This guide is for the guy that is clueless about what a girl REALLY wants for Valentine’s Day. The one that thinks a cheap teddy bear and a box of exceptionally waxy chocolates is sufficient for Valentine’s Day. He thinks that if he brings flowers too, he nailed it. It is not, at any level of any relationship, ok to do ANY of these things. In fact, that should be on a national “what not to do” public service announcement. This guide is the typical “real guy” , who is not Prince Charming or McDreamy by nature.
As an experienced event planner, I have seen many an attempt to “wow” and impress a date/spouse/significant other with a flashy high priced meal, overpriced bottle of champagne, and a dessert that was made weeks ago and defrosted that morning. While I’m sure there are some ladies out there that are really into that type of Valentine’s Day, I can assure you that it is not the case. Not all women are that superficial and materialistic.
Now that is good and bad for men. It’s good because maybe you don’t have an endless supply of money to dote on her every whim and pull out the big show for Valentine’s Day. It’s bad because now what do you do?
You read my guide. I have lots of experience in social events of all types. Let me share my knowledge with you. Make THIS YEAR’S Valentine’s Day awesome for that special lady in your life. Every girl deserves it, and really wants it. Go through each section, read it, understand it, ask questions if you need to. You can even email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you are shy. I will do my best to help.
**Also, I’d like to clarify I am going to try and keep this guide as frugal and DIY capable as I can! It not only shows the girl that you cared enough to plan (even just a little) and make an effort. That goes 10 times further than a dinner at a crowded restaurant and some crappy chocolates. There will be no intricate 4 layered specialty cake, or some super cheesy felt – knitted- garland- who knows what thing. I like to think of this as more of a REALISTIC guide.**
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Step 1: Getting Started:
When Is Valentine’s Day?
You may be laughing at the question, but I’m serious. When is it? This year it is on a Tuesday. Not exactly primetime date night. That’s ok. We are going to make it work for you. Keep going with it now, WHEN will you be seeing your Valentine? Do you live with her? Will you be asking her out? Do you work together? Is dinner happening? Are you doing it the weekend before hand? Not so simple is it? You need to try your best to figure out when you will be seeing your Valentine, and start your planning around that. You may even have to have a backup plan or two. It can’t hurt.
How committed are you?
There are two things you need to decide on. You need to decide how committed you are to making this an AWESOME Valentine’s Day. Are you going to be able to put forth some effort? I’m not saying you are going to have to cut out 400 paper hearts by hand, that’s not realistic even for girls. But you will need to spend some time planning, prepping, and thinking. The second part you need to decide on is how committed to this girl are you? Is this only a few dates in? Have you been together for years? Is this your loving partner of decades?
***CAUTION***Too much of an overwhelming effort could go either way for new relationships. Obviously all girls love for guys to make an effort, but seriously, if you’ve only gone on a few dates and you are still on the fence about her, going ALL OUT may be a bit much. Just a heads up. Use your discretion to decide. ***
Decide on budget.
Budget you say? Yes! I know it may sound silly, but times are tough. I know it can be difficult to resist the urge to just go out to dinner and buy her some flowers (which add up quick if I might add!) Decide on a rough estimate. Do not fear: I’m keeping this guide as frugal and DIY it yourself as I can! You’d be surprised what you can do with limitations! Any starting point is a good one.