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Step 2: "The Hook"

This is half the battle right here. You're not the most suave guy, and you want someone to notice you. Guess what, I am not going to give you cheap tricks, or cheesy lines.... infact I am of the personal belief that if its a line at all, its cheap. The best contact comes spur of the moment, not necessarily some heartfelt speech, but most likely a comment, or a joke or a witty interaction based on the situation.

Don't
-Approach a girl who doesn't seem to want to be approached
-Approach a girl in a bar, or club--these girls are looking to be wooed by a fast car, cheap haircut, and lame lines. They have their guard up, and don't want to be bothered.
-Try to hard. This is the biggest game killer ever. I can write pages on this, but I'll put it at this "if you're frustrated--you probably trying to hard, if she's frustrated--your definitely trying too hard"


Do
-Place yourself in a situation you are comfortable with
-Give yourself any social edges possible
-Not rule out friends as possible romantic interests
-Not rule out the idea of meeting someone in the strangest places
-Act confident and natural


Conversation is after all the heart of getting to know someone. "First contact" is the most important. If you can keep someones interest and make them laugh, and feel good about themselves, you've got someones interest, and can take it to the next level... phone number, going on a date, etc. There are some things to avoid during conversation, for instance you want to avoid any serious subject... war, politics, religion, abortion, etc. If one of these does happen to come up, keep it light, and change the subject matter. Also you want to avoid complimenting her too much, this comes across as desperate/needy.

Be interested in her personality, be genuine, try to get to know her. talk about your common ground, get her talking about what excites her, what her interests are. Do talk about yourself, do be polite. Don't ramble on about yourself, this can happen if there is a gap in the conversation it only proves to makes this awkward. As a general rule of thumb a girl will ask you if she is interested to know something about you. Pay attention, don't just hear, listen. Make a mental note of things she says, remember them, there will be a quiz later.


You want to keep your body language in mind too... there are far better resources on body language than this article, and I strongly suggest you look into them. Mainly you want to keep a firm grasp on what you are saying with you body. Keep a good posture, relaxed but not slouching. Don't let your eyes wander too much, be confident and look her in the eye when speaking to her. Mind your hands, don't let them fidget and play with something (tablecloth, hair, keys, etc). Don't move too much, nervous feet shuffling, shifting your weight. Act casual, and try to keep your actions on your mind so that you don't let them get the best of you.


