Women don't care to ask themselves this all important question before going head long in a relationship.Most of them are quick to believe that if a guy comes up to them to ask them out or express his feelings,then they think the guy is in love.
But most times that is not true.
Love is much more than feelings or expression of feelings.It is much deeper and spiritual than most ladies think.
You know what?guys do not easily get emotional about the love they have a for woman.If a guys tells you he loves you,all he is doing is the teasing game.He wants to know if you would fall for his flowery speech of love.Because the love he says he has for you. At almost the same time, he had said that to a thousand and one ladies.
In this part of the world, where love is a commonplace word,much of what love is hardly express in many relationship.That is why many men end up cheating a lady that profess they are head over heeel in love with.Most relationship barely last a week or at most a month because the love is not real and true.
If the game guy play with love is like this, how do you know men who are really in love. And for men,I want to show you can know if you are trully in love with a lady.
Here we go.
Step 1: True Love Do Not Play the Flirting Game
Many of you reading have fallen into the hands of men and their flirt game,So, do most men pride themselves in being a good at flirting.
Before you say "I love you' to anyone,you need not showers nice,emotional-laden wooing words to the girl.Mind you, I'm not saying is bad for guys to woo a girl with sweet words of love.What I mean is that,words without corresponding sincerity that shows you really meant what you say is but flirtatious words.
If you love a girl,you look beyond the attraction. Many experts in relationship focus more on attraction but I tell you, attraction has its huge limitation.
What next if attraction wear off your mind? Would you still be saying I love you to the lady?
Guys,stop playing the flirt games.Tell a girl you really love her if truly you are in love.
Step 2: Understand the Difference Between Love and Lust
The is one key word for both love or lust. Love gives,gives and continue to give unconditionally.Lust gets,gets and selfishly wants to get more.
If you are truly in love,you must be willing to give up all your selfish attitude and put the girl before you own wish,desires and ambition.True love is sacrificial and most people find it hard to have that kind of love.
Lust wants to be served all times.He is willing to serve others even when it is less appreciated.Lust never see any good in others but things that are good to caress his ego.
Step 3: Love Yourself
To know if a men is truly in love, the determining factor is that he must love himself.
Watch out,if a man does not love himself, he would be a big sucker,leech and parasite to the relationship.
To love yourself,it is not something you can make up for. If you don't have love in yourself, there is nothing you can do to make up for it.If you love yourself,you would want to give more than to receive. Most relationship hardly last long because both parties never loved themselves before they profess they love each other.
Step 4: Knowing How to Love
To love yourself is as simple as a,b,c.Remember,I told you earlier that love is deep and spiritual.It is a divine character and attitude.Nobody now matter how sophisticated you get can really know how to love.
Love is a creation of a being that He himself is Love.The only creator of love is God.God is love.It is until man turn his life over to the maker of love, would he know how to love.
All our selfish lust will stand no place if we look to God for love.God created us in His image and this image has the capacity to love if only we know God.
If a product has fault and you seem not to know how to fix it, you could go to the product manual that came with the product and there you will find answers to the teething problem the product has.Man has become faulty.We have drifted to our own ways and thus,we had become so selfish not knowing how to love.
However,we can know how to love and this means that every other character that makes a whole man is love.Talk about kindness,gentleness, meekness,self control,goodness all are the fruits of love.
Wouldn't you rather seek this Love from God?
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