How to Flirt and Win Him or Her Over




Flirting is making a friendly conversation. People associate flirting as a girl thing, but there are plenty of men who use it as a way to win a girl over. There is no such thing as being overly flirty, it comes naturally to people. There really is no way to teach someone how to flirt, but I can give you some tips on how to flirt and win them over. Flirting can be fun and easy!

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Step 1: Look Approachable

You want to look nice. Not overly dressed, or looking like you just came from a dumpster. Relax, smile, and use your body language. Now, when I say use your body language, do not go huddle in a corner by yourself, so that cute girl/guy will come give you empathy. Instead, give them a nice flashy smile, or if you are braver, a tiny wink. Show them that you are comfortable and confident. Otherwise, you are not going to get anywhere!

Step 2: Read Body Language

Take a look at them. Are they approachable? Do they seem interested? If they are the one staring shyly at people, or are alone in a corner, then they are not the one to approach. Take it slow, and read them carefully. DO NOT STARE. That is a good way to prove that you probably are a stalker. Just smile with your eyes.

Step 3: Make Eye Contact and Approach

Take a few glances at the person, and when they look, you look away quickly. Do this a few times, and then lock eyes for a split second. Again, DO NOT STARE. When you are finally ready, simply walk over, and introduce yourself. "Hi, I'm (your name), and you are?", they will say their name politely or in a stand-offish tone. It will be pretty clear that they don't like you if you hear this tone. If you already know this person, then just make small talk. PLEASE DO NOT USE CHEESY PICK UP LINES, THEY NEVER WORK. Well, maybe if that person happens to like it. Gradually share information, and if the small talk goes well, start sharing more personal information. What I mean by this is, where you work, what your hobbies are, etc. NOT where you live, or things like that. Take turns talking, if they mention something about themselves, then tell them something similar to that about you. Give the person your attention. Remember to watch body language! Laugh at their jokes, listen to their stories, and don't get distracted at what is around you. Most people love to talk about themselves. Especially girls.

Step 4: Use More Body Language and Close the Conversation

While talking, maybe place your hand on their arm, or another CLEAN suggestive move. At least keep it PG on the first converstation. Make comments on how they look. Girls: Play with your hair, cross your legs, and lean a little closer to the other person. Just don't get into their bubble! Guys: Act confident about yourself (even if you have NO muscle), DO NOT go in for a kiss. I mean, come on, you just met her! Use common sense! If you think the person is into you, ask for their phone number, or just simply state that you two should hangout. Just don't be demanding! For most people, this part can be a little risky, because the fear of rejection. If they reject you, just say, thanks though, and maybe we will come across each other again. If they give you the number, don't jump out of your seat and scream! Say thanks, and talk more or excuse yourself. For those who are rejected, there are plenty of fish in the sea!!!

Step 5: TIPS

Stay positive, and save the negative/sad stuff for a more mature relationship with that person.

When you first start talking to them, do not aim to flirt. Think of just having a convo.

Do not continue to try to make someone not interested in you like you.


Compliments go a long way!

Try to be unique, but not in a way to overly impress someone. If there is such a thing!!!

Flirting is not appropriate everywhere! Such as funerals! Take the movie, John Tucker Must Die for example. When he passes by a teacher in the hall, he winked at her, and she fainted. Of course, because he is a god in that school. Instead of John helping her, he knelt down beside the girl helping her, and flirted with the girl kneeling on the floor. That is a no no!

Make sure the person you are talking to, does not have a spouse or a girlfriend/boyfriend.


Do not talk about your previous relationships. And if you find yourself not interested in the person, just excuse yourself kindly.

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    136 Discussions


    1 year ago

    I am 16 years old and I have been in love with this girl since 8th grade but I was to scared to tell her but she now knows and feels the same way but the problem is she is dating my former friend and idk what to do should I just wait because she said she doesn't think they will last long and that if he fucks up once or is mean to her she is gonna dump him and she said she would go out with me. What do I do?


    2 years ago

    I am 11 years old and I am new to a school. And alredy there is a girl I love. But the problem is she doesn't know that I love her from all my heart. Everyday when she arrives to school I keep looking at her and I wish she knows that I love her. So what should I do?


    Reply 3 years ago

    I just signed up for this and Im looking for a boyfriend too are you still on the market? ??


    3 years ago

    I'm 12 years old and I love my online crush. We are best friends and we have known each other for almost a year now. I really want to tell him I love him, but I don't know if he feels the same way. We are very open with each other and we talk for hours every single day. We laugh a lot and tease each other but not in a mean way. He makes me feel so happy and I don't know what I would do without him, so I always make sure we don't get into big arguments. It would make my heart explode to hear a single "I love you" when I leave at night or just to know he liked me back. The only reason we haven't met yet is because he lives in Arizona and I live in Michigan. Please help me!

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    Reply 3 years ago

    ''I love you'' is a very strong sentence. Start things slow, so you don't scare him away. If he feels the same, he is dying for you to say it, and perhaps he don't have the courage to say it. But don't rush anything! Since you to are only 12 (No offense, im not that much older), you have a lot to come in High School, College and Middle School. So don't plan your life together with him. If its meant to be, everything will sort out.

    Best of luck from Norway!


    3 years ago

    I'm 16 years old I have liked this girl sence she moved to my town tonight I finally opened up how I felt about her what should I do she told me that she didn't know maybe in the future what dose that mean


    3 years ago

    there is this guy who I've liked for like 5 years, but I'm really shy!! It's hard for me to talk to guys I like.. Well I only like one. But for a while now, my sister, who is a year older than me (and the guy), has been flirting with him like crazy and talking to him a lot. She claims its to tease me but I don't believe her. My friend said get to him and talk to him first, but be mature about it. I just get so nervous. He stares at me a lot and I stare back at him, I flirt with him sometimes but it's not hardcore, just a bit of teasing here or there. What should I do?? I need help!!!!

    If you could help me out with anything I would be best if you could possibly My email is please help!!

    Thanks so much

    (We are both 16 btw)


    4 years ago

    I need help i think he might like me bc i told him that i liked him and he said "ok look i think ur really pretty but ur too young for me" hes 16 and im 13 i need help and i really like him

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    Reply 4 years ago on Introduction

    This is what happened to me,Im 13 nd hes 17,he said Im too young...:'( but never said that he wudnt go out bcuz Im not hes tipe!!! So whenever Im around him I try to be nice...nd he is so friendly too,so I think whenever ur around him just keep trying!


    Reply 3 years ago

    Well, that's illegal. He could get arrested. Just wait until you're 17/18 to date older guys. They're not even going to think about being with either of you.


    Reply 4 years ago

    Hey I'm going thru the same thing. I'm 12 and I like this dude that is 15 he just to flirt and stare at me. Then he texted and said he liked other girl. I told him I like him after my soccer game. His sister told me that he told her that he was too big for me that is why.


    3 years ago

    Guys these days....ohhh I went out with few of them,lots more liked me,but the guy I wanted the most wont give me some attention,but its mostly cuz Im a 1st yr nd his a 3yr :(


    4 years ago

    Can someone help me? I like this guy and he knows that I like him, he was being really flirty but then said to my bestie it was all jokes. So basically My bestfriend is like my "messenger" we are really close, and she is with him mostly every lesson, for some reason they are really close she says she doesn't like him but they hug etc all the time. My bestie says that he likes me! I don't know if this is true or not? He always stares at me and maybe he's flirting with my bestie to see my reaction? Please help :/

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    Reply 4 years ago

    Dizzy u go up to the boy and find him in a dead end so he backs up into the wall and kiss him girl just dooooooo it don't wait