Generally treat a girl the way you would like to be treated, be polite, considerate, and genuine. It seems like common sense, and it really is, but alot of people forget that, or overlook it. Try to keep that in mind.
<p>What a load of garbage. Nothing you do will help if you are fat and ugly. The number thing you can do is GET IN SHAPE and clean up your appearance (wear nice clothes, get a decent haircut). Nothing else will matter, nothing else will work unless you take care of this. Stop giving all these losers false hope. If you get in really good shape, you can succeed, even if your face can crack a mirror.</p>
<p>You are wrong man. I am a tall skinny guy and trust me, I am so skinny that when the wind blows outside I must carry heavy rocks in my pockets. But with all of this I did have what girl I wanted. Also I have a fat friend that he has what girl he wants. Trust me , your character it's the most important thing if you want to meet new people. It doesn't matter if you are fat, skinny, white, black, purple all that it's important is your way to be. I am mean if you act like a bully for example, everyone will reject you. Start believe in your self and things will start to change for you. Also you can try to be in a good shape too , start making some exercises, it will make you feel better and will give you more confidence in yourself.</p>
<p>Great article, and yes it's very important to be yourself but this yourself must be a charming person who loves his own person and respect everything that surround him, especially the girls. To become a charming character you must respect your self, smile all the time, be clean and your clothes must look great on you also you must smell nice, you are Don Juan Demarco who speaks nice to everybody and you are not affraid to get involved with new people. A lot of hot girls, you will pick up easy from libraries, supermarkets, parks and bars. How you approach the girl is very important, simply present you and you will have 1% success rate, have dog with you and your chanches will grow up to 10%, do something amazing and you success rate will grow up to 60%. Use <a href="http://dotelekinesis.com/miracle-mastery/master-mentalism-learn-psi-tricks/" rel="nofollow">mentalism tricks for dating</a> and you will 100% obtain a nice threesome for the night</p>
I'm not really sure about it cause all my life i have been turned down i have been myself and they all have said no in the worst ways i have heard of.
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Those are some solid steps. Also here is some steps that work for me. <br><br>1. Let her know how you see her. You are seeking a GF and your interested in courting her. This will keep you from going into the friend zone and if anything you guys wont talk much if it you dont click.<br><br>2. On the first convo keep it short dont go in 2-3 hour convos the first time. Something like 30 mins so you leave something for later or leave a hook in there. <br><br>3. Bring the rose on the first date. This is a missing touch here. On the first date bring a single rose. Not a dozen or a vase of roses but a single rose. You can get this at Publix for like $3. This will let her know your courting her and is serious about it (keep you out the friend zone). Also to be honest you will be surprise on the amount of girls who never had roses. <br><br>4. NEVER take her to a place that is super expensive unless this what your accustom to. Its a first date and to be honest some females see this as a free meal. Also she will be expecting an upscale dinner or event on every date. Save that expensive dinner for her once she become your gf or special occasions. Cheesecake factory, Apple Bees, or any mid range restaurants are fine. The key here is to find a spot that is professional, clean and has great customer service. If they think they deserve better on a first date she isnt the one.<br><br>5. Bring in some type of experience. Dates are cool but what usually pushes people together is life experiences together. After some phone time and a couples of dates see if she will be ok with a mini vacation or driving out of town for an event. <br><br>
<p>Hello well what can I say <br>about me? This is not the first time I have give this ago? I will give it <br>another go. I don&rsquo;t want to tell you too <br>much as there will be nothing for you to ask? like to make the lady&rsquo;s laugh am <br>easy going relaxed man don&rsquo;t take life to serious and if I add you to my <br>favourites its because I find you very attractive I'm looking for someone nice <br>to spend time with and have a happy life with! Anything you want to now just <br>ask hope to chat to you soon if I don&rsquo;t reply happy fishing.</p>
why is everyone on this page a liar? stop giving stupid hopeful advice to people when you know for a fact it won't work. the only way to get a girl out of your league is to be her friend. the only type of relationship that will come from all your hard work and devotion is friendship and nothing more. unfortunately, most good looking women are pawns and won't even give a person whose character is that of a saint a chance to sweep them away from their feet. besides, in the unlikely chance that one actually does get a hot girlfriend then the most likely outcome is that she would betray you becausem truthfully, a woman that lucked out in the gene pool is in a position that preys on the weak. so one has two options available: (1) face the rejection from the get-go and face the ridiculous friendship option or (2) face the betrayal <br><br>in my opinion it is better to die alone. this solitude will make you strong.<br><br>now watch some punk complain and moan about my pessimistic view. its not pessimistic. it is the truth. i've been there. and i mean that with both outcomes as mentioned above.<br><br>
Might I, to a level, be that punk you were mentioning. ? I agree that, yes, you're never going to get anywhere if you're not willing to be a friend first.<br>I do strongly object however, you're declaration that beautiful women prey on the weak. Yes, some certainly do, but not all--or even most--by any means. And when one does come across a girl who does, thats not the kinda of person you want to be with anyway.<br>I the course of dating, yes you're bound to get hurt--and if you don't, consider yourself lucky. I've been in both of those positions as well, so don't claim thats it's ignorant optimism--is realism.<br>Really though, the best way is honestly to be yourself--with an extra measure of kindness and courage.<br>Sure, some relationships can be enslaving and painful, but others are healing, liberating, and beautiful.
And start drinking alcohol, once you get a girl drunk it's easy ..
you right but you can pull it off .. confidence, dress and groom yourself (designer clothes), go out clubbing and dance with beautiful girls ( lucky ima good looking south african with rhythm ), get ur confidence up .. if you rich, its easy picking .. <br><br>and being alone and facing rejection levels you up, afterwards you'll be playing them. No need to fall in love, it's about getting a piece!<br><br>yeah boy!<br>
hey uk2kio <br>your name sounds like a second chancer and when u tried again obviously got very hurt. <br>Read johnpoole's story about his 'miss virginia' wife who as he says although he is such an ugly mug got them so many great grandkidz. <br>This wipes away your own self impressions which very few, besides the woefull - oh poor me type, will take note of. <br>I have friends across the globe who bond on a universal belief. Inner character brings this. No one including you is without value. Looks fade with age like most else. So clear out the mist friend and look outward not inward for friends. <br>Our creator taught this basic principle which has never proved false if done unconditionally.
i see your point of veiw. I just am more optimistic.
tl;dr
You make it sound so easy<br/>
Maybe it is... ?
too bad ima total loser........(wamp wamp wamp plays in background)
Guys cmon, where's that swag! start drinking, having fun, going for random girls .. thats what I do! Confidence, I get beautiful girls ( sumtimes lol ) .. baby steps young players .. rome wasnt built in a day<br>
I built Rome in a day...
Yeah, so am I... Wait; this is me I'm talking about? I take it back. I am the Champion Over-Lord! :D
aw cheer up. you know some fine lady is waiting for you in some strange place with other strange people. find her!
Pics or it didn't happen.
lol :P
lol<br />
ya same here :(
an me :(
<p>The main advice: don't bear in mind, that she's out of your league! You're the best man on the planet and she's with you - that's all. Make her happy, be charming. Practice is the best way to add self-confidence! Maybe, on-line dating in, Concord <a href="https://kovla.com/datings/us/concord/" rel="nofollow">https://kovla.com/datings/us/concord/</a> for example, will bring you some flirt skills? Or, even real love! Anyway, don't ever give up! Good luck!</p>
<p>I think i found my hero:):)</p>
<p>Why &quot;this&quot; pic? They're too average for words. Theyre the kind of average with a hint of conventional, average beauty, making them even more average. On the other hand, there's a lot of stunning beauty which is completely unconventional (but not &quot;in the beholder&quot;, but something of an individual class).</p>
<p>Agreed, they are quite average. I think this girl would be a better example...</p>
<p>great advice about not being a jerk or a nice guy. Being in the middle also makes you intriguing. i'll have to say though that the idea of women being out of your league is where the problem begins. once you start thinking this way, you're automatically putting her on a pedestal and lowering your value. not a great way to start.</p>
<p>Great insight about straddling the line between being a nice guy and a jerk. If you do this well enough and in addition, show a little bit of your mean and vulnerable side every now and then, you will become very intriguing to her because you don't fit in either the nice guy or the jerk categories. </p>

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