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One time I was pregnant. There were some simple things that I really wanted from my partner but at the time, I was too emotional to ask for them in a constructive way. Being a parent is a radical experience, and the starting point is the pregnant part. If you can provide an environment that is comfortable to your pregnant partner, the pregnancy, the birth, and the first months of insanity can be greatly improved. I believe that a pregnant woman's needs are totally within the scope of what you can do.

Step 1: Take notice of the amazing power of her body

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Most everyone wants their work to be appreciated, especially in relationships. When someone is working hard, it makes the experience more enjoyable to know that it is not in vain. Your lady is creating a human being without even knowing what she is doing. The baby is being made from parts of her body. It's totally insane and powerful, and if just once a day, you let her know that her body is amazing and doing a good job, you will make her happier.

Step 2: Water and vitamins

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Pregnant women are thirsty. They need beverages wherever they go. It would be really really sweet if you could make sure that she has water. She might already be on top of this water-having need, but I guarantee you that she will forget her water bottle at least one time. If you are the one that produces a little bottle of water for her from your bag or car or whatever, you will earn yourself some hugs and you will avoid the panic and crazed behavior that happens sometimes when a pregnant woman gets thirsty and can't find water. I think it's totally an animal thing, but never go walking with a pregnant woman unless one of you is carrying water.

Vitamins. Likely, she will take some kind of supplemental vitamin while pregnant. If you can make sure that she takes her vitamins every day with maybe even just an email or text message, she will feel like she is part of a well-oiled pregnancy team.
 
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wdials881 year ago
I have serious problems being patient, it's the hardest thing I struggle with, any suggestions?
applestone (author)  wdials881 year ago
Well, I think that patience is learned. You'll need a lot of it once you're raising a kid, so it's never too soon to start paying attention to it. All I do is breathe, and just take notice of myself when I'm being impatient. The first step is definitely noticing tension in your body, your breathing, that sort of anxious feeling - all the things that may happen when you are feeling impatient. Just watching those feelings will help them lose power. Over time, it will get easier. Hope that helps!
foxinsox1 year ago
I'm in doula training right now, and this guide is right on with what we talk about. great tips, bravo!
mdebo5 years ago
This is a nice guide. Hopefully some guys will read it as I have. My lady isnt pregnant or nor do we plan on it, but future preperation is always nice. Now only if there were a manual less than 4000 pages on how to understand a woman...ha. Im sure there would be 4000 pages on me as well, but yea, you get the drift.
Way to go, future awesome dad :]
Oh God... DON'T look at another woman while you're in a relationship EVER! Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or just on a date! That hurts the woman's feelings more than you could ever know... You have to be really REALLY careful! Especially if she's pregnant and her self-esteem is dangling at the edge of a cliff and anything can push it over!
That's no joke. Just the other day I had that happen and I can't stop thinking about him looking at this girl... I've always struggled with self-esteem though. Is there an instructable for that? Haha :) Oh and I'm 13 weeks by the way
m4l1n3 years ago
Scary picture...
jennyespa3 years ago
Every soon to be daddy should read this:)
Screamo4 years ago
Just give her 10 meals a day and she will be fine //.O X(♫ S⊂R∃AM◯♫ )X
My last comment was supposed to be a reply to xrayangiodoc's comment at the bottom of the page... oops :)
pechka5 years ago
A variation: some of us do NOT want to eat at all when we're near the birth, but the baby needs food. Keep little dishes of trail mix or any other nutrient-dense, high-protein "nibbles" around and encourage her to munch---heck, make a silly game of "Daddy-bird feeding Mama-bird to feed their Baby-bird" if that's what it takes, but keep after her if she's having trouble getting healthful calories down. Flan (egg custard) is loved by many almost-moms.

Also, the wonderful author was maybe too indirect for some folks to get the part about "the hormones that put.....will help get the baby out." Getting aroused, especially by nipple stimulation, helps get the uterus ready to work hard----and will make her feel beautiful, too.
Oh yeah, after awhile in labor, applying a really warm blanket to her lower back, w/no warning, will be the best thing that she's felt for many months!

And last, after nine months of being made much of, and receiving presents, suddenly ALL attention goes to the new kid on the block. If you, and a few others, will bring her little gifts, yummies, funnies, pretties, and especially something tailored to her particular likes will remind her of how important and loved she is. Not usually much of a problem, but this would be "advanced, graduate level" expression of support and esteem.

Beautiful 'ible! (Sorry about the length here, but this was as short as I could get it....)

