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Is anyone else homeschooled? Answered

I am a homeschooler, and i was wondering if anyone else on this site is homeschooled, too. (open disscusion of homeschooling is welcomed)


My cousin was home-schooled, after a year of normal school.

Apparently, he didn't like being expected to learn when he wasn't in the mood.

His parents decided to let him learn at his own pace, with a lot of involvement from the local Education Otherwise people. He had some sort-of-classes with other kids who were also home-schooled. The idea was to pool parental expertise.

As a result, he became good at reading, reasonably creative in writing, but totally unemployable. He knows a little trumpet, a little violin, a little Inuit, a little trigonometry, a little psychology, a little history.

He doesn't know how to talk to people in normal social settings.

He has no attention span.

He responds poorly to discipline.

He takes criticism badly.

He sulks.

He has been out of contact with the rest of the family for the last 10+ years because he lacks the social awareness necessary to tell people where you are.

You might have worked out, I am against home-schooling in general, though there are exceptional circumstances where it is necessary (such as isolation), but even then, external help is necessary (I'm thinking, children in the Australian outback who have a couple of lessons a week by shortwave radio).

I did some research on approaches to dealing with gifted children as part of my teaching certificate. It turns out they benefit most from the "enrichment" approach - they spend most of their time in normal lessons, but occasionally get removed from normal lessons to undertake some extra-curricular tasks to stretch them.

We have a minor tradition in the UK of gifted mathematicians being spotted early in school, and being home-schooled to the point where they are capable of entering university at 11. They inevitably burn out / break down very young, because they have been deprived of the normal social-learning associated with normal school. They can't deal with normal people in normal ways.

What real life skills have you learned from public school?

Just that - life skills. How to deal with people. Make friends. Make enemies. Defeat enemies. Manners. Coping with those situations in life you just can't squeeze out of. How to get on with tasks when you're not in the mood.

You know, life skills.

Hey not all of the homeschoolers are like that! I am homeschooled but I also am in a pretty nice group called 4-H. there I get to "socialize" with other youth my age and younger, I also work at two farmer's markets and have met many good people there that share some of the same ideas and princles that I value. I was taught many of the life skills that I will need . And once Igraduate from High School I will be going to collage paid for with the money I have earned through 4-H and at the farmers market

But that won't be the case with all of us. Each one is different.


As a homeschooler, I both disagree and agree. The only part of my social life that I could declare that has truly suffered is, well, my sex life (obviously I don't get as many chances in a day to get layed as your average public schooled horny teenager *sigh*).
I feel that I am more intelligent than the average person my age, my social skills I feel are very strong, and I get lots of socialization at my various groups I participate in (library for the most part). However not all forms of socialization that I have are open to other homeschoolers, far to many of the homeschoolers I know are God-fearing, I-shan't-ever-socialize-with-the-heathens-out-there, I-shall-never-get-on-the-computer-or-meet-people-who-aren't-exactly-like-me, crazies. I find it really sad, as it does fit the stereotype. On another note, "rural" homescoolers fit the previous steryotyoe, wheres "urban" homeschoolers (such as myself) usually have a social life on par with public schooled children. Another note: Our public schools here are mostly crap, if we had teachers nearly as interesting as yourself, I'd be most willing to go to school. But on the whole I would describe the school system around me as a day-care center with million dollar football and athletic programs. I personally hate most of the public school teachers I know, I find them to be pushy, nosy, smart-asses in need of a life. I also hate most of the students they turn out. Most seem to be lazy and shiftless, with very little grip on life.

So in short, if your parent's aren't nutters, and you've got a high-speed internet conection, then your good : )

But if you live in a country were the school system is well maintained, and you have teachers who are in fact trying to teach something to their students (and not get into their pants), then by all means go with that.

Yes I might not get a lot of PDA's, but I feel I will be more successful in life then the average person churned out in the nutter factory but a few blocks away.


rocketscientist... sex life... lol

My good man, I will have you know just last night my tounge was in the oral orifice of a beautiful female, whilst my hands did wondrous things to her sensitive areas...

I personally hate most of the public school teachers I know, I find them to be pushy, nosy, smart-asses in need of a life. I also hate most of the students they turn out

Half the fun of school is letting them know you're actually smarter than them.

