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what can i do? i have the BIGGEST crush on my best friend brother? Answered

i really , REALY like my best friend brother ! how can i flirt with out my friend catching on like her brother? i really like him ! did i say that already? :D

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orksecurity (author)2009-09-11

Why do you care whether she's aware of it? If the relationship actually goes anywhere, she'll know sooner or later; you might as well get it out of the way. Besides, she'd be a great source of information about his reactions...

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orksecurity (author)orksecurity2009-09-12

One point, since you used the word "crush" --Be just a bit careful to make sure you understand your own feelings, and beware of implicitly promising the guy more than you're willing to give. Especially if he's a bit older than you. Remember that it's always fair to say "oops, I didn't mean it that way" or "this is going a bit too fast for me, can we back off a bit"... or even "hey, I like you a lot as a friend, but I think I'd like to just be friends." Having a crush, like "being in love", comes and goes; it's fun but very hard to sustain for long. Really loving someone, and being loved, has a lot more to do with friendship and trust, and usually takes some time and thought... more effort, but more lasting.

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jester_5123 (author)orksecurity2010-01-16

orksecurity is right, people. bespeaks wisdom that could be of use to many of us.

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Re-design (author)orksecurity2009-09-11

I second that. If she's really a friend she'll love it. If she's not really a friend she'll just get jealous.

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Kiteman (author)Re-design2009-09-11

Thirded - sneaking about will cause problems in the long term. Be upfront, maybe even ask your friend to arrange a meeting.

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seandogue (author)Kiteman2009-09-11

fourthed...Life's too short.

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Bigev (author)seandogue2009-09-11

Fifthed. (?) Being sneaky only angers people in the long run.

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jester_5123 (author)2010-01-16

sixthed.lol. honesty prevents anger and more conflicts later.be upfront...and dont let ne1 take advantage of you...its not fun.

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