Introduction: How to Get a Girl: a Guide for Geeks Like Myself.

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In this Instructable, you, yes you, will learn the secrets of landing yourself a true girlfreind.This is not a guide only for geeks, but for every guy that can say "Im single" Follow these simple steps, and the REAL ladies will flock to you. errrr hopefully. Read the instructable to find out more.

Step 1: Know Yourself

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This is actually a VERY important step. seriously. I know it sounds corny and weird.... but trust me its not.

As you can see below, the photos of myself show that I truly am a geek. One of my favorite hobbies is nerf. oh yes. nothing like 2inch foam darts flying at highspeeds.

Anyways, nerfing is NOT the most uh, macho hobby. So how does a total nerd get a totally attractive female life partner?

Before you can hope to get involved with and understand a girl, you must understand yourself. Who are you really? what are your hobbies? your likes? your dislikes? Most important, what are your convictions? You NEVER comprimise your convictions for a girl. EVER.

so, do you feel like you know yourself pretty well?
If you do then we can go on to the next step.

Step 2: Express Yourself

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Express yourself. I could end this step here. It should be that simple.

Expressing your self can be easy. Just find what you like doing, and do it.Find what you don' like and DON'T do that. Just let everybody know who you are and what you do and don't do.

I like playing guitar. So I play guitar.
I like metal music so I listen to that.
I do not like country music.... eww ... so i dont listen to that much.
I like nerf. I nerf.
I love guns. I shoot them.
Im kinda smart. so I talk smart. (I use large words

See, I act like me, Not like anybody else. I act like who I am. I express myself.
do the same. But, don't express yourself because I express myself. See, that would kill the point.

Now, im NOT saying that you simply dont do something just because you dont like it. for instance, back to the country music. I hate it. My girlfreind loves it. so, I learned to live with it. but i DON"T go listen to it to try to impress her. make sense? Good. on to step three.

Step 3: Get Over Yourself.

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Woah. yeah I said it. You need to get over yourself.
99% of all guys deal with pride. We tend to think we are amazing.
Guess what? the world does not revolve around you. I know, new theology huh?

"look at me.....i look good in a tux." now while its not bad to look dang sexy in a tux, let the girls compliment you. dont' do it yourself.

side note: I drive purple car... how loser is that?

If you want to get a girl, you need to be humble. If you seriously think that you deserve a girl, think again. Most girls deserve a guy that will think more highly of her than they do of themselves, a guy that puts her first. Be that guy. Don't fake it. Do it.

Still think your ready for a woman??
cool. the next step is a good one.

Step 4: Finally! Get a Girl!!!

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So, you know yourself pretty well, your not afraid to express yourself, and your not an arrogant jerk. Awesome. lets go find some laides!!!

tips on finding a sweet girl:

1. Apply this instructable in public. For instance, while hanging out with your buddies.

2. Don't have split personalities. Girls catch on to those really quickly. this goes back to the "be yourself" part. new people. Unless of course your trying to get a girl that you already know. girls are everywhere.... go meet some! They don't usually bite.

4. Talk. Seriously. Talk to girls. Some of they are actually pretty cool. They usually want to talk, and just need some help getting started.

Onto the next step.... The big move. Asking her out.... !

Step 5: Asking Her Out.

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This is the only part of this instructable that is actually scarry.

so, you like this girl that you met, and you have really gotten to know her well. You act yourself around her, and treat her with respect. It seems that she has taken a liking to you as well..... are you ready to ask her out.... well lets find out.

Things to do before you ask her out....

1. Review. Think about it. Do you really like her? Alot? Enough to be stuck with her for a long time? good.

2.Ask your self "Do I have a chance?" this is actually a fair question. Sometimes you can fall for a girl that just hates your guts. In this case its best to just move on. if she doesn't hate you.... you have a chance.

3.Don't plan a dialog. things never go that way. honestly. they dont. Not to mention that they always sound so cheezy.

So... your ready to ask her out.... but how! ready for the answer....

Just do it.

