How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date

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Introduction: How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date

Have you ever spotted a girl from across the room and wondered what you had to do to get her to go out with you? Maybe you sit by a great girl in one of your classes and just aren't sure how to progress with things. Have you had some unlucky breaks in the pass? Whether you've been out on a couple of dates but feel like you’re doing something wrong, or you’re trying to get that first ever first date, we can help you out! By following the five simple steps below and paying attention to what to do and what not to do, we can get you on a first date and have you well on your way to a second. You never know, these steps could even help you go on a date with the girl you’ll marry someday!

Step 1: Gauge Her Interest

The first step is to gauge her interest. Did she notice you when you walked in the door? Did she make eye contact with you and smile? Positive expressions such as laughter, smiling, and open body language are great indicators that she is interested in you. If she seems annoyed, busy, or closed off, chances are you should leave her alone and wait for another girl to come along. If she’s always trying to find a reason to talk to you then this is good news!! Why else would an A student ask you for help on a math problem? She’s interested in you! Now we can move onto step 2 and get to know her a little bit better.

Step 2: Get to Know Her

Now that we know she’s interested, we need to get to know her a little better. This will especially come in handy when you have to plan where to go and what to do when you take her out on a date! Try sitting closer to her in class.

You should try to seek out opportunities for small talk. This could take place while you are standing in the lunch line together, waiting for class to start, or even just passing in a hallway.

You should pay attention to what she likes and dislikes. For instance, if she has a binder with adorable puppies on it, chances are that she likes dogs and might have one of her own. Ask her about it! Don’t be afraid to start asking her more personal questions. You could ask her what her favorite childhood tv show was, or her favorite family vacation. Asking these kinds of questions will not only allow you to learn more about her, but she will also pick up on you being interested in her!

An important tip: Try to focus on her eyes. If she sees you staring at other parts of her body she might think twice about you!

Now that we know what color her eyes are and some personal information, let’s ask her out!

Step 3: Ask Her Out

Today’s finally the day, you’re going to ask the girl you’re interested in out on a date! It’s important for you to look nice when doing so. Create a good impression of yourself on the outside to go along with your great personality on the inside. Girls love guys who clean up nicely.

It’s also important to make sure you ask her out when she’s alone. It can be intimidating and awkward for everyone if she’s with her best girlfriends. This will also allow her to give you an honest answer. She will be more likely to respond in a positive way if you catch her alone than when she knows her friends are judging the actions she makes.
Try not to make a big deal out of asking her out. Make it seem casual and confident, as if you do this every day of the week. Approach her with a friendly, “Hi!” and ask her how her day has been going. You need the right balance of confidence and passiveness. You don’t want to come on too strong or she might become uncomfortable. Make sure you are talking with her at a normal talking pace. If you try and rush through things she might take you as desperate and say no!

If she says no, then stay composed and friendly, end the conversation, and walk away. Don’t feel bad about what happened, take it as a learning experience and see how you can improve on things for the next time a girl catches your eye.


If she doesn't say no, then that must mean she said yes! I know you’re excited that you’re now able to go out on your date, but you have to remain cool and collected. Don’t give her a high five or perform a celebration dance.


Look happy, tell her how excited you are to go out, and make some date plans!


Step 4: Make Date Plans

The best kind of first date is one where you can really talk, get to know each other, and have fun. Make it a relaxing date, somewhere there isn’t a lot of extra noise and you can hear each other talking. You want to be able to concentrate on her, not everything else going on around you. Perhaps suggest a cup of coffee, or a picnic under a tree.

You should also ask her what time works best for her when making concrete plans. Chances are if it works in her schedule, you’ll make time in your schedule to go out on the date with her. It’s also important to note that you should avoid anything vague. For a first date, it’s good that both people know where they are going and what they are doing. It will make the whole experience more comfortable and more likely to continue on past a first date.

Now that you’ve set a date, time, and activity, let’s fast-forward to the date!

Step 5: Go on "The Date"

This is where you should be yourself, and chivalrous. Open the door for her and pay for her coffee or bring the food to the picnic. You want her to know that you want her to have a good time and not have to worry about anything.

Nerves are going to be present for at least part of the date for both parties. This is not a bad thing! It’s even okay to let her know that you’re nervous; because she’s probably nervous too. Once both of you realize that you can relax a little, you can enjoy each other more.


Be comfortable with silences. There will be times where you’re both trying to think of something else to add, or a new topic to touch on; you might even just be reflecting on how wonderful the date is going and get lost in thought. Don’t let this stress you out, silence is a normal part of conversation.

Step 6:

So now that you’ve made it through your first date, the next step would be to ask her out again if you find her to be second date material. Make sure she knows you had a good time and will be getting in touch with her about a second date if that is what you decide to do. Otherwise, just let her know you had a good time and leave it at that.

After having gone through the initial phase of meeting a girl, getting to know her and her interests, and asking her out on a date, the rest almost seems easy! Once you’ve gone through the process once, it will be easier the next time, and the next after that. Each time gives you a new experience where you’re able to learn and tweak your approach; until you finally find the one that works for you and land the girl of your dreams. Happy dating!

