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How to date a girl who is way out of your league.

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I consider myself to be pretty well on the geeky side, I am an electrical engineering student, avid member of the computer community, and a dabbler of all things technical. I have never been extremely social or outgoing, I'm not the life of the party. Normally I am the kinda guy that you would look over, especially if you are a hot girl. However I have had more than my fair share of girlfriends way out of my league. For instance, the last 2 girls who I dated seriously have both been well out of my league/social circle, who I met in completely different ways/places.

This is what works for me, I have told this to many people, and it has worked for those who followed through. Its not a magical spell to make anyone fall in love with you, but it definitely helps tip the scales in your favor.

my disclaimer is that this works for me, It might not work for you. I do not treat women badly in any way, and I have the utmost respect for women, same as men. I understand that this, or any set of guidelines is not completely definitive or sure-fire, but it is my way, if you don't agree, theres no need to wage any sort of comment war. I guarantee you some men will think I am wrong, and alot of women will. These guidelines have worked for dozens of people.
 
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mnbvmc3 months ago

Why "this" pic? They're too average for words. Theyre the kind of average with a hint of conventional, average beauty, making them even more average. On the other hand, there's a lot of stunning beauty which is completely unconventional (but not "in the beholder", but something of an individual class).

BrianM3 mnbvmc28 days ago

Agreed, they are quite average. I think this girl would be a better example...

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dbariulis4 months ago

You can try find girls on heatfeel.com dating site

strategiccat7 months ago

great advice about not being a jerk or a nice guy. Being in the middle also makes you intriguing. i'll have to say though that the idea of women being out of your league is where the problem begins. once you start thinking this way, you're automatically putting her on a pedestal and lowering your value. not a great way to start.

strategiccat7 months ago

Great insight about straddling the line between being a nice guy and a jerk. If you do this well enough and in addition, show a little bit of your mean and vulnerable side every now and then, you will become very intriguing to her because you don't fit in either the nice guy or the jerk categories.

Kage6 years ago
too bad ima total loser........(wamp wamp wamp plays in background)
aw cheer up. you know some fine lady is waiting for you in some strange place with other strange people. find her!
Pics or it didn't happen.
LvNo1000 dabusff10 months ago
lol :P
CapnTac dabusff4 years ago
lol
lylek1 Kage3 years ago
Guys cmon, where's that swag! start drinking, having fun, going for random girls .. thats what I do! Confidence, I get beautiful girls ( sumtimes lol ) .. baby steps young players .. rome wasnt built in a day
mutt256 Kage5 years ago
ya same here :(
an me :(
tgurda2 years ago
"How to Pick Up Girls" works and it works on girls that you might have previously thought to be "out of your league". Buck up buddy cause I'm here to tell you - they are very much attainable. Let's jump in and read a bit about "The Face" First Free tip: right now read this & it's just the beginning for how to pick up girls... ATTRACT WOMEN TIP: Your facial expression will get you started on How to Pick Up Girls or shut you down instantly. If your expression is one of sadness or blank, negative or anything besides what I’m about to share then you’ve lost before you even entered the room. Getting started NOW:
How to pick up girls requires some homework. Practice what I’m about to share as much as possible until you get your best at this. Your facial expression needs to be self confident and a little happy. You don’t even have to be smiling but i do recommend a slight smile or a slightly happy face. Depending on your mood and type of day you are having – this may not be apparent unless you are consciously making it happen.

Best to you,

Tom Gurda
dben41 tgurda1 year ago
Agreed. i feel like if you go into the situation with the mentality of "she's gonna like me and this will be an enjoyable conversation" you'll succeed, and the facial expression will come naturally.
dben411 year ago
These are all true principals! I'm starting to date a girl who was runner-up Miss-Utah, and is awesome in every way. I am also a computer guy, a CS major. I felt intimidated by her accomplishments and I know that she could get any guy she wanted. But after reading this, it makes me feel like I'm on the right track. I really liked the line "if you're stessing out, your trying too hard, if she's stressed out, your trying way too hard." I think that really set the vibe for making things work now. :) I'm just gonna go with the flow. And if it doesn't work out, I'll be that much more prepared and confident to date the real Miss-Utah.

