How to tell a friend u like them!!!!!

We've all come across this problem... You spend time with your *best mate of the opposite sex* and then you fall in love :P.. so sweet

Well telling her is actually quite easy.. Yes it is more easier said then done but with these simple tips your sure to catch a big one...

Step 1 Where your at with this girl/boy

Ok well the most obvious question is when u flirt does he/she flirt back with u?

If so its easy.. if they dont not so easy..

Now i know this instructable is about *how to tell a friend u like them* but the relationship and feeling must be strong in order for this to work

Body language: the main conversation tool is body language.. More of the conversation is through your body than your verbal communication... So be very conscious of the way each body position is posed.. Im not telling u to be worried about your body language because that looks funny :P

Ok so when your around this person you must use open and relaxed stances and expressions.

A nice calm face as the one shown below will prove to be worth while... Note the next few pictures
Palms slightly faceing outwards provide a more safer and open feeling then the crossed arms pictured afterwards.

Here are a few body language links
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/body.php - table of some of the bod language signs
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_language - explanation of body language

Comments

[Lovergirly]

I have a guy friend who I really really like but he teases me and messes with me I can't tell if he likes me or not.also every time I ask him who he like he says I'm not telling u. He has me confused .help?

[ShadowGirl15]

(Sorry for the english, Im Latvian..)
So.... I have this friend that I know over 10 years, but I havent seen him for 1-2 years and we started to rarely talk. Last year I started to really like him.. But I know that he will not like me, because Im not like the other girls....And we had a little fight..well i think it was a fight....
He only thinks of me as a friend....So i geave him a message that told him we have to go our separate ways. He shocked me with his reply! I read the message over and over but still I didnt believe him, but my heart told me otherwise... I just started to cry! I gave him / us another chance. I know that Im hurting myself with this... but I cant let him go... I tried to let go, but he didnt want to let go! Please help me! What can I say to him (maybe he has a girlfriend) that wouldnt be awkward latter? And maybe how can I get over him?

[rokker78]

I like this girl in my school and we are great friends but mainly text and Facebook eachother and she just broke up with her boyfriend and she only likes me as a friend and what should I do to get her to go out with me?

[ClemensY290]

ok this will be a hard one for you im guessing ok how do you find out if a girl is single, without asking anyone or any of her friends and without checking the status on myspace theres this girl, we talk alot, she had a boyfriend like 6 months ago, but now i dont think she does but im not sure

[marsbars19]

well don't i am a girl from experience.. a boy tried to stalk me and i didn't like it.. just text her or ask her politely like "hey .. i was wondering.. r u still going out with _______________?"SHE WILL only think that ur curious or wanting to date her but stil.. it's worth the while . she might be single.. if she says she is single .. then bring her flowers candies chocolate.. she might think it's cute and date u !! i hope that's better than stalking .. :) goodluck! <3 <3 :P

[tylermenezes]

I think the only option you've left yourself is stalking her.

[taylorpup]

agreed

[Houdinipeter]

or asking her. but stalking always works!

[tylermenezes]

"without asking anyone"

[neipkatt]

i really like this guy but idk if he likes me back all of my friends say that he dose like me but im just worried that if i tell him that i like him and he dont like me then it will be weird to talk to him
but i dont no what love feels like but when im around him my tummy turns upside down and when im not around him i cant stop thinking about him is this love??
PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[marsbars19]

u r in love... just say that u love him... if it is a negative return well just live with it... what i mean to say is forget about him.. find a new guy.... . bu if u really love him, then try to make him a bit jealous... wear make up.. wear prettier stuff... i did that and i have a date... so try Ur best and, u'll do great <3 <3 <3 :)

[79robbie97]

Hey, I really like this girl, i liked her once befor then we became friends and i tried to convince myself that were only friends. Ive knowen her since i was 4, and were great friends. and now i like her again. but i dont want to tell her how i feel because if she doesnt like me back then im afrid we wont be friends. Can i have so help?

[XbeerrootX]

Okay so i really really like my female best friend and i wanna tell her how i feel but idk. I met her two years ago and i started to like her a bit, but she had a bf already so i backed of and stayed a friend. Her and her bf broke a while back and my feelings for her came back, but i kept them at bay by telling myself she is just a friend, but over the last couple months the feelings came back much stronger than ever. Over the last year we have become really close and talk to eachother everyday on the phone and always go to eachother for advice. I wanna tell this girl how i feel about her, but im not sure if thatz the best choice or not HELP D:

[joey29]

You should definitely tell this girl she might be feeling the same way! If she is your best friend there is a reason for that. She might be feeling the same way about you! Next time you have a chance tell her it will only make your relationship stronger. Relationships are more fulfilling when they grow out of a friendship! good luck let us know what happens

[neipkatt]

im not good enough to ever get the guy i want....
life sucks

[elmo59]

I've been good friends with this girl since we were 9 or 10 and I've always had a thing for her. We're now 16 and 17 and neither of us have had significant boy/girl friends in that time. I really like her and we're going on holiday together soon (our families are friends). I don't know whether i should do anything. Help!

[taylorpup]

Just look at your body language. Does she look like she's flirting?

[zmendez]

Ok i have a girl tht i liked for the pass year, or so, she hadnt been dating for some time, and i want to ask her out, but the problems is tht idk if she is really into me and on the other hand my ex is somewhat neutral... so plz plz plz plz plz plz HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jackie24]

what should i do if my best friend is dating my ex-boyfriend and she tells me they want to plan to kiss. and no one knows they r dating expect me and another dude and she tells me not to tell anyone but she keeps on trying to make me jealous and it made me explode so i told three people and one of the girls told my friend and another girl told her friend and my friend keeps saying it is not true and they think i am a huge liar now and i dont know what to do plz someone help me i am only ten and i have no one to help me!!! plz plz plz give me some opinions!!!