Heck, I could teach all the dumbass (pardon my french) english teachers I've had. And I just loooove correcting all the mistakes they make.

On a side-note:

Wow, there's a lot of homeschooled people here. Most , you wouldn't really expect. Except you though......you're a bit odd......You wouldn't last a minute in public without yelling about pasta....

oops : I also hate most of the students they turn out wasnt supposed to be there.

I'd say about half the people that either went to homeschool or private school and then went to public school are normal. Others have short attention span, don't socialize well, and are just in general the kind of people that you wanna beat up, but you don't wanna stoop to there level. For example, in Tech-Ed I was about to use a router, I unclamp the vice and start putting my wood work in the vice. Then out of no where this short little weird kid (who I'm not going to reveal the name of) shoves me out of the way and quickly puts his wood in the vice. I say "I was using that" then he says "well too bad, I got here first" I felt like punching him in the face, or take the router and say "Well I have the router first" but I didn't and just walked away before I did something stupid.

What's wrong with private schools?

I'm in a private school and I turned out ok!


Kiteman, I hope your not generalizing. I have a handful of friends who have benefitted from home schooling. You mentioned that your cousin missed out on social settings; what about all the after-school programs that kids can choose from today? Community sports organizations, for example.

It has been my experience that home-schooling families tend to socialise with other home-schooling families - they are, after all, similarly occupied and interested.

Similarly, children from any social group tend to socialise with others from their social group (that's how they end up as social groups, after all).

My school has clubs every night, for pupils of the school. So do all the other schools in the area. Several high-schools run night-classes, but they are intended for adults.

Consequently, home-schooled children tend to miss out on "normal" social activities.

At my own school, a family of children were taken out of school to be home-schooled by their parents. They did not move house. Two terms later, they came back to school, because their parents had to work longer hours. When I told my class that one of their ex-classmates would be returning to the class, the response was typified as "who? Oh, we thought they'd moved away".

My school has clubs every night, for pupils of the school.

Hmm. In the US (or at least my area), public and even private schools usually allow home schoolers to participate in extra-curriculars.

Some states have laws that force public schools to accept homeschoolers for chosen classes or activities. We have a good relationship with a local private school and my kids are often in contact with those students. We kind of (but not entirely) avoid the "homeschool community" events because too many homeschoolers are weirdos.

Its very true, I have a few friends that have been home schooled and in two cases I'm the only friend they talk to, having a habit of talking to strangers mean I managed to engage them, they have little in the way of social lives and usually the jobs they end up doing is all isolation, thankfuly I.T/ jobs like that can be had alot now. The same thing happens with all boys schools, moreso than all girls schools, there's a big school that's all boys and it seems to screw them all up, they either end up hyper competitive psychos that can't relate to women, very introvert and underconfident or have complexes about being gay, mainly due to jeering and the like. There are exceptions to this but it's a fairly big majority... I suppose life experience comes back to it, imagine a small town full of teenage boys, plus a few middle aged men, that's the kind of thing it turns in to. I really believe in mixing of every social level to be a big part of life experience, my mum grew up in a small village in scotland, when a black family moved over they were awfully confused, coming out with things like 'is that a darkie?' thankfully it wasn't rejectionist since kids tend to be a bit more accepting... Having the widest possible range of experiences at a younger age seems like a big deal, at least to me... Sheltering and excluding make for bad lives...

Oh, now EO has come up I have to put in a £0.02.

My older brother and I were taken out of primary school when I was year 1 by my parents because they were utterly disaffected with the primary school system (my mother taught in one of the schools I briefly attended, so this wasn't armchair criticism) and various bits of politics.

We were briefly formally taught, possibly to appease the schools people more than as an attempt at actual teaching, but were mostly left to our own devices. The house was full of GCSE textbooks and study guides, we made regular trips to the library and I was very lucky to have two teachers as parents who encouraged an enquiring attitude. There were also monthly-ish EO meetings where the children would run around outdoors somewhere and the parents (presumably) discuss how they were finding the experience. Many of these children were secondary school age and had been home educated for many years, some their whole lives, and I found them no more or less difficult to get on with than school children or those that had recently been taken out of school.

