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can anyone help me? ugh i feel so stupid, i just need someone to talk to...please. I'm so confused. pleas

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bdcoco
bdcoco

13 years ago

It depends on what you need help with. The best I can do in my orangeboard, click on my name.

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Sunbanks
Sunbanks

13 years ago

What do you need help with? Although sometimes I don't give very good advice....Usually I do though....

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

always so modest :-)

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Sunbanks
Sunbanks

Reply 13 years ago

And half the time it gets them in trouble...

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

That's not what I have seen lately. :-)

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Sunbanks
Sunbanks

Reply 13 years ago

At school thats what happens

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

Oh ok, but in here you must have more time to think about what you are going to write :-)

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Sunbanks
Sunbanks

Reply 13 years ago

Yeah

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Bleccy
Bleccy

13 years ago

i dont really know what to say, i wish i could think of something nice to say, and i apologize in advance if i say something horrible, i dont mean it at all, im just in a very strange mood.

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Kiteman
Kiteman

Reply 13 years ago

It's cool. .......................

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Kiteman
Kiteman

13 years ago

HI, Bleccy, no need to feel stupid - there's lots of stuff that lots of people don't know.

I'm guessing from your tone, though, that you need something more personal, life advice I guess. This forum isn't really designed for that sort of thing (though it seems to be happening a lot at the moment!).

I see from your profile that you are in Scotland (which means you're up way past your bedtime young lady!*), so can I suggest you call or email The Samaritans?

Their website is http://www.samaritans.org/
Their email is jo@samaritans.org
Their phone number is 08457 90 90 90

They are there 24/7, and do provide genuine, non-judgemental support.

If you don't want to spend time talking to them, they can point you towards people who are experts in whatever your problem is.

(And if all that fails, you can talk to the loons here - I'm off to bed soon, but the Americans are waking up).

*Joke

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Bleccy
Bleccy

Reply 13 years ago

thanks again but ive already talked to my GP and he wont do anything about it. its not so much adults that are the problem, my friends dont understand whats going on either. know one wants to know you if you've lost the will to live. so then all my energy goes into trying to appear happy, its hard work, i wish people would just accept me for who i actually am.

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

It isn't a healthy thing to attempt to maintain a facade constantly. And it is sad when one can not find anyone "near by and in person" to relate to and be accepted. I know the feeling though. I am accepted online......well, maybe tolerated LOL anyway my social life at home, etc. is pretty much non-existent, even with relatives, it is rare to be able to arrange the time. Sometimes we have to just "be ourselves" knowing someone will eventually understand where you are coming from.

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chooseausername
chooseausername

Reply 13 years ago

It isn't a healthy thing to attempt to maintain a facade constantly.

Maybe because most people ends up to surrender to the "easiness" of sadness ...
But I'm sure it works like brainwashing, at long, if you don't give up =o)
This "modify" the way your brain works ...

Finding the bliss is a hard work. It's an everyday work.
I believe that achieving this quest requires a self-honesty, a certain lucidity about the world and about how other people works into their own head and life ... or a lobotomy. =o)

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

Keen introspection is good too. We tend to think that "others not accepting us" means "they want some false face" and this is normally pretty far from true in most cases.

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Kiteman
Kiteman

Reply 13 years ago

Won't or can't?

There are plenty of situations where the only "cure" is time and effort.

I have a family member who was stressed at work and wanted a few days off to get back on an even keel. She went to the doctor in October, and he signed her off until February! He has diagnosed "acute anxiety", and the treatment is time away from the source of the anxiety, then counselling to deal with it.

Personally, I found myself in a very strange place a few years ago, and was unable to put my problems into words and talk about them. I still can't, not properly. Coincidentally, I found a whole new bunch of people to talk to online, and our discussions challenged me - I found myself pushed outside of my comfort zone of what I thought I knew and went through a steep learning curve both of science and expressing it.

Two years ago, I found this site at the same time as I found myself in possession of a fully-functioning shed - I became a Maker.

Now I'm happy. I seem to be rambling, but I'm happy.

My point is, I was not suicidal, but I was depressed and considering some drastic actions, but I got my head back together through a combination of pushing myself to be better at something I thought I was good at, and starting to learn a whole new set of skills.

I didn't find people who accepted me for what I was, they accepted me for what I became.

We'll accept you for what you seem to be - a troubled young lady who can't quite identify the nature of of the trouble - and look forward to what you could become: a friend and part of this community.

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

Waking up ? Tis going on 7 pm, and us true loonies on the East coast are at work, but most normal people are at home soon to be going to sleep too. ;-)

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Kiteman
Kiteman

Reply 13 years ago

(Counts on fingers...) Blast, I keep doing that. Still, G, you will be awake long after me. Be nice to Bleccy, I'm nearly Scottish myself.

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ll.13
ll.13

Reply 13 years ago

I'm nearly Scottish myself.

Can I brag now?

I'm living in Scotland. =P -it rains, sometimes.

Bleccy, you could try doing something like a new hobbie, Dancing, Crafts, Skiing, Ice skating? you can look for an Instructable on something that interests you, there should be at least one.

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KentsOkay
KentsOkay

Reply 13 years ago

:P lucky.....

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

Good night Kiteman, yeah, I will be up until at least 2 am (darned shift work), well, my wife is Scotts/Irish :-)

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Kiteman
Kiteman

Reply 13 years ago

Ah, the Celtic blood. I married a redhead with Manx ancestors (big grin - it's bedtime...)

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

My wife has dark brown hair, and my background, German, I have the red hair....go figure eh ?

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Bleccy
Bleccy

Reply 13 years ago

thanks alot i really appreciate it :] ive already contacted to samaritans, and although they seem to be lovely people....i dont know they didnt seem to help

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Kiteman
Kiteman

Reply 13 years ago

Not a problem. Don't worry if the call didn't help - no real problem can be solved with a single phone call. Keep talking, because the "simple" act of putting your problem into words will help. Even if you don't feel Sams were helping though, give them one more call - you'll probably talk to somebody different, and you can always ask for other contacts anyway. As somebody said elsewhere, your school should have a confidential counsellor of some kind, even if it's just the school nurse, plus you can talk to your GP or ask him/her to arrange a proper talk with somebody. I know it sounds patronising, but your problems are probably not new, and whilst you may feel that adults don't understand you, we have all been through stuff, probably the same stuff as you, though maybe to a different degree. If you want to ask for general help, then keep posting to the threads. If you want things more discrete, then PM somebody whose posts you "click" with. Goodhart has offered to help, and you can PM me as well - we're both old fogies, but we're ready to help if we can.

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Bleccy
Bleccy

13 years ago

thanks everyone who replied. i really mean that (:

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KentsOkay
KentsOkay

13 years ago

What do you need help with? I'm more than willing to help you with anything I can...

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Goodhart
Goodhart

13 years ago

I am a very good listener, and do not prejudge people, if you need to just talk without feedback, or if you need feedback, either way, I have a very big ear, and a very inactive mouth :-)

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

We all need someone to talk to now and then......and there is, as Kiteman said, no need to feel stupid. We all do things that are not in our own best interest, but doing something is not "becoming something".

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Goodhart
Goodhart

Reply 13 years ago

So, don't make any rash decisions until you can talk this out.