Yup once again its that simple. Just be like "hey, I really like you and getting to know you has been great. Do you want to date?"

If she says yes, congrats!
if she says no, oh well. at least you still have a awesome female freind!

So, as you can see in the photos below....
A guy like myself(GEEK!!!!!) can manage to score a beautiful girl. You just have to be yourself. The whole instructable boils down to that.



GnomeSweetGnome (author)2016-03-06

And before you say it if my crush gets mad at my friend and doesnt like him for a week or two no,no no no i put her and all of my friends first i just want her to be happy

VioletS7 (author)GnomeSweetGnome2017-07-10

Girls are easy if you know how, find mike suliau on facebook her technique work greats.


GnomeSweetGnome (author)2016-03-06

I have a crush on this one girl at school she is only 3 hours younger than me. I've already told her i like her. Me and my best friend both like her. She says she likes him although she has been afully nice to me for the past month and i always put her first. What should i do she is very confusing put that in mind.

ColeH14 (author)GnomeSweetGnome2016-04-13

I have sort of had the same problem and have known my crush for a while now. I had said to a couple of my friends a few weeks ago and when one of them was about to speak about something relating to me the other friend thought that it was that I said that I liked her (with her in the conversation) as I wasn't in their class at that time and we are all good friends. She said that she is already going out with someone and it has been a bit awkward since to explain although the next day after they said to her she asked me at lunch and I said that I liked her. Anyway we are still friends at the moment 3 days on. Any thoughts on what to do next?

ConnorB66 (author)ColeH142017-03-10

Get new mates, m8.

How'd it go my dude... ?

Imdeadinside (author)2017-02-04

i'm straight up fugly, what do i do about that?

wrenn90 made it! (author)2016-12-21

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MyWither (author)2016-11-22

I a glad that you made this. I am very confident that it helped many people out there. I agree with your advice, and it is accurate as well as simple to remember.

Personally, my struggle is that I unintentionally have many different versions of me. I don't know which me to be. I have a me for one friend, a me for another, a me around my family, a me around my teachers, a me around my dog, etc. I even have different mes around just me. I don't have multiple personality disorder, but I feel I come pretty close. I thankfully don't have the memories being specific to a personality thing.

One last thing, It doesn't matter if you can be immature at times, that just makes you more interesting.

Sorry for the long comment, I just have lots of different things I wanted to say.

Sound like you're over-complicating things. How old are you bud?

I probably am. I would not like to publicly reveal my age but I'm on the young side.

The Hard Ballplayer (author)2016-12-03

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R1ghtfulSlug (author)2016-10-02

Hey I made a video about this with some personal tips I used to get my fiance. thanks for the amazing tips as well they will definately help people out.

Lol62705 (author)2016-09-27

I am 11 and had a girlfriend before. That did not go so well. What do I do now that I like someone else?

Agmcky (author)2016-09-19

I'm quite shy and don't know many girls but there is one I like but don't know very well I told her u like her and she said I'm ok with bieng single

GamerP2 (author)2016-09-14

Umm im a 14 and it worked

iamtheman420 (author)2016-09-04

did not work. i got my penis stuck in a toaster ;-;;;; and my girlfriend left me for a taco

AlexG309 (author)2016-09-04

Check out this handbook:

HammE (author)2013-07-27

I need help with the asking her out part, i have no gut to walk up to a girl and ask her out. I have people ask a girl out for me. I swear they also HATE me. I have asked out like 12 girls in my whole life (i'm 14) and they all said no, no joke! I can't tell why, i'm really good at engineering. I guess girls just care if you have a six pack abs these days.

Link152 (author)HammE2016-09-03

Bro try finding a girl that has the same interests as you I know one and I'm scared to but the don't care a measly six pack these days JUST BE YOURSELF

jackjaaaaackattack (author)HammE2016-08-16

The reason you probably aren't getting any dates is because you seem like a player to all the girls. You move from one girl to the next too easily.

beyourself123 (author)2016-04-27

there is this girl I like and she's my best friend

But ever since she got a boyfriend she has completely dumped me but I wanna date her

GnomeSweetGnome (author)2016-03-06

Sorry i forgot go for it between no,no no no and week or two

Larkov (author)2015-10-11

Dudes be rude to the girls. Give compliments here and there. But give one word answers. If this doesn't work, you screwed it up.

