How to date a girl who is way out of your league.

Step 5: The wrapup

It can all be summarized as being yourself, and remembering to be respectful. Don't be fake, no one likes fake people. If you think that some cheap decals, some neon lights, and a spoiler make your car "pimpin" then this article probably didn't help you. Pretty much keep everything I said here in mind, it maintains its relevance weather you are trying to get a date, or have been with someone for a long time. Be genuine and be yourself, and remember, that if someone isn't buying what your selling, there are plenty of other worthy buyers.

Comments

[Kage]

too bad ima total loser........(wamp wamp wamp plays in background)

[lylek1]

Guys cmon, where's that swag! start drinking, having fun, going for random girls .. thats what I do! Confidence, I get beautiful girls ( sumtimes lol ) .. baby steps young players .. rome wasnt built in a day

[mutt256]

ya same here :(

[flamesami]

an me :(

[camicamirobot]

aw cheer up. you know some fine lady is waiting for you in some strange place with other strange people. find her!

[dabusff]

Pics or it didn't happen.

[CapnTac]

lol

[SiderAnne]

Thanks for putting this up here! I now have somewhere to send my single friends who complain about not being able to catch the "right one".
This really does apply to both genders getting out-of-your-league dates.
The trick about communication/honesty when in the pre-dating phase is to be someone that they can talk to, not someone that they tell everything to. It's the difference between: talk to=friendly=dates, and tell everything=friends=just friends.
In college, I was an "unknown entity" and therefore interesting to guys. It was pretty easy to tell which guys were after what, and easy enough to let them know I was/wasn't interested. Back then, my now hubby (definitely a geek, and says I'm out of his league) tried acting like a lot of the guys who flirted with me, but I could tell he didn't fit in that skin, and I wasn't interested. It wasn't until a year later, on a friendly trip to the beach, that I got under that fake front and met the real guy. I liked that guy!

[yannickfnf]

i have known a girl for about three years and have almost gone out with her but i always blew it, time and time again. I saw her not too long ago and she was looking amazing, but i sort of lost the confidence to stop and have a conversation, so i just said hi and carried on walking. i regretted this so much. but i am afriends with her on facebook and i would like to have a date with her and catch up but should i tell her my true feelings?

[btankey]

doesn't matter what your former encounter was like, what does matter is how you think of it... if you take what was (for you) an awkwardness and spin it as, for instance, indifference/confidence, doesn't matter what the original impetus for the "hi" was... just believe in yourself and know that you can reinvent any situation/relationship whatsoever... impressions count, as does the 'past', but nothing is paved in stone and anything can be overcome by 1. Confidence 2. Creativity 3. Spontaneity 4. Genuineness 5. Provocation

[Scotish]

I think u should ask her if shed like to catch up over coffee/tea/whatever u drink and see how it goes from there. if it goes well, suggest that u should do it again then leave feeling all warm and fuzzy inside

[bigern71]

I totally agree with everything especially on letting her know you if u do not and an argument ensues things hidden may come out of your mouth in an inappropriate way which will probably hurt her feelings and get you out on the curb

[mgsman]

thank you for the advice I did go and ask this girl out and evrything worked out great.for about a month now hope it stays this way for ally longer

[mgsman]

hey I know this sounds a little bad but how do you ask out a girl that's your friend but out of your leuge and alittle over experienced? By over experienced I mean has had sex already which sounds really trampy since we r 15.

[thinkdunson]

are you sure it's not just a rumor? and sex is not some mystical fairy tale dream... when you're young it's almost scary your first time. if she's really your friend, then you already know what kind of person she is. just ask her out. if she's your friend, then you already know she likes you at least a little. you just have to be casual. ask her if she wants to go to the movies with you or something. "hey wanna go see a movie on saturday?" it's just that simple. and if she says no, remember that it might just be a bad day... "some other time?" don't try to act smart or clever or funny. just relax and be yourself.

