How come its so hard to be confident if your super shy? Answered

Everyone else has had great advice, so I'll add a little practical stuff.
I was totally afraid of making mistakes when hanging out with guys, or wanting to ask one out. I would practice in the mirror in my bedroom for hours... making eye contact with myself, rehearsing how I would ask, stuff like that. That way I knew I could say the words without stumbling and look in his face without blushing.
And rejection isn't always forever. My first boyfriend had told me "no", only to change his mind 4 months later. It took alot of guts for me to ask him out, and more guts to just hang out as friends for those 4 months until he asked me out.

I miss living in nz T.T

Hi Cherish. Being shy can be tough. I was very shy at your age. Maybe if you just did stuff in the same group of people, it might help to make the shyness less, help you to learn more about him, and help him to learn more about you. You might discover that he likes you too...or you may discover that you don't like him so much after all. either way, doing things in a group can help to make it easier to learn about another person, to get closer to him or her. And sometimes you just have to kick yourself and fight the impulse to blush, or turn your eyes away, or whatever, and just blunder through, no matter if you make a mistake or not. Making mistakes is part of life, and if any of your shyness is like where mine came from, I'd guess it comes from wanting to do everything just right, to make no mistakes...mistakes teach us, and whether we want them to happen or not, they will happen, sure as rain or day and night.. So maybe that's what I can offer....the idea that making mistakes in relationships isn't the worst thing in the world, especially at 13. Just please don't do anything that you'll regret...At 13, I think you know what I mean...don't do drugs just to be part of the crowd, don't let a boy or anyone make you choose between your values and being their "friend" whether that's a girlfriend or just a pal. best wishes