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Parents too cautious Answered

Do you guys think parents are too cautious? A normal parent won't let me do any of the stuff that I or any other teen on instructables do.


Its good that parents care but sometimes its too much when they become hover copters and never let their children get "dirty". After all, how are children going to learn if they never make mistakes?
I was allowed to play with fire, cut with sharp nail scissors, play with knives, an ax and even a blow torch. I was always supervised, sometimes not when I was sneaky ;) but I grew up well rounded. I never caused any thing to burn down, never poked my eye out, cut my leg off, although I did accidentally cut my finger when I was using a razor blade and or a knife while cutting food but it was just a little cut and I learn to be careful more then ever considering the knives in our house were are still are not that sharp. Ironically the only thing I hurt was when I chased a neighbors cat down a small set of stairs, I ended up falling down and cutting my lip on an old welcome mat and getting stitches. I also cracked my teeth at another neighbors house from horse play because I tripped. Over all I was smart enough and mature enough at a very young age to know what the risks were. I guess my parents knew that I wasn't one of those kids who shouldn't be given scissors and who would run with them.
And yet there's another side to how my dad sees me still. A not so positive side either. :|


5 years ago

I would be grateful to have cautious parents! It means they care! Mine could care less and I got into stupid stuff when I was younger because of it. I know that probably doesn't help but I would rather have parents ho care too much instead of not enough.

Right! We have to be thankful for our parents.. NO parents would never want their children to get hurt..All parents love their children.

That is not a good advice! Sooner or later parents will find out, we are not stupid.

They haven't found out about anything I've done ..... Yet.

You should be careful. on the internet I always erase my history but leave some so they dont get too suspicious

Parent finding out and parents calling you out on things they found out are two different things.

Parents are never too cautious, they just love their children too much. Of course their kids would never understand that until they will become parents .

you are right, when i was young, i cant understand my parent, but now , i am 21 become mature. i am very love them and begin with study understand

I am a father and it is not always easy to decide when to say yes or no to our children. Parents need to take into consideration how mature is the child and the circumstances. For example, many children are exposed to guns at an early age. Maybe they have grown in a farm or a remote area where they could go hunting or they needed protection from wild animals. My son asked recently for a bb gun. I had to say no because we live in the outskirts of a city. Walking around with a gun, even a fake one, will make the neighbors call the police and report that someone is brandishing a weapon. In United States, police is wary of the preponderance of armed civilians. It is a nightmare to imagine the possible outcome of a child confronted by police with their weapons drawn. Also my son has never being exposed to weapons, not even a slingshot. Your parents have made their decisions based on your age, maturity and surroundings. I grew up in an apartment and there were many things I could not do that maybe a child growing in a house with plenty of space could do. Your parents maybe live in an area where they are restricted themselves of things that they would like to do. Your parents want the best for you. Talk to them without any confrontation and explain to them that you would like to create things. Show them what do you plan to do and engage them. Maybe you will obtain better results that way.

That is VERY sound, well thought out adivce. I hope starwing123 takes it. I am not a parent myself, but as explained before, I do mentor one 8 year old and although we do some (very) mildly dangerous things, they are only dangerous if we did something stupid or something catastrophic occurred. She is not my child, so I can't make any decisions on exposing her to dangerous things, but we take all precautions, including safety glasses while soldering or hot gluing etc. Tis best to teach good habits from the beginning.

I'm sure that the child is safe under your supervision. Although there is always danger performing some experiments, it makes a difference when an adult is there and is prepared for any unfortunate event.

Yes, and it is good that her Mom stays nearby too, because, on occassion, I can be quite doplick as they say in this area. The one time, while fixing her robot she and I had built together (a wire broke loose), I took the cover off, and dropped the screw on the floor. I finally found it only to stand up under the corner of the table and nearly caved my head in. The table did NOT move as it was a very heavily built one. I thought for sure I had brains spilling out on the floor I hit it so hard LOL


6 years ago

My parents seem full of contradictions. They let me use real guns and play Airsoft all the time, yet forbid me to have an air rifle, they let me have knives and swords, make potato and air cannons, play with explosives and high voltage, and shoot bows and hunt. They don't let me ride dirtbikes or ATV's. They don't let me go to anyones house without calling their parents and talking for an hour, they hate the computer and everything about it, yet they bought me an Xbox 360 and don't care how many sick and violent games I play. I am allowed to wander through San Francisco unsupervised for hours, yet when I hang out for a few hours in a small local town where I go to school, I must check in every hour and stay in one location. They let me have all kinds of knives as aforementioned, but refuse to let me make a tomahawk. I am not allowed to use a small battery powered chainsaw, but I can use any other power tool around the house, including circular and table saws.

