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Coming out of the closet Answered

Hi, my name is jake, and I am openly bisexual, and I was just thinking, there should be an instructable on "coming out of the closet" because that is a serious issue that is difficult to address, so, does anyone have any ideas?

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thematthatter

8 years ago

I dont know, but most people who were bisexual/gay in High School were just a phase.

(although after visiting Myspace and facebook, apparently so was being straight for a few of my highschool class)

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jakee117thematthatter

Reply 8 years ago

 ehh. even so...anyways. i guess it all depends on the situation. like, where you're from. Im frome a rural town. and that whole prejudice thing against the gay community in some parts is bad. but idk. it all depents...

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Kiteman

8 years ago

I think you'll find very few people here who would be bothered by your choice of lifestyle, as long as you don't spit-roast babies or work for Microsoft.

Those who would not personally approve are mature enough not to take you to task for it.

(We even have at least one furry, somewhere.)

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KryptoniteKiteman

Reply 8 years ago

And what operating system do you use?

Besides. Inside every modern day person, there is a furry. Including you.

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Kryptonite

8 years ago

I have 3 female bisexual friends and one lesbian friend. It's not really that much of a big deal so at least you came out and said it.

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DJ Radio

8 years ago

First of all, why would people object to this sort of thing?  And what actually makes you bisexual?  Is it a lifestyle choice, or do you feel it is who you are no matter what?

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NachoMahma

8 years ago

.  See Kiteman's Laws. You may get a few rude comments, but the vast majority of Iblers couldn't care less what your orientation is. Or is there something about being bi that makes you a better/worse DIYer?
.  I can't speak for Robot, but keep in mind that Ibles is HQ'd in a city that is proud of being notoriously liberal. ;)
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.  What's wrong with basing it on your own experience? Or collaborate with other "differently oriented" Iblers (I doubt if there is a one-size-fits-all solution to coming out).

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jakee117NachoMahma

Reply 8 years ago

I don't really know. just some background info ;) I was just wondering if anyone else had anything to contribute. its hard to really make an instructable out of it, cause every situation is different...

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Kitemanjakee117

Reply 8 years ago

How did (will?) you tell your family?  Did you call a family meeting?  Blurt it out over a meal?  Or casually mention it whilst doing the dishes together?

How did you deal with (or prepare to deal with) poor reactions?

The same goes for friends, school or work mates.

Have you changed the way you deal with people?  Do you do anything to reassure (nervous?) male friends that you're not hitting on them? 

How do you go about discovering the sexual preferences of people you meet and fancy?  How do you flirt with, or chat up another man?

All of these things would or could be useful to other people "out there", in similar situations, be it bisexual or "full-blown" gay, so would be suitable for an ible on "coming out".

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jakee117Kiteman

Reply 8 years ago

hm. I kinda blurted it when my younger brother was joking around. My mom kinda stared at me. my dad cursed and was very angry. then they got over it. most people know I'm not hitting on them...so I dont really know....just kinda talk to most people and get to know them, people are becoming more open-minded lately :).....

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Kitemanjakee117

Reply 8 years ago

There are areas, and families, that would not be so open minded.

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jakee117Kiteman

Reply 8 years ago

oh yes. I have friends who havent come out cause their parents would kick them out, one of my friends got her phone taken away for a year for coming out....stuff like that..

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KitemanKiteman

Reply 8 years ago

(Personally, I'm straight, and I don't know any "out" people who have not been out for years, so my experiences aren't much use, but I'd be happy to help with the actual writing, phrasing etc)

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jakee117

8 years ago

:) thank you. I already have come out actually, but I was just thinking it would be helpful for others...