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If you are not amongst the estimated one-percent of people that are completely asexual, then chances are you would like to have sex. Unfortunately, not everyone who would like to have sex can do so. There are many factors prohibiting an individual from having sex, including, but not limited to: unwilling partners, religious convictions, immaturity, impotence and a lack of funds. If you are an individual that cannot have sex for whatever reason, then it is fair to say that you need some other form of sexual relief.

Making out is not only a great alternative to sexual intercourse, but can provide practice and familiarity that will prepare both you and your partner for the big deed.

What follows are practical instructions for making out. They cannot possibly be the definitive instructions for doing so since "making out" differs throughout history and cultures as well as from person to person (individual differences in the definition of the term are vast and wide). Not to mention, I am by no means a making out expert. However, I promise that I will try to do my very best.

WARNING: This Instructable may contain material or imagery that may be considered objectionable by small children and adults ashamed of their own sexuality.
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Step 1: What is making out?

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Making out has been defined as such:

make out - kiss, embrace, or fondle with sexual passion;

What this means, in short, is that making out is to engage in sexual relations without going so far as to actually engage in sexual intercourse.

Step 2: Now what?

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Before you can start making out, you need to find someone else to make out with.

This may be the hardest and most confusing part of making out. Most people give up here, but it is important to avoid that temptation. The trick is to be persistent and confident. Do not be afraid to share your feelings of love with your prospective make out partner. If they do not share the same passion, don't fret; move on to someone else.

In the past I've found people to make out with at school, on Craigslist and in China. You can also find people to make out with at work, through friends and using social networking sites like Myspace. Actually, you can find someone to make out with just about anywhere if you look hard enough and stay focused.

It is important to remember that familiarity breeds passion. Individuals that you get to know on a day-to-day basis are ideal candidates for making out with since you have time to build stronger feelings of love towards them.

Note: It would be difficult to make out with oneself. An individual usually lacks the necessary strong sexual passion for him or herself that making out demands. In addition, the physical logistics of making out with oneself usually prove troublesome and confusing.

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Step 3: And then, what do I do?

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If you're reading this far, you must have completed Step 2 and found someone to make out with. Good for you!

There is one more thing that you must do before you can start making out. You have to set the mood. It doesn't have to be too romantic and doing things such as lighting candles, putting out flowers or playing romantic music may make the situation tense or awkward for your partner.

So... RELAX! Find somewhere comfortable and private where neither person will feel pressured and you have some time to talk and become comfortable first. For example, the beer soaked couch in the middle of a party or the crowded bleachers at a hockey game are bad examples of places where you could make out.

Rather, making out should happen in bedrooms, deserted parks or parked cars. Just make sure it is not forced or overly-planned. It should happen naturally for best effect.

Dr. Girlfriend disagrees:
Making out is a spontaneous process. It can (and should!) happen just about anywhere, provided you and/or your partner feel unabashedly amorous at a particular moment. The above locations were mere examples, not constraints. Should you feel the urge to make out with a complete stranger sitting three seats over on a packed 18-hour flight to Ahmedabad, let neither stewardess nor the protests of the family with the screaming infant seated between you tear the two of you asunder. Splay over laps. Press up against store windows. Bump into passersby. Heck, create a crowd of gawking onlookers. This is your moment, your time. Thrust that tongue into it with joyous abandon. To hell with the world--you're making out!

As you can see, where, when and how one makes out is based on an individual's own preferences and comfort level. Always remember to be aware of your partner's--and your own.

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Step 4: Flirting

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Now that you and your prospective makeout partner are somewhere comfortable, the goal is to actually make them comfortable. Make a joke. Poke their nose. Lighten the mood. Say something profound. Flick your hair wistfully. Take pictures with a fake taxidermy owl in an antique photo booth.

In short, flirt with them. The goal is to seem as appealing as possible to your partner.

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Step 5: Making your move

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Okay, now is the time to make your move. STOP! Breathe... in.... out... in.... out....

Alright, be calm.