Your guess is as good as mine. Thankfully, I am 18 now, so I only have to put up with it all for a few more months.

It's our nature. We want to make our kids tough, but we also want them to survive. I walk a real tight-rope with mine. I figure what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. My kids got their first machetes at age 2, first BB guns at age 4, and their first real guns at age 6. THey began riding horses without me at 4 and 6, began operating motor vehicles and hunting (without me) at 8, began camping alone (1/2 mile from the house)and operating a boat without me at about 10, and began using power tools at 12. Sounds liberal eh? I still don't let them ride their bikes on the street. I never let them watch Barney or Teletubbies. I don't let them work on any high voltage electric items. I never let them listen to boy-bands or rap. I didn't let them use a pushmower till they were 12. No welding till they were 12. Still no unsupervised handguns. I don't let them ride with anyone under 25, unless they let my oldest boy (age 14,with a drivers permit)drive. I don't let them go anywhere overnight without a gun. I don't let them hang out in town alone. My 14 year old just started using a chainsaw, AND ITS FREAKING ME OUT!

LOL, Barney is evil......Because of him, my little brother died inside... :-P

Seriously! Barney turned my otherwise bright cousin into a moron!

Word on that, man. Because of Barney, my 'lil bro gets beat up at school because when a bully told him to give him his lunch money, he just gave all of it, hugged him and told him that he loves him. Obviously the bully called his friends to laugh at how pathetic my brother is and they ganged up on him :-(.... I managed to drove the bullies away, but man.... That is NOT cool.

I agree the chiansaw is dangerous. If it catches his pant leg it will go right through the bone. It happened to my uncle good thing it didnt hit his arteries. But do you say dont play with fire?

:O You're such a cool dad! My cousin's 14 and he's not allowed to operate a toaster without parental supervision!

Yep, it does. Once I disassembled a battery, and my mom COMPLETEY FREAKED OUT. She told me to THROW AWAY THE CONTENTS AND NEVER DO THAT AGAIN.

Well, Nobody's died yet, so that's good. But the kids definitely have the scars to prove how cool I am. Skunkbait Jr has a couple from the woodstove and the machete, and Skunkpunk has a few from a barbwire/motorcycle incident.

Where do you live where kids are allowed to carry around guns? (Here inn the UK, if you're caught with a gun or knife, you get automatically arrested, neo matter what age you are.)

I live in the Southern part of the US. Around here, in the country a kid can pretty well carry a hunting rifle or shotgun with no worries. A handgun is a little different. My kids can carry a handgun while on our property or family members property, but not in town. What are the current laws on Knives in the UK? For us, anything with a blade over about 3 1/2 inches cannot legally be carried concealed. They can however be carried openly. My kids carry knives pretty much all the time. They need them for work around the farm.

If you carry any type of knife here it's an arrestable offense, I think. It's not wise to have one at least. That's why I had to stop carrying my leatherman :(

That's kinda sad. I couldn't live without my Gerber. In New Guinea (used to be), they'd send you home from school if you didn't bring a machete or axe. They used them at lunch time to work on the yards and gardens. Most schools in the US don't allow knives. But high schoolers still drive 4000 lb. cars to school. If I were feeling violent, I can assure you I could kill WAY more people with a car than with a knife.

LOL, although my parents are not as lax as you, they're pretty cool.... They let me have a machete at age 7, a sledgehammer at age 9, and a sword & balisong at age 10. Ever since I'm 10, I'm allowed to use powertools and am allowed to collect melee weapons freely (no real guns though, which kinda sucks, but real swords/knives/clubs/batons are allowed).....I got a used car for my 11th birthday (I'm gonna be 14 this year) and they let me drive it around the house, which is actually pretty cool... Bottom line is, LAX PARENTS ARE TEH WIN!!!

Sorry for replying to something this old, but I had to ask aren't balisong's illegal?


I got my first SAK at age 7, and thought that was cool. WOW!

Oh yeah, just a little FYI, I'm Do_Not_Turn_Off_The_Power. I changed my name, just a little heads up since I think you don't know about this yet.

I figured out a couple of days ago that you were "the ibler formerly known as DNTOTP" . I haven't been on ibles much lately. My grandfather died last week, and I've been real busy.

Your grandfather died?....Man, I'm really sorry...

Thanks. We're trying to take care of my grandmother, and decide what to do with the farm. It's in another state, and none of the family there can take care of it.