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Step 5Foreplay...
Yep, this was going to come up throughout the 'ible...
A Male's Perspective...
Masturbation - Female, fingering...
This one isn't hard it in comparison to some, your fingers are highly developed and very dexterous, plus reasonably sensitive.
Don't just shove them straight in, that could be damaging, rub up and down the vagina, play
with her clitoris (small bump near the top, different in every girl but more pronounced when aroused.) You need to get her wet, this is a natural response which is there for good reason...
Once she's warmed up, start moving your finger in and out, I'd suggest the middle finger, it's longer and quite manoeuvrable, start by going up and rubbing along the top gently while sliding in and out.
If one finger is snug enough then do it a few times before moving to two, this does have it's merits, a smaller amount of pain, traded for less when sex comes around...
The G-spot and other little irregularities... First off the G-spot does exist, it's usually 2-3inches above the vaginal opening, feels almost spongey, though I say not quite like that... It does feel different from other bits and has no ends of pleasures for most women... If you can reach it without straining your hand up constantly then rub it gently and let them enjoy. If you can't reach without straining then go in and out gently and just rub up and down in passing.
There are other little bits that can be just as fun, vaginas, much like people are individuals, if you feel little bumps or maybe a little outcrop, play with and watch for reaction, some are very sensitive.
If your partner feels like directing you allow them to, they know it better than anyone else, especially if you're new to the game, listen also, always be reactionary, if you're exploring a bit and there's a little spot they really like play with it.
Variation, don't sit and do the same thing constantly vary it a little, maybe now and again slow down to almost dead stop then start on something they really love, get them wound up, masturbation is for fun, that's it's main point...
A final not about such things, don't put a finger in and go in and out like you're having a seizure, it's usually painful for them because the rest of your hand is effectively punching their crotch and they probably wont enjoy it that much like that, if you're asked to then consider it...
A Female's Perspective...
As the boys have already said, it is going to take a longer time for a girl to warm up than it will for a guy. Guys can take little or no stimulation - girls are usually more high maintenance. Arousal can occur in many ways for girls - through clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration, or simply kissing and rubbing. Every girl will react differently and that's the key - pay attention to how your partner is reacting!
I'm assuming most of the people who read this instructable will need to learn the basics so I'm not going to focus on more complex things like the infamous G spot - I think it's more important to know little things to make foreplay more enjoyable for everyone involved.
Tips for foreplay:
This is a good precursor to sex and can be awfully similar in some cases...
This can be any number of different things, mostly oral isn't as simple, it involves someone being upside down, not to mention height differences and the distraction complications or head injuries...
There is little separate advice to add or this except, if you're both doing hand stuff it's easier if the guy's arm goes over the girls, partly because guys have longer arms in most cases and partly due to the actions involved...
A Male's Perspective...
Masturbation - Female, fingering...
This one isn't hard it in comparison to some, your fingers are highly developed and very dexterous, plus reasonably sensitive.
Don't just shove them straight in, that could be damaging, rub up and down the vagina, play
with her clitoris (small bump near the top, different in every girl but more pronounced when aroused.) You need to get her wet, this is a natural response which is there for good reason...
Once she's warmed up, start moving your finger in and out, I'd suggest the middle finger, it's longer and quite manoeuvrable, start by going up and rubbing along the top gently while sliding in and out.
If one finger is snug enough then do it a few times before moving to two, this does have it's merits, a smaller amount of pain, traded for less when sex comes around...
The G-spot and other little irregularities... First off the G-spot does exist, it's usually 2-3inches above the vaginal opening, feels almost spongey, though I say not quite like that... It does feel different from other bits and has no ends of pleasures for most women... If you can reach it without straining your hand up constantly then rub it gently and let them enjoy. If you can't reach without straining then go in and out gently and just rub up and down in passing.
There are other little bits that can be just as fun, vaginas, much like people are individuals, if you feel little bumps or maybe a little outcrop, play with and watch for reaction, some are very sensitive.
If your partner feels like directing you allow them to, they know it better than anyone else, especially if you're new to the game, listen also, always be reactionary, if you're exploring a bit and there's a little spot they really like play with it.
Variation, don't sit and do the same thing constantly vary it a little, maybe now and again slow down to almost dead stop then start on something they really love, get them wound up, masturbation is for fun, that's it's main point...
A final not about such things, don't put a finger in and go in and out like you're having a seizure, it's usually painful for them because the rest of your hand is effectively punching their crotch and they probably wont enjoy it that much like that, if you're asked to then consider it...
A Female's Perspective...
As the boys have already said, it is going to take a longer time for a girl to warm up than it will for a guy. Guys can take little or no stimulation - girls are usually more high maintenance. Arousal can occur in many ways for girls - through clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration, or simply kissing and rubbing. Every girl will react differently and that's the key - pay attention to how your partner is reacting!
I'm assuming most of the people who read this instructable will need to learn the basics so I'm not going to focus on more complex things like the infamous G spot - I think it's more important to know little things to make foreplay more enjoyable for everyone involved.
Tips for foreplay:
- Communication and trying different things - this is so important, especially for your first time period or with a new partner. You need to learn what they like. Trying kissing, rubbing, sucking, etc. in different areas and measure your partner's reactions. The breasts, buttocks, neck, thighs, etc. are good places to start!
- Start with your hands and move to oral if both partners are comfortable with it. Most people find hand stimulation to be a good alternative to oral when starting out. Guys need to make sure they don't rush too much when it comes to fingering - slow and easy is the best route at first - at least until the girl is aroused enough. Also - cut those nails and make sure your hands are clean! And remember to watch her reaction! Girls - don't be too rough. Moving up and down too quickly and with too much friction can seriously smart!
- Don't be afraid to ask your partner to demonstrate what they like if communication is lacking.
- And most importantly - make sure everyone involved is okay with moving forward before heading that way. Both parties should be properly aroused or things could get clumsy and complicated! ;)
This is a good precursor to sex and can be awfully similar in some cases...
This can be any number of different things, mostly oral isn't as simple, it involves someone being upside down, not to mention height differences and the distraction complications or head injuries...
There is little separate advice to add or this except, if you're both doing hand stuff it's easier if the guy's arm goes over the girls, partly because guys have longer arms in most cases and partly due to the actions involved...
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