Start by getting close. It may be as simple as putting a hand on the leg of your make out partner or by leaning your head against his/her shoulder. If you want to be a little more daring you could put your arm around them or give them a hug.

Stay like this for a little while. Gauge their reaction to your advance by observing positive body language such as their body shifting into your embrace, a smiling expression or a high-level of comfort. If such reciprocation happens, then you're golden. If you instead observe negative body language such as an extreme nervous expression or a withdrawal from your embrace, you may want to either give them more time or dump them and go back to Step 1.

Once you are comfortable that they are receptive to your touch, lean in for a kiss. Don't be too forceful or stay in for too long. Just give your partner a little peck on the lips and retract an inch or two and wait a moment to see if they respond equally with a kiss. If they don't, try again a second time. If they still don't, this may not be your day. However, if they do, then you're all set to really commence the making out.

Dr. Girlfriend suggests:
If you're truly bold and you know such a move would be well within the scope of your partner's comfort level, go for an ass cheek. Remember: the type of "opening move" you make should not be based just on impulse, but also on your knowledge of your partner's boundaries and preferences, as well as his/her immediate responses to the situation and surroundings. In short, be mindful.

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Step 6: Kissy Kissy

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Kissing is more about passion, instinct and practice than technique.

Helpful pointers:
-Keep your eyes closed (it's rude, and you may find it distracting)
-Breathe (or you'll die)
-Don't be too overbearing (or your partner will withdraw)
-Enjoy (if you're not, stop)
-Experiment (try kissing his/her neck or sucking on an earlobe)

If you are still very concerned about technique, Noah is more than happy to show you How to kiss. He sure did show me.

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Step 7: How to make out video

Step 8: Cuddle and communicate

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After sharing such an intimate bond with your partner, it helps to take some time to cuddle and wind-down together. This is equally as important as all of those other more physical things you do, especially if you are trying to establish a long-term relationship.

Also, a bit of parting advice... Remember to keep an open dialogue with your partner about making out, even if it makes you uncomfortable to do so. They key to any relationship is communication. Be sure to let your partner know what you do or do not like and, equally important, to take the time to listen to them.

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Asianballer6 months ago

Just ball up KID!

Selsel24906 months ago
For the if you don't feel comfortable part then stop. I do feel really comfortable doing this, but I stop. I tend to get too far if I do continue, but It looks as if i make my boyfriend upset. I told him about it and why I stop. What should I do
WhiteFringe.7 months ago

this was really enjoyable.. I like how you state things. This was supposed to be something that I read out of stress, but this relaxed me a lot. Great article!! keep it up!

