plays piano like a pro, chicks dig guys with a perfect level of confidence, i know this isnt really easy for a dark person (some ppl evn call me emo or smoked coz my eyes are sensitive and im used to keeping them quite closed, if i do open my eyes a lil bit more, people will not call me watever but it will hurt my eyes, i say ignore people who think you are too dark and all. i dont rlly like the heavy suff i do think metal is okay or that song called knives and pens which has a tiny bit of screemo, anythhing over the top nope. i listen to hardstyle and jumstyle mostly, since jump and shuffle. if you can dance go to a party you know the girl will go and dont dance with anyone, just jam by yourself, if you got moves, she mite jus fall 4 u

hannah16 in reply to hoodz43Nov 10, 2009. 9:00 AM

lolz turn emo and move to hillsboro MO, girls go CRAZY for any guy that even seems a little dark or mysterious lolz even the elderly do, tee hee

yerfdog123 in reply to hoodz43Nov 7, 2008. 6:23 PM

clean up a little bit show people u changed a little and flirt all you wanna !! lol

rikkdbomb says: Oct 8, 2007. 6:08 PM

does anyone else ever feel like when you meet eyes with someone ( works more with opposite sex) there is like a kind of lightning bolt kind of feeling (not literal) from between your eyes? like when you glance around the room and she was staring at you or just happened to meet eyes, usually from a distance?

Hellchild in reply to rikkdbombAug 14, 2010. 10:04 PM

that literally hapened to me and my girlfriend. I got my eyeballs burned out of my skull. now she guides me where i need to go and she helps me with typing, such as in this message.

Basketballchick78 in reply to rikkdbombAug 2, 2010. 8:04 PM

Omg YES!!!!!!!!! when ever I look in my crushes eyes!!!

chunkymuggen in reply to rikkdbombAug 28, 2008. 2:43 PM

yeah, that used to happen to me and my really pretty (now) girlfriend. before we were dating, we'd be sitting in class, and we'd glance at eachother and our eyes would meet for like, a second. once we were sitting in my schools gym and i looked at her and she was looking at me. before i looked away, she smiled at me, and i got that sudden WHUMP as my heart literally stopped then restarted. i finally got the nerve to go talk to her after that glance-thing happened and i asked her out within ten minutes of talking. we've been going out for two years now, and it all started with a glance and a smile.

Basketballchick78 in reply to chunkymuggenSep 2, 2010. 11:31 PM

Awwwww that's lik a fairytail or a romantic ending of a book. I wish one day that happens to me

loganann0810 in reply to chunkymuggenApr 20, 2009. 8:39 PM

aw. thats so sweet (:

spike shadows (secret agent man) in reply to rikkdbombMar 11, 2008. 7:23 PM

oh, but what if it was literal....

Dr. Steel in reply to spike shadows (secret agent man)Jun 9, 2009. 7:25 PM

That would be awesome. I must find out how to do it, then 'ible.

chaz777 in reply to rikkdbombNov 27, 2007. 5:32 AM

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rikkdbomb in reply to chaz777Nov 27, 2007. 2:22 PM

quick instruactalbe for chaz777 to get anyone to respect you on the internet at all: step one: stop typing in all caps step two: Use correct spelling or at least legible on first read step three: Don't base anything completely on assumptions. For example, that I am "saddo". good luck on not being a complete douche!

toscared says: Sep 15, 2011. 3:49 AM

Heyy :) I Really like this guy he is 2 years younger than me but he goes to another school. He cousin and his bestie catch my bus and i am scared that if i ask him out that he will tell all of his friends and his cousin and i will get teased so can someone please help me im in need of help.