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    188 Discussions

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    husseinnaadhu
    husseinnaadhu

    Question 2 months ago

    Hi my name is Hussein naadhu and I have a huge crush on a girl who is in my class. I don't want to go to all the details so I will get this straight.
    I love this girl for 5 years I have seen her looking at me so many times when she sees me noticing she will look another way one day I asked her will you want to be friends with me but she rejected so I changed my hole life for her and she still wasn't interested become friends with me I gived up.
    If any one want me to ask her again please give me a idea

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    KplayerGj
    KplayerGj

    Answer 4 weeks ago

    If u ask a girl if she wants to be your friend trust me that that is the most stupid thing to do. It is better if u ask them to go and have a drink just to get to to each other better and if she rejects u which just a no leave her there are a lot of other girls in the world but if she says yes then u chose the place and the time then after the drink if u want u can ask her to meet up another time or if u want it to happened faster u can kiss her if u both had a lot of fun together

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    twaterman4555
    twaterman4555

    Question 5 weeks ago

    i need help asking my crush out and i can't do i'm in fourth grade so can someone give me advice

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    emmanueldominique070
    emmanueldominique070

    Tip 2 months ago

    Hey i got this girl that i like but i dont know how to ask her out


    Can any one help out

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    twaterman4555
    twaterman4555

    Reply 5 weeks ago

    just stay cool and ask her

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    husseinnaadhu
    husseinnaadhu

    Reply 2 months ago

    How about tell her to come to the park a walk and make her laugh and whenever you see that she is even a little bit happy around you ask her if she wants to hang out with you for a dinner as a date
    I hope I was in any use plz tell me if it worked out

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    greenemeier.caleb
    greenemeier.caleb

    6 months ago

    Hey, I need help. I am in fifth grade and there is a girl I really like. I don't know how I am going to ask this girl out because of all this COVID-19 stuff. I was wondering if any body has any ideas. Also, I don't know if the girl really likes me. so if any one could share there ideas that would be great.

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    minemun
    minemun

    Reply 2 months ago

    Remember, rejection isnt the end of the world

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    minemun
    minemun

    Reply 2 months ago

    Follow the steps, it works! I just finished grade 7, yes this is during covid and probably dangerous, but I couldn't wait anymore. She had rejected me once, but she was surrounded by friends at the time who were telling her to. Halfway through July, a lot of my class went to a nearby tennis court to play tennis (don't worry we were wearing masks hand sanitizer, etc). When we finished I offered to pick up the tennis balls, and she was the only person who wanted to help me, I took this as good sign, as everyone else went home, I asked her out again, This time she said yes and explained why she rejected me earlier, apparently she had liked me but had gotten rejected herself earlier that same day and wasn't in the mood for a date, OK after everyone else left, we stayed and chatted by the water, (the court was next to the ocean). Yesterday we went the beach (by ourselves) and I had my first kiss. The trick is, wait for the opportunity, then go for it, don't hesitate. I've been crazy about her for a year. If you hesitate, you'll never no, rejection only hurts for a bit.

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    twentyonepilotslan3boy
    twentyonepilotslan3boy

    Question 12 months ago

    so I'm a 7th-grade guy and I have a crush on an 8th grade girl and everyone thinks i still like someone in my grade but i don't like her how do i ask out my 8th grade crush and all her friends know me rly well and her friends always ask me if i like my crush and i say no bc im to scared to say the truth what do i do?

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    Maky_
    Maky_

    Answer 12 months ago

    The reason her friends ask you if you like her is probably because she told them that she likes you, but doesn't want you to know it yet. Be confident and say you like her, right after you said so add a reason why you do ,for example a compliment, it will make you look confident.
    Don't forget to smile and look directly in the eyes. Good luck little man!

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    twentyonepilotslan3boy
    twentyonepilotslan3boy

    Reply 11 months ago

    Thanks! but a day late I told her I liked her and then she texted me and said she liked me but i still haven't asked her out!

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    minemun
    minemun

    Reply 2 months ago

    DO IT

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    jordan.valenzuela
    jordan.valenzuela

    8 months ago

    So, there is this girl that I like, and I asked her out yesterday. Today is Valentines day, and I want to give her a little kiss, but I don't know how to make the move.

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    minemun
    minemun

    Reply 2 months ago

    Im a bit late and dont know if your still with her, but don't go for the kiss that early, I waited a month before I went for it

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    RToniky
    RToniky

    6 months ago

    hello,sorry i wanna ask you guys,
    you know there is a girl who i loved so much from long time,yeah it's been a long time but i didn't say that to her i just took her as a friend cuz i was still looking for a good relationship with her,and she still had a boyfriend,but now she and her man are alreday broken up,she is allone as she told me,anyway till now i still love her so much cuz she is the one who i have been waiting for!
    a week ago ;i asked her to go out with me,yeah she said yes!! we went to the seaside together and the i brought her to the simple pub (bar) and we were drinking something togther!!! etc.....
    so now i really feel sad all the time when i don't see her for few time and i really love her so much now!!!!
    now the only important thing what i wanna ask you guys is just about what i should do for getting that girl??? how to plan this my dream of telling her my secret because my heart is beating for her all the time,

    thank you so much
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    Jasic560
    Jasic560

    Question 1 year ago

    I'm a grade 6 boy and I like someone in grade 8, I feel like it would be awkward to ask her out. Any tips?

    P.S. we got to different schools, so it's a little hard to ask. I've thought about maybe Instagram, my friend knows them and he said he'd "hook me up".

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    jordan.valenzuela
    jordan.valenzuela

    Answer 8 months ago

    I asked out an eight grader yesterday, and it went well for me, so be confident in yourself! And Insta, is a your best bet if you go to diffferent schools.

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    SAMS4010
    SAMS4010

    Question 1 year ago

    Hey, I have been "talking" with a girl I really like for about a month now and we both agree we should go on a date. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. I'm in ninth grade.

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    jordan.valenzuela
    jordan.valenzuela

    Answer 8 months ago

    Meet up @ an ice cream place, girls like those things. (I like ice cream...)