majity9 months ago
A lot
majity9 months ago
I will like it aloy 3
majity9 months ago
Make you next video
gmessenger1 year ago
Hehehehe! Good sense of humour :-). I thought this was 'cute'.
artworker1 year ago
Liked the flirt thing! This is a old school thing you are saying! Nobody flirts like that any more (bad). Good job in reminding that.
SupremeAT3 years ago
I have heard comments from girls and this comment is very repitive amongst girls "I would like a kiss to be spontaneous or random like it could happen at any time rather than planning for it." - So I would have to agree with the co writer as well....
ilpug3 years ago
Well, this has a good amount of useful suggestions that will help a total beginner. That said, well, after a few sessions, one might begin to notice a few flaws in this guide. Namely, nothing about the clitoris, a little more on how to initiate the whole process, and a disclaimer about differing social norms in other countries.
Dammit that's not how it happens and possibly never (if not rarely) is what happens... If that was the way stuff worked I might have slept this weekend, the weekend before that and before that and so on... I think it's a great instructable and is worthy classroom material, It could make a generation of teenagers alot less messed up. The only problem is it makes assumations and a kind of formula for the whole thing, It has never ever worked that way for me or anyone I know, the steps have zero order in practice and nothing will stop you and your partner from breaking every rule in the book once things escalate... Sorry for seeming harsh if I did, this is a good instructable and I suppose the steps are in the most sensible order, except the torture game lasts at least ten steps... or seems to lol. also americans are confusing, you have strange terms that change area to area... also watermelon is wrong, in public is fine if noone sees you lol...
American English is a funny thing. It's important to remember how enormous and populated the US is. We are a nation of immigrants who incorporated their traditions and languages into local culture and a national identity. That national identity varies from location to location, but is generally unified by the ideal of "being American." Just to keep it in perspective: the British Isles can fit inside of the State of Florida. Florida originally was a Spanish Colony. Southern Florida has oodles of Cuban-Americans and people who explicitly identify themselves as Cubans only, in spite of the fact that they are US citizens and have lived here for decades. I use to live in the UK, and there are a lot of words that have very different meanings between American and English. There's actually a linguist who wrote a book that translates many words and idioms between the two nations (partly in jest, and partly seriously.) In most medical schools, there are specific books and dictionaries on what different idioms mean for a general population. It's a crazy mixed up place that is full of (generally) open and curious people. Don't believe that what you see on the TV is the complete story, nor that tourists in NZ is a representative example of the US.
ilpug leebryuk3 years ago
Seems to me that I can understand talking to slang-using Europeans much easier than I can to some of my friends... That said, I am located in Nothern California, a place with many small "Dialects."
exactly as long as you don't believe we ride around in stagecoaches i believe we have eachother sussed... I figured this out after attempting to teach a girl from georgia and a girl from alaska slang....
EMO BARBIE6 years ago
double negative!
Oh snap!
So it told you everything?
afridave4 years ago
quite frankly you may as well just go all the way and have intercourse cos the quicker you get all that should we shouldnt we nonsense out of the way the quicker you can get down to having a real relationship (or not) .
brian2507 years ago
We should all share,life is tooooooooo short.
Amen brothaa 
bluepearl5 years ago
sorry to ask this it may be dump but hey, how exactly do you nibble the ear, is it by tongue?
from experience i've found that guys seem to engoy having their ears nibbled
abadfart5 years ago
i like the cuddling but my girl friend isn't so big on it
jaythedogg5 years ago
I grinned IRL at: "Repeat until she climaxes (or pretends to do so)." Then I LoL'd
breath or you'll die lol
Literally ROFL, i couldn't stop laughing at that.
"Flirt" is most likely not the best term to use here. Flirting is done somewhat playfully, and not used to "advance" your position or chances. I agree with the step, not the title. Perhaps "Get Comfortable".
it how they would feel to that person if they are ready and there parter is ready too so they can do it and just be your self and have a good time it away help me even I'm dating
Nudo646 years ago
wow maker faire? love that event!!!
Pyrossian6 years ago
Ignore the hateful comments u didnt just answer the basic question u gave me enough to do with my girlfriend for a while :D do u have any instructiblrs on sexual oscolation? (like from kissing to make out to heavy petting to sex). Although it was described here it was really lightly touched (pun not intended) Either way thanks a lot after 2 months with my girlfriend I'll finally be able to make the make outs more pleasurable :D
Dillster6 years ago
this stuff doesn't even tell me anything
Emma!6 years ago
making out is pretty simple its basically french kissing and can lead to more. but some people are afraid to kiss someone. this is simply because they think they cant kiss and will screw it up. kissing is pretty basic stuff. dont be scared just go for it !!
Just bang em
once, a wise man said

"Why? Because we can."
what if i want one person and cant get her to like me back and i cant stop thinking about her
let her go if she doesn't love you then she's not the one' find some one that you like and find someone who likes you okay.
update i managed to get her < my first girlfriend > but we broke up after her Halloween party still hang out with her some times even though it gets weird still have some feelings for her but she is no were near girlfriend material now her best friend likes me i like her back but i don't want to repeat what happened last time because her friend is actually a lot of fun when you live were i live having fun is rare and enjoyed to the maxxx
Where do you live blow blow land to the maxx
i did get something valuable from my last girlfriend a higher look on life better self astyme and with her experience she tought me the sweet spot to making a French kiss taste and feel nothing sort of amazing !!!
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