When I was 9 and my brother 11 we were put back into the school system for four terms at a good primary school (Bendarroch for anyone in East Devon who wants to see the best primary school in existence) to prepare us for secondary school- this was a mild culture shock, dealing with getting up in the morning, sitting still for lessons and the usual playground stuff but was nothing too serious.

On the back of home education and a brief stint at primary school my brother and I both got places at good secondary schools and from then on had a pretty "normal" education experience, apart from the slightly odd situation of being approaching GCSE standard at our "favoured" subjects at 11/13 but having a more patchy knowledge of the less favoured ones.

I didn't realise quite how unusual this was until I was into my teens, and only recently have I realised what a great opportunity home education was. I also realise that this model wouldn't work for everyone, the combination of having teachers as parents and having a naturally enquiring mind is probably necessary, but I thought I'd stick up for home education as
a) not always producing completely socially inept people
b) instilling enough curiosity and imagination to tide a child through the seconday school system without being completely crushed by it.

I still believe that home education is a great idea for those who are able, and I would love to see some of the lessons learned from home education put into formal education. I say home education rather than home schooling because I believe education does not automatically equal schooling. You can learn without being sat down and lectured to.

I hear, and I forget; I see, and I remember; I do, and I understand.

Please note- I am not dismissing the value of school education, nor the life skills they teach, just trying to put an alternative viewpoint to "all you learn is what you learn in school".

PKM stated it well. My kids are homeschooled. James turns 12 this week, and Dave is 14. They have been homeschooled for about 3 years. Before that it was private school. They have never been to public school. It's not like we're "too good" for that, it's just that when we started their education, public schools were not an option. There has been good and bad in homeschooling: Bad- Discipline and schedule keeping; My kids are average at best. Teaching algebra can be trying. My wife stays at home and can't really supplement our income. We pay taxes to support the local schools, and then have to pay again for our kids' materials. Good- I can teach REAL history and world events without interference. I can teach the kids how to work. (James is a welding wizard, and Dave is a master of small engines.) I can teach investment strategies. My kids can read real literature. (The schools here no longer teach the classics.) My kids can go hunting or fishing anytime they want, day or night, as long as their school-work is done. My kids can substitute hiking, boating, skeet-shooting, and yardwork for netball,dodgeball, wiffleball,pickleball, etc. My kids teachers are real-world adults that include: a mechanic, a commercial pilot, several farmers, a cop, an accountant, etc., not to mention my wife and myself who teach the "standard subjects". We both have university degrees, are both multilingual, and are able to spend about 10 hours a day on 2 students. Where else would you get that amount of one on one attention? The issue that comes up most often is socialization. People are afraid my kids won't learn to socialize. My children are taught to socialize with well adjusted adults. They need to know how to adapt and respond in an adult world. My wife and I are fortunate enough to have kids that are welcome pretty much everywhere. My kids mow lawns for widows, and visit elderly neighbors on a fairly regular basis. They get along fine with other kids, but find little interest in Pokemon, Bratz, etc. They'd rather be helping fix motorcycles, or snake-hunting, or selling stuff on Ebay. To the parents who are considering homeschooling: It is not to be taken lightly. We know too many homeschoolers who are semi-literate, maladjusted, lazy future drains on the welfare system. But that being said, homeschooling done right, rivals the best education money can buy. C'mon, you're not going to trust your kids' future to those state run institutions (subject to societal whims, and political correctness) are you?

how to fight, how to win!, how to tune people out, how to sleep with my eyes open, im serious on that one, and how to sell stuff really well, oh eah, and how to scam people you dont like...lol

I have sorts for social life, i have deadlines, i have been in school until 7th grade, and im a relatively normal kid

Why am i the only Pro-homeschooler here?
I took a ACT, and i got the score of an average highschool graduate(and that was 2 years ago). school doesn't challenge me, so i pulled out of school for a challenge. as i am still only 12, i don't know if i will "burn out". i have a social life, so I know how to deal with people in normal settings.