[Webbleking]

I am gonna be honest with you. At 15 years old I would not go for something like that. She has already had sex and she is like what a freshman. No way man don't open up that can of worms. If you do go for it and she says "yes". Man its not a good think. Don't risk your future over some girl.

[zengakuren]

Another proven tip: Girls of above-average-looks receive compliments on their looks all the time, so don't walk that well-trod path. Rather, appeal to their vanity. They know they're good-looking, but they want to be considered intelligent too. If you think it advantageous to compliment her, make it a compliment about her intelligence. This works especially well if she is in fact not terribly bright. I, however, prefer to "tease" a beautiful girls rather than compliment them. That is, I make an underhanded compliment or poke gentle fun at some aspect of their character. This has a two-fold affect: you appear confident and somewhat disinterested, traits to which girls of above-average-looks are attracted. Also, you are letting her know you do not consider her flawless, unlike the slobbering masses of losers that pelt her with fawning.

[pudicobar]

I'm with you. The most beautiful girl i've ever dated, i opened up asking her if she was a kind of stupid-fool... because she was laughing while reading some magazine or so... good ol' days ... hehehe.. then she went to college, i went back to my life.

[zengakuren]

Great tip for attracting a (very) attractive girl: When you go out, do so with a group of at least 3 but not more than 6 buddies. The night out should be about you friends having a good time. Girls see a group of guys having a good time and want to join that party, even if most or all of the guys are not especially physically attractive. Appear as though you couldn't give a toss if you meet a girl or not (though you desperately do). If you're a couple of guys hanging out together but constantly looking around and generally looking bored with each other, it looks rather unattractive to most girls. Guaranteed to work, or you money back.

[auntikays]

Fellas, There are plenty of us girls that go for geeky guys. (There's also plenty of us that don't have a problem with baldness either!) Have faith. And even though this is 2007, remember, some of us girls are still old fashioned and are just waiting to be asked. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Sign me: Geek Lovin' Gal

[Deannna]

Gotta agree with antikays. I am a "geek" girl as my bf likes to say and judging from men's interest I'd guess I am nice looking. Yet I like brains in a guy, I do not mind if he is wierd, geeky, it will make me more curious about how he ticks so to speak, curiousity is after all female! I do not give rats about his looks or his money as the most important is how he makes me feel and how he treats me. I find it important if he can live on his own aka not hunger if someone not cooks a day, not dispair if he forgot to pay a check, have some self confidence. He does not need to be perfect or sexy like an actor in fact I prefer him less perfect, someone real, someone who I do not feel unperfect beside, but just another totally normal guy, with his own dreams I can listen to, and who will listen to mine, and will help me realize mine the way I will try to fulfill his. Beside whom I can be myself, and can try anything I can imagine, from whom I can learn, and who will see more in me than just a body. Geek guys RULE!

[halse]

When are you avalible. My email is [e-mail]. How old are you?

[Mad Cat]

LOL

[Plasmana]

Umm, I recommend you to delete that comment, otherwise your mail account will be bombed by spams from spammers... I am not trying to be offensive or anything, just helping...

[becauseican]

wtf, didnt know ur interests were this far off from high voltage. but still im a big fan of you.

[auntikays]

I'm old enough to know better, but still too young to care. :)

[furry animal killer]

mmm she speaks truth i mean i asked out the hottest girl in my school and we were going steady untill she relised i was a flyfishing geek who liked deth mettle yup i'm wears o ya i got adhd look a chicken

[LadyLuck1337]

Beautiful geeky girls are just as worried about finding a funny, intelligent and attractive geek to share themselves with. In fact, if a girl doesn't think YOU'RE out of her league, I suggest you keep walking. I think for two people to adore each other, they need to believe that they have to live up to the other. If a girl thinks she's too good for you, chances are, you're too good for her.

