Introduction: How to Pick and Make New Friends
it is always hard to make friends, so this is why i made this instructable to make it easy for the people that can't make friends or are having a hard time making new friends.
these are tips that mostly work for making friends and getting a girlfriend if your smooth.
they are not a strict guideline just a just a few tips. so don't freak out if doesn't go according to the script.
Step 1: The Way You Look
the way you look is important if your making friends.
if you drive a 2010 bmw coupe ,would you park that car next to a 1985 toyota corolla station with no bumper and a broken window, if there is a spot next to a different 2010 bmw coupe?
in most cases NO
like birds, people flock to there type , so if your a rocker and you look like a rocker then chances are that your are going fit in with other rocker. that does not mean you can't make friends that are different from you .
if you look, like you jump out of a dumpster, the chances of you making friends is most of the time very very low
the best thing is to update your style ever few months to years ( max 2 to 3 years ) the best way is to surf the web for styles that work.
the best look, if non of the styles that you see fit you taste or body type, is to go casual but do try something outside of your comfort zone ones in a while, you may never know if it works.
NEVER EVER EVER wear something that is not made for your body type or body shape.
Always take someone that your trust and is going to tell you how you really look, if you can't make the choice yourself. (don't trust the people in the store because they just want to sell stuff most of the time but there could always be a angel between the devils)
And always be yourself and never buy clothes that you only bought to fit in with the cool kids.
Step 2: Find Your Prey ( Find People That You Want to Be Friends With.)
it may sound creepy ,but it works .
if you step up to a person and don't have a starter it's going to go bad almost always
person 1 > hi
person 2 > hi
person 1 > ......................
person 2 > later
look at the person's habits :
if the person like's drawing
if the person like's a cool music band
if the person like's tech
if the person like's cars
see if the person's habits and interest match yours because it would suck if your in a click were everyone only like's things that you hate.
and when i mean find your prey ,DON'T STALK THIS PERSON, IT COULD DESTROY A BLOOMING FRIENDSHIP AND IF YOU DID ,YOU DID NOT READ IT HERE!!!!!.
Step 3: First Contact
How to make contact
Always be yourself and never lie about who you are.
If your going to make contact don't force the moment.
If your going to make your move don't do it in front of the person's friends ,it will make it look like a prank ,make you look weird and make the person feel weird.
Look for a moment when the person is alone and not the psycho late at night in a creepy place moment .
Don't go right up to the person it is very weird.
Sit next to the person or stand next to he or she and look at what there doing ,don't stare at the person, just glance there way and make a positive comment about something .
After that use the info collected about the person.
person 1 like's manga and drawing
person 2 like's manga and cars
person 1 is sitting on a bench and is drawing something
person 2 sits next person 1
person 2 >hi
person 1 >hi
person 2 > i like your drawing
person 1.> thank you
person 2 > i like your style of drawing,it very cool the way you draw
person 1 > thank you, do you draw too ??
person 2 > no, but i like art and also manga
person 1 > me too i like ..............
person 2 > i like .............
person 2 > hi i'm ..............
person 1 > hi i'm...........
Never dominate a conversation or it will die fast.
If he or she like's to talk let the person talk and just listen and then answer .
if the person likes to change the topic super quick , answer before the person can change the topic or he or she will just keep shifting from topic to topic and you will get bored, it also a good way to keep the person on topic . but don't try to actively control the conversation, just guide it slightly.
Step 4: Post Contact
how to react to a person after first contact
Always be yourself and don't be clingy
If you see the person later and he or she does not act like your a ghost or that they don't know you, stop and have a small chat.
WHEN I MEAN LATER, I MEAN A FEW HOURS LATER OR THE NEXT DAY, NOT 1 OR 2 MINUTES AFTER THEY LEFT. IF YOU PASS THEM BY WITHIN A SHORT PERIOD AFTER YOU GUYS MET THEN GREET THEM AND ONLY IF THEY ARE OPEN TO IT THEN HAVE A SMALL CHAT OR QUICK CONVERSATION. IF HE OR SHE COMES TO CHAT WITH YOU, YOU ARE IN THE CLEAR AND CAN CHAT FREELY WITH THE PERSON.
If the chat goes good, he or she will maybe let you meet his or her friends or you could let them meet your friends .
THIS ALSO APPLYS FOR MESSAGING AND CHAT.
sorry for my bad grammar. if there is any bad grammar, it's because engels is not my first language.
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1 year ago
Thank you for this article! It is really nice!
7 years ago on Introduction
love your advice keep it up you have inspired me
11 years ago on Introduction
Hi, you have some good tips, the best tip I could give, is ask questions, people generally like talking about themselves, don't make questions too personal,
I often complement something about the person, but you have to be genuine, or you will lose it.