I'm not saying homeschooling is bad, it's just how you deal with your social life, about half the people that were homeschool that I know are normal, the other half... I can't say

Hey, I tought I'd let you know, if you click "REPLY" under the last comment, it works better. The "Add Comment" puts it at the top and makes it a bit hard to follow. But yeah, I rode a motorcycle around the Cairns area, and learned to surf (a little) up north of Brisbane. Sydney was cool, but Kings Cross was ... unusual/interesting.

well....as it say, a small town, northam its near perth,western australia

Cool, I've never been to WA. I made the rounds in NSW and queensland years ago.

i am semi homeschooled, mostly because of my shity town, and worse teachers.. and what i ment by SEMI is, that yes, i dont GO to school, and yes it do my work AT home, but that doesnt mean i dont have teachers.... i can calll them on the phone whenever i want, and thay can call me aswell... other than that everyone(90%) in my year, are stoners/drugie's/alchoholics and just plain stuipid **YES THAT MEANS YOU NORTHAM HIGH SCHOOL...**, and i will say stfu all without worring becaues i bet none have ever went on this site. ohhwell also i "go to" S.I.D.E (schools of isolated and distanst eduction) in australia


ah Ive tried that with my parents and they crushed my dreams. they went with the "your just going to have to deal with school" plan. probley to much work for them and they think i wouldant work at all. I wish they would belive it isent just about getting out of school.. :(

I know several kids who are homeschooled, and everyone who talks about them says that they know a lot more than kids in public schools.

Here are some of the pros that I have found to be true. Maybe someone could post some cons in the same way.

  • Personal Attention
  • You can work at your own pace
  • No homework :-)
  • Fewer Hours
  • Plus More

I suppose you could also say that there's a lot of homework :-)

You could say it was ALL homework :-)

I am, but only by necessity. If Kiteman clones were the teachers at the schools in my area, I'd by all means be public schooled.

I am. And I think my social skills are excellent. School isn't the only place to interact with people.
I hate how homeschooling is automatically synonymous with an unstructured, random curriculum and school day!Mine isn't at all. It is rather strict in fact.


10 years ago

...I am...

this one kid i knew was home schooled, he thought he was all kool cause he knew more, what a smartass, i hate those types of people, depends on the person....

whats wrong with public school?

Alot. <rant>

They force you to sit down and just swallow infomation that the forse feed you, even if you don't like the subject.
Then, you eat one one time with disgusting food.
If you are a highly advanced child(skipped 2 grades) And are bored, and ask for smart people stuff, they just give you items to work on on top of you normal work, instead of replacing work in that class. If you have complete mastery of that subject(and show so by passing end year test) they keep you in that class!

ummm, of course you know that going to public school teaches you something about the world.... in a real job, you cant go have a snack whenever you like, you cannot say "oo i want to do this work instead", you sometimes need complete mastery in a job. going to public school teaches you things you need in life. btw if you dont like public school because it doesnt meet your learning needs, go talk to the staff about it. you pay them with your taxes, so they work for you.

we did talk to staff.

And, tell me. What real life skills have you learned from public school? do you learn how to cook? No. Do you learn to do laundry? no.

And the reason im saying "oo i want to do this work instead", im saying it because im not learning anything from it. isn't that the point of school? And it's it's the same thing with the subjects i have complete mastery of. I'm not learning anything from working on stuff i already know about.

I am being homeschooled because school is supposed to teach! It's not just a place to meet friends. I have a want to actually learn! not sit around and be taught stuff i already know, or stuff tht i wil just forget tomorrow!

i go to public school and i know how to cook, do laundry, ect. public school teaches you things by trained teachers. Not only that you learn how not to have to sit around and have your parents be "flexible" with you. you have SET hours and SET deadlines and SET rules with REAL punishments (for example getting kicked out). just like you would in a real job. you also learn the social aspect of work, (for example getting along with other people and working together). you learn how to deal with people, and you can make some good friends along the way.

I try and not be biased, but I think ledzeppie is right. I learned to cook, do laundry, everything. I also just learned how to weld ;) I'm really advance, I skipped 2 grades of math, skipped 2 electronic courses, taking challenging honors courses, etc. Plus I think public school is good for you, learn better social skills, make more friends, etc.

In school(which i tried going back to this year) i had all of 3 friends. It is kind of hard to make friends when you are 2-3 years younger than everyone and are considered "the nerd". I have good social skills, the only thing "odd" about my skills it I have extremly short patience for idiots. (which i had before being homeschooled, so you cant chalk that up for public school)

HIGH FIVE for shop class lol, ive had the teacher ask me questions before (but only about 3 times).....not saying that im smarter than him. hes really smart...