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branfrog pechka5 years ago
How do you apply a warm blanket to the back if she is undoubtedly lying on her back? ...thanks for clarifying the arousal thing, it wasn't very clear...seems highly inappropriate/awkward given the situation though... :P
nerdmom is right. Lying on your back can increase the time it takes to deliver by 30% (I think that was the statistic). Women who are allowed to move freely deliver quicker, and moving into different positions at different stages of labour can help to ease some pain. Delivering on your back means you're working against gravity and it's for the doctors ease. My bf recently bought an electric over-blanket that is very soft and fleecy, I think that would be quite nice when your back is aching. :) Lying under it feels like you're lying under the sun. :) Good instructable. I'll be sure to forward it to my bf in a couple of years when we're out of university, getting married and getting busy. :P
Actually you can spend a good amount of time Laboring on your side. Standing up and walking around, squatting, etc. . . Laboring on your back is a doctor/nurse oriented position, not a mother/baby oriented position. You don't have to labor on your back. You position yourself most comfortably and go with that.
aniboi1234 years ago
hey guys, im 15, and my new gf is pregant, she was my ex but the guy who did it to her used her for a one night stand, and i basically love her, she is also 15 and i really dont know what to do, but i will always be theree for her
As a newly married guy, this is great stuff to keep in mind should we find ourselves in that sort of way in the foreseeable future. Thanks a lot.
Newly married?

Advice:

Clean the toilet, deal with the trash, help with dishes without being asked to. On a regular basis. She will rave about you forever if you do this.
I do the dishes fairly regularly and she DOES rave about it! But I have never cleaned the toilet and bathroom sink, even though she mentions it when it gets bad before she cleans it. Maybe I should use those as cues to do it first. Thanks for the advice!
Just a tip for any newly-married guys out there: That is, indeed, a hint. If a woman mentions that something is a problem but doesn't take care of it, she is hoping and praying that you will.

Another tip for newly-married guys: women LOVE to pretend you think of nothing but them, all the time. Therefore, the best and most awesome thing you can do is plan something to do with her, taking into account her schedule and everything (even look in her day planner, or on her calendar, for a good day/time), and then surprise her with it. The more elaborate the planning, the more it makes her feel super special!
You are welcome. (and great job helping with the dishes) I wish you a long, mutually healthy & happy marriage :o)
My wife is pregnant now and is due in a couple weeks. Most of this info seems spot on.  She is moody and needs support and massages and more support and she really is always thirsty too. I have been to a few appointments with her and we had lamaze classes too it was boring but it makes her feel better.  Lamaze class did teach me that there is no "right" position to have a baby, like most people without children I thought the normal position was on her back but there are tons of positions.  Anyway thanks for the information it is very useful. 
vandal11385 years ago
step one: Aqcuire fluffy sheep dog. Step two: stare.
webtron5 years ago
This is very nice, but i'd rather make my happy partner pregnant
I would have loved a surprise warm blanket on my back while in labor! I was almost always sitting up or lying on my side, so it wouldn't have been a problem.
Trace II5 years ago
Up next: How to Make Your Happy Partner Pregnant
pechka5 years ago
Branfrog, at some point the doc's will probably have her turn onto her left side to make it easier on her heart, especially if it's a long labor and/or if she has pre-eclampsia. Probably the couple won't feel like doing intimate things in the hospital, but at home during earlier stages of labor, it can get things going. And coaching through labor with the breathing and concentration can be as intimate as love-making anyway.
applestone (author)  pechka5 years ago
Thanks for adding to this instructable and cutting to the chase pechka!
JZ Price5 years ago
im just a teenager, but doesn't this require only one sentence: Read there mind, and do such.
jmr17605 years ago
NOOOOO! As far as I'm concerned I've already done my share of the work during conception when I sent my boys swimming in her direction - let her take care of the rest... ...just kidding!!! - isn't my wife a lucky woman?
Feed, water, read summin, stroke, pet, talk and make out. GOT IT! Now to make my wife pregnant!
I have no pregant partner, but I'm saving this for when I do. Thanks! It reminds me of my days working graveyard at a gas station; I was on a first name basis with all the 'expecting' fathers coming to satisfy their craving girls. I would suggest a stockpile of: ice cream bars/sandwiches, Funions (for some reason these were really popular), pickles, maraschino cherries, bologna, cheese sticks, and pretty much anything with chocolate :)
abnor5 years ago
This was a cute instructable. It made me smile an awful lot. The compliments and parts with touching the feet or getting intimate are really true, and just a little love will always go a long way, even if you're not pregnant.
eranox5 years ago
Really, really good instructable! I have to admit, I was half-expecting to see what amounted to a list of complaints to the public about your partner. :P Thank you for the real, solid advice. I didn't know quite a bit of this beforehand. You should get a medal just for the chocolate bar bit alone.
soleta5 years ago
Very nice. I think you are doing a big thing posting this instructable. It is something I would like all future dads read. *Just about the feet rubbing.... it must be soft, it´s not a good idea if feet are swollen. Rub veeery gently as it can make things worst.
ortho5 years ago
I did not think it was possible
omnibot ortho5 years ago
What, pregnancy?
=SMART= omnibot5 years ago
yea what the hell happened to the stalk baby delivery service ??!! tough economy huh
omnibot =SMART=5 years ago
Yeah, these days I suppose you have to make your own like in the olden days. Man, if the economy gets any worse well be back to beating oxygen and hydrogen together by hand for water .. again. I don't know what we'll do for gravity.
Velcro!!
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