By the way i meet him at easter so i have keep my feeling for him bottled up since then, i have told him that i like him and he told me that i was hot and that i have a great body and i only want to know what do i do now???
HELP PLEAS

Boom!H3adshot in reply to toscaredApr 16, 2013. 1:56 PM

WOAH. HOLD UP. He told you WHAT?!?!!!!!!!!!!! Ok bro you need to go and make out with that guy he seems TOTALLY all over you

Notsureboutluv48 says: Nov 24, 2011. 11:49 PM

Ok thrz this boy @ school and he flirts w/ me all the time. He calls me beautiful, pretty, cute, ect. he asks to cary my books to my locker or to my next class all the time but i always say no cuz my friends say he's just messen w/ my head and see if i say yes to watev he say's or asks to do. This 1 time he told me to fallow him to where theres no teachers and watev so i did, he went over to a wall i went right by him and he came infront of me put his hands on the wall right by my head and leaned in 2 kiss me but one of his friends called his name and he said just a sec. to his friend, then he said i'll be back for you later. It's been 2 weeks since then wat should i do now? And should i listen to my friens or should i go w/ the guy that everyone says isn't good for me?

bigflirt101 in reply to Notsureboutluv48Dec 15, 2011. 8:28 PM

well i honestly think that he seems like the romantic type.You truly want a guy with bravery and I think he has bravery!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!go for it.

cjswagga says: Jan 31, 2012. 2:04 PM

ummm i really really am madly in love with this guy in my class angel and he was leaning like an inch away from my face and hes like look cj i like you a lot and he said ummm do you like me and im like yah more then anything then he leaned in in and our toungues were like attacking each other but then my best friend who likes angel too walked out of the classroom and saw us kissing and since then she refuses to talk to me what should i say he kissed me and yah i kissed him back but can somebody please help me i want my best friend back

Boom!H3adshot in reply to cjswaggaApr 16, 2013. 1:51 PM

Woah. That is freaking intense, bro. I am not sure what you should do, but I personally would want my best friend back. My friends and I are like wolves: we are just as ferocious, and EVEN MORE loyal.

frigidandproud in reply to cjswaggaMar 2, 2012. 12:35 PM

I've been in a similar situation to your best friend. If you really want her back you'll probably have to leave the guy alone to show her how much she means to you. She's probably hurting LOADS but she will definitely forgive you if you really are best friends. It might take her a long time but if you properly apologise then she'll know she means a lot to you. Just tell her you know it's not worth losing her friendship over a guy. I hope things work out! :)

jbrown55 says: Aug 12, 2011. 6:00 PM

"if you get rejected, there's plenty of fish in the sea" thats true, but its kind of important when youre gunna be sitting next to that cute fish in every class for an entire year of 7th grade !!!! =S

NATIVEBOY in reply to jbrown55Feb 14, 2012. 4:44 PM

it;s even harder when you liked a girl since 4th grade

frigidandproud in reply to NATIVEBOYMar 2, 2012. 12:43 PM

Tell her! Even if she doesn't feel the same way it's nice to know a guy likes you. She might be really down and hearing that you like her might really make her day.

jbrown55 in reply to NATIVEBOYFeb 18, 2012. 12:41 PM

true, true C:

Yeyetzi says: Jun 5, 2012. 9:51 AM

Can someone help me please , i have this huge crush on this one guy but im afraid to talk to him. The main reason i dont talk to him is becuase he is completey not my type. When i mean not my type is that he is like a ghetto/beaner and im like a an emo/rocker kind of girl. My friend knows him n he told me that he would talk to me. But im soo scared that hes just gunna talk to me for a while then forget about me. He also told me that he is a very shy guy and im a shy girl so that doesnt help my confidence. Ive had a crush on him for like 3 months now but school is over now, so i dont get to see him anymore. Ive had 3 dreams about him n i contstantly think of him . When we were still in school i would look at him n he would look at me back, we did that almost every day n on exactly the last day of school when i as returning my books he was right in front of my in the line and he looked back and looked right at me. :/

p.s i was a freshman but know im a upcoming sophmore

Boom!H3adshot in reply to YeyetziApr 16, 2013. 1:46 PM

Bro. Lemme tell you this: we Goths/Emo Rockers STICK TOGETHER. THAT GUY IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU.

That CanadianGuy says: Jan 30, 2013. 7:19 PM

Ok, so i really like this girl and i'm pretty sure she likes me as-well but i'm not sure if i'm ready for an actual relationship yet. What should i do?