GnomeSweetGnome (author)Larkov2016-03-06

That describes one of my class mates that dated my

Hunter Reynolds 11 (author)2016-02-18

I'm in a bit of a tuff spot you see I've known this girl for 4 years and we've been freinds for 4 years so as you can imagine this girl means a lot to me so I will never give up on her so I told her that I like her a bit ago and she said that she likes me back but now I don't know what to do should I ask her out or should I wait

Darthmallis (author)2015-08-22

What if I am a guy who can't speak to girls even the ones I know verry well, plus any girls i try to talk to either have a boyfriend or dosn't want any thing to do with me?

xxlauraxx (author)2015-07-24

Nice guide!

No matter what type of person you are, I think these things will get you far in the dating world (and in life): be happy with your life, be excited about the work you do (personal and/or professional), and be genuine, with no pretenses.

Reshad_abd (author)2014-11-16

What to say to the girl? She likes me and she shows me but I have nothing to share with her to have an interesting conversation. I know everything come out from my mouth are boring. What I can do?

mohammed.naveed.5494 (author)2014-10-16

i want girl sow it will easy

LinusM (author)2014-09-15

even if you understand your selve, youll never understanda girl ;)

Jarem20 (author)2014-08-05

thanks for the tips, I'll put them into practice.

bloke2022 (author)2011-05-06

You may have forgotten one, but you can probably spell "parentheses"

shotgunshane (author)bloke20222013-07-15

lol I noticed that also

thedanmancan (author)2013-05-23

I know the background to darth revan in knights of the old republic and the girl I like is not into that kind of stuff but she is a nerd please help me!

thedanmancan (author)2013-05-23

One problem for me is I'm a huge nerd like

Jack_Hammer (author)2013-05-10

You made one flaw. Girls aren't everywhere. I work on construction sites during the day and for my entertainment goods I buy at the comic book store. These are the two places I spend most of my time outside of home, but neither have many females.

So where should I hang out to find these geek friendly girls?

xXsmokedogXx (author)2013-04-18

thanks your guied has helped me so much thanks.

knexfreak32 (author)2013-02-24

The only thing I can add to this is don't wait to long otherwise you will be friend zoned which is bad if you want to go anywhere with your woman.

jonnybo111 (author)2012-12-19

Dude one thing to add never kiss in front of a stone chip clad garage. I did and the girl threw my head into it by accident. Not nice!

shagens (author)2012-12-18

One problem though. I myself am a geek. I love film and videogames, but epically movies. I love talking about them, action, horror, comedy, etc. What if your self are ugly though. I mean I don't look like Jabba the Hutt or anything but I am not good looking at all. I'm like a 20 year old, less fat version of Chunk from the Goonies. What if you are also ugly, a geek, and (according to some people at least) annoying? How do you get a girl then?

freeza36 (author)2012-03-23

nice guitar man. Mexican made or American?

Dreistein (author)2010-12-23

bru im also a geek i get sooo nervuse im 14 and i havent eaven kissed a girl!

11877 (author)Dreistein2012-03-21

Same here the worst is I live where walking around the block is asking for trouble so I don't even meet girls outside of school

zglynn (author)2011-09-10

did this work four yo

Cobalt59 (author)2011-01-28

Is Christy your sister? :) :D (trollface)

Tortus333 (author)2010-10-19

I wouldn't ask to "date" or ask to be their boyfriend or whatever. I think it's better to ask if they'd like to "go on a date" because it's harder to say no to one date than a relationship, and after the date you guys can assess whether you want to become a couple.

yosaulox (author)2010-10-11

hahaha is your sister right? hahaha

cd41 (author)2009-01-03

"They don't usually bite." Well one can only hope eh? lol

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Bio: I like to blow things up and/or shoot them. haha ya, thats all folks.
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