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A basic life skill is being able to have difficult conversations with friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, and even perfect strangers ;-)

I want to share a technique for having difficult conversations, which for some people, even talking to anyone is challenging. The "Solution Sandwich" which oddly enough, I learned while in a recovery program for eating disorders. If you or a friend struggles with an eating disorder, please don't wait 20 years like I did to ask for help.

The technique described here has been used by many therapists, professionals, businesses and anyone else who wants to learn how to better communicate with their fellow human beings.

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Step 1: White Bread

Rather than empty and low in nutrients, think of a hearty bread and start with...

a genuine statement of empathy or appreciation for the person you are talking to

e.g. I understand how hard it must be to deal with this situation,

or: I appreciate your role in my life so much

great piece of information. anything that ends in a "Bill and Ted" quote is most excellent.
Very good Instructable, thanks!
Great Instructable! Concise, specific, and instructions everyone can use. Please keep sharing. Thank you!
<p>Cheers. Excellent instructable. I'm in management so this will hopefully help me to get more out of my team.</p>
some good advice. some people have a great deal of trouble expressing what they want and waste a lot of time being miserable instead.
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<p>A little confused. is this a sandwich?</p>
mental sandwich ;-)
<p>Yes. Mental. </p>
<p>Maybe credit Marshall B. Rosenberg, who developed this method?</p><p>http://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-A-Language-Life/dp/1892005034</p>
Thank your for taking the time to comment and share this helpful information. I feel hurt by the manner in which your comment implies that I am intentionally not crediting the source. Would you please consider how using terse rhetorical questions can be perceived as hostile. Thank you for letting me know of the source because I do like to give credit where credit is due. Again I am sharing something learned in therapy and not directly from the source.<br>
<p>Useful stuff it seems. I'd say, exchange the word <em>but </em>for the word <em>and </em>when possible, as the <em>but </em>is pretty much like saying <em>forget what I said before, here's what I need</em>.</p>

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