[I-T.net]

Being a geek and gamer myself,with good taste in graphics as well as sharp knives and non-stick pans in my kitchen, I don't "WANT" a girl that is outta my league...

Now no flami'n or back fragg'n allowed guys.. I'm still being true to myself but then again it is hard finding a girl now days that I can have for myself. ( Excuse the stereo type for as for the sexy vivacious babes... sure I wouldn't mind BUT it is almost as bad as China or Japan when you go to put on you pants there is someone in there with you or at least with someone else.)

Girls may love pretty flowers but guys do too... just a different kind and they don't make it easy us sometimes trying to keep it in perspective or respectful. Girls don't respect themselves and Guys have issues restraining themselves, after all... the colors, textures and smell of a good flower is just as alluring as the sensual passionate flame of a woman..
hum...oO( Recalls for some odd reason the movie "Scent of a Woman")

I have found, strangely enough, once you get passed all the sexuality, flirting, goofiness and mayhem... You can close your eyes and can actually smell a woman, not the perfume or the garlic from the pizza or the aerobics workout... But her unique small behind the ears and the neck for example if your don't get slapped first :P ...For the ones that have been in love and get to know the real person past all of the physicalities you know what I am talking about...
So finding one that is a diamond in the ruff ,so to speak, that hasn't been passed from man to man for admiration and testing is another story at best.
Just like those late-night 900-call-now girls "I'm waiting for you." Has anyone really stopped to consider that at least 100,000 men are looking at that and thinking the same thing ? Just for them ? For how much and how long till the move is on to next one... I prefer the coal dust on a not so popular girl's face as compared to the Wet T-shirt bikini contest with 23-28" waists.., sure they are attractive but... mine would be mine with no expectations / presumptions from "Prior Experience(s)" OR Stereo types... As for those others with high profiles and great silhouettes, are they really "yours" with so many looking at them and sizing them up for their attributes? As for a guy.. if I had with one of those I would almost wish I could +hrs them or better yet chmod mygirl =744 or 700 but I'm not a control freak :P
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[I-T.net]

Way past time to go home lol
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[Dragona]

Everything said in this article is scientifically proved. I personally experienced all this, aknowledging my mistakes as well as aknowledging the others' ones, my partners' ones and others' partners one. I am surprised the way it's written, works better than many books. The woman rating system is quite real in the ladder website, although money factor is "innocently" explained by women as sense of security. This is my history of some women sense of attractiveness and likeness, based on what I've seen from Movies, News, and unfortunately live experience: What (some) women likes of a man: 1. 50s, shiny hair 2. 60s, cool car 3. 70s, cool dress 4. 80s, cool motorcycle (and car) 5. 90s, 2nd house in Montecarlo 6. 2000s, Boat 7. 2010, cocaine.

[themasterpyro]

why the hell would a man be wearing a dress unless he's scottish????

[furry animal killer]

the singer from korn whos name escapes me right now wers kilts

[Lemon]

I think Dragona was referring to the way a man dresses when he said 'cool dress', not that he must wear a dress :).

[themasterpyro]

ya im just being difficult

[kirnex]

It got Bowie laid a-plenty. Hence, the recent resurgence of the metrosexuals!

[willofgod]

Ah, cocaine, bring people together since 1973

[2dMaxf]

As a female, I've hit some serious snags in my life relationships. This is the first "How To" for men that makes sense. This should be published world wide. It can also be modified to fit the female gender as well. There are to many phonies out there that take away life in the span of years, to count. At 61, my spouse came home from work transgendered. I wonder why it took 24 years of marriage for him to do this? Does anyone have suggestions for a 51 year old real female, who never gets out in the real world of night clubs? I guess I'm sort of a geek too.

[PvUtrix]

Learn to dance, if you still can't! ;)

[spleinman]

Wow, I always try to do this kindof stuff, I mean me, myself and I am a geek too (or well more on that side than a kewl kid) and I honestly wish this worked where I'm from, because I could get any girl I want.