Whenever I have trouble starting coals for my BBQ I grab a hair dryer, point it at my grill and pull the trigger. One minute later I have red hot coals and I never have to use any lighter fluid to get them started.
I have a couple of other tips for starting coals as well that I will add in here since I don't think they warrant their own instructables.
There's plenty more info in the steps, but the take home message is shown in the video below.
Using a chimney to start your coals going will really help get your fire going faster and with fewer problems.
Weber charges way too much for their chimney so I decided to make my own for free using some found hardware cloth and some metal wire I had lying around.
To make the chimney, I cut up a piece of hardware cloth and rolled it into a cylinder. I then used some metal wire to sew it shut. I only had to loop through every 5 holes or so in the hardware cloth.
The hardware cloth works pretty well as a chimney for two reasons. 1) It is full of holes so it allows air to flow freely through it, and 2) it doesn't require you to pick up the whole chimney of hot coals and flip them over onto your grill risking a possible burn or fire from a wayward hot coal. Instead, when it's time to dump the coals, you simply pick up the wire tube and the coals fall down onto the grill below.