All that aside, lets get started.
If you have a personal FTP server, or any other kind of server, and you wish to check it without VNC, there is a simple fix. Your monitor.
Step 1: You Will Need:
Two video cables, DVI or VGA, doesn't matter
A monitor that can support two inputs
Step 2: Hook Up the Cables
(pardon the blurry image, I sneezed when I took this picture)
Step 3: Look for and Press the "inputs" Button
Press it until you are seeing your server screen
(I Suggest arranging your server programs, (If they're all daemons, try to find a GUI for it) So that when you flip to your server screen you can see all the critical programs running, and any debugging tools.