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Step 3So you meet them in person
This is a continuation of step 1 or 2 for those that want to see them
If it's been a while or even just a week when you meet them do say hi and greet them with maybe a hug or a kiss on the cheek depending on how it feels but if you're not sure it's best to play it 'cool' (for lack of a better term) to avoid being awkward. If they look really well do say 'you look great 'or something along those lines but if they do look like hell be a bit more honest because fake flattery makes ex's mad (again just seems to) don't say anything really harsh but if they look rough saying something like 'you look like I feel' or 'you look like you've had a long day' in a joking way can make someone feel better (note: if they are very vain/proud/superficial fake flattery may be better).
Again getting talking is the big thing because there's likely to be more awkwardness in person, but once you get a conversation going try your best not to attempt to steer it, even if you have intention and want to get them onto a topic pushing the talk a certain way can put you back to square one of silence.
If you find yourself sitting in silence smiling awkwardly making a joke about it can help alot just saying something like 'hmmm this whole not talking thing is fun' or ' I love these awkward little moments when you really don't know what to do or say', another alternative is to make an odd noise or do something funny that made them laugh. Think of what you always wanted to say when everyone gets in a lift together... (at this point I should mention I'm very embarrassing to be around if you're self conscious) I always get into lifts and when there's other people there noone speaks I just love saying something really stupid for badness like 'looking at someone and going 'psst everybody be really quiet we're in a lift'
Basically something to break the silence...
When you're there enjoy yourself you're likely to have a good time once both of you drop your guard a bit.
If it's been a while or even just a week when you meet them do say hi and greet them with maybe a hug or a kiss on the cheek depending on how it feels but if you're not sure it's best to play it 'cool' (for lack of a better term) to avoid being awkward. If they look really well do say 'you look great 'or something along those lines but if they do look like hell be a bit more honest because fake flattery makes ex's mad (again just seems to) don't say anything really harsh but if they look rough saying something like 'you look like I feel' or 'you look like you've had a long day' in a joking way can make someone feel better (note: if they are very vain/proud/superficial fake flattery may be better).
Again getting talking is the big thing because there's likely to be more awkwardness in person, but once you get a conversation going try your best not to attempt to steer it, even if you have intention and want to get them onto a topic pushing the talk a certain way can put you back to square one of silence.
If you find yourself sitting in silence smiling awkwardly making a joke about it can help alot just saying something like 'hmmm this whole not talking thing is fun' or ' I love these awkward little moments when you really don't know what to do or say', another alternative is to make an odd noise or do something funny that made them laugh. Think of what you always wanted to say when everyone gets in a lift together... (at this point I should mention I'm very embarrassing to be around if you're self conscious) I always get into lifts and when there's other people there noone speaks I just love saying something really stupid for badness like 'looking at someone and going 'psst everybody be really quiet we're in a lift'
Basically something to break the silence...
When you're there enjoy yourself you're likely to have a good time once both of you drop your guard a bit.
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