Face to face conversations can be awful, especially if you are not interested in what the other party is saying. Phone conversations with people who don't want to let you off are also uncomfortable, but easier to handle. I face these dilemmas at least a few times a week , since one of my house mates is a know it all chatterbox, and I have very little patience on the phone. I find that these easy and polite steps give me all the power I need to cut the cord or leave a draining, one sided conversation!
Step 1: On the Phone
Identify what the person is saying- there are so many different circumstances! Here are some examples:
A) Relationship talker on the phone-YOUR EXCUSE- headache (be honest!)
B) The "Did you know?" stupid fact person-YOUR EXCUSE- That's great, but I need to go finish the laundry. Talk soon!
C) "Always need a favor" person-YOUR EXCUSE- Listen, then say," Oh (name) I just don't feel comfortable about this, I have to go. Okay talk soon, byyyyyyyye!"
D) Annoying boyfriend or girlfriend- YOUR EXCUSE- Hey baby, can I call you back later? I really just don't want to be on the phone right now. I love you (or I miss you).
Remember to always reassure the caller that you still like them or that you still respect them. Often times people feel bad that they kept you, gave you a headache or made you feel weird. If you reassure them with positive refrain "talk soon" "let's meet later" "I love you" it makes them feel like they do have importance in your life, just not at the moment. Avoid answering any questions and apologize if necessary.