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Step 6In Conclusion
Lets not kid ourselves, you can't MAKE someone love you. You pretty much just have to go through trial and error like everyone else on earth. We men are pretty simple creatures, we want to remain men, we want things to be as simple as possible unless we choose the "HARD" setting, we want to be needed, powerful (if even in our own mind) and prosperous. Be our friend, be our "Safe Zone". We compete all day long, we keep our "shields" on full, Simply be there person we can feel safe enough to let down our guard for a minute.
and clean laundry and dinner on the table never hurts!!... just kidding....sort of... not really though thats pretty true.
and clean laundry and dinner on the table never hurts!!... just kidding....sort of... not really though thats pretty true.
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The ability to make other people feel good is powerful. A woman can't do that if she is self centered.
Yes, this guy is sexist, but feminist are the same thing just applicable to a different gender.
People are unhappy in their marriages or anything else because of their own faults and false expectations, not anyone else's. Bottom line, if you want a person, you have to offer similar qualities, know how to make them feel good, and circumstances have to allow for a relationship.
And then there's the reality that a lot of these things do work to get a guys attention - and believe me you don't have to do all of them either, most guys are so not used to being treated like a man by any women (starting with their mothers!) that just doing one or two of them warms their cockles enough to open their hearts and minds...
Of course when a man does love a woman, we know he'll take a whole lot less than all of this just to be in her company - but that's a whole new question of whether that's love or codependency!
Anyway, thanks for a thought provoking ible.
I read everything. I read your entire article and all of your comments. It was like watching a car accident- I couldn't seem to tear myself away.
I'm well aware you can't make a man fall in love with you. I'm a married adult. Furthermore, I didn't search this article, I saw it as a "related" article at the bottom of the page. I was hoping to find some sweet things I could do for my husband to show some appreciation. Instead, I read an article that comes off as crude, immature, and outdated to me. I am assuming that isn't your intention, and that you are trying to be helpful. I'm not against having respect and giving favors/being thoughtful, but I do expect it to be mutual! Seriously!
I think my comments, and many of the others, are written trying to help *you* out. You don't have to take any of the advice, but it wouldn't hurt you to really consider some of the criticism instead of being so rude.
Your girlfriends and ex-girlfriends are not oblivious to the fact that you would like someone to give you bjs and soothe your fragile ego day in and day out.
I am going to say, you wrote I was hoping to find some sweet things I could do for my husband to show some appreciation.
something sweet to show appreciation means doing something for him without expecting anything in return. How appreciated is he gonna feel when you do something special for him and say "now, what are you gonna do for me?"
This article is exactly what your looking for.... what YOU can do for HIM
if he really loves you then he will do something to appreciate you when he wants to, not because he has to because you did something for him.
a relationship should be mutual, Yes...... but not Quid Pro Quo
Particularly:
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/martialarts.html#streetfighting