[Christmas]

How do you stop your boyfriend from always asking you to show him your top part?Thx.

[BOMBOMBOMB]

Well i suppose you have to evaluate whether or not you really want to be with a guy whos asking you to do that. You should firmly say no and ask him to respect that. If he doesnt than.. Is he really the one?

[hippojoe]

Heres a couple options. 1. Say no 2. Say they haven't changed much since last time 3. Give him a picture of them 4. Break up with that perv 5. Tell him to return the favor(maybe not) 6. Ask him why he is so obsessed with your top parts 7. Give him what he wants Hope this helps.

[Jiimmyy]

I really really like this girl she has been my best girl m8 for years and I've liked her since the first moment I met her. She then moved to a different country before I could tell her how I felt. We kept in touch and I never forgot my feelings for her and she finally came back. But I found out she had a boyfriend in the other country now. She talked about him and stuff. But she then decided it wasnt going to work so dumped him. She then told me she fancied me and had done before she moved but then a few days after telling me people from where she moved started having a go at her saying she never really loved him if she could dump him so easily. She then got back with the guy. She has told me herself that she is not happy with him. He doesn't seem to appreciate how lucky he is to have someone as amazing as her. I just don't know what to do now, how do I finally tell her the extent of my feelings for her and finally go out???????????? Please help I feel like my heart has been torn out!!!!!!!

[BOMBOMBOMB]

hey mate i kno whow you feel. But what do you think this chick is feeling. She's almost beng forced to go out with a guy. When she's probably thinking about you and her. Make sure she knows your there. That you can and do care about her. Let her confide in you about her boyfriend. But dont get jealous just keep calm. and talk her through it.. And if she's confiding in you about her boyfriend. Then your obviously going to haev a great chance. She's probably looking for an excuse to dump this guy. And you can be her golden knight. Just ask her so what do you think of me.. Maybe get her to compare you to her boyfriend. Like " So how do i stand up to your boyfriend". If she says something like "About 100x better" Your golden. But if hse says somethign like. Well you a great friend. But "Guys name" is jsut so wonderful probably not. Its up to you to take the stand. Get in or go home. If your hearts been riped out then she's got it. And the only way she's going to let go. Is if she finds out you like her. She'll stop ripping and just hold it. Remember if you ask her straight out its over and done with. You'll have your answer. And when your about to ask her you might get sweaty hands or wtv. But just say the first word of yoru sentence push yourself to say it. Cause once you've even said the first word. You wont wanna stop. But it soudns like she wants you. and she doesnt want her current boyfriend. Good Luck mate ;)

[Jiimmyy]

thanks man I think you have given me the boost I needed

[BOMBOMBOMB]

No problem mate.. Tell us how it goes ;) Im sure you'll nail it.

[nirvanalover]

alright there is this girl and we flirt like crazy and weve done some stuff and other certain stuff but then she will sorta flirt with other guys but still not as much as we do. signals get confuesed and i sorta move on then she flirts with me even more. these signals are getting so confuesing bro

[mynameischeese]

I'm in middle school and there's this girl who i am just kind of friends with. She is like reallllllly popular and i realllly like her... How can i ask her out? Great 'ible btw!

[Devan campbell]

same with me

[BOMBOMBOMB]

Lol hey mate sorry for the late reply. Yeah this happens quite a bit. Now your gonna have to work hard on this one. if your kind of friends well then it can work. Just get yourself around her. You know talk to her as much as you can. But remember dont change yourself to get her to like you. Cause if a girl needs you to change so she'll like you. Then stuff her she's not worth it.. Remember the social status bar is there to be broken. Just because its socially un acceptabel doesnt mean you cant do it. Change whats acceptable.

[mynameischeese]

oh yea, and theres this really annoying girl who i am 90% sure likes me but i need to tell her i don't like her. how do i do this without hurting her feelings?

[zipzapper859]

there is a girl like that who likes me!! it is annoying and i don't like her.... what should i do?????? please help

[ChantaLL]

hey, i have this "problem" with a guy.. :/ sry not with one.. 'cause some of my friends have love feeling, but i wouldnT hurt them.. and i wanna keep our friendship what should i do? anybody.. boys if u have any idea, please help me (: thanks a lot

[Lawlho]

Break it to him gently. That's what i would want, as a guy. Or just ignore the subject, and when he asks you, flat out say that you're just friends.

[daltonjcw]

Bring a guy, I would say:

a) Say nothing. Cruel, but sometimes best

b) If there the macho-I-Don't-care-screw-the-world type, break it to them, nicely. might be worth pursuing another date, to gently let them know

Good Luck!

[Alzeido]

just tell him that you dont want a relationsship with hima atm. don't leave it too long or he will think about it loads and eventually develop feelings for you, if not already. hury hurry

[ilpug]

well, just go upfront and tell her that she is a nice person but you dont have those type of feelings for her. (the nice person bit is integral, it will calm her down before she even gets pissed off.)

[zipzapper859]

ok thanks

[mynameischeese]

have you ever told a friend u like her? thanks for the advice!

[Crystalclear22]

Well I have this friend (u don't need to kno his name)that I've had since year 4 and now I'm in year 6.him and I have been very close friends but since year 4 everyone in my class says that we r made for eachother.I didn't like him that time.now I'm in year 6 people r still saying that.My 2friends kept on saying that I wanna kiss him and on that same day I had a dream about the boy.the next day I had feelings for I'm till now.I'm going on a trip as a year group to fairplay house .I've been planning to tell him on the trip(the trip is for 2 half days)but I don't kno how to or wat to say !! I'm so scared