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Step 10Gay and Lesbian Sex
Gay and lesbian couples can use any of the techniques described in the previous steps - just remember your protection! Sure, the pregnancy scare is out, but the threat of disease is ever present. Females are at less of a risk than males, but it is still important to be careful. :)
As none of us can say we've got proper experience with this subject, we have instead searched the internets high and low and tried to find some good resources for you guys! The sad thing is that we couldn't find many that weren't direct links to porn or hate groups - might I recommend looking on amazon for books if you're really curious and these links don't help? The have a Joy of Sex for both gays and lesbians, and I really think they're worth looking into!
After asing around and calling in a few favors (if you don't see me for a few days, it might be because I had to help someone move a body), we have some more data.
Ladies, apparently sex toys aren't as popular as certain publications would have you assume. General advice seems to be to leave that stuff at home, at least for the first few times. So I guess that makes the "foreplay" part all the more important. A lot of guys, when they get her bra off the first time, will just go at it like they're making mashed potatoes. This tendency seems to be less pronounced among lesbians, presumably because they've got a set, too. But good advice seems to be to be gentle, and if you're going to play with her breasts, to not try and smash them into one-- slow circles around the nipple are a popular tactic. Advice for oral is to remember to visit someplace above the waist every one and a while, probably continuing with your hand. As we've reminded several times throughout the 'ible, it's not porn: for porn they leave space for camera shots. Don't do that.
Guys: Lots of lube! Because of the physics of a rear entry, there is considerably less face-to-face time. It is apparently acceptable to masturbate while being entered from behind, but it seems to be personal preference. The other thing to do is to have the more active partner reach around and perform fellatio. I hear the physics of this can get rather awkward. Mutual masturbation, being considerably less risky, also seems popular. So is oral. One fellow specifically asked me to say "don't try to 69 the first time".
Any time it's anal, all disease risk is increased substantially. So for the guys, even if he says its his first time, wearing a rubber is the best plan. It seems like even though dudes usually don't like the idea, most of them will wear one, period. Fun fact that I didn't really need to know: being uncirumcised inreases risk.
Speaking of disease, if you're going to be sharing a sex toy, putting a new condom on it is a good plan. We all know that things kind of tend to get mixed up in the shuffle (umm... where are my glasses?), but it's not unreasonable.
I found the about.com links the most informative as the articles as written in a very friendly and helpful manner. They answer many of the questions people are likely to ask. :D
Please note that most of these links will link to explicit material, either in the text or the ads that pop up due to keywords. Click at your own risk.
Lesbian Sex
Lesbian Life @ About.com
First time lesbian sex tips!
Google Book Search preview of "The Whole Lesbian Sex Book"
Gay Sex
Gay Life @ About.com
Gay Sex - A How-to Guide
Safer sex fact sheets.
As none of us can say we've got proper experience with this subject, we have instead searched the internets high and low and tried to find some good resources for you guys! The sad thing is that we couldn't find many that weren't direct links to porn or hate groups - might I recommend looking on amazon for books if you're really curious and these links don't help? The have a Joy of Sex for both gays and lesbians, and I really think they're worth looking into!
After asing around and calling in a few favors (if you don't see me for a few days, it might be because I had to help someone move a body), we have some more data.
Ladies, apparently sex toys aren't as popular as certain publications would have you assume. General advice seems to be to leave that stuff at home, at least for the first few times. So I guess that makes the "foreplay" part all the more important. A lot of guys, when they get her bra off the first time, will just go at it like they're making mashed potatoes. This tendency seems to be less pronounced among lesbians, presumably because they've got a set, too. But good advice seems to be to be gentle, and if you're going to play with her breasts, to not try and smash them into one-- slow circles around the nipple are a popular tactic. Advice for oral is to remember to visit someplace above the waist every one and a while, probably continuing with your hand. As we've reminded several times throughout the 'ible, it's not porn: for porn they leave space for camera shots. Don't do that.
Guys: Lots of lube! Because of the physics of a rear entry, there is considerably less face-to-face time. It is apparently acceptable to masturbate while being entered from behind, but it seems to be personal preference. The other thing to do is to have the more active partner reach around and perform fellatio. I hear the physics of this can get rather awkward. Mutual masturbation, being considerably less risky, also seems popular. So is oral. One fellow specifically asked me to say "don't try to 69 the first time".
Any time it's anal, all disease risk is increased substantially. So for the guys, even if he says its his first time, wearing a rubber is the best plan. It seems like even though dudes usually don't like the idea, most of them will wear one, period. Fun fact that I didn't really need to know: being uncirumcised inreases risk.
Speaking of disease, if you're going to be sharing a sex toy, putting a new condom on it is a good plan. We all know that things kind of tend to get mixed up in the shuffle (umm... where are my glasses?), but it's not unreasonable.
I found the about.com links the most informative as the articles as written in a very friendly and helpful manner. They answer many of the questions people are likely to ask. :D
Please note that most of these links will link to explicit material, either in the text or the ads that pop up due to keywords. Click at your own risk.
Lesbian Sex
Lesbian Life @ About.com
First time lesbian sex tips!
Google Book Search preview of "The Whole Lesbian Sex Book"
Gay Sex
Gay Life @ About.com
Gay Sex - A How-to Guide
Safer sex fact sheets.
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Dec 26, 2008. 3:09 AMJouda Mann
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In this section on gay and lesbian sex, the best picture you could find is a hovering screw of anal torture?
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