Just be yourself truly is the best policy. And be sincerely interested in her, and not just her looks.
patar771 year ago
You make it sound so easy
johnpoole3 years ago
that is so funny.. but a lot of truth.. i am an ugly as a mud fence.. my wife was miss west virgina the year we met. it may not last, but we have a dozen great grand kids that would be surprised if it doesn't..

you want a date with a stone cold fox.. ask her out.. she is no different then you or the other end of the looks pool. be yourself, make her laugh. polite doesn't hurt.. do not pretend to be something your not..
Perfect advice in your last paragraph - right on accurate.
HollyMann1 year ago
Being funny helps too. Not acting too serious - too over-the-top - that stuff can scare women off. If you're nervous and it shows - that's ok - it is sweet. If you're interested in someone and you think it's worth pursuing - get the nerve to go up to her and chat. Life is too short to walk away on that! ;) BUT, do not call and text her constantly once you get the number ...that = overwhelming or obsessive - take it easy and keep it light.
this is soo true

i used these steps and now im dating blonde blue-eyed TWIN MODELS
uk2k103 years ago
why is everyone on this page a liar? stop giving stupid hopeful advice to people when you know for a fact it won't work. the only way to get a girl out of your league is to be her friend. the only type of relationship that will come from all your hard work and devotion is friendship and nothing more. unfortunately, most good looking women are pawns and won't even give a person whose character is that of a saint a chance to sweep them away from their feet. besides, in the unlikely chance that one actually does get a hot girlfriend then the most likely outcome is that she would betray you becausem truthfully, a woman that lucked out in the gene pool is in a position that preys on the weak. so one has two options available: (1) face the rejection from the get-go and face the ridiculous friendship option or (2) face the betrayal

in my opinion it is better to die alone. this solitude will make you strong.

now watch some punk complain and moan about my pessimistic view. its not pessimistic. it is the truth. i've been there. and i mean that with both outcomes as mentioned above.

lylek1 uk2k103 years ago
And start drinking alcohol, once you get a girl drunk it's easy ..
lylek1 uk2k103 years ago
you right but you can pull it off .. confidence, dress and groom yourself (designer clothes), go out clubbing and dance with beautiful girls ( lucky ima good looking south african with rhythm ), get ur confidence up .. if you rich, its easy picking ..

and being alone and facing rejection levels you up, afterwards you'll be playing them. No need to fall in love, it's about getting a piece!

yeah boy!
Muscpro uk2k103 years ago
hey uk2kio
your name sounds like a second chancer and when u tried again obviously got very hurt.
Read johnpoole's story about his 'miss virginia' wife who as he says although he is such an ugly mug got them so many great grandkidz.
This wipes away your own self impressions which very few, besides the woefull - oh poor me type, will take note of.
I have friends across the globe who bond on a universal belief. Inner character brings this. No one including you is without value. Looks fade with age like most else. So clear out the mist friend and look outward not inward for friends.
Our creator taught this basic principle which has never proved false if done unconditionally.
ilpug uk2k103 years ago
i see your point of veiw. I just am more optimistic.
jdubaya uk2k103 years ago
tl;dr
ugly dudes get ugly gilfriends, just lower your standards
It's kinda funny the "hot" girls in the pic AREN'T EVEN HOT. ROFL
lylek1 SirClem3 years ago
I was thinking the same thing lol ..
you really got issues if you got to resort to the web on how to meet girls
dont say that you are ugly dudes you should be able to believe in your self OK. my name is hamza from ghana
that is soooo rude. Shape up. This is not an insult site.
Vonzen4 years ago
im almost 15 and i like a girl who is like probably the hottest girl in the universe, i CANNOT ask a girl like this out, she's popular but likes punk, she has orange/brown long hair with hot eyes, she is twins with this other girl who is best friends with one of my good friends, i have a friend from another skwl who likes the twin sster of the one i like, it wuldnt be that hard if my friend dated her sister, coz id like invite them and probs the girl i like would come to somewer (werever) but my friend also thinks shes too hot 4 him, i think hes awsum (he got like 8 pack n stuff, long brown sora hair, hes tall, he plays soccer (as do i)etc) it would be gr8 to go with her to yr 10 formal but i think it jus wont happen, oh and this is weird,  tried one of those spell sites and she sort of looked at me a lot in photography class the next day, she also let me borrow her earfones, at the end i smiled and thanked her but thats as far as that went, confidence to talk with THE perfect girl is harder than hell on earth. help pls
Let's cut to the root of the matter: You said "I like a girl." Don't sell yourself short, and quit pretending that she's perfect. You're attracted to her. That's great. Go hang out with her and see if you click - maybe you will, maybe you won't. Maybe she will be perfect and find you perfect. Or maybe you guys find that you're just an normal okay couple. Or maybe you find out she isn't at all suitable as girlfriend material. You're letting your expectations screw up everything, dude. Don't discount your own intrinsic awesomeness. (By the way : "Too hot for him" - thats the dumbest thing I ever heard - did you ever consider maybe she wants to be with him?)
Hey buddy you could do well on those uplifting seminar shows. Really great stuff!
Duuuuuuude! Go for it. You're better than you think. Nobody is really out of your league. Just be yourself, because your natural, unique attitude and REAL personality is more attractive than anything else.
ilpug Vonzen4 years ago
i think that you should just go up to her and tell her she is freaking amazing, and ask her.
The ironman3 years ago
i have one thing to say about that seconed pictures and that no you dont

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